*Titles can be too annoying to think of! lol*

I've noticed there is something wrong with me, when it comes to talking to people who aren't talkative. I normally say :"I am not good at opening subjects,so you do it and I'll go with the flow". And, I've been doing a good job =P.

But, I have my moments, when I just say the silliest things EVER! then I just think *WHY DID I SAY THAT??!!*. I don't know! when I talk to someone, who isn't talkative, I feel like it's my job to say anything, and I'm kind of a random person, so I just say whatever pops, and it usually pops when it has nothing to do with what we were talking about in the beginning :bored:

I remember someone (who had this image of me) asked: "I thought we'd be discussing serious things"..obviously, it was a disappointment that I keep joking on msn....would you just talk about serious things like that? like..hi, what do you of global warming?

Two days ago, I said a very silly thing to someone without a good reason really..then I thought like *Oops!!* it was really silly! my friends know that when I do this..it means I'm not really comfortable :p

Sorry, it's long, lol...but I wanna know if it happens to anyone of you..or is it just me? *I bet someone will say :"It's just you" :p* No wonder I stopped chatting :p

What fun to read! I don't know quite what to say, though...

What DO you think of global warming? For or against?

I am not very talkative myself, but I find the best thing to do with someone who is shy is just to try asking questions to see if you can draw them out. If that doesn't work, then try a few jokes to see if you can make them laugh. Or just go on telling them things.

Actually, I like your "randomness". It's a very appealing quality because it's nice that you never know exactly what to expect.

I think the people who complain about you are just bad conversation partners. Choose others who like to bat the ball back and forth with you and have fun!

looool i always do that :p
its not a problem really

LoL, that's why can't see you around =p

Sure not only you , but I learned to control my self and not opening any conservations with anyone !

Just it's period of time and will pass once you'll finish ur examz

So back now to ur desk and let books and papers invaded you :D

Better be yourself than be a fake person.

when something good to talk about, just talk about it.
when you don't want to talk, just don't talk.

Its normal, randomness is good. So is being mature :).

Originally posted by Jeff
Actually, I like your "randomness". It's a very appealing quality because it's nice that you never know exactly what to expect.

i feel the same way :cute: random people rule!

i don't get it! why do we always have to make sense? its boring :rolleyes:
seriously..if you're random then i like you..lots of the people i absolutely adore are randoms :cute:

true..sometimes you end up saying extremely silly things that you might regret saying.but who freakin cares?

i agree with Jeff..just find other conversation partners :p

If it happens??... ask when it doesn't happen. :XD:.lol. I go ballistic sometimes.
Surely would not hold out discussion conferences on msn...
but usually those I got ballistic on are people I'm comfortable with... not the other way around :XD:...
if it was a stranger and the stranger wasn't talkative I don't talk either.

hmm i tend not to talk as well.. if the other person isn't talkative.

That's nice ..

About me i am not random at all .. I can choose to be random or not .. I am pretty moody too, but i always control it . everything is under control lol I guess i was really into myself that i have the ability to control every single emotion of mine ..

I like your randomness =D *huggies*

What DO you think of global warming? For or against?



How can I be For? :bored:

It's not that they 'complain'. But you know, when you have this image of someone, whether it was good or bad...then boom! lol. I CAN be pretty serious online, but when the other person starts a serious subject...because I just find it weird to just throw a serious Q out of the blues!

well with me...if the person is talkative i become UNtalkative and if hes untalkative then i become talkative ! :p

Obli
no it's not! it's part of being random :angel:

Tee...it's when I talk to someone I don't know how to handle, I just...:XD:, when I get used to someone, I don't mind acting silly and all...like Nella and Phat. But, it just makes me feel stupid when I do it with someone I dont know well, lol.

I can't just stay shut, since I feel like I HAVE to start if the other person didn't lol.

Sweetness, hehehe..soon, really soon :inno:

you're not the only one..I'm pretty sure many of us say things that we later on wonder why in gods name did we say that..or even talk about such a thing with a stranger. I don't find it much of a problem really unless it's done excessively..just be careful and don't be friendly with everyone because people will end up walking all over you.

just shows that you have an active mind...

No..your titles are annoying :P

Seriously, I don't know.. I think yeah it's just you, but silly stuff are fun and cute.. so weehooo!

Well, anyway, I hope you take some solace in the fact that you're very well liked here. Liked AND respected, I'd say. A triumphal return from self-banishment!

*Titles can be too annoying to think of! lol*

I've noticed there is something wrong with me, when it comes to talking to people who aren't talkative. I normally say :"I am not good at opening subjects,so you do it and I'll go with the flow". And, I've been doing a good job =P.

