i have a question for the guys here...
if u were in a relationship with a girl what are the chances tht u will end up marrying her?? i know that some guys say they would never marry a girl they dated...then why date a girl in the first place and lie to her and tell her u love her when in the end ur gona end up leaving her?!! are alot of guys like this or is it just a few?! :think:

Yes sad but true. SOME guys are like that. They'll give you false promises..promise you that they'll always be there for you no matter what << bullsh!t. Some guys are only good at toying around with girls' feelings. Once he gets what he wants he'll abandon you.


But then again...there's some decent fish in the sea :)

But then again...there's some decent fish in the sea :)

WHHEERRREEEE plleaasseee point them out!!! looolz..:p

i wouldnt mind doing that as long as its real
i dont care about how stereotypical guys think with the whole dating concept

WHHEERRREEEE plleaasseee point them out!!! looolz..:p
I dunno try strip clubs or something lol

I dunno try strip clubs or something lol

loool i dont think we have any here in oman and besides guys that goto strip clubs arent fish their dogs :p :hyper:

I would :yes: actually I dont think am gona marry a girl who I didn't know before, its MARRIAGE not LOTTERY!

uhm yeah? Isn't that the way they do it? Provided no huge problems come along the way (disloyalty, cheating etc.. etc..)

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I never use he word love when I date a girl, not until one steals my heart away. True love, make sure, both sides & all. YEAH I would!:yes:

Most probably I will use her & break up for any silly reason after I'm bored

Marriage, no thanks, I'm already married

When I get into a relationship...
I'll make sure it's the right one that would (inshAllah) end in marriage :)

Well... I had these debates with many friends/colleagues/class mates...
Some say they actualy prefer 2 marry the girl they r dating & some say, no way never...

1 guy whom I think is a mental case... he said... I will never marry a girl whom I'm dating, God knows who she dated b4 & what she did with him... he said... I will date, but if I wanna marry, I will ask my mom 2 find me a wife...

I was like R U dumb...?! what makes u so sure that the girl Ur mom gets is better than ur current gf ?

Obviously when ur mom goes & proposes, the girl's parent wont mention that their daughter had a bf b4 or maybe they dont know anything bout that...

What makes u so sure she never was with a guy & if she did anything or not..

U know what he said? .... he said... @ least something I dont know, better than something I know !!!

I was like... damn U R a moran !!! so now u consider the girl who went out with u as cheap n is not worth marrying.... I told him U guys R strange,... if the girl doesnt go out with u, u will say she doesnt love u nor trust U & if she does go out with U, U'd say she's cheap !!!

I just left him n walked away.

Hmm.. In my case, I don't think I'd marry a girl that I HAVEN'T dated..! Why? Because I need alot of time to get to know her right? I'm not just throwing myself at anyone my family finds good..!

Dating to me is like the stage or period that the couple use to find out things about the other person..!

If we are being serious, so why not?!

Guys will always say that and then chicken out =p

nice one ROSS..

well, if nothing wrong in the relationship ! why not ;

I was like... damn U R a moran !!! so now u consider the girl who went out with u as cheap n is not worth marrying.... I told him U guys R strange,... if the girl doesnt go out with u, u will say she doesnt love u nor trust U & if she does go out with U, U'd say she's cheap !!!

I just left him n walked away.

tell me about it..!!! i had it when u tell a guy u just wana be friends n they bug u n bug u to date them then once they have u they treat u like trash!!! i mean if ur gona consider a girl cheap if she dates u then just leave her alone!!

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I never use he word love when I date a girl, not until one steals my heart away. True love, make sure, both sides & all. YEAH I would!:yes:

well said i would rather date a guy and never hear the words i love u and just get to know him rather than have him tell me he loves me and most likely its not true!!

some certain people in here are very bad! some are married and dating..some are just dating..some want to date..is this what our world has come to?? i pitty our world then! it's sad...dating is haram:angry: and i dont think i need to mention why that is.....duuuuh!! it's stupid and it's just pointless:yell: ..why do it? why? it's a foriegn language to me! actually dont tell me..i dont need to hear excuses and lame explanations!.. You should just get married and stay loyal to your spouse! end of discussion whether you people like it or not!!:bored:

Just get MARRIED ,, I hope its that Easy AE..

lol.. I believe people who aren't "allowed" to do it, don't want anybody else to do it.. ;)

So.. you see a girl you like.. You would like to get to know her better, to see how she thinks, figure out her mind, see if you two are compatible, have things in common, see how she reacts to situations, how she deals with things.. You won't know any of this untill you talk to her and spend time with her, within limits of course.. not everything is about sex and blah! eh..

I don't see why a guy wouldn't marry a girl he's dating.. If everything's okay in the relationship then why not? Of course, in my dictionary, dating wouldn't start in the first place unless the intention of marriage is there.. If it's not, then it's a waste of time..

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Oh btw, Solidus, Mama and I found you this girl! she is so sweet! She's nice and kind and well, comes from a great family! But.. she is 5ft. and 87 kgs! And her name is "Watheefa" lol... :p and YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY HER! HAHAHAHAHAHAH!

lol.. I believe people who aren't "allowed" to do it, don't want anybody else to do it.. ;)

So.. you see a girl you like.. You would like to get to know her better, to see how she thinks, figure out her mind, see if you two are compatible, have things in common, see how she reacts to situations, how she deals with things.. You won't know any of this untill you talk to her and spend time with her, within limits of course.. not everything is about sex and blah! eh..

I don't see why a guy wouldn't marry a girl he's dating.. If everything's okay in the relationship then why not? Of course, in my dictionary, dating wouldn't start in the first place unless the intention of marriage is there.. If it's not, then it's a waste of time..

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Oh btw, Solidus, Mama and I found you this girl! she is so sweet! She's nice and kind and well, comes from a great family! But.. she is 5ft. and 87 kgs! And her name is "Watheefa" lol... :p and YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY HER! HAHAHAHAHAHAH!

This is what I would've said. But im not bothered to think, havent slept yet

i have a question for the guys here...
if u were in a relationship with a girl what are the chances tht u will end up marrying her?? i know that some guys say they would never marry a girl they dated...then why date a girl in the first place and lie to her and tell her u love her when in the end ur gona end up leaving her?!! are alot of guys like this or is it just a few?! :think:


I wouldn’t date a girl unless if the goal is to end up marrying her , or else there is no point! .BUT Its not a must that we get married, First I need to know her well then decide that this relationship really can go to the next phase or just break-up.

So it’s not a must that you marry a girl you are dating but you should have the intention of marrying her if the relationship works.

some certain people in here are very bad! some are married and dating..some are just dating..some want to date..is this what our world has come to?? i pitty our world then! it's sad...dating is haram:angry: and i dont think i need to mention why that is.....duuuuh!! it's stupid and it's just pointless:yell: ..why do it? why? it's a foriegn language to me! actually dont tell me..i dont need to hear excuses and lame explanations!.. You should just get married and stay loyal to your spouse! end of discussion whether you people like it or not!!:bored:


Wise words and other girls should learn from you.

A man should look for a chaste woman to be his wife not a play girl.

^^^ Both got a point to some extend! But, if a guy and a girl are dating to know each other inorder to get married than what's wrong with it?! It can fall under engament sweet days banner:p

I find it hard to believe that people nowadays get married just like that! A guy comes to the house and the family check from here and there then the wedding comes! Come on people we need to be more realstic now! That doesn't happen! The two of you are sleeping at the honey heaven.

some certain people in here are very bad! some are married and dating..some are just dating..some want to date..is this what our world has come to?? i pitty our world then! it's sad...dating is haram:angry: and i dont think i need to mention why that is.....duuuuh!! it's stupid and it's just pointless:yell: ..why do it? why? it's a foriegn language to me! actually dont tell me..i dont need to hear excuses and lame explanations!.. You should just get married and stay loyal to your spouse! end of discussion whether you people like it or not!!:bored:

To just get married isn't as easy as it use to be…in the old day's woman were more gullible, they wouldn’t continue studies and most probably end up marrying their cousin. In that case then yeah, just get married cuz u know ur cousin no need to get to know him. But times have changed and we are becoming a more mixed community some people I guess just cant help it.. every1 talks to the opposite sex if its not on the phone its online and some people cant really help not wanting to get to know the other person.
I don’t think dating is so bad as long as they both have good intentions and set their boundaries straight!
Every girl wishes it was so easy to just get married and that prince charming would come knocking on the door….if its that easy for u AE and ur prince charming comes knocking on ur door let me know if he has a cute brother :p

We've heard both stories, when guys did marry their girlfriends and when they did not. Most of the times, when they don't, because it's a matter of trust and honesty. One of the guys once mentioned to me: "she's been lieing to her father all along when she went out to see me, doesn't that make me feel suspicious that she's also going to lie to me about other things, even if she's not cheating on me?"

Unfortunately, men, especially in the Arab world, are sexually deprived, and they would look for any reason to sleep with a girl. He'll sweet talk to her, make her feel loved and comfortable, and then when he's satisfied, he'll leave her and go find someone else..

I am not generalizing this, but it's quite common around the men.. so maybe, the Arab and Muslim girls should straighten up and give them "no chance".. Not to turn this into an Islamic discussion, but love is not a sin, the sin is what we do when we're in love.. Girls can respect themselves and if they are very respectful, no men will lay a finger on them, and when they are told that they're loved, they will actually marry them!

Yeah Sure if my GF was DOTA All Stars :)

If she is really my girlfriend...why would i marry her..????:mmhmm: :mmhmm:

Then why did he go out with her if he's not going to marry her because she's "cheap".. Oh wait were is the part were he ALSO dates her? Isn't he considered cheap too?
Some guys think that they can do whatever they want and girls can't..
They want perfection from the other side while they can be as flawed as they desire..
Wallah 7alla..

Yah .. I would .. why not ..

looool @ braiki's marriage not lottery.

BL: he went out with her to have fun before being committed<< that's what they all say.

I ll tell you some rule I made for my self ... if you are not the first one to her then you are not the last one ! ..hope you ppl get it

Oh btw, Solidus, Mama and I found you this girl! she is so sweet! She's nice and kind and well, comes from a great family! But.. she is 5ft. and 87 kgs! And her name is "Watheefa" lol... :p and YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY HER! HAHAHAHAHAHAH!

GET OUT OF MY LIFEE!!! LEAVE ME ALONNNEEEE!!!! :weep:

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I ll tell you some rule I made for my self ... if you are not the first one to her then you are not the last one ! ..hope you ppl get it

But then you also said "yeah you would marry her, why not" :os So when do you apply your "rule"?

What if you were her first?

And why couldn't be the other way around.. I certainly wouldn't want to know that the person I'm seeing has been seeing a different girl every month! :no:

If she is really my girlfriend...why would i marry her..????:mmhmm: :mmhmm:
i dont get it ??! how is she reallly ur girlfriend??!

when i said i would ... thats mean am sure that am her first .. cuzz if u are not her first and she dated like god knows how many !! she well get bored of u .. and want to move on .. but not all girls like that ..well most of them .. I mean the once who just date N date N date ....so the rule apply to the girls who are players ! if thats how they called !

If she is really my girlfriend...why would i marry her..????:mmhmm: :mmhmm:

Then y go out with her @ the 1st place ?

*sigh* threads like this remind me why i hate men :p

well, it's all about the intention..why is she your girlfriend? after making that clear it's easy i guess.. :rolleyes:

to me..i can't see myself marrying someone i don't know :rolleyes: and i agree with Mesmie there is some decent fish in the sea :yes: you just need to know what rod you should use :p

I wouldn't have a girlfriend without the intention of marrying her cause I simply don't like playing around.

I like it .. People can't resist the flame of the fight :p
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Wut Ichigo meant is if shes my girlfriend(westen definition) where
a girlfriend is almost ur wife ...

i have a question for the guys here...
if u were in a relationship with a girl what are the chances tht u will end up marrying her?? i know that some guys say they would never marry a girl they dated...then why date a girl in the first place and lie to her and tell her u love her when in the end ur gona end up leaving her?!! are alot of guys like this or is it just a few?! :think:
First this is the "American" style of man X woman relationship. This is not our civilization, and never was like that. Here is the senario:

John: I love you Sarah!

