Sometimes I get the fustration and annoyance from some people that never remember you till the time when they need something from you!!?

I know for well the fact that we in general should help each others in life BUT to me the top highest type of hypocrisy and ideocity are those who dont have even the slightest mean of manner and shyness to call you after been away from you for months to years Just to ask for a favour !!

The problem is that some of them repeat such actions several times...I mean they ask....you help....they even dont bother to say thank you (and ya say OOH well my deed shall be rewarded inshallah from Lord)...but then after months again they call for something new!...and the cycle goes On...

Personaly I dont mind helping people BUT I cant find my self asking for a help from a person who is am not in at least in good terms with...

Once I was asked for something and I answered : why not BUT i added: Haa?? so where were you all those days at least ask about us? or you just remmebered me now??
he/she baldly answered: OOh yea cause we are in need laa!!!!
That indeed mad me annoyed...!!

OOh well just wanted to spit it out :yuk:

ya know thats like the story of my life ! :D
i mean the fact the people dont talk with you unless they want something from you ! :)
thats why i dont trust people easily !

:) That' an interesting topic !

:mmhmm: to be honest , between me & you : i was exactly just like you .. And it used to annoy me when someone calls to ask for a favor even though we were not in touch for a long long time ..

:rolleyes: BUT , after a couple of years & i got into college & dealt with all kinds of humans :cute: I am not annoyed by it anymore ..

:) Actually , i became a person who does that too ( rarely ) ..

Let me tell you something , when you are in a place were you cannot make friendships with everyone , yet you know them and you can be in contact with them . Yeah we are in good terms, but none of us are actually looking for a deeper kind of friendship. From that point, YES you can call and ask for a favor . It's not wrong to ask for help.

:star: I get your point & i understand . But what i am saying , that it is not wrong to call someone you are not in touch with , and just to ask for help.

and by the way , why you being annoyed ? you can always say NO :no:

You have the choice ! :cool: you are the decision maker ..

:D And i am sure, you will understand what i mean when you get into situation were you have to deal with lots lots of people . And you , yourself will need help & might only get it from a person you are not close to or in touch with !

:cute: I hope i answered what you were pondering .. It's a complicated issue..

I never ask for favors from people I'm not in touch with or at least on good terms with. Anyways..If someone asks me for help after not being in touch I will simply refuse to help or ignore the request. If the person was rude enough to remember you only when in need then u should be just as rude by refusing to help. People are not shops which you visit only when u need something...there are guidelines and rules that must be followed in order to maintain a healthy friendship.

:) That' an interesting topic !

:mmhmm: to be honest , between me & you : i was exactly just like you .. And it used to annoy me when someone calls to ask for a favor even though we were not in touch for a long long time ..

:rolleyes: BUT , after a couple of years & i got into college & dealt with all kinds of humans :cute: I am not annoyed by it anymore ..

:) Actually , i became a person who does that too ( rarely ) ..

Let me tell you something , when you are in a place were you cannot make friendships with everyone , yet you know them and you can be in contact with them . Yeah we are in good terms, but none of us are actually looking for a deeper kind of friendship. From that point, YES you can call and ask for a favor . It's not wrong to ask for help.

:star: I get your point & i understand . But what i am saying , that it is not wrong to call someone you are not in touch with , and just to ask for help.

and by the way , why you being annoyed ? you can always say NO :no:

You have the choice ! :cool: you are the decision maker ..

:D And i am sure, you will understand what i mean when you get into situation were you have to deal with lots lots of people . And you , yourself will need help & might only get it from a person you are not close to or in touch with !

:cute: I hope i answered what you were pondering .. It's a complicated issue..


i see that your enjoying the smilies that the sabla offer ! :hyper:

I never ask for favors from people I'm not in touch with or at least on good terms with. Anyways..If someone asks me for help after not being in touch I will simply refuse to help or ignore the request. If the person was rude enough to remember you only when in need then u should be just as rude by refusing to help. People are not shops which you visit only when u need something...there are guidelines and rules that must be followed in order to maintain a healthy friendship.

i TOTALLY agree with you ! :)

I never ask for favors from people I'm not in touch with or at least on good terms with. Anyways..If someone asks me for help after not being in touch I will simply refuse to help or ignore the request. If the person was rude enough to remember you only when in need then u should be just as rude by refusing to help. People are not shops which you visit only when u need something...there are guidelines and rules that must be followed in order to maintain a healthy friendship.

yeaaah !

but i got a problem .. i cant say no i wont help you

I remember you, Thug!

And guess what? I don't need a thing from you! ;)

if I knew she/he only came back cuz they needed something from me..... and for the rest they vanish... I'll excuse myself and definitely won't lend a hand.

It happens to me all the time :bored:

it happens to everyone i guess..i don't think i can say NO though.. :inno: i'm always on duty..there is always someone asking for something ..sigh

but there is this one person that i just really really dislike and she usually passes by me without saying hi..as if she never saw me..and once she wants something she acts as if we are best friends! :bored: so when it comes to her i just make up an excuse and get away with it! :cute:

I hear you! It's very annoying and that's why I don't ask for favours except from those I am in touch with and from certain family members that I see every week. Thank God, whatever I need, I always manage to get it from my family without the need to ask it from others.

But try thinking about it positively. We are in a very world, we hardly have time to ourselves so keeping in touch with your surroundings is an issue. By the time we remember that we owe someone a visit or a "hello" call, it happens to be the time we need their help.

I know there can never be a solid and strong reason for not keeping in touch with your family and friends, and frankly, I cannot call someone for a favour if I didn't talk to them for a long time. That would be just awkward!

Don't remember if it happened to me or not, lol. Maybe I send that vibe which makes people think I wouldn't help them...so they don't ask? lol. Maybe it happened, but I don't remember.

Anyway, I think I help out anyways, but I wouldn't do it with a big smile on my face :p

It's happened so often and for all.
I remember a friend of my sister, she used to call her and ask her help and once her purposed is done she vanished, then she realized her altitudes was totally wrong ! Then what , she asked her forgiveness and she don't behave like this anymore =) !

Just we need to be simple, spontaneity action lead people to learn and get out their mistakes :)

for me i would help anyone if i could , even if he get in touch just for a favor and then vanish but if he asked for something reasonable i mean which won't harm anyone else in any way.

after all i'll just be happy by doing that don't ask me why... i remember once in the university there were a person who i don't really like and i don't stand his attitude with others but he just asked for a help i didn't mind helping him and i won't wait to get something in return just carry on my life.

yeah, your a doctor, i can see how you might be abused...

i'm in IT and i get asked for favors alot...

btw, did i every say 'thank you' to you??? :)

Why we wait for ( Thank you ) ?

Do that for god sake :)

I dont do any favors for those who arent in touch with me..of course i'll pick up the phone and talk to them normaly, and then when they ask me for the favor i go like..ok let me get back to you..or i cut it from the start and i say sorry i cant do that becoz bla bla bla..

but i do favors to all my friends..as much as i can and i give big time effort.
About saying thanx..faa i face this too..i get really pissed when i do sth and i spent lots of time and effort doing it for them and they are just sitting there doing nothing, the only thing they do is dial my number and ask about the process..then when i am done..they go like..why u didnt do this? if u called that person it would be better..and bla bla
bes Thank you mafi..