Emotional Vampires

They are annoying people who masquerade in your life and drain you emotionally until you fall flat on your head. They are darkly seductive, charming & dangerous, instinctively evil. They have the power not only to aggravate you, but to cloud your mind with self doubt and make u do things u wish you hadnt done.

Emotional Vampires are people that you know - Sexy, unreliable lovers, drama queens, jealous spouses, demanding, controlling, manipulative, they have gigantic egos, but carry tiny consciences everywhere else.

Emotional Vampires go to extreme measures; lurk in your office, your family, your circle of friends and maybe even your bed. They are envious & paranoid people who are compulsive and suspicious of everything and everyone around them.

Emotional Vampires require excessive admiration and attention @ all times. They believe that the universe revolves around them. Sex, drugs & violence are there nature. They throw tantrums, show arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes. They are interpersonally exploitable they take advantage of others for their own good.

Emotional Vampires are blood sucking creatures of darkness who use their bright, talented, charismatic nature to win your trust, your confidence and your affection-then drain all of your emotional energy out of you.

I had lived with one for 10 months, she is a close relative of mine. She sucked me until I turned blue. I had moved out & have been away from her for 8 months. She is a danger to my life, I have been ignoring her but the problem is that I live next door to her sista so she is able to find out what ever she wants about me how do u think I should handle this irrational problem of mine??

Please feel free to ask me any questions of my experience with this Pathological Narcissist, I would be glad to inform you & warn you in case you ever get sucked by one. :help:

Ok...interesting..

What made u think of her this way? like..what did she do to u that made u choose this phrase "sucked my blood till I turned blue"?

Ok...interesting..

What made u think of her this way? like..what did she do to u that made u choose this phrase "sucked my blood till I turned blue"?

Well I was studying in college 4 days per week & plus raising 2 kids on my own. When ever her partner had broken up with her, she would go in manic depression and drag my kids & I with her. It was all attention on me please otherwise some drama or tantrum would erupt out of her. She would literally hang around me while im doing my assignments on my computer, even sleep in my bed, even while I would pray or read quran I would have to stop, make me stay up with her until 4am sometimes until 5am in the morning and mind you I have college the next day & sometimes I had to prepare for an exam. I became very tired and aggressive towards my kids. It was too much pressure for me. I was litterally drained out

Well, i dunno if u're still talking or anything..

But, I had a friend who was kinda the same...I kept taking it, till one day I exploded and got it all out....I talked to her and explained how selfish she's being and how hard time she's giving me...she changed a bit.

But, I dunno if u did talk to her honestly and clearly...did u?

find her a husband :D

Well, i dunno if u're still talking or anything..

But, I had a friend who was kinda the same...I kept taking it, till one day I exploded and got it all out....I talked to her and explained how selfish she's being and how hard time she's giving me...she changed a bit.

But, I dunno if u did talk to her honestly and clearly...did u?

Well I had tried to speak to her on many occassions before I had moved out and her response towards me was more envious & suspicious of me. I felt that she wanted to create war just to gain the better of herself. She knows my attitude in life, my personality. Thats a skill that Emotional Vampires trait so well. She will manipulate herself on my level to gain an upper level.

And why didn't you get rid of her immediately

confront her about it.. if it gets too serious.. maybe cutting her off completely should be an option?

find her a husband :D
hahahaha...u go and propose to her....:D

confront her about it.. if it gets too serious.. maybe cutting her off completely should be an option?

I have cut her off completely. What about her lurking around with my family and friends, do I just ignore it continuously?? It could get dangerous, shes capable of it. Remember Emotional Vampires are violent. I have the urge and strength to be able to control her physical abuse but at the same time I dont want it to lead that way, it could get ugly. :lift:

Oh my god haha...I don't know what else u could do but ignoring...maybe she'd get sick of trying then leave u in peace:D..

I think u said she was a close relative of urs...then talk to ur relatives about it:think:

i understand you and i know what yr going through sometimes your close family and friends are the ones who hurt you the most because they know everything about u and they also know where your weakness is so they feed on that espically if you are the type of person that will go out of your way to help anyone who needs u and u are that person u have a beauitful heart and because of that she took advantage of u its always the good people who get hurt but always remember god is by your side watching every move you make he will defend u in the time of need

And why didn't you get rid of her immediately

Well we had a rental agreement together and I couldnt just terminate, I waited until the contract was over.

well since all the obvious ways rn't working (talking 2 her & cutting her off) & ur still worried cuz she's around ur family & friends, how abt u talkabt this 2 ur closest friends & family members, perhaps they can do something abt it, if not thn @ least u would have ppl who can help u pass thru this

Thanx Miss G. Ur point taken and I have made that step and my family & friends have been aware of the situation from day 1.
But what about when I have to face her??? Remember she is a relative. & the situation would be awkward for me; not for her. Emotional Vampires supernaturally manipulate u and bring u back into their lives again and start sucking u out all over again.
Intellectually there should be a way to give her the shrug off without showing any bitterness or stigma. What do u suggest???

Thanx Miss G. Ur point taken and I have made that step and my family & friends have been aware of the situation from day 1.
But what about when I have to face her??? Remember she is a relative. & the situation would be awkward for me; not for her. Emotional Vampires supernaturally manipulate u and bring u back into their lives again and start sucking u out all over again.
Intellectually there should be a way to give her the shrug off without showing any bitterness or stigma. What do u suggest???

well if it was me i would totally ignore anything -ve she says 2 me in public, act like i didnt even hear it, bcuz once u start reacting 2 her & showing her tht her words affected u tht's when she gets satisfied.
im the kinda person who doesnt like conflict & in situations like these i would rather be the bigger person. its obvious tht's she's the 1 with issues cuz she's always lying & manipulating, 2 me she sounds immature, & i would never respond 2 something like tht tht is beneath my intellectual & mature level. i suggest u just ignore all her attempts 2 get 2 u (i know its hard sometimes) & when u do talk 2 her, do so as tho there's nothing wrong. speak 2 her like u would speak 2 any other person.... unless she pushes it 2 far... thn u have the right 2 beat the *%#! outta her :color:

Thanx once again Miss G, its what I have in mind but sometimes I like to get other peoples opinions just to give myself assurance. Or maybe somebody had probably been in a similiar position and wanted to know how they dealt with it????