Sarah: Me too John...

John: Do you have any obligations tonight?

Sarah: Hmmm... Not that I would regret ignoring!

John: Then great! today, 09:00 I'll drop by to pick you up

Sarah: That sounds good to me.

--- 09:00---

>> Dinner on red-candles <<
>> Red whine, and Sochi <<

John: Hmm ... that is delicious..

Sarah: Oh yah!...

John: You know Sarah, I like your dress so much
You look gorgious ... man!.. loook at you!

Sarah: Thanks, glad that you liked it..

>> John looks exclusively at her chest <<
>> Sarah pulls it up a little to had something that can't be hidden <<
>> Both turned on <<<

John: What do you think Sarah, lets go to my place I want to show you my Davinci collection, didn't I tell you that I am an artist!

Sarah: Oh! No ... no I can't do that Johen....

John: Why?

Sarah: You know, we just go to know each other today! Don't you feel we are so much hasty on it?

>> John & Sarah in John's appartment, kissing <<
>> John & Sarah having sex ... big time! <<
>> 08:30 AM next day<<
>> Sarah wakes up first then John immediately after her <<

Sarah: Oh God! I am late for work...

John: It's OK, I can drop you at your work, I still got time!

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>> The story goes till one day talking in the bed Sarah's appartment <<

Sarah: OK john, it have been a two years since you started dating me

John: So what?

Sarah: I don't know but this sounds mean!

John: What do you mean by that, did I do something wrong to you?

Sarah: No Johan, but... You know, isn't it time that we get married or something??

John: Oh God! You are not going to open that subject again Sarah!

Sarah: Why not?

John: Cause we are fine like this, I can't see anything wrong about "our" relationship.

Sarah: OK, so you want us to stay like that ... Forever?

John: Huny , you just don't get it... don't you? I love you.

>> Tries kissing her but she rejects him <<

Sarah: Like you love your wha**e? ... You pig!

John: You just fu**ink bi**h... that is what you are...

>> Thy pick up on fight and eventually they break-up... <<

THE END

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That is what happens when you separate sex from its original purpose which is not only "lust" but breeding and continuation of generation. With GF X BF you get = No Obligations. But with marriage you get a commitment and responsibility. That is why most men "escape" such a step, that many would have achieved what they want just with no price to pay.

So Religion (Islam) tied up the natural instinct to its ultimate goal. So sex is the motivation for a man to care for the consequences of such a relation. So that is why humans do breed with "lust", otherwise it would have been a "useless" activity to breed as far as what you gain from it is only "pain" and responsibility.

I like it .. People can't resist the flame of the fight :p
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Wut Ichigo meant is if shes my girlfriend(westen definition) where
a girlfriend is almost ur wife ...

Thanks man, u saved me from the hassel of explaining that....:yes:

and i agree with Mesmie there is some decent fish in the sea :yes: you just need to know what rod you should use :p [/SIZE]
or what bait :p

darkone: if you want to be her first... she should be your first too... otherwise the same question could be raised to you don't you think? or is it only girls that like variety? :mmhmm:
wouldn't go by that rule really...just cuz she/he had a gf/bf before doesn't necessarily mean they're players...

I ll tell you some rule I made for my self ... if you are not the first one to her then you are not the last one ! ..hope you ppl get it

i guessing that rule goes for males too right??! at least it should!

First this is the "American" style of man X woman relationship. This is not our civilization, and never was like that. Here is the senario:

John: I love you Sarah!

Sarah: Me too John...

John: Do you have any obligations tonight?

Sarah: Hmmm... Not that I would regret ignoring!

John: Then great! today, 09:00 I'll drop by to pick you up

Sarah: That sounds good to me.

--- 09:00---

>> Dinner on red-candles <<
>> Red whine, and Sochi <<

John: Hmm ... that is delicious..

Sarah: Oh yah!...

John: You know Sarah, I like your dress so much
You look gorgious ... man!.. loook at you!

Sarah: Thanks, glad that you liked it..

