3 weeks back my girlfriend broke up with me. Reason, as per her, its just not working between us. what the hell, what is not working? i love you, i told you i would marry you, i am working, am from a decent family, what the hell isnt working here?
I felt like she was cheating on me the last few days, so i did my investigation and she really was cheating on me with this other guy. well she till today doesnt admit , and says she does have feelings for him but isnt going out wit him(is it a joke???)

now what i dont understand, what could be wrong wit me that she would leave me for a guy who isnt better looking then me, and is in debt for next 8 years(apparently that's the reason he cant marry her!)

i still cant forget about her and cant understand the fact, why would she leave me for another guy?

Honey don't think there's anything wrong with your. Maybe the problem is with her. Maybe she can't stay with a guy long enough, and can't imagine herself being with the same guy forever you know. Or maybe, your too good for her, and she felt like she doesn't deserve, it doesn't matter if you love her to death or whatever. Don't worry its all a matter of time, and you'll eventually get over it, but not totally over it, but whatever it will be a memory and you'll move on. Life does move on right?
I know this from experience. :)
Good luck. Hope you feel better soon, and you'll find the right girl that deserves you. :)

She cheated on you and says she has feeling for another guy, right after she got done with you. But, she's not going out with the other guy.

Sorry, but thats what I call a ****.

i could write a hundred pages about relationships...but sometimes theres no point reading into things too far... and wastin our energy over wasted time!

it just wasnt meant to be sameer. thats the only way you have to look at it and mve on. its hard not to pine...its hard not to wonder..but if you have faith (in whatever u feel is above) and u believe in fate...then....only can you smile and value your self and move on with life :)

maybe u deserve better....
good people are meant for good people

cherios!

see the bright side ... just thank god that this happened now then later like after marriage .. do you really wanna spend your life with someone like her ... a liar… a cheater … I truly know how you feel I have been there.. … god is watching …what goes around comes around ..believe it … you will find someone worthy of you ….

simply because she likes him more...maybe she is not so into handsome and rich guys.

what can u do?
that's her life ....just get over it :mmhmm:

^ But that doesn't excuse her cheating.

Maybe she was waiting for you to propose and you didn't?

shes a ......
there's nothin wrong with u
but there's something wrong with her :)

urgh! i just don't get such people! :bored:

just move on bro..people like that ain't worth it

Or maybe, your too good for her, and she felt like she doesn't deserve, it doesn't matter if you love her to death or whatever. )

Oh puhlease! If I was feeling that about a guy, I would make sure I never let him go :cutexD:

I think people should stop making excuses for her. The best thing is for you to ask her for a precise answer at to what is not working. If you need closure, you've to have ask her, and only her. Non of our guesses will benefit you in anyway.

Because you dont deserve a girl like this. Better girls are there, you just have to open your eyes

It is sad indeed that girls nowadays are becomming bigger player than guys..and then they end up complaining that they can't find anyone decent. What she did to you will probably end up happening to her because players end up with well..other players.

u should be glad that u didn't end up marrying her.

she shouldn't have been with him in the first place if she had feelings for another... and I'm starting to wonder howcome feelings could've grown between them in so short a time... or was it before? :mmhmm:

well, I can't really tell why she did that... but she obviously wasn't taking your relationship seriously... therefore I don't think it's worth getting worked up about her. She's not the only girl... you'll find someone else one day and you'll be thankful inshalla.

2 words, "Commitment Issues!" :D

She doesnt deserve you.. forget about her, if theres something wrong, then its with her. Obviously you were committed to her and she couldnt do the same.
Leave her and continue your search i'm sure youll find someone wholl love you back and is trustworthy..
And not everyone is compatible with anyone, so theres nothing wrong with you..

Maybe 'cause you're not hot enough lol or that's what she thinks at least.

Well she did say she has feelings for the other guy, right?
That's a good enough excuse.

Maybe 'cause you're not hot enough lol or that's what she thinks at least.

Yah, how Ironic. Many girls really have as very very bad taste in guys lol..

It should be the man who divorce/broke up with women now it's the opposite.

Yah well that's the way it should be. You don't like him why live with someone you don't want. It's her loss after all.

What made you wait to propose if you are working?
Maybe she didn't want to wait for you. Whatever it is, she had no right to cheat on you, and none of us could explain that because we simply don't know her.

