Many of my friends keep telling me they can't get over their ex's...since I've never been in love (Thank god), I want to know...is it hard for you too? how do you get over someone you have loved so much one day? what do you do exactly?

they say time is the best healer, I strongly believe that people tend to forget after a while no matter how strong love was between the lovers when they break off for some reason it will be very hard at the beginning but time surely will make that love fades away, I can give you an example the love of parents by the children is very huge and true but in case one parent died the children will feel very distressed and sad but by time passes by they will get over it, if that's could happen to the most dearest person so what about an ex-lovers or ex- spouses when they part off, I think it's more easy to forget.

I started a similar thread before.

Yah you won't really know how it feels like unless you actually go through it first. Some wounds just never heal. You won't be able to forget him if he's your first. First love never dies. Getting your ex out of your system is hard task. It might take years..

I agree with Cloud. At first, it may seem a bit hard, but then as the days and weeks go by, you will notice you think about them less and less, and in no time, you would have forgotten them completely (well with the occasional sweet thoughts). However, you will no longer love them like you did.

You can always get over someone- always! Nothing is ever past you in this life and nothing revolves around one person. You've to know that you will always be alright, and you happiness does not depend on one person. Having faith like this and with time by your side, you will definitely be okay :)

At the start it will be hard, no question about it. It is not an easy thing to give up ur daily routine, so how if it involves emotions.
The need to the other would be still there until the person find other thing to fulfill his time and emotional need.
My friends broke up and it's been more then a year. She got a new bf and she doesn't' feel the need for him. He on the other hand still free but can't get over his ex-relationship, i guess because he did not fill his time with alternatives, still unemployed. He has plenty of time that is why he keeps thinking of her, While she is studying and have a new bf and life goes on.

I also think closure is very important.

At the beginning, it was really hard.. but then, gradually, when you see your ex's bad sides, and how mean and rude he is to you, you will definately start hating him...

However, so many people I know only got over their ex's after they started going out with someone else..

well, Endure Whisper raised a good point :

At the beginning, it was really hard.. but then, gradually, when you see your ex's bad sides, and how mean and rude he is to you, you will definately start hating him...

but what if he was always nice to you? how can you hate him then? :rolleyes:

i personally think you can never get over someone completely..if they had an impact on your life or how you feel, they'll always have this place in your life

especially your first love as Mesmie has already mentioned :cute:

lym: you don't believe in soul mates do you:p

anyone can get over anyone if they want to. not only time but the will to forget as well.

Once you have had a physical relation with your ex (slept with him/her), it will be quite easy to get over him/her

Actually it's the other way around if you think about it, cause with physical interaction you get more attached to them

I agree with Cloud. At first, it may seem a bit hard, but then as the days and weeks go by, you will notice you think about them less and less, and in no time, you would have forgotten them completely (well with the occasional sweet thoughts). However, you will no longer love them like you did.

You can always get over someone- always! Nothing is ever past you in this life and nothing revolves around one person. You've to know that you will always be alright, and you happiness does not depend on one person. Having faith like this and with time by your side, you will definitely be okay :)

Exactly,that pretty much sums it up. It's hard at first and you might slip now and then but eventually you will forget them and move on with your life.

Actually it's the other way around if you think about it, cause with physical interaction you get more attached to them

That is just theory my dear

I agree with Hitman to an extent.

But I guess experience helps a lot in this respect. In the first breakup we usually have little experience not just with breakups but also with the different perspectives from which we evaluate our self-esteem. So the feel sometimes is not exactly because of missing that particular partner but also sorrow over rejection. This is almost a typical late teen scenario. With growing up we start developing personal preferences and values; we also start having a better understanding towards different personal preferences, importance of mutual attractions and things not going very well like we always wish.
We also try to isolate self-esteem from endowments and personality attraction.

I think it is so hard to get over it, it takes time. But for those who haven’t tried it yet, the best proactive way is to invest on your self. Let learning and self-development be your top mission and let the familiar relationship be the top to be taken care of, approach intimate relationships wisely, don’t get in dramatically and don’t make it top priority immediately unless you are sure and certain it is meant to last. Be prepared for things not working out at which you go back to your top priority: family and work or study!

That is just theory my dear

Every theory has to be put into tests and experiments. Let's experiment and put it to the test so that we can validate the thoery :)

"Immortals... We put their name to the test"
Spartan King Leonidas .. 300 (2006)

^^ Irrelevant! I know :P

It's impossible to forget him but atleast u'll try to forget that.
At the end, as everyone said, the time is best cure :)