when some1 asks for you hand, you'll marry him on which conditions?
let me start to make it clear for y'all :cute:

I want to live in my own place not in his family's house
I want to be allowed to drive
I want to be allowed to have a job

All the above. Also No other wife - that was my main one!

^^yes i forgot to add that one too :p

yeah she should be prepared to share her life with other three wife to come after her!!:) what a noble Man:) who loves to help desparate women!!!!

- I want a new two seater car.
- I want a diamond Tiffany ring.
- I want two kids only.
- I want my own house.
- I want two maids, one cook, and a driver.


Having a job and driving are a must. Well if he's filthy rich then I can let go of my job.

- I want a new two seater car.
- I want a diamond Tiffany ring.
- I want my own house.
- I want two maids, one cook, and a driver.

he needs to be filthy rich to get you all that :think:

- I want to have the choice whether I want to work or not.
- I want my own place (apartment).
- No other wives, unless I think I'm okay with it (doubt it :p)
- I should be able to drive.
- I don't want to feel constrained and like his child.
- I'm his equal in our lives.

being allowed this or that should not even be a question...
if the guy's conservative he's not my type.

What if the one you are marrying is the only son, and he has to stay in his parents house to look after them? what would you do? cancel the marriage?

- I want a new two seater car.
- I want a diamond Tiffany ring.
- I want two kids only.
- I want my own house.
- I want two maids, one cook, and a driver.


Having a job and driving are a must. Well if he's filthy rich then I can let go of my job.

Haha, talk about high maintenance :hyper:

3T can u explain wut do u mean by conservative in more detail as in ur dictionary

one who treats me like his property...
overprotective...
expects me to ask permission before doing something.
that's not a partner, that's a boss.

I wouldn't have the conditions of... allow me to do this or that... because that's something that shouldn't be a question of discussion on my behalf. If it's a question of allowance... he can go find someone else who'd accept that.
because if he's the type who'd even think of the concept of not allowing me to do this or that... he's not one I'd consider.

What if the one you are marrying is the only son, and he has to stay in his parents house to look after them? what would you do? cancel the marriage?

GOOD Q:) ............

-Buy me a Tifany 12 carat diamond Ring

-Buy me one villa on the beach in Sohar and another in Qurom.

-Buy me a Cadillac Charger 8 cylinder Red with a buff leather interior.

-Buy me a Nokia N75 twincam with extra international and follow me facility.

-Buy me a life-time membership in Starbucks and Al-Shatee Beach Jim.

-Install a Mastercard Open account so that when I need to buy I don't have to carry heavy money in my purse.

-No kids ... no pregnancy till after 10 years of marriage.

-No his mother or father stay for even a one day in my house.

-Hire me 3 maids and 3 cooks and one automatic washing machine (I like to wash my underwear myself) no one is supposed to see such private items.

-I have to work as I wish and stay home as I wish (let him make me a manager in one of his group companies). I want to go work at 10:00am and finish 12:00am and give me 1000+ salary.

-Last and not least, he should wash his teeth everyday before he sleeps and spray himself with dettol bacteria killer before he touches me.

-He should supply my brothers and sisters all with decent high salary jobs and my father and mother to give them each a land near his mansion.

-I have to have the right to devours to my wish and without any obligations due.

-He should report home everyday before 10:00pm (not after that).

-He should sign a contract on what mentioned above and on any delay or incapability to fulfil my physical and mental needs this contract should be void.


Wife Signature..................................Husband Signature

Note: A HAND SIGNED COPY IS TO BE HANDED TO EACH PARTY FOR REGISTRY AND RECOGNITION. ANY SCRATCHING OR CHANGING IN THIS STATEMENT RENDERS THIS DOCUMENT VOID!

I'm upto for unconditional love. If my husband doesn't allow me to do something, it has got to be for a good reason. If he insists, I wouldn't mind, as long as he provides me with alternatives, his sincere love and endless happiness.

What if the one you are marrying is the only son, and he has to stay in his parents house to look after them? what would you do? cancel the marriage?

To be honest, it really depends on my in laws, but most likely in that scenario, I will sacrifice my preferences and live with his parents so we could look after them. However, if my mother in law is infact a monster in law, and living by ourselves is out of the question, then maybe it is time to revalue him and ask myself whether he is worth all this trouble. If he is, I will stay with his parents regardless of how his mother is :inno:

To be honest, it really depends on my in laws, but most likely in that scenario, I will sacrifice my preferences and live with his parents so we could look after them. However, if my mother in law is infact a monster in law, and living by ourselves is out of the question, then maybe it is time to revalue him and ask myself whether he is worth all this trouble. If he is, I will stay with his parents regardless of how his mother is :inno:

I think you are overestimating your strenght lym. The moment she comments badly on your food, your looks, hair cut, or even about kids and their hygiene, ... This is the moment where you will ask him for either dump his mother in the garbage, buy you another house or divorce you!

This is the truth...No need to close our eyes and say "I will do" where in fact words are far away more easy than a tiny bit of real action!

Why would you get yourself on a sticky suitation if you can take early actions to avoid such things?!:p

Guys since I am already married, take this brotherly advice, make these your conditions:

1- Her father must be very rich & she shouldn't' have more than 2 siblings so she gets a good chunk after her father dies

2- She has a villa on her name on the beach in Muscat which is rented for more than 1,200 O.R

3- Her father bought her a flat in Europe on her name

4- Her savings account has more than 500,000 O.R

5- She wears only thongs

Why would you get yourself on a sticky suitation if you can take early actions to avoid such things?!:p
I think in my humble experience, nothing can be done to avoid a "sticky" mother-in-law. It is more like a storm or an earthquake, you just sit hold tightly and wait for it to happen...!

^^^:XD: That's funny!!

As for Hitman, that's not a nice to do. I think that's very selfish, would you love someone who just thinks of money 24 seven?!

I just hope that she'd be:

- Not too demanding or materialistic, basically a modest person.
- Kind and caring
- Supportive, Understanding and respects me.
- Not extremely religious.


Anything else is fine with me and if she's all that then it will be my duty to make and keep her happy.

I think you are overestimating your strenght lym. The moment she comments badly on your food, your looks, hair cut, or even about kids and their hygiene, ... This is the moment where you will ask him for either dump his mother in the garbage, buy you another house or divorce you!

This is the truth...No need to close our eyes and say "I will do" where in fact words are far away more easy than a tiny bit of real action!

This is all hypothetical. I can't definitely say that I will stick by him, but I will surely try. I don't know how it feels to have a mother in law who is like that, neither am I married to my so called soul mate. In that case, you can only be realistic, and analyse your situation. Is it worth keeping quiet and taking all her insults in or screw all that, and lash out on her? It all depends on the situation and circumstances; Do I've children? What is the real reason we're still living with his parents? Does she have a basis? What can I do to change if she does have a basis? I'm not afraid of criticism (that is for sure) because I was raised and taught to accept them, because it will only make me better as a person. It is a different case when it is done out of hatred, but then there are other ways to deal with it.

There is no need to scream "divorce" straightaway after she has insulted me or my food. If I exhausted all other options and I don't see any improvement then maybe, yes divorce is the solution. All this also depends on how your husband is.

All I can do is give you a hypothetical reaction if it does happen, but I've to be there, know exactly how my surroundings are to give you a more accurate answer. And even then, I won't be sure how I would feel until I am in that situation.

I'm completely with TripleTee here:

being allowed this or that should not even be a question...


I can't even imagine being with a guy who'd even think twice about some of the things you guys mentioned.

I'm completely with TripleTee here:

Originally Posted by TripleTee View Post
being allowed this or that should not even be a question...

I can't even imagine being with a guy who'd even think twice about some of the things you guys mentioned.

But then that is unrealistic!

I mean, now that you're married, you should take into account the things your husband does not mind you doing and the things he does mind you doing. If he tells you not to be out till midnight, that is something you're not allowed to do, but I don't see why make a big deal out of it when you would demand the same thing of him or something a little different. Being married has a set of many boundaries- something you guys create (basically things you know you're allowed to do and others not to).

But then that is unrealistic!

I mean, now that you're married, you should take into account the things your husband does not mind you doing and the things he does mind you doing. If he tells you not to be out till midnight, that is something you're not allowed to do, but I don't see why make a big deal out of it when you would demand the same thing of him or something a little different. Being married has a set of many boundaries- something you guys create (basically things you know you're allowed to do and others not to).

Erm.... its unrealistic to expect a man to allow you to drive? To work? To treat you like his equal?

We must live in very different worlds because where I come from plenty of men would not think twice about seeing you as his equal.

And my husband isn't going to TELL me anything, nor I him. If he tells me he doesn't feel safe or comfortable having me out very late I would understand and try not to be out that late unless for weddings or such where its unavoidable. A man who respects you and sees you as his equal doesn't lay down rules for you, he discusses things with you and you both come to a compromise. Just as you do with him when you have an issue with something he is doing.

LYM, you should be able to choose what you do, but always keep your husband in mind while doing so. Its a matter of respect and love, which goes both ways between you two. That is what marriage is; not boundaries.

- shud have black ferrari with red flames....
- own house not with his family ^
- hav one wife = me
bss....thts enough fo mei....:D

enigma: ditto.

lym: ... preferred not to, is more like it.

"not allowed" is too extreme for couples.
he's not your father and you're not his mother.
you're partners>>partnership's a different concept.

are you going to be punished by your husband if one day you came back home late for some reason? or vice versa?

both may share their lives but both have to respect each other's decisions... you are not giving her a list of what she's allowed to do and what she's not... and neither is she.
that's not an attitude for couples. It's a controlling issue that shouldn't be there.

Erm.... its unrealistic to expect a man to allow you to drive? To work? To treat you like his equal?

We must live in very different worlds because where I come from plenty of men would not think twice about seeing you as his equal.

And my husband isn't going to TELL me anything, nor I him. If he tells me he doesn't feel safe or comfortable having me out very late I would understand and try not to be out that late unless for weddings or such where its unavoidable. A man who respects you and sees you as his equal doesn't lay down rules for you, he discusses things with you and you both come to a compromise. Just as you do with him when you have an issue with something he is doing.

LYM, you should be able to choose what you do, but always keep your husband in mind while doing so. Its a matter of respect and love, which goes both ways between you two. That is what marriage is; not boundaries.


Then I misunderstood you because I agree with everything you just said :inno: I was talking about little every day things like staying out late with your girlfriends in coffee shops or stuff like that. Things you can compromise on, that make sense and are not a big deal (like working and driving). For instance, I would not want him going to clubs till 3 am with his buddies (who're into picking up prostitutes). It's the same thing, he should not do it out of respect knowing that I don't approve of it.

