"Fighting is a sign of a healthy relationship" ... How much fight is considered to be healthy ?
Some couples while fighting swear , accuse and end up wanting to kill each other !! a gurl i know would reach to the point of cursing the guy to die or end up in jail!!! lool then they go on blaming it on anger and frustration.

whats so healthy about that ?? :os

Ist really healthy or ist a sign of danger and dead end!?

Do u think one should hold on to such relationships or quitting is the best idea?

fighting is normal, but it all depends on how extreme it gets..and as everything else..if it exceeds the normal limits then it's just not healthy anymore.

I've never had a fight with wife & I am sure it will stay that way

In my case it isn't a sign of a healthy relationship

every relationship needs a type of argument... otherwise i think it's somewhat fake...
doesn't have to be argument... but things cant go perfectly for so many years... there'll be a time when an argument has to take place

TripleTee, maybe discussions with opposite ideas & points, but not necessarily arguments or quarrels

"Fighting is a sign of a healthy relationship" ... How much fight is considered to be healthy ?
Some couples while fighting swear , accuse and end up wanting to kill each other !! a gurl i know would reach to the point of cursing the guy to die or end up in jail!!! lool then they go on blaming it on anger and frustration.

whats so healthy about that ?? :os

Ist really healthy or ist a sign of danger and dead end!?

Do u think one should hold on to such relationships or quitting is the best idea?


Hmmm ... I only create drama and fights when I am unhappy, not satisfied and frustrated. I am very easy-going, so when I am pulling a fight and constantly angry with the person, it means that something is very wrong. So no, fighting is not healthy :p . It's a warning sign.

They can argue. But, not fight.

Fighting sucks! It doesn't feel good and it might take you time to get over it...and in that time, you'll be depressed, sick, unhappy...and you won't eat healthy..
Or maybe it's just me..

I think it depends on how big the fight is.. small ones are ok..I guess.

It shows how much you love each other :D

If I win the fight, it's healthy, if I don't, it's not.

Discussing and Debating is normal, having opposite views is fine.
but fighting and making stupid issues isn't, and I bet noone would like it.

Things like that happen in any relations, until u get along very well with ur partner..its soooo normal, but when u reach to a level where u always fight then u are in the wrong relation..it shouldnt reach that extend..every now and then is Ok i think.

Originally posted by NaBHaN
fighting is normal, but it all depends on how extreme it gets..and as everything else..if it exceeds the normal limits then it's just not healthy anymore.

yup..thats how i see it as well..and i really like making up lol

Fighting as in it include punches and kicks. Definitely healthy :cool:

But seriously, I think every relationship needs its share of arguments and quarrels, but it does not have to be blown out of proportion, door-slamming, vase-throwing kind of fight. Once it reached that level, it is a warning sign as Sophis said.

It's healthy in the sense that it means there is communication between the two. But it should not reach to the level of physical abuse or the intention to do that. Also such arguments should not happen alot, otherwsie it's not healthy. Maybe once a year or even less.

Ya it's healthy.


Or I hope it is.

I find fighting once every 4 months or so is refreshing and gives a value to the relationship

but to reach to swearing!!!
Damn that is not healthy at all!!

if there is no respect in the relationship then there is nothing healthy about it!

I've never had a fight with wife & I am sure it will stay that way

Isn't that a bit boring? :p

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Well, even IF you don't think it's healthy...it's going to happen, I suppose? . My last marriage was like that :p

if he shouts and screams @ me he is PAST and if he's cold like a wall he is PAST too..
i like a guy whom i can communicate with not a wall:bored:

Isn't that a bit boring? :p


It's not boring. It means that it's rare, beautiful and it's as though it's your heaven on earth. When you are with them you feel so calm and peaceful and the environment is full of love, as though the angels are with you. It means the relationship has been blessed by God. :love: It is similar to what people experience in heaven in their relationship with others. It is the most wonderful and beautiful feeling. (I am not talking abt Hitman's relationship, I am talking of my own personal experience which inc. friendships). No wonder God says that he ordained marriage so that we may have peace and calmness in our hearts, or that marriage is one of his signs.

^^ You put it in a way which makes it hard to believe :p

I'm one of those who fear marriage, so don't listen to me, lol.

well .. the wanting to kill each other type of fighting is not healthy :P
but i think everyone fights .. friends,couples, enemies :P.. doesnt have to be a big fight ..

Fights !! Are we talking Taekwondo and Kickboxing :D .. lol

Com'on I don't think there is a relationship without a bit of wounds , pepper and salt :) ..
I think Marriages need Arguments and discussion with different view or Never believe that you relationship is fine or you are blessed ,,
Relationships with opposite points could lead to different views and arguments .. Sometimes, the partner is under some circumstances that could affect his/her reaction from the other partner .. But @ the end they work it out and get back to the Normal life they used to ..

Hitman .. God bless you two ..
Sophis^Catrina .. Real life never like Heaven ;)
Oblivious .. You will be fine lol ..

fights spice up relationships. i will personally find it boring if my husband (am not married this is just an example) doesnt have these small fights with me. But fights that reach the point of hitting isnt a good sign at all!

^^ You put it in a way which makes it hard to believe :p



Yes, everything that is so rare and beautiful is hard to believe, until you actually see/feel it. :D I used to be as cynical as you are, never believing that there was such beauty and goodness, until God showed me heaven on this earth.

It is pretty much like heaven. Heaven is hard to believe, even though we hear of its descriptions, until we actually see its true beauty. :love:

Sophis^Catrina .. Real life never like Heaven ;)


Yes, normal relationships are never like heaven. But elevated and very rare relationships are. :D

Let me give you a hint ;) : Anything for the sake of God is everlasting and beautiful. :cute: For example, a friendship between two people just for the sake of God, religion says that these two people get his shade in the day of judgement and angels will always be surrounding them. It is no wonder that their friendship is blessed and everlasting. Apply this to a relationship between a man and woman for the sake of God and it will be everlasting and beautiful, to the point that your spouse on earth even becomes your spouse in the afterlife.

If conflicts din't excist in a relationship it would be boring.

Yes, normal relationships are never like heaven. But elevated and very rare relationships are. :D

Let me give you a hint ;) : Anything for the sake of God is everlasting and beautiful. :cute: For example, a friendship between two people just for the sake of God, religion says that these two people get his shade in the day of judgement and angels will always be surrounding them. It is no wonder that their friendship is blessed and everlasting. Apply this to a relationship between a man and woman for the sake of God and it will be everlasting and beautiful, to the point that your spouse on earth even becomes your spouse in the afterlife.

I have no doubts about this :) ..
But sorry , Relationships will never be without arguments .. As you know they are 2 Faces for everything in the life of Human being . .
( Health / Sickness __ White / Black __ Angel / Devil )
But I have to Admit "NO LIFE WITHOUT A WIFE" even if there are problems

I have no doubts about this :) ..
But sorry , Relationships will never be without arguments ..

True, there might be arguments at times, but the arguments are not needed to spice a relationship. Most of the time the relationship would be filled with love, respect and mercy; and yet it would never be boring. :love:

Again, I 'll never doubt the power of LOVE ;) ..
You have experience in such an issue more than me as you have the word Love in your combo .. :)
Arguments are not the spice of a true love .. Arguments gives the relationship the Balance that should be in our lives in everything ..
[ Air pollution not balanced ــــــــــ> Ozone's Hole ]
This is Life with Balance .. Your life is upon the Balance in it ..

Drama is always needed in relationships or else it's tends to be boring, and more fake and too good to be true kind of feeling.:p

I think fights and arguments tend to bring couple closer and it strengthens the bond, thats why with the time u see the fights tend to lessen, but the fight am talking about is the one which is within the circle of respect, no calling names or cursing .
lol I dont even know how does it feel to be in a relationship which is fight free! but the more we fight the more adorable they seem to be especially after patching up ... :heart:


A married friend of mine used to engage in physical fight with her husband , she used to beat the hell out of him so did he!! LOL.. that was like 5 years ago and now she is a mother of not only one but two kids !! ..
Nothing stops you from having babies lol.
I guess they are fine now, less boxing and more loving .:rn:

Yes, everything that is so rare and beautiful is hard to believe, until you actually see/feel it. :D I used to be as cynical as you are, never believing that there was such beauty and goodness, until God showed me heaven on this earth.

It is pretty much like heaven. Heaven is hard to believe, even though we hear of its descriptions, until we actually see its true beauty. :love:

Have you ever been to heaven? :bored:

Have you ever been to heaven? :bored:

No. But God and the Prophet describe them to us: the feelings that you have, the people you'll be with, its beauty, etc.

Everyting in the world is a glimpse of the hereafter. A beautiful garden, a wonderful spouse that you find peace and love with, friends that you are never bored with, beautiful jewllery ... etc. They are just glimpses. And when you see/feel such a glimpse, you understand what God meant what he described heaven. For example, being in a relationship where there is so much love and peace, is a glimpse of what is in heaven and so it could be described as heaven on earth. Alternatively, seeing fire, being burned, feeling pain, being tortured, are also glimpses of hell.