But, I have my moments, when I just say the silliest things EVER! then I just think *WHY DID I SAY THAT??!!*. I don't know! when I talk to someone, who isn't talkative, I feel like it's my job to say anything, and I'm kind of a random person, so I just say whatever pops, and it usually pops when it has nothing to do with what we were talking about in the beginning :bored:

I remember someone (who had this image of me) asked: "I thought we'd be discussing serious things"..obviously, it was a disappointment that I keep joking on msn....would you just talk about serious things like that? like..hi, what do you of global warming?

Two days ago, I said a very silly thing to someone without a good reason really..then I thought like *Oops!!* it was really silly! my friends know that when I do this..it means I'm not really comfortable :p

Sorry, it's long, lol...but I wanna know if it happens to anyone of you..or is it just me? *I bet someone will say :"It's just you" :p* No wonder I stopped chatting :p

No it is not you. It happens to me all the time.

The world is full of boring people who have nothing to say about anything, or they are too afraid to say something or they are just too wrapped up in their own little world to engage.

But what you need to learn is to move on and let it go. Find people who are quick, sharp and know how to converse. Those people can be like a bright light in the void of dull humans.

You probably feel the discomfort of an awkward silence to be too much to bare, so you think you have to say something.

But really you don't.

Actually I know this problem because I had it once. I can summarize the whole thing in few lines (if possible):

1- You are smarter than the others.

2- Your brain is working on extra electricity.

3- You have low concentration.

4- You don't think before you act.

5- You are so forgiving and you don't have anything against anyone.

6- You low estimate yourself by giving explanations of you being not good.

7- You are so sensitive to people and their reactions against you, and this is a very bad thing to live with.

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Think a moment before you speak.
Make it like a habit to pause before you speak.
Look in the eyes of the person you are talking to.
Speak from your heart throw your brain.
Make your brain a valve that deliver a stable stream of words and ideas no matter how much pressure of happiness or sadness inside your heart.
Trust your wits, and don't give explanations why you did this and that.
Read Quran more frequently it polishes the heart and clears the mouth.

*Titles can be too annoying to think of! lol*

[1] I've noticed there is something wrong with me, when it comes to talking to people who aren't talkative. I normally say :[2] "I am not good at opening subjects,so you do it and I'll go with the flow". And, I've been doing a good job =P.

But, [3]I have my moments, when I just say the silliest things EVER! then I just think *WHY DID I SAY THAT??!!*. I don't know! when I talk to someone, who isn't talkative,[4] I feel like it's my job to say anything, and I'm kind of a random person, so I just say whatever pops, and it usually pops when it has nothing to do with what we were talking about in the beginning :bored:

I remember someone [5] (who had this image of me) asked: "I thought we'd be discussing serious things"..obviously, [6] it was a disappointment that I keep joking on msn....would you just talk about serious things like that? like..hi, what do you of global warming?

Two days ago, I said a very silly thing to someone without a good reason really..then I thought like *Oops!!* [7] it was really silly! my friends know that when I do this..it means I'm not really comfortable :p

Sorry, it's long, lol...but I wanna know if it happens to anyone of you..or is it just me? *I bet someone will say :"It's just you" :p* No wonder I stopped chatting :p
[1] Knowing your problem would indicate a sure "will to act". You have full control over your mind, but you just don't care to change that :)

[2] You are very good at opening subjects. Either you are trying to be humble, you don't trust yourself, or you don't know your capabilities.

[3] So you know that you say the silliest thing ever? I guess a silly person won't know that he said something silly. If you were silly you would have never knew that.

[4] Yes this is a big problem, you feel embaressment and you get very senstive, so you just try to drive away from embaressment so you are sooooooooooooooo much senstive. The only way to fix this is to practice not to speak when you want to. I have the same problem, and in many times I feel that there should be something to be said to break the uncomfortable situation and I end up lowering my level of wisdom in the eyes of people. Skip it, it is not your duty to make people comfortable they just feel fine the way they are.

[5] How did you know that he had this image of you? Don't be hasty in assuming people's feelings or reactions or attitudes because it is always just not the way you think. Most of the time, I think someone is sad or angry with me and 99% of it just (not true)!

[6] You are a lovely person, and to keep joking on the MSN is something nice, MSN is not for official meetings or formal discussions, it is for chat. Give more happiness to yourself and make joy big time, who cares about global warming anyway? Again I don't understand why you think joking is something bad? Anyone can make people sad and cry, very few can make them happy! I hope you understand me.

[7]Never ever say that again. Your friends don't have the right to know this about you, and I am sure that you are the one who is spreading the wrong ideas about yourself among your friends.

Whoa..haha. Thanks people...that made me feel better =P

Haroun, hehe..thanks! well, I guess I AM very sensitive..I better stop being one :bored: