Is it just me or does anyone else feel that it's the girls who run after guys now and not the other way around. I have this rather shy friend in Uni and suddenly he has a girl chasing after him and trying to get hooked up.

And that's not the only incident I've witnessed or heard, many others that basically involve the women perusing the men.

I'm not sure how everyone feels about this but it just seems rather weird to me because I've always loved the thought of the man perusing the woman he likes, it just seems like the way it's supposed to be but obviously with all the feminism books, t.v shows (Oprah anyone?) , movies and songs it seems like the girls have this sense of empowerment and have become more outgoing and courageous when it comes to going after what they want.

Girls: would you go after a man you liked?

Guys: what do you think of girls who go after a guy they like? would you like it to happen to you?

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Girls: would you go after a man you liked?no cause i believe going behind the man you like wont make him like you...so what is the point and anyway why would i go after a man when i can make run after me ;)

^ what if you really liked the guy and he was shy or was taught not to run after girls.

nop nop nop

and its disgusting to see a girl chasing a guy and bothering him while hes not giving her a face

^ what if you really liked the guy and he was shy or was taught not to run after girls.then he is the one loesing cause i dont like shy guys

I think with all the TV and ppl being open minded about many things...girls now got the courage to go after their dream in life as well as guys as it could be a girls dream sometimes

then he is the one loesing cause i dont like shy guys

Note that he's only shy with GIRLS, which is actually a pretty good quality unless you want him to be outgoing which will probably end up in him cheating on you.

If the girl likes the guy, so I don't see whats wrong if she takes the first step. I just hate it when these girls investigate around.

It happened to me during college, this girl was asking about me, even she asked my cousin, I came to see her talking to my cousin, so I figured it out.

lol.. Some question this is.. Hey, one thing I've learned from life (so far - I still have a long way to go).

If I REALLY liked the guy, I have no problem persuing him. That's specially if he's the type that doesn't get hints and signs. HE is clueless, so I make it clear. If he's not into it, I back off.. His loss anyway ;)

Still.. Being persued by someone is always nice.. Good attention.. But there's no harm in giving someone else the same attention if needed.

You see Sweety said, if you persue him, he won't like you! But If I don't, he wouldn't even KNOW I do! Oh, and when I say persue, I don't mean STALK (showing up at every place/corner/class/cafe/restaurant/gym he is in - lol no I never did that)

The most I've done in persuing, is telling it as it is.. I just lay it flat and let him take over from there.. If he doesn't then that's it.

Oh, and a part of persuing (IMO) would be to become friends with his friends.. then you have mutual friends you hang out with! lol...
This works most of the time.. You'd be in his face 24/7, he's bound to think of you! :p

Note that he's only shy with GIRLS, which is actually a pretty good quality unless you want him to be outgoing which will probably end up in him cheating on you.hehe come on..... I have more self esteem and confidence than to wory about that...shy! outgoing! handsome! rich! handicapped! who wants to cheat will cheat...being shy or not wont stay on the way

Girls: would you go after a man you liked?



BIG NO. No one is that desperate !

It happened to me during college, this girl was asking about me, even she asked my cousin, I came to see her talking to my cousin, so I figured it out.


But if it were the other way around, and you liked someone, wouldn't you be asking about her, asking people she knows, and you both know? I'm sure you would.. atleast a bit! It's inevitable! :)

Yes I would.

And I did.

And now I am married and have two kids.

He claims I hypnotised him. I deny this absurd allegation.

but BM it could happen yeah!
but do you think it would last?

Blind Melon: I respect a girl who lets a guy know how she feels about him..there's nothing wrong with that at all (I always said there's no pride when it comes to love)..I just have a problem with girls who are presistant and keep on going after the guy, because well.. usually it's the guy who does that.

Yes I would.

And I did.

And now I am married and have two kids.

He claims I hypnotised him. I deny this absurd allegation.loool okay did he know back then you were going after him?? i mean were u putting flowers around and showing that you admire first or did u like him and make him like you and then made him believe you liked him after he liked you ;)

Yes I would.

And I did.

And now I am married and have two kids.

He claims I hypnotised him. I deny this absurd allegation.

were you running after him or did you simply throw in hints and tell him how you felt and what you thought of him because there's a huge difference there.

loool okay did he know back then you were going after him?? i mean were u putting flowers around and showing that you admire first or did u like him and make him like you and then made him believe you liked him after he liked you ;)

akh.. lol us women are just so manipulative..It scares me!

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I get what you mean Nab, that's why I say "Hey wanna do it? Go for it.. But don't come crying back to me when he says he's not interested!"

If you have the heart to actually do it, then you should have the heart to expect everything.. good or bad.

As for Sweety's Q.. Well, you see Fengy? Happily ever after! If it could last, then why not :)

But if it were the other way around, and you liked someone, wouldn't you be asking about her, asking people she knows, and you both know? I'm sure you would.. atleast a bit! It's inevitable! :)
Sometimes it depends on what they are asking actually, not some weird question. In my case, I will prefer going ahead to the girl rather than asking.

loool okay did he know back then you were going after him?? i mean were u putting flowers around and showing that you admire first or did u like him and make him like you and then made him believe you liked him after he liked you ;)
*takes a minute to decipher it*

erm.. I just said "Hi. You're that guy from that place right?"

Then some time after the 'dating period' began *cough* *cough*... I "proposed". Threatened to knock his teeth out if he declined.

He accepted. har-har

And they all lived happily ever after. Until she strangled him. Or something like that.

were you running after him or did you simply throw in hints and tell him how you felt and what you thought of him because there's a huge difference there.
erm.. well, I kinda saw him some other place a few times.. (thought he was American or German.. the man is blue eyed and fair skinned)

Then a few weeks later I met my friend and her friend's friend's friend was his friend. So he was there.. and I tell my friend, "Oh look, that's the german from that place... " She laughs her head off.. and says "Who? Mohammed?" And I faint.

No not really, but it was a little "shocking" lol. So I went up to him and said hi. I'm sociable like that. :D

but did he know from the first time you approached that you actually liked him?

erm.. well, I kinda saw him some other place a few times.. (thought he was American or German.. the man is blue eyed and fair skinned)

Then a few weeks later I met my friend and her friend's friend's friend was his friend. So he was there.. and I tell my friend, "Oh look, that's the german from that place... " She laughs her head off.. and says "Who? Mohammed?" And I faint.

No not really, but it was a little "shocking" lol. So I went up to him and said hi. I'm sociable like that. :D

lol..well that sounds great actually. Is your husband or was he Shy with women..or is he outgoing as well?

lol..well that sounds great actually. Is your husband or was he Shy with women..or is he outgoing as well?
He wasn't the type who runs after the ladies. He's sociable, but I guess he was always taught to "not speak to strange women". (I hope he still believes this now rofl) So if I didn't go up to him, I don't think we'd be where we are today.

Let's say he probably knew I was interested in talking to him once I walked up to him. I'm sure he was just as interested.. and if he wasn't, then no loss. I keep an open mind. I only went to say hi. In the end, you can probably see if you are making someone uncomfortable or if the conversation is getting interesting and enjoyable.

Note that he's only shy with GIRLS, which is actually a pretty good quality unless you want him to be outgoing which will probably end up in him cheating on you.



LOL...I don't think most of the ladies ever realize that.

I guess men n owadays are too shy .. but I prefer the men to do the chasing NOT girl =S it's just too awkward ...

Nope, I don't even admit to a guy that I like him, let alone, "chase" him. I am traditional like that, I like guys to do all the pursuing, and once (I think), they have come half way, I don't think I mind inching closer only a tad if I really really like him :rolleyes:

rofl... @ BM & Fengy...
few scenarios...
if you're not the type who talks and the guy is shy himself... no interaction= nothing in the end. lol

BM: would it be like this?
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BM: heys there... how're you?
guy: hi BM... I'm fine, and you?
BM: I came to tell you something...
Guy: shoot
BM: I think I like you...
Guy: oh... (silence)
BM: (realizing the reaction.. backs off)... paahaaa... fell for it haaa?.. Me?!! pleaase!!... tuh, huh.... you wish!!...( 'click' >*damn it*)

I'm kidding... that woulda been something though :p
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I don't think I would be straightforward. But, I think my approach would depend on the type of guy he is. If I see that he's open and social and shows signs of interest I might approach, but not in a way that I'd be telling him anything. And if I realize there are any signs of rejection, it's back off.

oh though... way to go Fengy! :D:p


P.S. i was laughing at one of my maids who was actually saying to the guy: "if you want, you have to marry. so tell me now, you want or no??!!"..."Yes or No?" :XD:

Guys: what do you think of girls who go after a guy they like? would you like it to happen to you?

Such scenarios have always been there but perhaps they are more apparent now then before

To answer your Q, I think it is a great pleasure when you are chased by a girl, especially when she isn't a virgin

Unfortunately, nowadays many girls are usually after rich guys & vice versa, the old days were better when they were behind each other for solely pleasure & fun

Girls after guys, when girls are ugly and guys are handsome. It is always the case also with too many girls against few guys. I am sure that it is more related to Female X Female issues than Male X Female issues.

In other words, women are those who create the problem and they are the ones that solve it, if you know what I mean. It is like business and protocols of market stock and shares, the more the available the lower the price and vice versa!

LOL! @ Tee, and WTF HITMAN! ROFL!!
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Well Tee, I think you kinda got it right.. That would like checking the pulse.. my version would be something like this:

Of course this would only happen after I got used to having them around, after hanging out with them and doing stuff together, and after convincing myself that I DO like them!

Oh oh..and after finding out that he's DEFINITELY single, doesn't like anyone, doesn't have his eye on anyone, hasn't just broken up with someone..or else it's a lost cause!!

I give out hints and what not... Hmm..And TELL EVERYONE I KNOW EXCEPT FOR HIM! LOL... So it would get to him eventually.. hehe.. Pretty stupid I know (I don't do that anymore...)

but basically.. it'll be like "You know? you're such a jerk!! here I'm practically throwing myself at you and you're totally CLUELESS!!"

His jaw drops..He walks away.. He avoids me the next day..and we never speak again!!

Hahaha... Wallah I don't know.. It never happened this way.. But I think it's just the only typical thing to happen to me!

I think it's weird to "stalk" a guy or just keep walking after him. I remember when I was at the mall with my friends and once of the girls who were there said :"Oh, that guy is hot! let's follow him!" I was like :"Huh....are you that sad?"

But, if it's a feelings thing, I think if I ever had feelings for a guy in the far far future :p, I won't have a problem in telling him so.

And, nabs, are you sure shy guys don't cheat ? :rolleyes:

There isn't a law stating that guys should make the first and not the other way around. Guys might drop hints here and there, but some of them are just too timid to venture forward and make the first move. Or you know what, some guys actually "play hard to get" !

I have a thing for shy guys lol I hate it when a guy acts so full of himself and puts on the I-Know-it-All attitude. So if we're both interested in each other, then sure I might make the first move...but I won't put it as "chasing him" that sounds so cheap and desperate.

I think, its a good thing..for a change :p

Girls after guys, when girls are ugly and guys are handsome.



...from Lurv the expert, Haroun D'Amour. :hyper: :hyper:

If that's how it works in your society, I'd hate to be the handsome man with crowds of women chasing after him.

Lay off the funny red mushrooms Haroun. :mushroom:

:D

well no ..I wont like it ...
you see ... once the girl do that .. the guy well naturally have a bad Idea of her..so whats the point ! you ll just put your Image in front people in dangerous !
I have a friend and there are tow sis fighting for him ! how about that ! what's the first Idea that came up to your mind about them ! when you knew that they're fighting fore the same guy !

Sallam,

Believe or not, just last night me, my sister, cousin and some Omani girls we know were talking about this.

One of the girls told us of an incident that happened in city Centre, I don’t know when but she said that there was this girl who was after a married man who was walking with his pregnant wife in the City Centre. The girl starts to gaze on the guy and do some signs to get his attention and the wife notice this. The girl comes to near to the guy, then the wife couldn’t not take it any more that she slaps the girl out of an angry reaction then her husband announce in public that she is divorced. He justifies his action as out of a reaction of what his wife had done in public and that people were gathered around them.

A big shock but this is what happened!


Sadly to see that our societies are changing in the name of Globalisation and girls attitude changed to guys attitude and the vice versa.


Allah yehdiahum – May Allah guide them.

then her husband announce in public that she is divorced. .

He will regret devorcing here .. dumba$$ ,, where on earth u could find
a girl who do that just for u ?! and love you to a way that she slaped the
girl in public ..

Well , I'll be proud to be married to a women like her .. May Allah help her ..

No, I would never pursue a guy. I don't have a problem with other girls doing so, but personally I wouldn't be able to chase after someone, and I'm a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to the whole approaching the opposite sex issue. I think it's the guy's role to pursue/approach the girl.

lol.. Some question this is.. Hey, one thing I've learned from life (so far - I still have a long way to go).

If I REALLY liked the guy, I have no problem persuing him. That's specially if he's the type that doesn't get hints and signs. HE is clueless, so I make it clear. If he's not into it, I back off.. His loss anyway ;)

Still.. Being persued by someone is always nice.. Good attention.. But there's no harm in giving someone else the same attention if needed.

You see Sweety said, if you persue him, he won't like you! But If I don't, he wouldn't even KNOW I do! Oh, and when I say persue, I don't mean STALK (showing up at every place/corner/class/cafe/restaurant/gym he is in - lol no I never did that)

The most I've done in persuing, is telling it as it is.. I just lay it flat and let him take over from there.. If he doesn't then that's it.

Oh, and a part of persuing (IMO) would be to become friends with his friends.. then you have mutual friends you hang out with! lol...
This works most of the time.. You'd be in his face 24/7, he's bound to think of you! :p

Boy, oh, boy, you've got it down to a science, Melon Girl. You teach classes in this stuff?

Hmmm, I guess it's better to keep things to yourself and if you like a guy just zip it up, running after a guy is stupid. (opinion)