I dunno how to say it :think:
None of you guys don't have a relatives and would like to visit them
as possible as he can ...:love:
But What happening with me is away far from that :o
I prefer to stay with my feriends all the time:shy: even I dont want
to go back to the house unless I want to sleep :rolleyes:
and when my mum ask me that I have to visit them I'll get upset :os

since I came from the UK I visited them(each house once for 2 months) once /.....

Do u face this problem? If so, why?

Do u think that being with the guys for a long time(9 months) could change U that much ?
How U cope with it ?
How much in average u r visiting ur relatives?

What is the suitable time to visit them?

I know it's boring but what I can say else!

I don't notice it cos my relatives' houses are like my own, we just walk in and out whenever we feel like it, sleep over and all that (mostly my mom's side) if we want to. We are ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS at each other's houses! So no I don't really feel it :p

But there are some family houses I would rather avoid and don't really go to very often.

Like fatamooo, I'm very close to one side of my family so we're always together and I feel at home whenever I'm at any of their places. We also have a family day where we all meet. Here I don't really care what time it is, but it shouldn't be very late (unless I'm sleeping over), and I stay for as long as I want to lol.
The other side.. hmm well I go to my gran's house about every other fortnight, but I don't always see my aunts and uncles.. When I visit my gran I usually stay for like 30-45 minutes, and it's mostly after the maghreb prayers. But if we're invited to one of my uncles or aunts' house then we stay for around 3-4 hours.

And I'm sorry, but I didn't get this question: "Do u think that being with the guys for a long time(9 months) could change U that much ?"
Which "guys" are you talking about?

Very close to my cousins (both sides), infact my cousin is my classmate and neighbour (some say we look a like, we dont and have different interests). We always hang out together.

Some say: two as*es on the same trouser

I dont realy like visiting uncles & aunts....
I prefer gathering up with my 1st cousins best...
We r almost in the same age range... some r married though, but kool...

Do u face this problem? If so, why?!
For it is exactly the way u discribe....and relatives always mention it all the time...For why?...i think it is just that we have many friends and go out every single day...(but that is no excuse)
Do u think that being with the guys for a long time(9 months) could change U that much ?!
If by the guys u mean the UK...yeah it does...there there are no relatives to visit..ur friends are ur family:hyper: ...and that affect me for sure...but not the real reason...i guess:think:
How U cope with it ?!
i try, once they remind me to visit my relatives, i just go..as soon as possible...even for minutes...it is good and effective...;)
How much in average u r visiting ur relatives?!
Weekends for near relatives....and every 2 weeks for far onces..(no so far anyway)
What is the suitable time to visit them?!
After sunset...not so late for sure...;)

...I dont know bes i always get it my way, my relatives and i S0o0o dont go together, only on family days/Holidays

well for me, Visiting uncles and aunties n grandma's is assential and important. If i didnt do it in weekly base, i would feel bad n Muqa9ir fi 7aqhum.. its mostly thursday n friday afternoons.. Thursdayz mostly the house gathering where my dad n mum n all siblings sit for lunch together.. and fridayz I have lunch with one grandmum and then the deserts i go to my other grandmum to be fair n to see my other uncles n aunties too.

I don't go to uni, but I visit my Grandma whenever I feel like it, and the time's right. Same goes for my aunts and uncles (mom's side). Dad's side, I visit my aunts whenever I go to dxb.. and I go around all my family's houses there (close ones..) and then I begin my actual vacation! :D

Do u face this problem? If so, why?
-There are some relatives that i really love to visit like cousins mostly, but there are sometimes when i go to a relatives house and sit in a corner with a fake smile talking to no1 all alone.

Do u think that being with the guys for a long time(9 months) could change U that much ?
-Maybe u got used to them.

How Would U cope with it ?
-Try spending a little more time with ur relatives and get to know them like ur cousins for example

How much in average u r visiting ur relatives?
hmm..
Alot! Almost everyday.

What is the suitable time to visit them?
Call em' and ask.

Do u face this problem? If so, why?
Only with my dad's side. Maybe cuz were different, or cuz my dad's not around so we've lost touch.

Do u think that being with the guys for a long time(9 months) could change U that much ?
guys?? huh??

How U cope with it ?
Whenever i have the chance, make plans with them (which doesnt happen much often). Actually coming to think of it, i only see my dads side twice a year in Eid excluding some idividuals.

How much in average u r visiting ur relatives?
I'm with my moms side always, my cousins are my age so they're more like my friends/relatives. I see my aunts and uncles from my moms side every friday!

What is the suitable time to visit them?
Whenever! They're are relatives arent they :P

I don't mind visiting immediate family because I love the feel of being around loved ones. My 2nd and 3rd cousins are not intentionally avoided, but lets say we're not so keen on visiting each other often. I'm not "casually" comfortable around them. There is still that formality which I hate.

and when my mum ask me that I have to visit them I'll get upset :os

.. just try to visit it them n u will like it.. most important be nice n take something with u when u visit them especially if they got kids.. like by them mmm any cheap sweets will do!