This is funny! :D


The some are talking about not being allowed to work or drive. Do you think now days the guy would think of a lady who doesn't work?! To me she should have a job, at least to pay what she needs. Do you expect him to drive her around whenever she wants to go out?! To me she should have her own car, since she is working, so for sure she owns one :D



For the some here, they should say I want to me a MAN! :p

when some1 asks for you hand, you'll marry him on which conditions?



Hmmm issues of love and sex are probably about what I would discuss with him. I mean I am marrying the man coz I want to have both a lover and best friend, not for money - coz I have my own money! Obviously, I think money needs to be discussed, like who will pay for what, how we will share the bills, how much should we spend or save for family, etc.

~ He has no say in my job and whether or not I work.
~ How many kids we have is up to me since I'm the one who's getting pregnant.
~ He's not allowed to take a second wife.
~ I will not be asking him for permission before I do things, since he's not my superior.
~ We get our own place (assuming we can afford it).
~ If he cheats, I'm gone, whether or not we have kids.
~ He has no say in who I decide to befriend, and what people I hang out with.

when some1 asks for you hand, you'll marry him on which conditions?
let me start to make it clear for y'all :cute:

I want to live in my own place not in his family's house
I want to be allowed to drive
I want to be allowed to have a job

I want to live in my own place not in his family's house

As a Muslim, Islam gives the wife all the right to live in her won place. So I cannot protest if she really wants to.

I want to be allowed to drive

I want my future wife to drive; I hope she will not refuse.

I want to be allowed to have a job
Again, as a Muslim, Islam gives me the right to hold my wife from working. I do not mind if she wants to, but since I am Muslim and Islam gives me the right to hold her from working and imposes on me providing everything at home, then here we have to compromise. I gave up my right and let her work and she should too give up her right of being totally taken care of by the husband and do contribute to the house.
If her work will obligate us to have some people work at home and take of the children then she should pay for that. Unless I am rich enough, I will take care of everything.

I wish to have my wife drive in case I am very tired or in case of an emergency. But sure I won't like it if my wife is working as a sales woman 9 hours on the streets.

I wish my wife won't work, because i respect her and I need her to be treated as a real woman. unfortunately the current generation of women, are the production of a neglecting father, a tyrant mother, or a lose family. The current generation of women have heared or seen many movies shows and series about the holy image of the working woman, as if this is the salvation to all the modern woman's problems. A woman goes out to work, to prove her existence (BIG LIE!), she works because mainly either she doesn't have a good source of income or to just be free to what she wants the way she likes.

-Buy me a Tifany 12 carat diamond Ring

-Buy me one villa on the beach in Sohar and another in Qurom.

-Buy me a Cadillac Charger 8 cylinder Red with a buff leather interior.

-Buy me a Nokia N75 twincam with extra international and follow me facility.

-Buy me a life-time membership in Starbucks and Al-Shatee Beach Jim.

-Install a Mastercard Open account so that when I need to buy I don't have to carry heavy money in my purse.

-No kids ... no pregnancy till after 10 years of marriage.

-No his mother or father stay for even a one day in my house.

-Hire me 3 maids and 3 cooks and one automatic washing machine (I like to wash my underwear myself) no one is supposed to see such private items.

-I have to work as I wish and stay home as I wish (let him make me a manager in one of his group companies). I want to go work at 10:00am and finish 12:00am and give me 1000+ salary.

-Last and not least, he should wash his teeth everyday before he sleeps and spray himself with dettol bacteria killer before he touches me.

-He should supply my brothers and sisters all with decent high salary jobs and my father and mother to give them each a land near his mansion.

-I have to have the right to devours to my wish and without any obligations due.

-He should report home everyday before 10:00pm (not after that).

-He should sign a contract on what mentioned above and on any delay or incapability to fulfil my physical and mental needs this contract should be void.


Wife Signature..................................Husband Signature

Note: A HAND SIGNED COPY IS TO BE HANDED TO EACH PARTY FOR REGISTRY AND RECOGNITION. ANY SCRATCHING OR CHANGING IN THIS STATEMENT RENDERS THIS DOCUMENT VOID!

Oh man! This is so cool, wish i had thought of this! Especially liked: 5, 7, 9, 10, 13 and 14! Home - 1 in Dhofar and 1 in Portugal, car: BMW convertable or Ferrarri. Would also add: all travel should be first class!

^^Haroundb if you look at our situation nowadays especially in oman..there's no freakin way that a whole family depend on one source of money (the man of the house) some1 should be helping him out or else they won't survive! :os life is gettin way too expensive just look around you! so yes it's not just about proving herself it's about living a better life

^^Haroundb if you look at our situation nowadays especially in oman..there's no freakin way that a whole family depend on one source of money (the man of the house) some1 should be helping him out or else they won't survive! :os life is gettin way too expensive just look around you!
I think you are right a woman in Oman to marry a man he should have a
maid (to clean, take care of the kids, cook, wash and do everything) I wounder what is the use of the woman in the house if the maid is doing everything? That is why 300 RO is not enough. Now the 'rent 'is not of "our" class so, I must have my own house pay lots of money for bank loan. I think people don't want to live a decent life. Now no Omani lady will marry a man without a car! So IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!!!! He must have a car, good one also which make a good show off to my companions. Must be the latest Nokia, 200+ RO. Must be 60+ RO Abaya [I can't buy the cheap 20 RO one!]. Yes the makeup should be from Lorel, another will be furnature, how do you expect me to have cheap furnature, are you crazy!!l! Adding to that the high amount of money the man pays for the Pride during marriage...

With all that, yes I think you are right a one man's 600 RO per month is not enough

But I am sure that the problem is not that everything is expensive, but because people are greedy and they don't like to start small then grew up. They want it big from the begining and that is why it ends dramatically in divorce!

I have to add a couple of more conditions to my list:

- Her father must provide me with a driver who wears a uniform (I'm tired of traffic)

- She should own one of the cinemas across Muscat so I can ban the noisy Nachos & don't allow trouble making boys & girls

I think you are right a woman in Oman to marry a man he should have a
maid (to clean, take care of the kids, cook, wash and do everything) I wounder what is the use of the woman in the house if the maid is doing everything? That is why 300 RO is not enough. Now the 'rent 'is not of "our" class so, I must have my own house pay lots of money for bank loan. I think people don't want to live a decent life. Now no Omani lady will marry a man without a car! So IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!!!! He must have a car, good one also which make a good show off to my companions. Must be the latest Nokia, 200+ RO. Must be 60+ RO Abaya [I can't buy the cheap 20 RO one!]. Yes the makeup should be from Lorel, another will be furnature, how do you expect me to have cheap furnature, are you crazy!!l! Adding to that the high amount of money the man pays for the Pride during marriage...

With all that, yes I think you are right a one man's 600 RO per month is not enough

But I am sure that the problem is not that everything is expensive, but because people are greedy and they don't like to start small then grew up. They want it big from the begining and that is why it ends dramatically in divorce!

Haroundb your fingers aren't the same some people might be greedy but some others just want basic things :D
i mean we should have a car and phone of course but it doesn't have to be expensive and good looking and the latest model :cool: just a normal car and phone is enough! but you know how expensive these things are! 600 rials aren't enough to even afford an echo car!
i want you to go to the grocery and shop for home one day tell me how much you'll pay :os + car fule + electric bill + phone bill + water bill etc etc
600 rials are not enough for all that! unless you want to live like a cave-man in a cave with candles and water from the falaj :p then ya you might survive
believe me life isn't like how it used to be
even when they raised the salaries for the government everything was raised along with it i don't know how ppl who don't work in the government r gona survive :os some people get 120 rials per month! i really do feel bad for them how on earth are they gona get married anyway

A family of 6 : One husband, One wife, 3 Children, One Maid.

1- House Maid ------------------------------------ 250 RO. P/M
2- Bajero 2007 + Camry --------------------------- 375 RO. P/M
3- Villa House (No Flat!) --------------------------- 250 RO. P/M
4- Makeup ---------------------------------------- 25 RO. P/M
5- New cloths ------------------------------------- 65 RO. P/M
6- Phone bill (Chit Chat!) -------------------------- 120 RO. P/M
7- Food & Household Items -------------------------400 RO. P/M
8- kids + wife + husband (Pocket Money) -----------150 RO. P/M
9- Electricity + Water bill --------------------------120 RO. P/M

.................................................. ......................1765 RO P/M

Does the above look basic? Can you fix this list to something more realistic which you experience yourself?

MUSCAT The Ministry of Commerce and Industry last week discussed the causes behind the rise in prices of many essential commodities.

The officials held a meeting with traders and distribution agencies and discussed the issue.

Talking to Oman Tribune, sources said that the rise in prices was attributed to a number of factors, including increasing international demand for essential commodities like rice and flour.


http://www.omantribune.com/index.php?page=news&id=27433&heading=Other%20Top%20Stories

honestly aren't rice and flour basic to you? they're expensive now man! :os
people aren't greedy be realistic life is getting expensive we do need other source of money
where else are we gona get money from?? steal it?:os

A family of 6 : One husband, One wife, 3 Children, One Maid.

1- House Maid ------------------------------------ 250 RO. P/M
2- Bajero 2007 + Camry --------------------------- 375 RO. P/M
3- Villa House (No Flat!) --------------------------- 250 RO. P/M
4- Makeup ---------------------------------------- 25 RO. P/M
5- New cloths ------------------------------------- 65 RO. P/M
6- Phone bill (Chit Chat!) -------------------------- 120 RO. P/M
7- Food & Household Items -------------------------400 RO. P/M
8- kids + wife + husband (Pocket Money) -----------150 RO. P/M
9- Electricity + Water bill --------------------------120 RO. P/M

.................................................. ......................1765 RO P/M

Does the above look basic? Can you fix this list to something more realistic which you experience yourself?


I loved this one: so romaaaaaantic! :love: :heart: :heart:

OK let us talk sense here, 20 KG of rice is worth 8.5 RO, and For flower just the same. 20 KG of rice can make a family of 6 eat fully for one month...

I don't think the problem here is of rice and flour Queen!

i'm speaking in genral life in genral is getting expensive rice and flour are just examples of basic things that cost much
wut if some visitors came to visit
you know the omani community
mashallah like 3-4 times a week people visit each other and some visit like daily lol
admit it we do need a working woman here to help out

ps: sorry for kinda going out of topic:cutesilen

A family of 6 : One husband, One wife, 3 Children, One Maid.

1- House Maid ------------------------------------ 250 RO. P/M
2- Bajero 2007 + Camry --------------------------- 375 RO. P/M
3- Villa House (No Flat!) --------------------------- 250 RO. P/M
4- Makeup ---------------------------------------- 25 RO. P/M
5- New cloths ------------------------------------- 65 RO. P/M
6- Phone bill (Chit Chat!) -------------------------- 120 RO. P/M
7- Food & Household Items -------------------------400 RO. P/M
8- kids + wife + husband (Pocket Money) -----------150 RO. P/M
9- Electricity + Water bill --------------------------120 RO. P/M

.................................................. ......................1765 RO P/M

Does the above look basic? Can you fix this list to something more realistic which you experience yourself?
Not enough for the makeup and clothes!

You could probably just get ONE eyeshadow quad for 25 rials.. if the woman wants to stay up to date with all the latest makeup trends then she'd need at least 60-70 rials for makeup per month. Does this include perfume? If not, add an extra 30-40 rials for perfume.

Also, clothes allowance.. 65 rials? That probably won't even cover one whole outfit (top, bottoms, shoes, bag). She'll probably want to buy several outfits per month.

:p

To all the original, rational and sensible thinkers out there (the likes of TripleTee, Enigma, NaBHaN and Lym to name a few), I commend you. :)

To the rest I say good luck in finding your perfect partner/spouse/soulmate/whateveryouwannacallit.. that is after you wake up from your dreams and realise how abusrdly ridiculous your conditions are. :)

I was obviously not being realistic. Here's a proper list:

- No mistresses, excessive staring at other women, no online chatting to girls, no PORN. Yes, I'm stressting on the no porn thing 'cause I don't want my man going on watching porn behind my back let alone cheating and getting a second wife. Too degrading.

- I don't want no new car 'cause daddy can take care of that. I don't wanna burden my hubby. I'm fine with whatever he can afford.

- If he doesn't want me to work then it's totally alright. I'll let go of my job. But he's gonna have to provide me with a monthly allowance lol.

- I want our own place, but it doesn't have to be a gigantic mansion. Any place is fine as long as it's far from my in-laws.

- I'm a spoilt girl. So he's gonna have to pamper me real good lol. And he has to be affectionate all the time. And in return I'll make sure he stays emotionally and physically satisfied. Hell, I'll watch his footy matches with him.

- If he wants more than 2 kids he's gonna have to get us a nanny. I can handle two kinds only.

- I don't want him to treat me as though I'm a sex machine lol

- I don't want him to be too domineering. As in telling me what to wear and bossing me around. But I gotta admit. I like men with leadership skills. Too sexy mmm lol

- I don't want to us to have kids as soon as we get married. We have to wait for at least one year. You know 'till we're ready and settled in. Oh yeah, I'm taking no goddamn birth control pills haha.

That's true, we see more people being single cos it's almost impossible to find that perfect partner. We all have our needs and we all want to get them and also we all forget that the person is another human being flesh and blood with feelings so I guess best thing is to ease up and take life a little bit more seriously:p

LOL :p

Haroundb, I will buy my car, I will pay for my clothes, perfumes, make up and have my own savings and pocket money. Heck, I will even pay the maid's salary if I can afford it. All I need him to do is take care of the house, the food, and my children's education and their needs. Even that with our children, I will contribute since they're also my children and I would want the best for them (if he can't afford it alone).

The money he is supposed to spend on me, he can keep it, and romance me using it instead. For instance, taking me out to dinner, buying me stuff, and surprising me with two nights at Shangri La every now and then ;)

LOL :p

Haroundb, I will buy my car, I will pay for my clothes, perfumes, make up and have my own savings and pocket money. Heck, I will even pay the maid's salary if I can afford it. All I need him to do is take care of the house, the food, and my children's education and their needs. Even that with our children, I will contribute since they're also my children and I would want the best for them (if he can't afford it alone).

The money he is supposed to spend on me, he can keep it, and romance me using it instead. For instance, taking me out to dinner, buying me stuff, and surprising me with two nights at Shangri La every now and then ;)

Totally agree with you.

As a working woman, I don't expect him to spend on me except to provide the basics (a roof over my head, and food on the table). As for the kids, since they're both mine and his, we share the expenses.

Also, taking care of the house and running the household is my job, and since I plan on working fulltime, I guess hiring a maid will be my responsibility and not his.

-He shouldn't drink nor smoke.
-He's not allowed to take a 2nd wife.
-I want my own place. We can start by living in an apartment or flat, but when we start having kids & all, then I want a house, which should be a property of ours.
-He's doesn't have to pay for everything in the house, I'll contribute if he wants me to.
-I don't want him to be my boss, I agree with TripleTee about the whole partnership thing.
-He should also by a kind, honest, loyal, genorous, God fearing person.

I'm upto for unconditional love. If my husband doesn't allow me to do something, it has got to be for a good reason. If he insists, I wouldn't mind, as long as he provides me with alternatives, his sincere love and endless happiness.same here,but i will add religious, know his god and limits.