Oh puhlease! If I was feeling that about a guy, I would make sure I never let him go :cutexD:

I think people should stop making excuses for her. The best thing is for you to ask her for a precise answer at to what is not working. If you need closure, you've to have ask her, and only her. Non of our guesses will benefit you in anyway.

People here are not making excuses for her, the people here don't even know the girl or even sameer (most don't). And you shouldn't judge someone that you don't know because someone else said something about her. Maybe Sameer is wrong or he's just not saying his story right.
He's asking for our opinion about this problem and we all shared it, so speak for yourself. :)

People here are not making excuses for her, the people here don't even know the girl or even sameer (most don't). And you shouldn't judge someone that you don't know because someone else said something about her. Maybe Sameer is wrong or he's just not saying his story right.
He's asking for our opinion about this problem and we all shared it, so speak for yourself. :)

I wasn't attacking you.

I said a logical thing. We don't know the whole problem, we don't know the girl or the boy. In fact, we don't know anything, so how could we give an honest opinion about something we don't know! That's why I said, if he wants an opinion that will matter and help him move on, he should ask her, and only her.

That's me speaking for myself :)

Maybe you were a good guy & she on the other hand wanted pleasure before marriage

I used to like using such girls http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i96/HitmanCalgary/smiley.gif

I wasn't attacking you.

I said a logical thing. We don't know the whole problem, we don't know the girl or the boy. In fact, we don't know anything, so how could we give an honest opinion about something we don't know! That's why I said, if he wants an opinion that will matter and help him move on, he should ask her, and only her.

That's me speaking for myself :)

well i did ask her what is not work, let us talk over it and make it work. she said you wouldnt understand. i dunno why i wouldnt understand? cuz according to her, i was the only guy who understands her. i would know how she is feeling just by tone of her voice so how wouldnt i understand the situation.

Maybe she was waiting for you to propose and you didn't?

Maybe 'cause you're not hot enough lol or that's what she thinks at least.


I never thought of myself not being Handsom and never heard from anyone i m not handsom enuff

she shouldn't have been with him in the first place if she had feelings for another... and I'm starting to wonder howcome feelings could've grown between them in so short a time... or was it before?


i dated her for over a Year and a half and celebrate anniversary every month

What made you wait to propose if you are working?
nothing made me wait. i wanted to see if she is the rite girl for me or not. and when i felt secure, i asked her that i would come to her house for her hand but we will get married in July 2008.

I just duno what went rong here. yall are rite, i should just move on. dats why, i just wanted mommy to look for a girl for me and get married to her without knowing who she is instead of breakin my heart like this. the only problem i will face, i wont trust women anymore like i use to.

It should be the man who divorce/broke up with women now it's the opposite.

Oh cooome on, what if the guy was the biggest player ever or what if the husband turned out to be an abusive drunken guy? The woman is supposed to just stay in the relationship?

Whatever!

Oh cooome on, what if the guy was the biggest player ever or what if the husband turned out to be an abusive drunken guy? The woman is supposed to just stay in the relationship?

Whatever!

Then each one should follow another road.

I just duno what went rong here. yall are rite, i should just move on. dats why, i just wanted mommy to look for a girl for me and get married to her without knowing who she is instead of breakin my heart like this. the only problem i will face, i wont trust women anymore like i use to.:mmhmm: hope u don't mind...but how old are u?

simply she's a player so why do u even care

:mmhmm: hope u don't mind...but how old are u?

i dont mind, i am 23

simply she's a player so why do u even care

its really hard to belive that a girl is a playa when u are with her for a year and a half and she showed nothing of this sort of gestures ever before. she used to be so lovely and caring

It should be the man who divorce/broke up with women now it's the opposite.
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It should?

My God, you must really think women don't have brains either.



Sameerb1, I sense a bit of an inferiority complex on your side. Don't you feel confident enough about yourself to realise that you deserve someone who can reciprocate your feelings and committments?

You shouldn't waste time on someone who has fallen out of love with you. Ok, it hurts the ego, but come on... get up, dust it all off and move on. It's not the end of the world.

BTW.. Don't go round telling everyone how good looking you think you are.. even if you are, it could be a turn off to some women. ;)

nothing made me wait. i wanted to see if she is the rite girl for me or not. and when i felt secure, i asked her that i would come to her house for her hand but we will get married in July 2008.

Isn't year and half of year enough to know her quite ?