.. if u remember Ibn Khaldoon said the human being by nature is a sociable.. meaning u cant live even with the farest ppl from u!

.. also dont forget.. that the prophet :PBUH: adviced to connect with relatives on the maternal side.

i duno y i love visiting family ! no matter how boring it gets.. i just love family in all ways .. even the very old ppl .. i kinda have fun in the end :)

I like viting my relatives form my mom's side..u can feel their love to u :) god bless them..i love them so much :love:
but my relatives from my dad's side :bored: god! u can actually feel hatered they just look at u with those scary eye contact..u feel them tellin u: get out of here! :os
they r just weird believe me people

i just visit my grandparents and i don't know the rest ppl in my family,like second cousins and even when i see them i don't recognize them!

Hmm.. first of all, if you're not willing to visit your own family, then there's no point in doing so cuz you'll just be an extra at their house.. and just like it's a burden for you to be there, they'll feel it and it'll be a burden for them.. but if you don't see them for 9 months.. lol why 9 months? d'u get pregnant? :D jokiiiin.. but you must MUST visit them because it is very important.. in the end, no one rests with you BUT YOUR FAMILY no matter how distant you feel from them, and no matter how many problems you face with them, if you do.. One thing you can do is call your grandparents once in a while during the *9 months* you hang out with whoever guys you're talkin about.. n then when you come to oman, you have to visit them once you reach, and before you leave to say goodbye.. and then when you're sittin at home doing nothing, go to their house.. and ONLY half an hour of your time won't kill you.. just go say hi, and make yourself at home because at relatives houses, there's no boundaries.. their home is your home :) and once u start, u'll eventually get used to it.. it's just the starting that matters.. so, instead of replying this message or reading others on this sabla, i want you to go to your grandmothers house RIGHT NOW for half an hour, and come back, n tell us all about it. :D trust me, bibi will be very happy =D

I see visiting family as an important thing, didn't realize it before, but it truly is.

Good thing for me is, whenever I want to visit. I go to my grandfather's house cause that's where they all gather. It'll be as if something is wrong if not seen an aunt or an uncel or even a coz for a week or so.

I used to get shy, specialy when the women started wearing hjab infront of me, but trust me. You are of no burden if you want to be there for them :).

Trust me, once you get used to them. You'll be the one wanting to visit daily, even just to say hi.

i love my mum's side of the family ,, but not really with my dads side
so i love visiting my cousins from mums side ,, but i dont like 2 visit my dads side

i love my mum's side of the family ,, but not really with my dads side
so i love visiting my cousins from mums side ,, but i dont like 2 visit my dads side
Why does that seems to be the same for most girls..??:think:

I don't notice it cos my relatives' houses are like my own, we just walk in and out whenever we feel like it, sleep over and all that (mostly my mom's side) if we want to. We are ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS at each other's houses! So no I don't really feel it :p

But there are some family houses I would rather avoid and don't really go to very often.
nice to hear that about u >>>:cute:

Why does that seems to be the same for most girls..??:think:


L0o0oL its the same with me...My mom side is s0o0o chill im with the guys 24/7 my dads side nasty dont even think of me and them in the same room...but over all i just dont get along with grlz form both sides:P

L0o0oL its the same with me...My mom side is s0o0o chill im with the guys 24/7 my dads side nasty dont even think of me and them in the same room...but over all i just dont get along with grlz form both sides:P
So, u r okay with guys but not the girls...:think: (Sorry just curious:cute: )

Aaaah I hate visiting my relatives. I always lay in bed and act sick or make up excuses lol

^^ i used to do that when we were gona visit the relatives from my dad's side :os

Ichigo, when u're around people who make you feel un-welcomed..although they're your family
then it's better for you not to be there in the first place
we were only visiting them for the sake of our islamic teachings
but seems that we are un-wanted
these people r just weird
actually they don't act this way ONLY with us
it's with everybody :os
of course it was all differant when my grandparents were alive but after they passed away.. the masks fell off :bored:
anyway didn't wana bother u guyz with such sad stories but just wanted to juctify what i said :)

^^It is not like it is wrong...but i was just is the cause of gender (mum and daughters)..

BTW, simillar stroy in my case the difference is that we men have to take the resposibility in our families to bring them together and we are connected in the names and we live together in the same place..but still our relation with the mum side much stronger...

well, i hate visting my relatives from the far side, like the relatives i dont usually see. but i love visting my cousins (especially QuEeN, she a very funny entertainment to watch :D )

why is it a problem? umm dunno, im just uncomfertable in those situation(talking about it, we have to go to dinner tonight with some ppl today dam :bored: )

the suitable time to visit them, is when im not in a bad mood :XD: