Lack of trust & Betraying

[Her XLNC]

Ok..i got this Q that someone close asked me 2night:

1) Whats the main reason for lack of trust between couples?

2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

[sophis^catrina]

Ok..i got this Q that someone close asked me 2night:

1) Whats the main reason for lack of trust between couples?

2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

1) When he does not give her security. When he does not reassure her that it is she who he wants. For example; they are together, and then later he tells her that they are exploring and does not treat her as well as he used to treat her, which makes her more paranoid and more controlling :lift: .

Poor communication skills and aims that are not clear from the start.

2) She is not satisfied. Something is wrong between them. Whether it is emotionally or sexually. Same like men. Except I think when it comes to women, if they are not satisfied emotionally, then it really upsets them and they tend to cheat and start talking to other men who gives them comfort and love. As for men, I think when they are not sexually satisfied, then there is a greater chance of cheating.

[Her XLNC]

a girl can be given alot of love and still not be satisfied....wht ever the girl says, he will do ...then in the end she will be tired & betray him cause he has no personality in her opinion...if he doesnt have a word...

Its not only emotions...other factors like if he's fun...she would complain that he's funny all the time n not serious....if he's a kind of guy with very strong personality then she would brag that he's too serious all the time....so,

What do you think is the solution??!!!

AND

Do u think being over protective can cause a lack of trust & betraying her husband/Boyfriend?

AND

A woman whos satisfied emotionally & given alot of trust ...why would she betray he Husband/BF??

[fatamooo]

Lack of honesty = lack of trust.

I agree with sophis about the second question.

[sophis^catrina]

a girl can be given alot of love and still not be satisfied....wht ever the girl says, he will do ...then in the end she will be tired & betray him cause he has no personality in her opinion...if he doesnt have a word...

Its not only emotions...other factors like if he's fun...she would complain that he's funny all the time n not serious....if he's a kind of guy with very strong personality then she would brag that he's too serious all the time....so,

What do you think is the solution??!!!

AND

Do u think being over protective can cause a lack of trust & betraying her husband/Boyfriend?

AND

A woman whos satisfied emotionally & given alot of trust ...why would she betray he Husband/BF??


To tell you the truth, all these issues resolve around one issue LOVE. I don't mean the "I love you" and "he is so perfect" bull that we keep hearing. I meant real, true love that few people really understand. If a woman truly loves her husband/bf, she will honor him. Even if he was too serious or too goofy or whatever, she wil not go betraying him, but will talk to him what is bothering her so that they can really become a better couple and so that their love can increase.

For example, if a girl goes out with a guy just for the sake of "he is hot and she wants a bf" or he is "cute at that moment", after a while when things go
wrong, the betraying and all that trash starts.

But if she goes out with him, for a higher aim say marriage and commitment since she can already see that he is the "one", then when things go wrong she tries her best to communicate with him so they can solve the issue.

What I am trying to say, is that even if he satisfies her in every way, if she does not really love him, his efforts will be of no real value.

[Solafa]

Sallam,

First of all HXL, you are combining 2 things in 1 thread, and each thing is a wide and big issue than the other…… even though they are more or less related and be intersect each other.
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1) Whats the main reason for lack of trust between couples?

Talking about trust in here, is a big issue, and we can not look at it from one angle, as it varies with the variation of how people understand the word trust and how they think they can implement it on and in their life and others life!

Trust can be built on many factors or things, such as on words, actions, reactions, attitudes, looking …etc

Unstable communication, attitude and reaction to things can cause the trust to be broken.

Lack of trust depends on the situation that the couple are living in.

For example, if the husband does not trust his wife to be capable to face men and to keep her respectable limit while she is working in a field that is mainly men in, then this can causes problems.

Over jealousy can be a big hand in lack of trust, by men and women, and it plays a big role to break up families.
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2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

This again goes back to many reasons, as they say there no smoke without a fire, and something will never just break without starting with a crack first.

I could list few things, the main in here:

* as you mentioned lack of trust, as mentioned, this can be on many factors to lead to such situation.

