There was an interesting topic on another forum which I thought I would bring here.

A woman posted that she was in a marriage that was otherwise good but was without sex. She asked if she should stay or leave? What would you do? Do you think a relationship has to have sex in order to be healthy? Would you give up your needs for the sake of the children or because you took vows to be with this person forever?

well, i think she should leave since her marriage is without sex, coz its one of the big rights.
Of course she should think about her children too, but how can u live with a person who doesnt give his/her partners their rights.
i dont know i think sex is important for both sides, unless both of them are old then its a different story..

I strongly think she should leave the marriage or confront her partner about it. Come on why wouldn't her husband want to make love with her ? It will just make the wife worry & live stress all-the-time wheather her husband is cheating on her or took another wife. It's abnormal for a marriage to be sexless.

Leave what kind of marriage is this?!

^^^ lol good point! Exactly!....who gets married and doesnt do their "Duties"? lol

Even if he married another woman he should give his first wife her rights in bed. But if she doesn't want herself then it's not his problem.

I would be glad to stay with such a wife given the fact that she is very rich & her father is about to die & leave me a big fortune

Do you think a relationship has to have sex in order to be healthy?

Yes. I think that a husband must give his wife what she needs, otherwise what kind of marriage is that?

OK, done!

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but was without sex.

So who is not interesting in sex exactly?

I presumed the lady herself wasn't when I posted initially

Or is it the husband that isn't good enough to satisfy her, but you can't blame the husband if she is a nymphomaniac

Mayeb the husband fears that he won't be able to satisfy her, that's why he would just play it safe and avoid it. Still doesn't make sence, I really think it's abnormal for a guy not wanting to have sex with his partner.

Would she satisfy herself?! :bored:

Then they might as well just be friends which are involved in a platonic relationship. But I guess if it works for them, then who are we to judge. Maybe the sex is SO bad, that she would rather not engage it. I won't blame her then.

^or maybe he's cheating on her?


Anyway I don't think i'd leave the marriage.

It can survive, porn for the man..and bicycle (http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=1f1_1174786021) for the woman :D

He must be getting it elsewhere. That would be my main concern.

Anyway, I think it would depend on how much sex matters to her. If she doesn't feel like it's significant then she can stay in the marriage. If she thinks she's being deprived of her rights and is sexually frustrated then she should leave. Simple as that

I would be glad to stay with such a wife given the fact that she is very rich & her father is about to die & leave me a big fortune

You have used that phrase plenty of times to make us laugh :)
It doesn't do the trick anymore, eh?
Find a new one, dude :)

I would be glad to stay with such a wife given the fact that she is very rich & her father is about to die & leave me a big fortune
nothing beats brutal honesty. :hyper:

^^^ first thing that comes to my mind too libellula. He must be getting it somewhere else.

But, yes, I think a marriage will last as long as both people want it to. I know a couple who are having problems, and well, their sex life isn't all that good. If intercourse is painful to either one of them or maybe one of them is going through depression, then the other partner should not be selfish and demand their "rights" or else. But they should communicate, find out what the problem is exactly and tackle it together.

It's not her or his problem. It's their problem. Together. Because they are in it together. And they are in it to please each other. Not to see what they can individually get out of it.

That's what marriage really is about after all. Two being one.
'Your problem, darling, is mine too. Let's fix it together.'

it sucks big time, I wouldn't stay if I was in such a position, daym :os

He must be getting it elsewhere. That would be my main concern.

Anyway, I think it would depend on how much sex matters to her. If she doesn't feel like it's significant then she can stay in the marriage. If she thinks she's being deprived of her rights and is sexually frustrated then she should leave. Simple as that

Exactly what I was going to say :yes:

I personally think if both the partners are really and truly ok without having sex (and I mean really ok about it) then I guess it's fine. If one partner wants to have sexual relations and the other doesn't, then that becomes an issue, of course.

To me sex is an expression of the intimacy of the relationship, and one feeds the other. So without intimacy, sex doesn't mean alot to me outside of another bodily function that happens to feel good.

Why is the man being blamed in here?

Did anyone think of the possibility that this lady doesn't actually try to be attractive to her husband, she has those hairy legs & wears one of those huge granny's knickers, who would desire to touch her?

