What do you think of people who push issues in their relationship under the rug to avoid conflict? Is everything worth a battle?

There are people who think they're "laid back," but really they're just bottling everything up, or people who are too uptight and almost look for reasons to fight.

Where's the line? How do you keep a healthy balance?

sometimes its better to just ignore some stuff
but other stuff can grow and become even a bigger problem if they werent dealt with from the begenning
so it depends !

guess its so stupid to bring up fights for nothing.
and some people do it so they show the ones they love that they can live without them (which is a lie) but I really think those are lame people.
misunderstanding sometimes occur, but not fighting over the nothing unless one of them or both want it. :)

What do you think of people who push issues in their relationship under the rug to avoid conflict? Is everything worth a battle?

There are people who think they're "laid back," but really they're just bottling everything up, or people who are too uptight and almost look for reasons to fight.

Where's the line? How do you keep a healthy balance?

I think you need to talk abt things. Coz if you don't, one day you'll just be tired and leave even for the silliest of reasons.

I really do believe that love is a battle..that's the truth..when you fight for someone you love, that's a true sign that you love them :)

I'm the type of person who can't hide their feelings, so ya for me, I guess it is a battlefield.

I hide it when it is no big deal. I don't show every disappointment, and I guess it healthy in every relationship to do so, because you should be patient, and you don't want others thinking you are way too high maintenance or that you are too sensitive and unreasonable or that everything he does is wrong and he is not good enough. However, if it is something that really bothers me, and I think I have a legitimate reason to feel so, then yes, I would speak about it, and not rest till the issue is resolved.

I used to never hide anything which lead to so many arguments and fights. Now, I only open up after evaluating what I want to talk about. If it's really worth discussing about then I'll talk about it. Ever since I started doing this, we fight less and when I open up, he listens to me knowing that I am only bringing this up because it matters so much to me and is important to me.

If you talk about each and every little thing, your spouse wouldn't be able to tell the difference between what is really important to you and what is not. And franky speaking, we all know, not everything that annoys us is worth a huge fight ;)

I think that it's important to talk about things that bother you. I'm not saying you should bring up every little thing. No relationship is perfect, and a lot of the time there will be things you might find annoying, but if it's a trivial thing that you can tolerate, and it's not a huge wrong on their part, then I don't see why you should create a fuss about it.

I guess if something bothers me, I'd keep it to myself for a while, and if after some time I still can't get over it, then I'd know that it really is important to me. If I forget about it with time or it stops being so bothersome, then I know it's not worth fighting about.

talk about... discuss... there're no need for fights if there's understanding. arguments may be there... but two rational people will manage to work things out without getting into fights. The balance is not to go off-limits...
do not go to the extent of fighting NOR go to the extent of bottling everything up. stick to the middle... argue if you must, talk about it all you want... but keep it moderate... fighting's too much and surely not healthy.

The Best way always is to discuss everything that disturb you and your life .. You can't keep everything to yourself .. There are limits that is why some people can not stand it anymore and can not deal with it coz in the first place you have to share it with your partner .. Talking is always a relief .. Can leave you away from depression ..

I can't stay still without discussing it , be it trivial or important lol, as they say that i make a big deal out of everything :p but now its a turning point in my life.. just chillin n relaxed.

:love: Love can be so RELAXING.

:love: Love can be so RELAXING.

:p :p :p

It's the Eye of the Hurricane, darlin', the Eye of the Hurricane...

Originally posted by HaYa
I can't stay still without discussing it , be it trivial or important lol, as they say that i make a big deal out of everything :p

same here lol..i guess i am a way too high maintenance..it's pretty hard to handle me :shy:

I won't keep anything to myself but at the same time I'd try not to be too nagging and annoying. I mean how else would he know I'm annoyed if I don't confront him.

Well to me i used to say everything that bothers me or annoys either its action or words, but it didnt get anywhere. Sometimes you think if you talk things thru it helps but NOT, it just hapen to create more problems,, WHY??? He aint listening.

I dont wana be a mother to an adult.