* over jealousy, a man who is very jealous would never be able to keep his wife with him, no matter how patience is his wife, she will get to a stage she wont be able to carry more of the load and she will explode, and this could be bad.
And to some one who is not jealous at all, can make the woman feel that she is not that valuable to him and he is not counting her in his life, which might indicate that she is not important to him, and this can lead her to look for some one who she feels that she is counted in his life.

A man needs to balance his jealousy, not to take to the extreme and not to the insignificant.

*over protective, this is the same as over jealousy, it works out the same……

* Controller, A person who is a control freak will always lose people around him or her, it is a just a matter of time.

*having too much of something or having less out of something such as, if he was giving her every thing she wants and needs and I mean every thing without missing any thing then this can cause her to feel bored and lack of challenge in her life and might try to look for something else, and it goes the same with if she does not get any thing she needs or wants and she is in a contrary situation of the previous one, then she will want to start looking for something away from her bad situation, and get a better thing from some one else.
If the husband give his wife what she needs and tried to balance every thing with her, either materialistic or emotionally or even sexually then, you will never find this woman trying to look for any thing away from her husband because she will be satisfied as well as she will have a challengeable life.

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In brief, BALANCE is the KEY WORD; taking something into the extreme can kill and taking something into insignificant can make you a loser.

sometimes LOVE, does not serve your real needs in your life!

As what the Prophet [saaw] said, in a meaning of:

Women are like a stick if you bend it hardly it breaks, and if you lean it softly it get loose. You need to balance in what you are doing to keep them balanced and stay with you for long.

And not to forget that Women and Men are human, and they are not the same, and they will never be 2 people the same in this life no matter how close in their relation, in their thoughts, mind!

Some one might like it to be a hard life for them to enjoy it and some might like it a soft life and some might like it balanced and some might not want any thing in their life and they would prefer to live it a lifeless life!

We are different the same as the air, earth, leaf, water……etc

[Solafa]

hi,

can i just add something,

Feeling unsecure is the main factor that comes along with trust and the rest factors....... and it is as well a main factor in leading to go and start looking for a replacement! and its for both sides husband and wife....

[SteLLa]

1) Whats the main reason for lack of trust between couples?

lack of honesty .. couples should be honest with each other n ur partner should be the one u go to when u have problems or even just wanna talk .. there must be honesty between couples becoz without honesty, there is no trust.

2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

the main reason is if a woman feels like she cant be herself with her husband, she keeps pretending to be some1 else she isnt, even if she thinks its ok at the beginning, she'll get tired n betray him with som1 she feels comfortable with + this might sound silly but if the guy isnt clean enough n doesnt take good care of himself, it might cause his woman to betray him

[Her XLNC]

this might sound silly but if the guy isnt clean enough n doesnt take good care of himself, it might cause his woman to betray him


Oh no this is not silly...coz it can happen on the other way round too...

[el7ilwa]

1) Whats the main reason for lack of trust between couples?

Lack of confidence or self-esteem!

2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

Sorry, Not in my dictionary

[Her XLNC]

2) Whats the main reason for a woman to betray her husband/Boyfriend?

Sorry, Not in my dictionary


No...its in EVERY WOMANS DICTIONARY....then let me twist the Q abit...Whats the main reason for a man to betray his wife/GF?
and now do you have an answer 4 that...is it in ur dictionary...?! :eh: :bored:

[el7ilwa]

Sister what I meant cheating & betray is not excusable in my dictionary either for men or women! & ppl who take that way for any reason r sick minded ppl!!

Sorry but this is the truth!

[Her XLNC]

Oh ...If thats what you ment...then im sorry 4 attacking you like thAT...!!
i take back what eva i said!!

[mimosa]

Problem: She doesn't trust him.

Source: His new secretary is way hot and he seems to like being at work more than he used to.

Problem: She is wondering what it would be like to be with another man.

Source: He makes love like he's auditioning for "Rocky IV - The Opera"