I might be a bit young to think this way, but my "few" experiences and the stories I hear from friends and older people, changed my view, I used to think....everyone is good until they prove me wrong.

I wonder...is that true? should we think everyone is good..and then get hurt when we realize they're not? is it really worth it? .. now, I think that, everyone is bad until they prove me wrong...which makes more sense to me.

What do you think? should we all be nice and expect the best from others, then get hit with reality like a punch on the face? or just be prepared always...until you change your thought of the person you'r edealing with? which theory suits you more?

I honestly don't know anymore, I'm clueless!

Realistically speaking, it's hard to trust people these days, but with me, I have this problem, I have to give the person I'm dealing with some trust, otherwise I'd feel like I'm not being honest to that person, I have to give them the benefit of doubt. I want to be trusted by others, then I should treat them in the same way, keeping in mind though that the possibility of them letting you down is there, until they prove their worthy of your trust.

I learnt this the hard way..the more you're nice and easy going with someone the more he/she would most likely just walk all over you and stab you in the back for absolutely no good reason. People can be really sh!tty and heartless (excuse my language but I actually have someone in mind at the moment..lol) and they could be very ungreatful to everything you've done for them. I hate back stabbers and I hate people who don't value friendship. Don't be nice to anyone you sense that he/she won't treat you the same way...and not everyone is nice/good...people are only good to whom they want to be good to and if you end up rubbing them the wrong way then thats when they unleash their demons.

i always expect the worse from everyone so i wont get disappointed, but i just act my self and see how things will go.

Never expect anything from anyone...you can't expect people to live up to your expectations. The more you expect and visualize stuff the more wounded you'lll get once they let you down.

Everyone is unknown until you get to know him/her more. Sadly I'm sometimes the kind of person who judges before knowing, which isnt good! I'm a psycho I think I can read people I know or strangers. :cutexD:

Its just about being careful at the begining, after a while everything will be clear.

If everyone was good then we wouldn't see kids dying everyday from horrific wars.

^^ You kinda missed the point...I said, (until they prove us wrong) lol...so they usually do..

So, you mean u think everyone is bad until they prove us wrong?

well not really.....i believe everyone is nice until, they do something wrong and really put me down...

My view: Everyone's a bit of both... good and bad... no one's pure gold...

don't be naive as to think that people are either good or bad... there's a good and bad side to everyone... what you need to do is identify it and base your judgements according to that.

I believe the total opposite. Everyone is bad until they do something to prove they're good. I'm just a very pessimistic person though, and would rather be safe than sorry so I always expect the worst from everyone, in order not to be disappointed.

I don't think you should go around trusting everyone, or thinking that people are sensitive to your feelings and emotions, because people are selfish and everyone's priority is themselves. Don't expect that because you're nice to someone, they're going to be nice to you.

Everyone is Good, unless they prove that they are NOT....

This a very important statement and i believe in it completely...
Thinking ppl are good doesn't mean that u go dump and put all ur money in their hand and expect them to keep it untouched for you...:eh:

It's a way to think and deal with others especially strangers...
i even go further in that and i explain the bad behaviour as a result of some fool action from the one who get hurt (even if it was me)...
Ppl are good as long as there is no oppertunity for the bad behaviour to appear for some reason....:think:

I used to think that everyone was good, until one day I met this person, and my mother warned me about her, although she didn't even know her. I ignored what she said and kept being nice (just normal nice, not give a kidney nice!) to her, and she TOTALLY took advantage of that and walked all over me! It was sooo frustrating cause it just proved my mother right.

So now, I would probably agree that most people need to prove that they're good, before you can treat them like proper human beings.

I go with the fact that most people have a good and bad side inside of them. So I deal with them accordingly. If I sense bad then I become more careful, if I sense good then I will be nicer. And that changes instantly based on the circumstances and the expected outcome.

every one is not good and not bad untill they prove they are good or bad
ive got disappointed s many times thinkig good of people,, so i just wont think about good or bad anymore,,
its even harded to know how bad a person really is hearing what s\he did from smeone else then be in a shock

I expect the worse out of ppl :) ,,, hmmmm thinkin about it really im not sure ,, but i know one thing , there arent so many good ppl in this world anymore & anybody could do anything these days . iv been shocked alot lol

^^ You kinda missed the point...I said, (until they prove us wrong) lol...so they usually do..

So, you mean u think everyone is bad until they prove us wrong?
Oops lol.. Well no not everyone is bad. There are MANY good people in this world, and even if they do something wrong, then that's okay since they're human.
I don't really trust everyone I meet. I don't know what kind of people they are. They might not prove to me that they're bad people. I may not know it. So if I trust them pretty soon after I meet them, I can get hurt badly. I have to spend time with a person in order to trust them.

I used to trust people easily years ago, but now I've learnt not to do that. Some people are not really worth my trust, cause they simply betray it.

You have to be careful in this cruel world, but that does not mean you should stop trusting people altogether and live in your own little bubble. I guess it's a complicated matter :help:.

I always say that you pay Tax to grow up and the tax is People's relations and human communication .. People hmmmm I did read once an article that says " When you walk ( midnight ) in an alley and at the end of an alley you see a Lion you will be scared ...
But when you walk in the alley and see another human you become more scared .. You know why ? Cause he/she can think and react but the lion You think and it reacts .... People have the same desire motive and dreams ( similar ) and they will do anything to achieve it ..

I know that everyone has bad and good sides of them and it's never pure bad or pure good...

BUT personally, Any person it none for me till they give me their first face ( either good or bad ) and depending on that I deal with that person and to change my mind in him/her it's really hard if sometimes not impossible !

originally posted by NaBHaN
I learnt this the hard way..the more you're nice and easy going with someone the more he/she would most likely just walk all over you and stab you in the back for absolutely no good reason. People can be really sh!tty and heartless (excuse my language but I actually have someone in mind at the moment..lol) and they could be very ungreatful to everything you've done for them. I hate back stabbers and I hate people who don't value friendship. Don't be nice to anyone you sense that he/she won't treat you the same way...and not everyone is nice/good...people are only good to whom they want to be good to and if you end up rubbing them the wrong way then thats when they unleash their demons.

i learnt this the hard way too..and Nabz language will fit coz i have some ppl in mind as well :XD:
sometimes ppl are so complicated..most of them are so confusing and selfish i used to be all nice and sweet to everyone..but i guess i unleashed my demons :6: not the way Nabz meant it though :hehe: ..umm, he described everything i've Experienced..well said Nabz :)

better be safe than sorry.. :bored:

i expect the good from ppl
n them when they do something bad i start hating them
it's a problem :shy:

i see that every1 is good until they proofe my wrong.. y cnt we just expect the best froma person? look at te world from apositive side.. well i had back stabbs n i also was hurt.. but that will not change how i look at ppl.. even some ppl that i hate i dont expect bad from them..

Never expect anything from anyone...you can't expect people to live up to your expectations. The more you expect and visualize stuff the more wounded you'lll get once they let you down.

Exactly! give them the benefit of the doubt at first. Be nice, but dont let ur guard down.

I believe that even strangers deserve chances. You should treat people as if they are good until you reach your limit and you just can't anymore. Even then patience is important. Everybody, good or bad, needs someone to have faith in them. People are born good, life changes them when they are not strong enough to deal with the issues it deals them.

See the good in ppl but don’t have any expectations from them ….

in every socity there r bad and good people ,, bbut u always hope they r good ,, and if they r not ,, then try to make them good.. and i see that we must always be prepared for good or bad people. you always must see your consiquences in your next step to pass them :)