How important is it to come clean in a relationship or marriage?!

Let's say you cheated on your partner while you were going out or even while you're still married to them.. How significant is it to be honest and tell them what you've done?!

I always believed in whatever happened in the past is history, but somehow when the past was "US TOGETHER", I'd want to know. At the same time, it might hurt me, and I wouldn't want to know!

Do you think it's important to come clean?

Not necessarily. There are some things that we should keep to ourselves. Depends on the seriousness and enormity of the situation, you know if the odds are against you or not.

#1: i'd NEVER cheat on my HUSBAND.
#2: if i did any mistake, i'd sure confess.I will not hide ANYTHING :)

Extremely important I think :cute:
Got to do with honesty and trust ne?
I think she deserves to know.. shouldn’t be keeping those sort of things from each other..
I know it will hurt, but I’d still want to know
He’d feel guilty too (maybe :p) .. have a heavy conscience?
I think it’s best to let it off his chest
I don’t know how I’ll react really...
I’d be hurt but I might forgive him thinking it’s ok, it’s in the past after all.. but I think that would be me in denial.. I’d probably not feel so safe with him anymore.. I might start doubting ‘us’?
:os
I guess I might be able to forgive but not really able to forget?
Actually it depends on how distant the past we’re talking about here is :p
I don’t know..
Well, forget about the reaction >< bottom line is: I want him clean :p

I really don't know how much should you tell your partner. I feel sometimes you're entitled to keep your past private and not share it with anyone. You're free to tell him whichever secrets you chose to reveal or hide. However, sometimes, the right thing to do is to tell him if you know that 'something' matters to him. After all, what one person doesn't know won't hurt them.

I think I would personally tell him my past if I know it mattered to him or it had something to do with him. But if it was entirely my secret, then it is my choice whether I want to dispose it or not.

A true repentance is enough to ensure cleanness.

Any of them should conceal himself or herself just as Allah has concealed them. Otherwsie, how can a zani marry chaste woman and the opposite if they start revealing such evil acts. Same case if they are already married.