I kinda find that some Arab Men in General arent Open-Minded...
In what sense.....

In Love sense....
Lets say a girl & a boy get 2 know eachother, by time they develope feelings... but niether expose it 2 the other.... in Most cases in Arab world, the girl wouldnt wanna b the 1 to say I Love U 1st......... Y? Coz I've noticed around that most Arab Man would look down on the woman if she takes the 1st step & that's just weird, coz U'd find most of them say... oh.. U havent gave me a clue or how will I know U love me...

My Q: Does it matter who says I Love U 1st?? since both of U love eachother.... Y each would wait 4 the other person 2 express it 1st.... if U feel it, say it....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WHat U Think ? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I think it's best if you say it at the same time!

But if someone looks down on you for going first, maybe that person is not such a great person to be with.

It will be interesting to see what the Sabla guys think...

yeh why would a guy look down at you for that ! weird
anyways yeah i dont think it matters who says it first
but still i dont think i can say it first :shy:
its scary :p

I prefer if it comes from the guy first, because guys are very unpredictable . They could simply go like "Oh .. you do?" I magine to be put in such position ARGH!

^ loool :XD::XD:
yeh that would be soo like wth !

I think you're wrong, why would I look down on a girl who was being honest?

Heck! She saved me the hassle of telling her and went through the hassle herself and told me she loves me, I'd happily reply back that I love her!

No, it doesnt matter who says I love you first. I'd wait because I'm not sure how her feelings towards me are, if I do, I'd take the risk of destroying our friendship, which I dont want to happen

You know, why not just wait until the right moment? When the right moment comes, you will both be able to read the truth in each other's eyes. The eyes will say "I love you" before the mouth does. And then, you can be confident that there will be an exchange of confessions.

If you feel it say it. don't wait for the other person to say it..pride is a horrible thing when it comes to relationships.

based on that I think it's obvious that I would never look down on a girl who would say it first.

This is lotsa bullsh!t. Who cares who utters the three magic words first. It doesn't matter who says it first, the thing that matters is that they mean it.

^ Same Same.

No one likes to be rejected and the reason behind arabs men looking down at a girl who says I love you is lack of trust but I gotta say not all of them are like that:cute: I don't believe it is wrong because you never know who's this person till you get married to them and that's really scary:boo:! So the question that runs on the guy's head is, if she says it to me how many guys b4 me did she say it 2?! That's why some just dont say it! And when they say it so easily the girl gets worried and start thinking how many girls b4 me heard that word :XD:

I don't mind. I'll happily do it. But I think Middle Eastern men prefer if they do it first, so I'll just keep quiet. :hmm: Personally, I prefer it if he says it first, it much more feminine that way and I will feel soooo loved. :rolleyes:

I said it once and the outcome from it was bad so am gonna zip it up 2 myself better :XD:! Why should I get myself in trouble when I can save myself!

I think the girl should just stay on the safe sife to avoid rejectence.

My Q: Does it matter who says I Love U 1st?? since both of U love eachother.... Y each would wait 4 the other person 2 express it 1st.... if U feel it, say it....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WHat U Think ? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~



We cannot generalize the answer to this question. Different people have different views about this. Some girls won't allow herself to say it until the guy is full of it! She'd wait until he is so close to losing his dignity by telling her how much he loves her, and then she might just say: "me too!!" :omg:

If I truly like the guy, I don't think it's harmful to express it! From my experience, I remember calling my man "7ayaty" (My life) from day one!!! He didn't look down at me, he felt more comfortable around me.. He felt easy to talk to me and express his feelings knowing that I am open minded and that we shouldn't keep our feelings bottled up!

Guess what?! He ended up proposing to me :heart:

I would die with it but will never say it first, to me it has nothing to do with pride , its just simply me:shy: .

I will wait, wait, and wait and then perhaps regret it when it's too late. I can't seem to digest confessing to a guy that I love him first. It scares me because what if he says something like "yeah, I am flattered but I don't see you in my future, and I think we should remain as we are" :rolleyes:

However the way I see it, is that it has been perceived that women who fall at their lovers feet, professing their love have always been portrayed as cheap and undesirable. Through my adolescent years, I've gotten the idea that most men like the chase, and don't like for the girl to give in easily. Perhaps that's why I programmed myself to never say I love you first or explicitly show a guy that I want to be with him. And besides if he truly loves me and wants me, then he will admit that he has feelings for me sooner or later because he wouldn't want to lose me, right? And if nothing happens because we're both very stubborn, then I guess we were never meant to be.

It's weird, but I think once I am in a relationship with a person, I won't have trouble talking about my feelings provided he feels the same way because rejection is not in our books at that point. I was already accepted.

it doesnt matter to me , but i have never been in such a situation , i say to my mp3 player that i love her but i dont get any feed back from her :S

I would never say it first, simply because I don't want to be in an awkward situation if/when he doesn't reciprocate those feelings. I have way too much pride, and I hate feeling rejected or embarrassed.

a person doesnt always have to say that they love their ...in this case.. spouse.The spouse can feel it and the other just expresses it in other ways. Even if a person doesnt say that they love you, doesnt mean they dont. You just feel it, especially of you are soul mates.

if i have that feeling, i ll say it no matter what is going to happen.

love makes me brave if it is true.

Men in General arent Open-Minded... Likewise women too ...!!!

hmm, i don't know..i might and might not..i need to be in that situation to tell

death rose.... Y do U find it scary 2 admit ur feelings?

JUVE'ntiniya.. Exactly....... I 2 agree that man r unpredictable..

Rossonero... Unfortunatily, there R some man whom look down on a woman who's being honest.... & yeah I agree with U, it doesnt matter whom says it first if both have that vibe in between..... but if U love the girl, Y would U tell U... U say U'd fear U'd destroy the friendship... but how do U know if the girl is actually waiting 4 U or not 2 spell the words out?

Jeff... Indeed, I always say that the eyes speaks the truth by it self & actually most cases people can know if the other loves them by their actions & perhaps eye contacts...

NaBHaN... U R 100% right in that..... sometimes keeping quite just destroys it & each witing 4 the other 2 speak out till 1 day it may b too late.

Mesmie.. I dont think this is Blushit as U claim... I know many girls went through such cases, just coz it didnt happen 2 U so that means it wont happen & just coz that U dont care then others wuld b the same.

Charm... That may b the case, I've heard few of my Omani colleagues saying... if a girl tells me I love U, means she had said it b4 & if a girl talks 2 a guy, that means she's talking to 10 other guys, isnt that just sick?

sophis^catrina... & what if U realy loved that man & it seems that he is taking his own sweet la la la time....... what would U do then? how will U know if he realy has any feelings for U? would U just go on?

JUVE'ntiniya......... Believe it or not, sometimes man R afraid 2 get rejected too, so what can 1 do in such situation?

Endure Whisper... Than U must b 1 lucky girl, ma sha Allah...... & hopefully U'd get married n live happily ever after..... but hey.... Y do U think a guy shall lose his dignity in order 2 express his true feelings 2 a girl? Does falling in love means 2 throw away ur dignity ?

Lym.... Y do most of us take it in a negetive way? Y do U think that if U may end up saying it 1st then U mire b rejected or maybe he's just say we r better off with out love, Y not put in mind that perhaps he does wanna confess but he is afraid of ur reaction & he wishes if u'd give him the green light? cheap and undesirable......... exactly, those were the words I meant when I said most woman look down on a woman whom expresses her feelings first...

METAL PRIEST.. Then I think its time 4 u 2 get a new MP3 player or perhaps spend a weekend at Ibn Sina :P

Libellula.... It is pride that made most people regret not taking the chances when it was suppose 2 b taken...

Angel_Eyes.... Could be, but those 3 lil words make wonders...

normalman... And I hope U'd always b brave in all Ur life matters.

Dark Project... U think so? well, it might be... but I guess man have higher percentage.

Nella... U will 1 day :)

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sophis^catrina... & what if U realy loved that man & it seems that he is taking his own sweet la la la time....... what would U do then? how will U know if he realy has any feelings for U? would U just go on?



I'll know if he has any feelings depending on whether he tells me something or not. If he has feelings he will tell me. If he has feelings, but doesn't then it is not strong enough, and that's not what I want. I want a man who is brave enough to tell me that he loves me! Not someone I tell him I love him, and then become unsatisfied with him, coz he doesn't shower me with love and attention. So better wait for the man, if no response there, move on.

death rose.... Y do U find it scary 2 admit ur feelings?




dont know
its gonna be awkward
and the scary thing is what if he doesnt feel the same

I kinda find that some Arab Men in General arent Open-Minded...
In what sense.....

