This is something that happens all too often whether it be in the arab world or out of it... however I've seen it increasingly here and am curious to know what the members think of parents who influence their children against their enemy's children. Yes, you read that right...
I know some parents don't allow their children to be friends with other kids of certain people they may not like... and therefore expect their children to show the same dislike as they do and apparently avoid their friends because their families may not get along...

I personally considered such things unhealthy in a way that it would create hatred between people in the coming generations... sometimes even within the family itself...
I speak of nothing and no one specific.... merely a general observation...

What do you think of such things?... Would you agree with the parents?... or would you consider it wrong?
If you had children who were friends with children of people you didn't like... would you prevent your kids from hanging out with them?

I require honesty :p...
share your thoughts

What do you think of such things?... Would you agree with the parents?... or would you consider it wrong?

I think it's slightly wrong, it really depends.

If you had children who were friends with children of people you didn't like... would you prevent your kids from hanging out with them?


Not really, my mother hated one of my best friends' mother :D, yet..she let me be friends with her...it's okay I guess.

people are never happy unless they ruin the deal for someone else. you also have people who help others. hatred is as integral to humanity as love. the way of the world. cant have the good without the bad. people will always break and fix things. the question is, which of the 2 are you.

What do you think of such things?... Would you agree with the parents?... or would you consider it wrong?

I have never seen a situation like this before:mmhmm: ... Nop, i w'll never ever agree with the parents:os ... absolutely , wrong :shy:




If you had children who were friends with children of people you didn't like... would you prevent your kids from hanging out with them?

Never,,,, I'll not use my children in my problems..:Shock:
The problem between the parents sometimes affect the relation between the children :lift: ,,,, But the parents should leave their child to choose his/her friends and to take teh responsiblity of the choice ;)

i agree with u tee abt it being unhealthy, i find it disgusting as well. by telling them 2 hate/dislike so & so simply bcuz u dont like them contradicts with 1 of ur goals of trying 2 let ur child create an identity of their own & work on the skill of analysing ppl & their actions.. & also, wut kind of person r u if ur teaching ur child 2 hate sum1?! tht's just low & disgusting...
i believe every1 should have the liberty of creating their own identity & coming up with their own opinion (with a little guidence of course). bcuz no matter how much good parents means, @ the end of the day they'r still human & they do mistakes, they'r thoughts or decisions may not neccessarily be the right 1s 4 their child...

*raises her hand* Ooh ooh .. Mee mee.. I have this situation going on!!

I have a friend back in Jor, who lives here as well, we came back home only to find out that our dads aren't really fond of each other, and they're actually business competitors!!

My dad didn't want me hanging out with him just for that sole purpose! :bored:

What do you think of such things?

it doesnt make any sense.. :bored:

Would you agree with the parents?... or would you consider it wrong?

no i won't...yes :rolleyes:


If you had children who were friends with children of people you didn't like... would you prevent your kids from hanging out with them?

no i won't..it's better to keep the kids outta of it :mmhmm:

as long as they don't have a bad influance on my kids..i think its cool :shy:

Nice Topic sis
In My opinion I think when OUR parents search and ask (who r our friend?) it is For our good life without or far away of problems....
We may not know at firs ages How to choose good friend!!!
So, they help us in that. Until we reach the suitable age......
But If u mean they choose our friends related to thier like or dislike......

I don't think that the parents should do that, because they're mad at the parents, not the children, so why let innocence in it all? They have nothing to do with it! :p

What do you think of such things?
They're just silly.

Would you agree with the parents?... or would you consider it wrong?
I wouldn't agree, it's wrong. The relationship between me and my friend, isn't the relationship between his/her parents with mine. They shouldn't get it into ours.

If you had children who were friends with children of people you didn't like... would you prevent your kids from hanging out with them?
Of course not, if they're good fellas and are good friends together, why would I? that's just unfair..

It's non sense at all !!!

Parents shouldn't mix things that way, otherwise they are a very bad modle for their children !

Put a side the friends issue, check it when it comes to love and marrige, it's even worse !

Parents who actually do that are too immature to raise children :bored:

I don't know if my parents would ever forbid me from being friends with someone cos of their relationship with the parents. But anyways I think feuding between adults is a bit childish, and my parents wouldn't dislike a family unless it was for a very good reason. They have forbidden me from seeing some people because of some kind of character flaw of their own, but not their parents! That would be unfair.

It would depend on the reason why they didn't like a particular family. For instance, if many people in that family are known to be alcoholics or involved in drugs, then I think it's understandable that they wouldn't want their kids to mix with those kids.

If it's for a silly, childish reason then I don't support this.

Unfortunately its very true and i've been in a few situations where my parents tried to 'break me away' from some friends i had whom they did not approve of because of their parents or family history...even though those friends of mine were decent human beings. Of course I did not submit to it and i continued my friendship with these people and convinced to accept them.

You can make a difference if you want to..especially if you believe in what u're doing is right.

I don't know if my parents would ever forbid me from being friends with someone cos of their relationship with the parents. But anyways I think feuding between adults is a bit childish, and my parents wouldn't dislike a family unless it was for a very good reason. They have forbidden me from seeing some people because of some kind of character flaw of their own, but not their parents! That would be unfair.

she said it all:)