May she thought you're playing with her and especially you work. Anyhow, Leave her. It's not last women on earth and move one. She don't worth you even it's hard to forgot her :)

I know how it's sad and awfully. May god with you

*You were a fool and she used that,its hursh but its the truth.

*A relationship is a phase which you both try to know each other,it might work or end with a break-up.

*Its a choice that you feel that you dont wish her to be the one whom you want to live with or she chose that,even if both side are perfect people ( style,personality...etc)

*according your story,you discovred that she is a ****,So why complaining alot ?

+She cheated on you!
+She lied with her feeling tward you!

Dont you think you should just banned her from your life and carry on? you questioning about it wont lead you any where.

My Advice:

1-Stop contacting her in ALL ways
2-Take a break and find a diffrent activity ( Legal one ) which make you busy.
3-Stay away from relationships for a while,becouse you will be confused for a while and might not be fair with the gurl you meet.

New year will be in second day of Eid probably,so go and try one of the wild parties and shake your butt with your friend ( again I dont advice with any thing illegal)

Enjoy the music and your friend.

Cheers.

**cough** **choke** **splutter**

It should?

My God, you must really think women don't have brains either.




They have brains but their decisions at critical times like this one will be affacted by emotions (I think this is even scientifically proven), thus wrong decision most of the time. That is why in the west the divorce rate is high, because women can divorce the husband. Unlike in the muslim word it's the husband who have the word of divorce.

^if women always make wrong decisions due to emotions I wonder how some women became successful in their lives... plz don't tell me it's because they had help from men.

just wanted to make a point. I'm pretty sure women know that devorce is a great step. and they know the consequences, if they want to take it... then perhaps and perhaps they know exactly what they're asking for?
I personally think the fact that women can't devorce is a taboo...

anyways:
sameer... forget the past. try to find someone new... who knows, you might come across someone better.

what teh heck is taboo? sound like a name of a plant! heheh.^ come online la

oops... wrong word... lol...
taboo means things that's not culturally or religiously acceptable...
so according to the statement above I just meant that I don't approve of it.

sorry for the shift in subs... back to topic...

P.S. AE...coming...

And what is your evidence that it's religiously not acceptable, or it's something out of your brain as usual :rolleyes:

my evidence are the successful women no?...

I didn't mean to say taboo...I said in my second post, personally disapprove...
meaning I don't agree with it. Whether people will say it's religiously acceptable or not I'm not sure. It's just an opinion... from what I see's going on around me. and that's that women have what it takes to go their own way and make their own decisions. Again... underestimated.
but this thread's nothing to do with that... it can be discussed in another thread.

reeeeaw! cat fight!..hehehe..Triple Tee VS. Ice tea

Well I asked for evidence because you said women can't divorce is not religiously acceptable.

Back to the topic.

reeeeaw! cat fight!..hehehe..Triple Tee VS. Ice tea

Not fight, just trying to correct her mistakes :)

ah well, everyone tells me to move on. its not that easy, ask the person who has been thru this situation. i use to laugh at friends who were in these kind of situations, and tell them to just move on wit life and get another girl.
here myself today in this situation, i cant even talk properly with any girl anymore. it will take time but i know for sure that i m moving on. thinkin of her as history and tryin to enjoy wit friends...i think thats the best i can do at the moment

I don't think it was about you Sameer (assuming you weren't mistreating her- which I'm pretty sure you werent!) so you shouldn't ask yourself why not me, or whats wrong with me. Nothing is wrong with you. Assume nothing is wrong with her either; it just didn't work out, wasn't meant to be. Don't hate her or be afraid of women. These things happen you know, its tough but what are you gonna do.

Don't give up on finding that special girl =)

I just hope that you will not keep trying to get her back.. once she put herself between some other-guy hands, just step back.. she can NEVER be the one for you.

get over it very fast, and dont let her affect you. you deserve a better girl.

her loss 9ara7a :)
u will finds sm1 better..u deserve more than her :)

sameer it seems u are a really nice guy and i'm sure one day u will find the perfect girl for u that knows what ur worth...and what happened with ur Ex well these things happen peoples feelings change it doesnt necessarily mean that theres anything wrong with u...i guess u guys just werent meant to be...but atleast she was honest and didnt continue to cheat on u...i wish u all the best and hope u find the right person for u ...

P.S 3T and Icetea stop going of topic!!! :P