Let's assume that you don't want to get engaged in the traditional way that is arranged engagements and marriages and you wanna pick your partner yourself, how would you do it? What's the best way to approach a girl/guy before the engagement phase?

i dun like this way ! so i dont know any ways! hehe

how would you do it? What's the best way to approach a girl/guy before the engagement phase?
I like this question, as am for sure not going traditional...
Now it is not a big deal to talk to a girl and find out how does she feel about u and know how she is thinking...
If she is from Family, easy...just get her no. call her and talk..
If not, then u need to find a respectable way to ask for her no. or use sm1 else to get it from her like her friend...:think:

I don't know how you guys do it there, but don't you guys have co-ed Universitys? Just meet and hang out

Let's assume that you don't want to get engaged in the traditional way that is arranged engagements and marriages and you wanna pick your partner yourself, how would you do it? What's the best way to approach a girl/guy before the engagement phase? :mmhmm: :XD:

I never got the traditional way and don't think i'll like it.

I meet a girl, know her, talk to her. tell my parents about her .. and that's it i guess. as short as it can get ^-^

"Hi.. what's your sign?" ---> barf!!!

"Hi.. what's your qabeela?"---> barf in Omani!!!

As some ppl already said ... work/ colleges /uni are good respectful places you can find ppl to get to know ... but make sure that the person you are planning to approach is not playboy/girl types...find out about them before hand .. to be at safer side ... well about good starting line ...hmmmmmmmmmm.....that’s tough ...you can not like someone if you never talked to or just saw or meet ...love at first sight…. does it exist .....so it has to be someone you interact with regularly...

The girl you want, your mother would somehow know her aunt's cousin sister in law's cousin who is your mother's friend :p. And from there, arrangements are made for you to see/talk/meet the girl. If it works out you're married in less than a year, if not, they forget about it :rolleyes:

Let's assume that you don't want to get engaged in the traditional way that is arranged engagements and marriages and you wanna pick your partner yourself, how would you do it? What's the best way to approach a girl/guy before the engagement phase?

Depends on the setting. If you live in the US, being direct would work. If you're in Asia, be more subtle: start off first as friends, and see if you hit it off. If you do, then that's great. If not, then keep trying. The girl might take pity on you that she finally decides to answer you.

I would really like it if a guy comes upto me and tells me that he wants to marry me. I like honest, strong, open men more than the shy ones. I know some may not be shy, but they fear my answer or how I would react. But I want it to be direct and between him and myself.

In this society, everyone knows everyone, so it's reallllly not hard for people to know each other through ways besides their parents.

but the question is can a girl approach a guy with marriage proposal :mmhmm: …is it okay in our society ..are guys open to it :D

I know I am open about it. I don't mind this. But of course I should be left free to decide whether I accept the offer ;)

^^lol:D ...sure take your time ..but don't take forever :6:

So Angelia you are approaching me?! Well well howaa u doinnn' ;)?

^^ssssssssssssssh :blush: ..I'm very old for you my friend