I know a few people who go against others when they figure out any of their relatives don't get along with them. Are you the type who's an enemy to your relative's enemy? Would you dislike a person if anyone related to you dislikes him/her?

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maybe my first reaction when i find out that someone i know is enemies with my relative would be to stand back and kinda...distance myself. but whn i come to FULLY understand what the problem is and realise that maybe its not the 'enemy's' fault that they had a fall out, then i wouldnt side with my relative, but make him/her face the facts..that its THEIR problem and not anyone else. Having said that, i think this is easier said then done. because it will be difficult to sort of talk to someone your really close relative absolutely despises...the initial stages will be most difficult, until you figure out what went wrong then it will be easy to take up a side. the right side

No. But, it feels awkward when you're ok with these both sides of people who aren't talking together. I just try and solve the prob. let them know that such things are just isn't worth it and then in the end it's upto them. I don't just cut out with someone coz my other relative is so with 'em. It's not right.

I'm usually an enemy to my relatives themselves haha..

But the answer to ur Q would be..I guess a "no"

I guess I'll support whoever's right and whoever I get along with more, relative or not.

Some out there might say I'm not supposed to support someone just cuz i get along with him/her better. But to me supporting does not necessarily mean taking sides. It's a matter of respect ... If I sense the person I'm closer to is mistaken... I'll just pull him/her aside and talk to him/her in private. In public I'll remain silent unless it gets over the limit, then I'll most probably pull him/her away.

I dunno whether that's right or wrong... but that's what I usually do. Abandoning someone for a relative who might not be as loyal to you as someone else is not a clever way of dealing with it.... or is it?
Would you defend your cousin cuz he/she's your cousin...etc.
Would you go against your sister, brother, parents...??? Would it be considered wrong to go against them? Or disrespectful?

well , i wouldnt be his enemy !! and make things worse , its childish ,, but i wont be SO NICE :)
its not like i have 2 be that persons best friend !

I wouldn't be all buddy-buddy with the person, but I won't avoid them or treat them badly either. I'll be my usual friendly self. Whatever problems or misunderstandings they have is between the two of them; it doesn't involve me so I don't see why I should go out of my way to steer clear of the person.

Are you the type who's an enemy to your relative's enemy?
No, am not...
Would you dislike a person if anyone related to you dislikes him/her?
Idon't think so....unless he/she has a convencing reason why not getting along with the other...

loool NO
cause that totally weird u must have ur own point of view.

ok first of all....i wouldn't side with my relative because they are my relative...and i don't think i would dislike the person just cause someone i know or should i say relative isn't getting along with them...
i don't think your suppose to walk the footsteps of your relative...

and honestly what would you rather do defend someone who is close to but quiet wrong meaning your relative..? or be fair and think that it doesn't matter who the person may be.. that you should side with the person who is right even if it's the worst enemy of a relative...either that or just don't get invlove within. well thats my point of veiw..

in way alot may think it's disrespectful...but i guess you have to make that move/step... whether you wanna think about respect and family comes first..or think that what is right and fair...

No, i am not that kind of sick person ;) I'll be an enemy of a person if that person harmed me, my pride, honour and family.

Sometimes I'm my own relatives enemy XD . For me personly this thing doesnt depend on being my relative or not, what matters is whos right and whos wrong.

naah I dont follow that, actually i think it's an old way of thinking, if someone has a problem with your relative then he/she has a problem with your relative not you! I got someone in family who's totally not cool with my mom but that doesn't affect my relationship with her, I'm totally cool with her, and thank God, my mom agrees that am doing the right thing :D :D

Nop!!
i judge ppl for their own actions with ME not my relatives. Its just odd to do so :os

I wouldn't be all buddy-buddy with the person, but I won't avoid them or treat them badly either. I'll be my usual friendly self. Whatever problems or misunderstandings they have is between the two of them; it doesn't involve me so I don't see why I should go out of my way to steer clear of the person.

exactelly...and i think if ur relative or friend asked u to hate and never talk to that person they dont like is soo immature and Stupid!!

It doesn't matter to me. Some of the people I'm close to are already not liked by my relatives. It is between them two and it should stay that way. As long as non of them try to poison my mind and try to make me dislike one of them, then I guess I can stay close and neutral to both sides.

i don't care what my relatives think as long as this person is good to me!

depends on the relative him/herself :p
if we were close of course i'll be an enemy to his/her enemy
if we weren't then it wouldn't matter

errrrrr
sometime's
if i didnt like the person i will be his enemy
but if he was ok then i wont fight or do anything

Define enemy

I wouldn't be all buddy-buddy with the person, but I won't avoid them or treat them badly either. I'll be my usual friendly self. Whatever problems or misunderstandings they have is between the two of them; it doesn't involve me so I don't see why I should go out of my way to steer clear of the person.

Agreed.. if we both click, then i dont see why we can't be friends. If not, then.. well, not.

Define enemy
hmm... take it as... Someone your relative doesn't get along with for some reason.

It would be my choice, not my relative's :D