^ ROFL ! lol, man that's a very funny way of thinking. Come on, why wouldn't she want to attract her husband?

Why is the man being blamed in here?

Did anyone think of the possibility that this lady doesn't actually try to be attractive to her husband, she has those hairy legs & wears one of those huge granny's knickers, who would desire to touch her?
even if that were the case, shouldn't he try to encourage her to be sexy? Get her some sexy underwear or negligee's.. Give her a day off and pamper her with some flowers, candles, back rub etc etc..

there are hundreds of ways to fire up the romance.. it's all down to if they want to, really.

^ ROFL ! lol, man that's a very funny way of thinking. Come on, why wouldn't she want to attract her husband?
no he has a good point actually.

You don;t feel too sexy after having breast milk turn sour on your clothes, spend all day sterilising bottles and changing poo filled stinking nappies.

Women will DEFINATELY go through phases of low libido. Nothing that can't be "fixed". A quiet night and the right setting ..

^ Hmm, you actually have a point there. Oh well at the end that would just be a phase that will pass sooner or later.

It could be a number of things.

He could be asexual.

Maybe he is depressed and takes anti-depressants that kill his sex drive.

Maybe he is Gay and going out late at night to meet his "friends"

Or maybe she has become unarousing.

Or maybe he's just gay lol.

Or yah maybe he's seeing someone else.

Poor wifey.

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You better stop it Yasir :)

There was an interesting topic on another forum which I thought I would bring here.

A woman posted that she was in a marriage that was otherwise good but was without sex. She asked if she should stay or leave? What would you do? Do you think a relationship has to have sex in order to be healthy? Would you give up your needs for the sake of the children or because you took vows to be with this person forever?

Marriage without sex never work out .. Always end up with a divorce :(..

Stay or Leave !! Good point and no onw could answer it except the wife herself .. Her situation @ that moment could figure the answer for her Qs as well ..
What I will do ??!! Coz I have to live the situation to understand it more and figure how t solve the problem ..

Any relationship(Marriage) needs sex to survive and to be normal relationship as people expect them to be ..
As a muslim, I can get married to 4 women .. So if she thought she don't fancy sex as before and I found my self unsatisfied then the green light for the second wife is turn on :cool: .. She have to think more before doing anything stupid ..

it's also called "making love" it's a way to show the other person how much you love them and it's a natural need
the husband and wife need to talk about it and arrive to a final decision together

Why did he get married to her in the first place if he didn't want to have sex with her?
Is he gay by any chance?

^LOL Exactly Sheesh...Scary

Or maybe he is not "active" enough?

I think they should have discussed it more before getting married.

if you've deprived yourself of sex all your life upto the day you got married and after that you don't have sex, then there's something wrong with you.. -_-

for crap's sake yes! Sex is pretty damn important.. especially when you have to wait decades for it in this region of ours! :p

Personally, I think this is an unhealthy relationship. Clearly they are having communicational problems because the problem-as insinuated- is not being addressed, perhaps there lies an embarressment factor.
She should try confronting her partner and work towards a solution, if nothing seems to do the trick she should leave.

Maybe the dude realised he was gay or something :p

After like 10 to 20 years it's okay it's normal.. but the first few years umm I'd think there's somethign wrong..

This is what happens when you force gay people to hide themselves and pretend to be straight.

Yes. I think that a husband must give his wife what she needs, otherwise what kind of marriage is that?
You don't NEED it.

^ Maybe she does, how'd you know?

Guuuys, why are you making this a Global Issue??!!
Take it easy!!!!! For every problem, there is a solution!!

OK a couple are in a relationship, but there's no sex involved?? Come on!! Be realistic! If there wasn't any sex involved then they wouldn't be with each other. Otherwise, if they're tired of seeing the same faces everyday, switching partners temporarily is a possible solution. Don't let your mind slide far. I mean switching partners in the sense that the "guy" acts like a girl, and the girl acts like a guy. That will help. Maybe they're unsure of what weapons they can use on each other at the first place. Therefore, by switching sex roles, they can try out something new, and VOILAAA!!! you will have a healthy relationship!!

Told y'all its sex season ;)

Sounds like this man is either 1) Gay or 2) Cheating or 3) Has some kind of psychological issue he needs to get addressed.

