Guys and their mothers

[Libellula]

Imagine this. You're totally in love with someone, and he loves you just as much in return. You'd do almost anything for him, and you can't imagine life without him. Sounds perfect? Unfortunately, it's not because his mother is an evil old cow.

She's controlling, intrusive, overbearing, and hateful about everything and anything involving you. She takes every opportunity to make it known how little she approves of you, and even goes as far as to attempt setting your guy up with other girls.

What makes this so bad is that she doesn't even know you. She's never met you, and has never made an effort to get to know you at all.

You realize that this guy is one in a million and you've been discussing the possibility of marriage, but now you're wondering how in hell it's gonna be at least tolerable.

Most of the time, he's too afraid of his mother to stand up for himself or for you. What would you do in this case? How would you try to work things out? Would you even bother trying to fix things or would you just walk out on the relationship?

[SteLLa]

well .. i think i'd accept the guy but i'd tell him that i want a house on my own n if he really loves me he'd stand up 4 me infront of his mum .. besides .. allah bayefrejha inshallah n ppl who wait ( al9aberoon) get a lot of 7asanat from god :)

[Rossonero]

Its funny that Mother-In laws are always illustrated like this, always, in all khaleeji serials. Even movies are made about this case..

My grandmother and my mommy have no problems, strong relationship:D same with all my aunts-in law (wifes of ma uncles) .. good relationships, no fights at all.

[Cute_One]

u dont what they see Rossonerro ... they dont need to fight to show the love .. !

[NaBHaN]

Unless the guy is a mommy's little boy I don't see what the problem would be. she's going to live with him ... not with his mother.

[Arabian Princess]

I think its important to be in good terms with future mother in laws .. no matter how you guys wish to see it, being in good terms with the family makes life much easier..

[Rossonero]

So that means, ladies..when you go to weddings, make sure when you talk to older women..even if you dont know them just talk in a good lovely way, like you are from a diffrent world. You never know, she might be your mother in law!

[Lym]

Reminds me of 'Monster in law' :6:

All I can say is, no matter what ! As a wife , you cannot ditch your mother in law in front of your husband or behind his back for that matter. You will have to give in to your mother in law's 'cruelty' or 'injustice' and try to be the better person. (I don't think it is even appreciated to whine about any of his family members :rolleyes: .Hopefully , your husband would see the effort you put in and take the matter into his own hands. Hmn , Some insecure mothers get over-protective , to the extent that it's disgusting :shock:

A very sticky situation :
I would probably stick to my man and try to be as patient as possible ! Try to please her , so she does not have a reason to resent me . God will reward me in better ways :)

One of the best advices that I have been given is that ; you are not marrying 'your husband' only but his whole family. I guess , that it includes his mum ! Let's just hope we all get mother in laws who would love us like their own daughters :shy:

[Night PrinCess]

i think i'll try to show her the oppiste of what she thinks of me and see how it works and i'll expecting him to help me in this !!

[Libellula]

Its funny that Mother-In laws are always illustrated like this, always, in all khaleeji serials. Even movies are made about this case..



Yeah the evil mother-in-law thing can be really exaggerated :)

[Rossonero]

What if the daughter-in-law is the evil one?

[Pimpette!]

Hmm.. I'm getting married to him, not his mom. So it's fine. But if he can't be with me because of his mother, then it's: THE END, FIN, THAT'S ALL FOR NOW FOLKS, etc. I don't want no mommas boy!

[Rossonero]

Pimpette, isnt Family nothing to the guy/girl after he/she turning 18 in the west?

[Libellula]

A lot of you say that you're marrying the guy, not his mum, but the truth is his mother will have a very big role in your lives. She can influence him to do so many things that you might not particularly agree with.

I firmly believe that when you get married, you marry the guy's whole family.. so choose wisely and make sure you don't have any problems with any of his family members.

[Rossonero]

Phoenix, you didnt mention that the mother in law would try to make you influence your husband on a thing the mother in law wants. If she needs help etc.

[Libellula]

But the daughter-in-law will most likely say that she wants her hubby to do whatever makes him happy so that's not really an issue

[fatamooo]

I think that mother in laws are seen in that way, because the mothers feel as though theyre being replaced in the mans life by someone else. Like, first, before the guy got married, his mother would (supposedly) be the number one lady in his life, she would be the one who would care for him and dote on him, but after he gets married, someone else would be doing that instead of her, so she would apparently become resentful and look for her faults and stuff.

So I think the way I would handle that, if I were in that position, would be to let the mother know that shes not losing someone, but just expanding her family and gaining a family member....
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....ok I'll just come out and say it, I'm too darn loveable!!! ;)

[Rossonero]

I loved what you said tamooozi.

Expanding the family and gaining a new family member.

[fatamooo]

Cool ya? I made it up myself :D

lol.