Also he must have a bachelor degree or above and ambitious :)

Women dream a lot

salam all... be carefull what u wish for ....

many ppl get what they dont want ... just be carefull...:) anyway as for being clear u know what .... i belive that all the i want and dont wants go out the window if u ( anyone ) as an individual accept the person infront of u.. and we have to understand each person has a different important list of things.... i for example have a neverending list but ..... then again when i sit with myself and sometimes think i realise that ... all the wants and dont wants really dont mean much as long as my partner and i are happy and we are understanding of each other .... am saying this coz things change and ppl change some agree to all initially then out of nowhere u see another face ......

ad read my quote at the bottom ....

simple:

An angle in bed and a ***** in the kitchen :hyper:

or was it the other way around? :think:

anywhoo my real list goes like so:

-Has to be open minded (I'm serious! no narrow minded crap which is why I usually go for half Egyptians/Arabs or Arabs who were born outside the country)

-Be too dependent on me or a family member (a daddy/mommy's girl who always follow their advice and doesn't rely on her own self)

-Isn't too demanding (I can shower her with all the gifts she wants just as long as she has patience for these gifts when I will be having financial problems)

-Learn to compromise (its a marriage.. We both sacrificed our single lonely lives for this life and must work as a team to raise up children and help each other out... I don't mind her going out but I do want to know where she goes and not to stay up too late.. same thing for me)

-must know how to cook (thats a big 10-4 ;) )

- Not to be too criticizing an to accept criticisms (I don't mind criticism just as long as its helpful tips.. What I don't like is someone standing beside me and acting like a know-it-all and not doing anything.. She has to be a self critic and accept criticisms from other people)

- Be forward, direct and honest (I most certainly don't want to play the "whats wrong" game.. Just tell me what the problem is and we'll try to fix it.. I don't want any meaningless talk like "you wouldn't understand" or "I'm fine" when she's not etc..)

- Be loyal and trusting (Most important one! I don't mind her having guy friends just as long as their intentions are simply friendly or just business)

-Be supportive (this goes along with criticism. I don't want her bumming me down when I'm trying to struggle for the family)

-Be rushing (If its one thing I seriously hate its rushing into things. I do not like people trying to get me out of a place quickly when I could have done it in my own pace.. I don't mind if they tell me to hurry up but if I'm in the shower and they constantly keep knocking on the door every second, expect me to go berserk with my ever so short temper :p )

-Be secretive (I don't like secrets... I try to find out about things as best as possible and when I don't know where I am going or what I'm doing then don't expect me to follow your requests. I need to know what's going on in order for me to help out otherwise i'll be very stubborn and refuse to do anything)

-Must have her own views about anything (she doesn't have to conform to my own views but I certainly don't want her agreeing with everything I say and not having a mind of her own)

phew.. and that is all :)

-I can shower her with all the gifts she wants just as long as she has patience for these gifts when I will be having financial problems)



Yeah .... and as long as she is giving you plenty of bed time action as well I presume. :cool:

I'll take any man who's good at housework. Or I might stay single and just get a maid.

Damn. Too late. I should have thought of this earlier.
*hits forehead*

Yeah .... and as long as she is giving you plenty of bed time action as well I presume. :cool:

Thats why we have to compromise dear. It's a marriage ;)

The bed time action is to be given on a daily basis. Plus I'm sure she'll enjoy it too :hyper:

why dose the girl have to be the only 1 to make conditions..lol !
girls ...are this u'r only conditions ! :p ... they'r tooooo easy !

The bed time action is to be given on a daily basis. Plus I'm sure she'll enjoy it too :hyper::mmhmm:

She has to be a good cook:D If not, we gonna live with ma family for a while until she outbeats her mother in-law:D

I will marry someone who is as Rich ( finanacial, emotionally, educationally, exeriencely and family wise ) As ME or Richer :-))))

Can't find someone who is the same standered as me, I am enjoying my life both ways......I don't mind waiting untill I am even in my 100s...I can still marry after death :-))

:os :os :os :os :os :os :os :os :os you got issues gurl! ^

I want to live in my own place not in his family's house
I want to have at least two pets in our house

Above all, I want him to love me with all his heart that he would die for me

ok after i saw some comments here i couldn't help myself... :os
why some asks for too much!


anyways what i need from my man is simple:

- should be faithful
- i don't want any maids in my house!
-well i think his real love would be enough to me . *full stop*

in the end am sure who i will choose will make me happy just because we are together no matter will happen *inshallah*

who knows maybe if u got married to a really rich guy one day u should know maybe something gonna happen and all of that money you had will be gone..
so i think its better to start with your husband from the beginning so you two will see the good and bad together and by that you both can handle every problem you face no matter what it is!

There's no such thing as real love with men. If you're not capable of sexually satisfying him, then he'll cheat on you in a heartbeat. So you gotta be imaginative lol

Oh yah I've been watching lotsa Desperate Housewives lately ...

^^ lol i can see that u watched lot of tv shows girl LOL!

there is real love everywhere trust me
but it depends of who u choose for your self
follow ur Mind then heart and you will find it :)

It's actually much simpler than that TH..

Men are like a deck of cards;

You need a heart to love him

A diamond to marry him

A club to smash his f****ng head in

And a spade to bury the b***ard.

:hyper:

wow fengy ! :)
may god help your husband ! :D

ok after i saw some comments here i couldn't help myself... :os
why some asks for too much!


anyways what i need from my man is simple:

- should be faithful
- i don't want any maids in my house!
-well i think his real love would be enough to me . *full stop*

in the end am sure who i will choose will make me happy just because we are together no matter will happen *inshallah*

who knows maybe if u got married to a really rich guy one day u should know maybe something gonna happen and all of that money you had will be gone..
so i think its better to start with your husband from the beginning so you two will see the good and bad together and by that you both can handle every problem you face no matter what it is!


don't listen to them toxic, for sure the man that is going to marry you is lucky.

many girls sound to me as if the are signing a working contract ..." I want a car ,, i want a house of my own,, i want my own parking space,, i want gucci bags ... :p'"


in sha2 allah your marrige is going to be blessed and full of happyness. :)


and marriage is not about sex for us men. if it was we would have never got married , i guess having 6 girlfriends costs less than those conditions.




well, the things that am looking for in my future wife:

- a god fearing women

- a women that knows our culture and knows whats right and whats wrong

- has a big heart

- very beautiful + girly ( dalo3aa :p )

- has the qualities of a great mother

- and always with her husband no matter what.

many girls sound to me as if the are signing a working contract ..." I want a car ,, i want a house of my own,, i want my own parking space,, i want gucci bags ... '"
Couldn't have said it better :yes: :yes: it's so sad :os


these things are a MUST in my future wife:
- Same mentality and way of thinking
- Well educated.
- Has a job
- Able to cook (even if it's omlete :XD:)
- God fearing woman
- Strong personality
- is able to have children!

I noticed that many girls' lists are materialistic! n they say men don't have a heart :p

In concurrence with the lovely miss sophis, I have decided another one!

-Must have a strong.. sexual appetite or at least respect mine :XD:

In concurrence with the lovely miss sophis, I have decided another one!

-Must have a strong.. sexual appetite or at least respect mine :XD:

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happiness can't be found with someone it is found in your self,
some girls will tell you i want to be happy with him,,,ask her how you gona be happy,,,will you be happy if he didn't do you a wedding party cuz he doesn't have money, or would you live in the street with him if he wasn't able to buy a house or rent one....or you will chose whom to love, someone who will make you happy, and the one who will...should have a car and a house a ect.....

in the end it is the same, but they try to show that nothing really matter except being happy with the person,,,or feeling comfortable...

when you analyize it you will find it the same as others, who seeks someone rich..

would you love someone who can't walk or you will just feel sorry...

some will say why not if I loved such guy i will marry him, lieing to them self,
they know they won't fall for someone like this or won't allow them self to..

regards.........

it's nice to have aperson who respact and care about you but the thing that we all keep in mind that things won't go smooth in there if our choice wasn't based on an opend minded way beleive me ... you can dream for free but the application based on cash :shy:

^^ lol i can see that u watched lot of tv shows girl LOL!

there is real love everywhere trust me
but it depends of who u choose for your self
follow ur Mind then heart and you will find it :)

Wow! Honey posted something! :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Just two: Big wallet and big package =)

~ He has no say in my job and whether or not I work.
~ How many kids we have is up to me since I'm the one who's getting pregnant.
~ He's not allowed to take a second wife.
~ I will not be asking him for permission before I do things, since he's not my superior.
~ We get our own place (assuming we can afford it).
~ If he cheats, I'm gone, whether or not we have kids.
~ He has no say in who I decide to befriend, and what people I hang out with.

Then you are marrying another woman not a man in this case, if he has no say in such critical issues. "الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ" (Men are the protectors and maintainers of women).

Then you are marrying another woman not a man in this case, if he has no say in such critical issues. "الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ" (Men are the protectors and maintainers of women).
*reads this comment and literally feels sick*

I want to live in my own place not in his family's house
I want to be allowed to drive
I want to be allowed to have a job

aLL of the above....................
I'm not a fan with having lots of ppl in my house.......
I wanna take my freedome in the house............
plus having his family in same hous emay cause clashes......

I have my licence n my own car so i dont expect him 2 tell me 2 stop...

I may leave my job if he was very sucessful in his job & he could give me enough monthly salary 2 use on my own.

Then you are marrying another woman not a man in this case, if he has no say in such critical issues. "الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ" (Men are the protectors and maintainers of women).
Your definition of what a "man" is is distorted.

How is that?

& he could give me enough monthly salary 2 use on my own.


Are you working for him to give you a monthly salary? :think:

^ what the hell..if she can't work then how will she get money other than from him? Or you expect her to ask daddy for that?

I would expect a monthly allowance if I don't work too.

lol @ Ice Tea, you know how to make women want to kill you :XD:

but I have to admit, Libby made it sound like she's marrying an enemy not someone she'd love! ease up on men libby :p

lol indeed.. what if you wanted 3 kids and the husband wanted 1 or 2 :p

Funny how most of the ladies are asking for alot of expensive things and stuff that are out of a man's power.. Awain he has to have a big house and buy you a diamond zift..!
Well the question is, what are you giving the man in return? If you want a big house to live in nicely, a maid to do all the work, and a cook to do all the food, then what is your part exactly? So the marriage is basicly build on physical things, pretty much away from love..
And then you say, I don't want him to marry another wife along side of me, ask yourself, why the **** did you marry a moron that is ready to do such a thing? Why not do your best to make him feel comfortable with "you" so that he doesn't do such an action?

PLUS, at the end of the day, the wife is flat..!

What more can a guy dream of..?

Yes women are realistic : marriage is exactly the material part of love

PLUS, at the end of the day, the wife is flat..!
Depends :angel:

How is that?
You make it sound like the only way someone can be a "man" is if he's always superior, always in control, and makes all the decisions about every aspect of the woman's life, so she always has to seek his approval and ask for permission for everything. I'm sorry, but that's not what a "man" is to me.

A real man is one who isn't afraid to treat his wife as an equal. He doesn't feel the need to dictate things to her in order to feel powerful. He's capable of letting her make her own decisions regarding things that don't concern him, and when the things do concern him, they should be able to discuss it together and come to a mutual decision.

In the end, he's not the boss and she's not the slave. They're both EQUAL and so the roles they play are equal roles in the relationship. Also, having to ask for permission for everything, and informing the man of everything would make me think that there's no trust between the couple. He should feel comfortable with letting her do what she thinks is right for her. If he can't do that, and if he can't trust her in that way, then why is he married to her?

lol @ Ice Tea, you know how to make women want to kill you :XD:

but I have to admit, Libby made it sound like she's marrying an enemy not someone she'd love! ease up on men libby :p
Yeah, Icey can be infuriating sometimes.

Braiki, regarding the job, driving, who her friends are, etc. these are all things that she decided for herself way before she met him. Say a woman has her own life, her friends, she lives a certain way (eg her parents don't ask her for her every move), etc. Who is he to come and demand that she changes everything just for him?

Oh and regarding kids, she's the one going through labour, so I think it's only appropriate she decides how many times she's willing to go through that :p Plus it's her body that's getting totally ruined every time she gets pregnant, so I'd think she would have more of a say in that issue. :p

I missed adding another crucial condition, she must have a life insurance policy worth US$ 1 million

She must buy me a new luxury car every 2 years (optional)

PLUS, at the end of the day, the wife is flat..!

What more can a guy dream of..?

This?

http://faq.f650.com/FAQs/Photos/MiscPhotos/TyrePumpFoot.jpg

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You make it sound like the only way someone can be a "man" is if he's always superior, always in control, and makes all the decisions about every aspect of the woman's life, so she always has to seek his approval and ask for permission for everything. I'm sorry, but that's not what a "man" is to me.

A real man is one who isn't afraid to treat his wife as an equal. He doesn't feel the need to dictate things to her in order to feel powerful. He's capable of letting her make her own decisions regarding things that don't concern him, and when the things do concern him, they should be able to discuss it together and come to a mutual decision.

In the end, he's not the boss and she's not the slave. They're both EQUAL and so the roles they play are equal roles in the relationship. Also, having to ask for permission for everything, and informing the man of everything would make me think that there's no trust between the couple. He should feel comfortable with letting her do what she thinks is right for her. If he can't do that, and if he can't trust her in that way, then why is he married to her?

I'm talking from the Islamic point of view and you are talking from the western point of view, that is the difference. Asking her husband for permission is not something degrading but a sign of respect to her husband and it doesn't mean no trust. So you may say also she can travel to another country without getting her husband approval and you think this is right thing to do, what about the requiremnt of having a 'mahram', unless you want to ignore Islamic teachings and rulings then that is something else.

The Quran says "but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise". That degree is the "qiwama" as scholars say.

-not so strict nor OVERprotective.. (Jealousy I can understand as long is its cute and not restricting! )
-fears god in other words (prays!)
-not too stubborn..it'll create problems since i'm stubborn. :rolleyes:
-loves me! :cute: no no! mad about me! :cute:
-someone who will consider me a partner not a follower.. :bored:
-with at least a tiny sense of humor..otherwise i might just die :XD:
-works
-educated
-speaks English :XD: well, im gonna be an English teacher so....yeah
-cooks (at least a decent breakfast!) and yeah! knows how to use the microwave <seriously :mmhmm:

thats just for now..i might add a few later on :p

This?

http://faq.f650.com/FAQs/Photos/MiscPhotos/TyrePumpFoot.jpg

:hyper: :hyper:

ROFL:XD: :XD:

I'd do whatever i want :P... not his choice:P:P

i want a guy that
1- is educated and has enough money to give me a life better than the one i already have and educate my kids in private schools
2-he doesnt have to be very good looking as long as i'm attracted to him
3-loves me more than i love him
4-is romantic
5- comes from a nice loving family that i can stand therefore if he has to stay at home the first few years we are married i wont mind.
6-i want a guy that always wears dishdasha and 3oud and ba'7oor
7-spoils me
8-is able to talk to me about things not like some guys that avoid talking about problems and just stay upset about something till they forget about it
9- he has to get along with my family

thats all for now if i think of more things i'll let u all know loolz..

Another condition came to my mind:

She must educate my kids in one of the elite private schools

Well, so typical arabic girls, gulf girls..


That's why I prefer other girls, only lebanses from arab. They make men lives a lot easier and sexier, definitely sexier.

-not so strict nor OVERprotective.. (Jealousy I can understand as long is its cute and not restricting! )
-fears god in other words (prays!)
-not too stubborn..it'll create problems since i'm stubborn. :rolleyes:
-loves me! :cute: no no! mad about me! :cute:
-someone who will consider me a partner not a follower.. :bored:
-with at least a tiny sense of humor..otherwise i might just die :XD:
-works
-educated
-speaks English :XD: well, im gonna be an English teacher so....yeah
-cooks (at least a decent breakfast!) and yeah! knows how to use the microwave <seriously :mmhmm:

thats just for now..i might add a few later on :p


Hey sweetie, make sure his IELTS is above 7. :p