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18-04-07, 10:23 AM
http://www.omantribune.com/index.php?page=news&id=4896&heading=Oman
MUSCAT Has forced divorce become a common phenomenon in our society? Investigations reveal that the primary reason behind several broken marriages is greed for money. In many instances, divorce took place a few months after the marriage. The culprit in each case has the same justification, regardless of their financial and social status or place of origin. The probe also brought to light the sad plight of the victims.
Maha is in her twenties. She was forced to divorce hardly five months after her marriage. She looked shaken by the sad turn of events.
Huda, another woman who is also in her twenties, was divorced two and a half months after her marriage.
Samera, in her thirties, says: “My husband asked me to get a loan from the bank to build a house for us. I asked him why the loan should be taken in my name. He made many attempts to persuade me, but I refused to budge. My refusal eventually resulted in the divorce.”
Mona was less careful than Sameera. She borrowed RO36,000 from the bank following his request and soon after that he divorced her. She is still paying back the loan.
Men reacted to the issue in different ways.
A young man (Ahmed), who is planning to get married, says: “These days, the wife has to help her husband, and so I prefer to marry a working woman so that she can share the financial burden. I cannot force my wife to do that, but we can reach an understanding on every issue before marriage.’’
Asked what he would do if his prospective wife does not agree to help him financially, he replied: “I would simply look for another one who would agree to my conditions.”
Ismail Bin Haarib Al Hashami says: “I do not wish to get married to a working girl. It is not true that an employed woman is better than a housewife. Although many young men prefer to marry working women, it should not mean that a husband can take his wife’s money by force.”
About this phenomenon, Sheikh Ibrahim Al Sawafi says: “Allah legitimised marriage to share love, to have peace of mind and to have children. The Holy Quran has many verses that give marriage a very high and sacred status.” He also said it was illegal to get married with the intention to divorce or to take money from the wife unless she was happy to do so.
He urged young men to have the fear of God and refrain from oppressing their wives.
About the possible reason for this phenomenon, Sawafi says: “The first reason is weak religious curbs. If people have fear of God and follow His teachings, they would never think of forced divorce. The second reason regrettably is the marketing of this idea by some media and movies that promote this social practice. The third is lack of ethics.”
Suggesting solutions, Sawafi said: “People's religious belief should be strengthened and they should be reminded of their duty towards God. Another way is by conducting seminars and religious lectures and urging people to attend these courses.
-IS A DIVORCE BECOMING A BURDEN IN OUR SOCIETY??
-How would we overcomes this new Diseases of divorce!!
Looking forward for any other Side stories that you know has happening to someone you know (Knowledge sharing)
MUSCAT Has forced divorce become a common phenomenon in our society? Investigations reveal that the primary reason behind several broken marriages is greed for money. In many instances, divorce took place a few months after the marriage. The culprit in each case has the same justification, regardless of their financial and social status or place of origin. The probe also brought to light the sad plight of the victims.
Maha is in her twenties. She was forced to divorce hardly five months after her marriage. She looked shaken by the sad turn of events.
Huda, another woman who is also in her twenties, was divorced two and a half months after her marriage.
Samera, in her thirties, says: “My husband asked me to get a loan from the bank to build a house for us. I asked him why the loan should be taken in my name. He made many attempts to persuade me, but I refused to budge. My refusal eventually resulted in the divorce.”
Mona was less careful than Sameera. She borrowed RO36,000 from the bank following his request and soon after that he divorced her. She is still paying back the loan.
Men reacted to the issue in different ways.
A young man (Ahmed), who is planning to get married, says: “These days, the wife has to help her husband, and so I prefer to marry a working woman so that she can share the financial burden. I cannot force my wife to do that, but we can reach an understanding on every issue before marriage.’’
Asked what he would do if his prospective wife does not agree to help him financially, he replied: “I would simply look for another one who would agree to my conditions.”
Ismail Bin Haarib Al Hashami says: “I do not wish to get married to a working girl. It is not true that an employed woman is better than a housewife. Although many young men prefer to marry working women, it should not mean that a husband can take his wife’s money by force.”
About this phenomenon, Sheikh Ibrahim Al Sawafi says: “Allah legitimised marriage to share love, to have peace of mind and to have children. The Holy Quran has many verses that give marriage a very high and sacred status.” He also said it was illegal to get married with the intention to divorce or to take money from the wife unless she was happy to do so.
He urged young men to have the fear of God and refrain from oppressing their wives.
About the possible reason for this phenomenon, Sawafi says: “The first reason is weak religious curbs. If people have fear of God and follow His teachings, they would never think of forced divorce. The second reason regrettably is the marketing of this idea by some media and movies that promote this social practice. The third is lack of ethics.”
Suggesting solutions, Sawafi said: “People's religious belief should be strengthened and they should be reminded of their duty towards God. Another way is by conducting seminars and religious lectures and urging people to attend these courses.
-IS A DIVORCE BECOMING A BURDEN IN OUR SOCIETY??
-How would we overcomes this new Diseases of divorce!!
Looking forward for any other Side stories that you know has happening to someone you know (Knowledge sharing)