>> John looks exclusively at her chest <<
>> Sarah pulls it up a little to had something that can't be hidden <<
>> Both turned on <<<

John: What do you think Sarah, lets go to my place I want to show you my Davinci collection, didn't I tell you that I am an artist!

Sarah: Oh! No ... no I can't do that Johen....

John: Why?

Sarah: You know, we just go to know each other today! Don't you feel we are so much hasty on it?

>> John & Sarah in John's appartment, kissing <<
>> John & Sarah having sex ... big time! <<
>> 08:30 AM next day<<
>> Sarah wakes up first then John immediately after her <<

Sarah: Oh God! I am late for work...

John: It's OK, I can drop you at your work, I still got time!

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>> The story goes till one day talking in the bed Sarah's appartment <<

Sarah: OK john, it have been a two years since you started dating me

John: So what?

Sarah: I don't know but this sounds mean!

John: What do you mean by that, did I do something wrong to you?

Sarah: No Johan, but... You know, isn't it time that we get married or something??

John: Oh God! You are not going to open that subject again Sarah!

Sarah: Why not?

John: Cause we are fine like this, I can't see anything wrong about "our" relationship.

Sarah: OK, so you want us to stay like that ... Forever?

John: Huny , you just don't get it... don't you? I love you.

>> Tries kissing her but she rejects him <<

Sarah: Like you love your wha**e? ... You pig!

John: You just fu**ink bi**h... that is what you are...

>> Thy pick up on fight and eventually they break-up... <<

THE END

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That is what happens when you separate sex from its original purpose which is not only "lust" but breeding and continuation of generation. With GF X BF you get = No Obligations. But with marriage you get a commitment and responsibility. That is why most men "escape" such a step, that many would have achieved what they want just with no price to pay.

So Religion (Islam) tied up the natural instinct to its ultimate goal. So sex is the motivation for a man to care for the consequences of such a relation. So that is why humans do breed with "lust", otherwise it would have been a "useless" activity to breed as far as what you gain from it is only "pain" and responsibility.

looolz thanks for the dialogue haroundb looks like u put alot of effort into it

looolz thanks for the dialogue haroundb looks like u put alot of effort into it
Your are welcome, dear... But no... No big deal, it looks like you put lots of effort reading it ... lol :)

Anyway thanks for the nice comment!

Your are welcome, dear... But no... No big deal, it looks like you put lots of effort reading it ... lol :)

Anyway thanks for the nice comment!

lol..That was fun.. sounds like something out of The Young & the Restless :p

To just get married isn't as easy as it use to be…in the old day's woman were more gullible, they wouldn’t continue studies and most probably end up marrying their cousin. In that case then yeah, just get married cuz u know ur cousin no need to get to know him. But times have changed and we are becoming a more mixed community some people I guess just cant help it.. every1 talks to the opposite sex if its not on the phone its online and some people cant really help not wanting to get to know the other person.
I don’t think dating is so bad as long as they both have good intentions and set their boundaries straight!
Every girl wishes it was so easy to just get married and that prince charming would come knocking on the door….if its that easy for u AE and ur prince charming comes knocking on ur door let me know if he has a cute brother :p

yeah i see what you are saying..things are changing..not so many are marrying their cousins anymore...hehe..ok there IS a way..instead of dating (which is a waste of time) why not let your brothers,uncles, father or who ever to get to know that person..there's the way to find the right guy to marry..that's how you can get to know them...it doesnt have to be you..it's better and safer to have someone (male) do it for you..don't you agree???
And yeah...i'll let you know when prince charming comes...Maybe i could help you find a husband..he may have brothers..:cute:

yeah i see what you are saying..things are changing..not so many are marrying their cousins anymore...hehe..ok there IS a way..instead of dating (which is a waste of time) why not let your brothers,uncles, father or who ever to get to know that person..there's the way to find the right guy to marry..that's how you can get to know them...it doesnt have to be you..it's better and safer to have someone (male) do it for you..don't you agree???
And yeah...i'll let you know when prince charming comes...Maybe i could help you find a husband..he may have brothers..:cute:

Well that is a solution, but who is going to marry the guy?:think: :think: :think:

I am trying to say (if there is any confusion)..the girl can FIND OUT about the guy SHE is going to marry by having her family members find out for her.She doesnt have to be in the dating situation..it's wrong.