*editted*
oh i just relaized i've posted here before :p

One more thing forgot to add: 4.) He is impotent.

He's just asexual

Why is the man being blamed in here?

Did anyone think of the possibility that this lady doesn't actually try to be attractive to her husband, she has those hairy legs & wears one of those huge granny's knickers, who would desire to touch her?


ROTFL........honestly Hitman we need to compile a listing of your funny replies because they make me smile every single time. :6:

loool.. hmmm.. i geuss she should leave him cuz life is too short to waste in in such an unusual and unhealthy marriage.. plus he's obviously gay :yes:

when love is on the rocks....
the rocks are in bed.

Guuuys, why are you making this a Global Issue??!!
Take it easy!!!!! For every problem, there is a solution!!

OK a couple are in a relationship, but there's no sex involved?? Come on!! Be realistic! If there wasn't any sex involved then they wouldn't be with each other. Otherwise, if they're tired of seeing the same faces everyday, switching partners temporarily is a possible solution. Don't let your mind slide far. I mean switching partners in the sense that the "guy" acts like a girl, and the girl acts like a guy. That will help. Maybe they're unsure of what weapons they can use on each other at the first place. Therefore, by switching sex roles, they can try out something new, and VOILAAA!!! you will have a healthy relationship!!

Told y'all its sex season ;)


LOOOOOOL!!!!

Yo thats some freaky shit.. As a matter of fact..
Soo freaky, That u need to Remind moi to fill you in on something! :rn: lol

Why she doesn’t ask him the reason and sphere her self you guys fantasies?!!

talking about sex can be the most difficult issue to talk about between couples..so honestly u guys dont know nothing...ok its good to have open conversation but not all can do that!! some would rather file a divorce or cheat than opening to their spouse!!

I would say she should be patient may be he is going thru difficult time otherwise there is def a reason why is he being cold..

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so the link was ?? Seriously why Omantel are blocking bicycle saleman!!! :mmhmm:

FLORENTYNA,

If a married couple cant be frank about their sexual relation problems,then that relation will fall apart in no time.

The only way that she finishes her frustration is to know what’s wrong.
I'm not asking that she go to him and say "Hi honey, why you are not shagging me"
Her hinting to him what’s going on will be enough, both already know that there is a problem by now I’m sure.

FLORENTYNA,

If a married couple cant be frank about their sexual relation problems,then that relation will fall apart in no time.

The only way that she finishes her frustration is to know what’s wrong.
I'm not asking that she go to him and say "Hi honey, why you are not shagging me"
Her hinting to him what’s going on will be enough, both already know that there is a problem by now I’m sure. u r talking about being frank and then u r saying she should give him hints.. pretty confusing me now

what if she has tried all the hints and he still dont get it... or he know the problem but still he dont want to have sex for his own reason..as i said there is def. a reason.

u r talking about being frank and then u r saying she should give him hints.. pretty confusing me now

what if she has tried all the hints and he still dont get it... or he know the problem but still he dont want to have sex for his own reason..as i said there is def. a reason.

Dont be confused darling, what I mean by "frank" is to face the problem and question it other than ignoring it..

What I mean by hint:its the method to approach him.


what if she has tried all the hints and he still dont get it... or he know the problem but still he dont want to have sex for his own reason.

You sound like you know the couple having the problem :hyper:

If the guy is that cold and cant get the hints then she should sit with him and face him...There is no harm to discuss sexual problems between the wife and husband.

Sexless relationship you said ?
That's the best relationship .. ever :rolleyes:

Dont be confused darling, what I mean by "frank" is to face the problem and question it other than ignoring it..

What I mean by hint:its the method to approach him.



You sound like you know the couple having the problem :hyper:

If the guy is that cold and cant get the hints then she should sit with him and face him...There is no harm to discuss sexual problems between the wife and husband.
No I dont know this couple; but I know some other couple with similar problem!! and tell u what?? she will never discuss with him this issue.. kinda a sensitive topic....

FLORENTYNA,

If a wife cant discuss that with her husbend,then that relationship is a very weak one.

The only way to save the relationship is to have a certian sexual understanding between a wife and her husband!!

or your friend will end up posting in forums that she got a sexual problem with her husband!

Dont you agree that a married couple should have that kinda understanding? its one of the basics :)