In Love sense....


sorry to begin from here, but why did you choose "Arab men"? did you compare some other cultures to our culture first? if you did, i would be more than glad and interested to read your analysis!


My Q: Does it matter who says I Love U 1st?? since both of U love eachother.... Y each would wait 4 the other person 2 express it 1st.... if U feel it, say it....


the best answer i have read so far was Jeff's:
wait until the right moment! when both of you
will confess without a single word.

a relationship is not a "Race" between who says 143 first!

thats why a person shouldnt tell out his feelings straight away, wait until u "realise" that he/she will be waiting to hear you say it - at the time you are waiting for him/her to say it! :sunsmile:

Endure Whisper... Than U must b 1 lucky girl, ma sha Allah...... & hopefully U'd get married n live happily ever after..... but hey.... Y do U think a guy shall lose his dignity in order 2 express his true feelings 2 a girl? Does falling in love means 2 throw away ur dignity ?


No that's not what I meant. I meant, some girls, would wait forever to tell the guy how she feels even if he already has! The guy would keep on telling her how much he likes her, and she would most probably just go like: "hmm ahaa, so what are you doing today?"!

Imagine you're put in a situation where when you tell the guy you like how much you like him, he ignores (although he likes you too but doesn't show it) and says: "so what are you doing today?"

I think it's important to exchange your feelings as soon as possible because that allows the gates of comfort to open up and the bond between you gets stronger (or weaker if one of your rejects it). I don't agree with the fact that you have to be "hung" waiting for your partner's feelings to disclose!

At the end of the day, why not spread loooooove? :love:

I think people fear REJECTION . U don't want to be hurt. Also U don't want
to ruin a nice relationship with tht person .. Not only rejection, PAIN that could result of the rejection ..
If U really love someone, it is because U care about them a lot.
And that mean U value Ur relationship with them so U don't want to lose them. U never know if s/he feels the same way you do. It means U love them
more than U love Urself so U care more in not losing them .
The minute U say it, it can change your life for better or for worse.

Charm... That may b the case, I've heard few of my Omani colleagues saying... if a girl tells me I love U, means she had said it b4 & if a girl talks 2 a guy, that means she's talking to 10 other guys, isnt that just sick?



:yes: It is sick!

Well i believe that a guy no matter wut will always express his feelings and would find it easy to say i love u to a grl but when it comes down to real love its hard.
As for me i can tell anyone that i love em but for THE ONE i dont think i can i would feel like i would get heart broken and i know for sure if i was to say it first that, that certain someone will change like wont act the same around me....

Soft@Heart ur rite i do fear rejection when it comes to love, if i ever got a broken heart it would heel but just not the same as before so0o that why i want to give my heart and soul to someone who wont give it back broken

there was this scholar that once said that a grl should be the one to say would u marry me to a guy((kind of off-topic but it blends in)) anyhow he said this because if a guy were to say it to a grl most likely that a grl would say i do cuz in that one moment she feels to happy/exited to think and later on she will realize he aint the one....It was something like that i cant remember it in FULL detail but anyhow that shows that a grl should be the one to say it and for you guys to say the truth and be supportive and not fool grls with the way u talk and stuff

sophis^catrina..... So U'd leave him just coz he doesnt share U love the way U want it 2 be? They always say, if someone doesnt show U love like how u want it 2 be, that doesnt mean they dont love u at all, its just that each human, have their own way in expressing feelings...

MoZeS... Am an Arab Girl, Living in an Arab world, its so Obivious am exposed to Arab Man more........ Therefore, its natural that my point would b on ARab Man !!!!

Endure Whisper..... I agree in spreading love around ;)

LosT_SouL... U remind me of that song..... "Saying something Stuid like I love U"....

LosT_SouL... U remind me of that song..... "Saying something Stuid like I love U"....


Is that mean I'm stupid :p

I don't mind. I'll happily do it. But I think Middle Eastern men prefer if they do it first, so I'll just keep quiet. :hmm: Personally, I prefer it if he says it first, it much more feminine that way and I will feel soooo loved. :rolleyes:aye... likewise