Yah, I will send my brother to find out how the girl I will marry soft and how sure she is and how she thinks and how she behaves when she is nervous and how she acts in danger situations and how she ......

isnt better that I let my brother to marry her for me and then tell me how kind she is ?!?!?!

those who are living the gf bf thingy as if they gonna get married afterwards are living a Dream... If they want to get married ya3ni afterwards.. let them talk as friends now and then when engagement happens let them talk as lovers.. Dream Dream Dream.. n then cry lol hahahahaha

My friend was with his wife for 5 years .. they became gf and bf since colege time. he got a baby girl.... you still dont belive in love marrige ?

5% probably.. the rest of ppl been breaking up with their bfs or gfz 5 times before they meet someone whos a bf or a gf n then finally they get married lol.. its a game kinda thing

My friend was with his wife for 5 years .. they became gf and bf since college time. he got a baby girl.... you still dont belive in love marrige ?


Exactly..I have friends like that too..

"talk as friends"? That doesn't really work does it? If the guy has feelings..? These feelings would surely intervene..

I say, you can do the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing, but all within limits, and not like we see on TV.. Thats just a waste of time. If you're intention is to get married, and you hang out and around each other in order to get to know one another better, and the parents are aware of whats going on. Then I think its fine. Because, it's they have promised each other to get married. :)

Exactly..I have friends like that too..

"talk as friends"? That doesn't really work does it? If the guy has feelings..? These feelings would surely intervene..

I say, you can do the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing, but all within limits, and not like we see on TV.. Thats just a waste of time. If you're intention is to get married, and you hang out and around each other in order to get to know one another better, and the parents are aware of whats going on. Then I think its fine. Because, it's they have promised each other to get married. :)

What you have just said is wise, but the problem is in red.

My X's mom known that we are in relationship. and the relationship stayed 4 years with us :)

AE: oh your brothers would know who suits you better than yourself... I think spirit and genius made the points I wanted to mention.

What you have just said is wise, but the problem is in red.

erm..okay..Care to explain why what's in red is the problem? How is the parents knowing that you're in a promising relationship a problem?

Oh just incase, for those of you who might comment and say "Oh but he could easily promise to marry her but doesn't in the end" ..
Well I say it could also happen when the couple is "officially engaged".
How many people do we know go through engagement and the party and the dowry and the blah and then what happens? They break up..whether for genuine reasons like they couldn't communicate, they agreed to disagree..etc , or reasons like she found out he was a slob, she wanted the bigger diamond, she insisted she wanted a maid .. etc etc lol

Dear Blind lemon, :p

What I meant is that It is not easy for the parents to allow their daughter to go out with a guy, even if it is pure! Gettin what Am sayin? The problem is with the society itself, it will not be ok unless if the guy is a cousin.

The Arab society (especially the Omani) like to talk about others & spread rumors around, do not forget the ENVY!!! It will "ruin" the "family's image" & all that shit!! So the parents will never understand that especially if they were united by an arrange marriage! :o :o

The whole relationship thing will never be easy in Oman, all has to be hidden even the pure ones!:hmm:

Dear Blind lemon, :p

What I meant is that It is not easy for the parents to allow their daughter to go out with a guy, even if it is pure! Gettin what Am sayin? The problem is with the society itself, it will not be ok unless if the guy is a cousin.

The Arab society (especially the Omani) like to talk about others & spread rumors around, do not forget the ENVY!!! It will "ruin" the "family's image" & all that shit!! So the parents will never understand that especially if they were united by an arrange marriage! :o :o

The whole relationship thing will never be easy in Oman, all has to be hidden even the pure ones!:hmm:

Dear Blind lemon, :p

What I meant is that It is not easy for the parents to allow their daughter to go out with a guy, even if it is pure! Gettin what Am sayin? The problem is with the society itself, it will not be ok unless if the guy is a cousin.

The Arab society (especially the Omani) like to talk about others & spread rumors around, do not forget the ENVY!!! It will "ruin" the "family's image" & all that shit!! So the parents will never understand that especially if they were united by an arrange marriage! :o :o

The whole relationship thing will never be easy in Oman, all has to be hidden even the pure ones!:hmm:


ooo , you used the "shit" word , now baba Nabhan will come after you and say that there is a big problem in the words you used.

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Its true that our society is strict but its not like before,I just told you that I was in a case that I told my X G/F's mom about our relationship and one of her younger brother known that I know her.I felt much comfertable when things in that way , becouse she felt much secure and I didnt feel like am stealing some thing.

I share BliNd_MelOn in informing the parents about the relationship.I know its impossiable some times but the best thing to go for it when there are understanding parents.

ooo , you used the "shit" word , now baba Nabhan will come after you and say that there is a big problem in the words you used.

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Its true that our society is strict but its not like before,I just told you that I was in a case that I told my X G/F's mom about our relationship and one of her younger brother known that I know her.I felt much comfertable when things in that way , becouse she felt much secure and I didnt feel like am stealing some thing.

I share BliNd_MelOn in informing the parents about the relationship.I know its impossiable some times but the best thing to go for it when there are understanding parents.


LOL!!!! Nah mayne I know how to use 'em words!;)

Anyhoes! DUDE, That's your Ex!!!!!!!!!!!!!:think: :think:
I hope that it was pure! That's what the debate is about, Would you marry your girlfriend! But it's the best way, dating!

My fully intentions will be ending the relationship with marrying her, I cant say I will marry her ,becouse a relation is the phase or the period that we try to know if we can make it or it wont work.I dont find any other purpose for dating if it doesnt go for that goal.

A boyfriend and girlfriend almost always end their relationship for the same reasons an engaged/married couple would. It's just the "labeling" of the relationship is what worries people.

I know how it goes here, and it really surprises me how kids would be afraid to tell their parents about the relationship they're in or even hint at one. As Genius mentioned, it IS safer and more secure.

Unless he's a cousin you say? I've also noticed that going around here and I'm sorry but I think thats just pure double standards. :) A cousin is still a guy.. and being alone with him is ALSO unislamic. A girl would be out with a 100 guys for coffee, and they're all her cousins! Well, people don't know that! ;) If you get what I AM saying, since people here worry too much about whats being said and who says it.

I don't know.. I still believe there could be a pure relationship with a healthy base and start and would end with marriage if nothing goes wrong (misunderstandings..etc)

^^I did not say that dating the cousin is the right thing to do, I said that that's how the parents think!

Unless he's a cousin you say? I've also noticed that going around here and I'm sorry but I think thats just pure double standards. :) A cousin is still a guy.. and being alone with him is ALSO unislamic. A girl would be out with a 100 guys for coffee, and they're all her cousins! Well, people don't know that! ;) If you get what I AM saying, since people here worry too much about whats being said and who says it.
(misunderstandings..etc)

loolz so true yeah girls always use the hes my cousin excuse when they dont want ppl to know hes actually her bf!! hehes...as if people dont know! like for example i was once out with a girl and she told me her cousin was picking her up i was like :think: uhhu ok then the next day she calls me n is like my mom asked me who dropped me home n i said u cuz my mom and aunt dont have a good relationship so my mom would kill me if she knew i was with my cousin!!! hahaha i mean how stupid did she think i was!! loolz but i pretended to believe her lame story and just went along with it loooolz.. but i think its so funny how couples sneak around sometimes!! i guess they cant help it cuz yeah ppl here do talk and reputation n all that!!

some certain people in here are very bad! some are married and dating..some are just dating..some want to date..is this what our world has come to?? i pitty our world then! it's sad...dating is haram:angry: and i dont think i need to mention why that is.....duuuuh!! it's stupid and it's just pointless:yell: ..why do it? why? it's a foriegn language to me! actually dont tell me..i dont need to hear excuses and lame explanations!.. You should just get married and stay loyal to your spouse! end of discussion whether you people like it or not!!:bored:

What you said is right, but i disagree with u in some points. True, some people are very bad and only use girls to satisfy their needs and desires. True, dating is haram. But we are living in the 21st century. We have to get to know the person before getting engaged to them or marrying them. It just depends on how you define the term "dating". Some think its about going out with a guy/girl and getting physical with them. Some think dating can be an online thing. Some think that talking to someone on the phone is dating! All in all, it all depends on what the girl and guy's intentions are towards each other.
When two people talk, they share their thoughts and ideas about things. Thats the main purpose and only purpose.

My opinion, every relationship should end in marriage, if it works out. Some might argue and say, but what makes you so sure it will? My answer to that is, getting married to someone and ending the marriage in divorce just because the couple couldn't get along, is far worse than breaking with someone while "dating" them.

Mhm, here if I was in a relationship I would consider it serious, and as some stated, I won't marry a stranger.. so yea, if I was in a relationship I will be serious about the way I would feel and would probably not play with her feelings so ya if she was the one I would :), but yet you don't know what might happen :).

Yes I would. So anybody intrested in being my girlfriend? :p

The funny part of all this, is that the young men REFUSE to get married, but when it comes to these forbidden relationships, they will never say no.

Never thought I'd live to see the Haram become wanted, while there is a Halal alternative.


May Allah show you the right path.

The funny part of all this, is that the young men REFUSE to get married, but when it comes to these forbidden relationships, they will never say no.

Never thought I'd live to see the Haram become wanted, while there is a Halal alternative.


May Allah show you the right path.

Relationship: Few months/years..then end
Marriage: Commitment and a lot of effort

Yeah sure, screw Islamic rules.

Why do you have to be so negative about this, why can't a relationship end in marriage?

It's possible and it happened with many people I personally know

Yeah sure, screw Islamic rules.

:o :o .. Are you sure here?:o

Why do you have to be so negative about this, why can't a relationship end in marriage?

It's possible and it happened with many people I personally know

I agree with Mesmie .. I also attended to some of these marriages ..

Why not of the relationship is in the right way :os

I also know people who got married after having a relationship.

But, their marriage has no Baraka 'blessing', and they aren't respected at all.

I also know people who got married after having a relationship.

But, their marriage has no Baraka 'blessing', and they aren't respected at all.

Depend on the society ,, Blessing isnt in so many types of marriages ..

The funny part of all this, is that the young men REFUSE to get married, but when it comes to these forbidden relationships, they will never say no.

.. that's why they say: كل محظور مرغوب or all forbbidens r desired!!

i know ppl who have married after having the whole basket of fruits of a relationship .... i know of a couple who were made to marry by the laws of the country so ...

and no one with all my due respect has any right to judge others especially or otherwise about barak and blessings the only GOD is the judge of ppl

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Ofcourse that would be the case if i was a guy:hyper:

Well guys will always try to show and prove that they will end up marrying the girl they have dated ,but unfortunately in real time they won’t especially in this society. I totally agree with what Endure-whisper said

Why do you have to be so negative about this, why can't a relationship end in marriage?

It's possible and it happened with many people I personally know

Because we are in a conservative society and that is the way it should be instead of being liberal :)

I wont take a girl as a gf unless I have an idea in my mind of taking her as a wife in the future..

I hate this Relationship stuffs .. Like u love a girl for like 6 months and then .. for a silly reason, u two break up! and everyone moves on with their lives!!

And why not marrying her if u already gave her secure and told her "u`re my future wife, I promise" :)

I`ll say YES .. I`ll marry my GF in the future .. I dont see a reason for not doing it ..
I know the girl i`ll marry. and I spent enough time with her and knew even the tiny things about her. and I got sure that she totally suits me!

Yeah sure, screw Islamic rules.

a2aaaa
3eeb !:p

i just Skimmed threw the thread...well i personally think no one can say yes or no, yet if they dont have a gf because it all depends on where u met her, wut was her intentions before, like was she a childhood friend, was she a friend at skool...or was she a girl u met at a club

Mhm, here if I was in a relationship I would consider it serious, and as some stated, I won't marry a stranger.. so yea, if I was in a relationship I will be serious about the way I would feel and would probably not play with her feelings so ya if she was the one I would :), but yet you don't know what might happen :).

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