Weddings are big and joyous occasions for Omanis!


In a brief:

Arranging one also takes quite a bit of preparation, starting when the prospective groom comes to ask for the lady's hand. The groom cannot come on his own. There must be other men in his family, especially his father, grandfathers or uncles, who accompany him to the home of the bride to speak with her father or guardian, but only after they have already received word that they are welcome to approach her father on such a subject.


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Memebers, i believe that many of us come from different regions and counties around Oman. Every corner of Oman has its own charectar/tradition/costum....etc

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My request in here, is to talk about how weddinngs/marriage proccess are been set from the first moment a man opens his mouth that he wants to get married upto the end of the whole proccess.

I will need a big help from you members to talk about them proccess and to explaine about them and if you could provide pictures related to what the groom and the bride do wear on such nights.:)

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The strategy of this thread is taht i will divid the thread in quite a few number of other threads, each thread is related to a proccess that is more likly to be titled as a general thing, but you could explaine more of it for example:


1) The initial talk

2) Official talk

3) Paying the Dowry

4) Bride's prepartaion

5)Groom's preparation

6) Melka/engagment party preparation

7) Wedding (night) party preaparation

8) After wedding party preparation


So, that means we have 7 more threads to be dicussed and information needs to be provided.

You are free to provide any information related to any of them threads :). But it will be nice if we went through all of them prossess in order so we wont miss much and we wont cause confusion.

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I am really hoping that i will get good participant from members in sabla, and to get good feedbacks as well..

Thank you in advance.

:angel: :love: :blush: :3mani: :flag:



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I would'nt want to get any disapointment :(

So this is part (1) The intila talk:


This is more related to the female talk relating to the proposal.
This stage is taken before any seriouse wordings between men are taken; to know if the girl will accept it or not to marry that guy!

So tell us, if you ever follow such method:

How is arranged?

How long would you take to answer back or to be answered back?

Who opens the subject with the girl is it the mother/sister/ aunty/ grandmother/ any other female member of the family....etc?


Any thing related to such proccess you coudl just flow us with them! :)

This is one of few issues I have no clue about it as all!!
So plz go on I would like to know more about these traditions it sounds interesting!!!

Sallam,

i am really disapointed about members not sharing in here, as if they dont have any culture or traditions or costum when it comes to such issue!

:( :cry: :angry: :bored:

Such a pity! :bomb:

Sallam

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I will be talking about how we deal with the initial talk in our family. As I have not witnessed the whole thing but more or less been told of how it works.:)

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In our family, if a male member wanted to get married then, he goes have a chat with his mum/sister/aunty/grandmother or any close female member in the family.

The female member then tries to know who he had chosen for him self, and if she is known or a familiar to the family or not, and if she is then the mission is easy. IF the bride is not known then need some hard work to get to that side!


Any way, if the female was a mother then she goes to inform the father with his son’s request, but nothing official has to be made and no Official talk is taking place yet.

The female will set them selves to arrange time to meet up with the female members of the bride’s family and have the initial talk in there. Things might go different than what we have in our family depending on the Tradition of the bride’s family.

If we were the bride’s family, then we will arrange and set the date to welcome the female members of the groom’s family.

Mostly the visit is set in the evening hours, coffee and any sweet stuff could be served or even serving dinner if possible. The aim of the visit usually hinted to the bride’s family before the arranged day.

Some female members from the bride’s family will gather on that night to welcome the visitors. In our family they could be the aunties and elder cousins or grandmothers. If we know the groom’s family then there is no need to introduce and the talk starts straightforward. Usually the eldest female within the group starts her talk and the request.

The bride doesn’t appear without the request of the groom’s family, where usually it takes place in most of the time. If the groom’s family don’t know the bride, then they will request her appearance before they start their talk about the proposal. And if they knew the bride before, then they will still ask for her appearance just to have a second look at her.

Then she has to disappear before the talk starts and all the discussion takes place. Then either there will be an agreed period of time to be given to the bride’s family to think and come back with an answer. These times can be days, weeks, and months or even could be hours depend on how quick the answer can come back from the Bride.

In our family it does not take that long, I think the maximum 3 weeks to answer back the request, either with a big YES or with a big NO.


After the agreement on a time, then the initial talk considers to be done, just waiting for the results. The groom’s family then leaves the house and wait.

The female will inform the father about the request and he or any other female member will go and ask the bride about what she thinks about the request and if she will accept or not. In our family usually the female members does the talking with the bride and hears her opinion about it.

IF the answer is yes then the father gets informed and if it was no still the father gets informed. The answer to the groom’s family can be done as soon as the bride’s family want, or they could wait until the day that they have agreed to give the reply.

When this is done, then the Official talk between the male members of both families must take place. When the answer of the initial talk is given to the groom’s female members of the family, a date could be set for the male members talk. Then this date is informed and agreed between the male members.

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This part will be explained in the next thread, which is related to the Official Talk Thread [part2].

hello,

I was expecting at least a reply or a comment in this thread..........

What a pity. :(

Hello,


Check Part (2) by Clicking the Below:

Official Talk (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31295) :)

well speaking on my initial talk, its quite different than what you mentioned.

My husbnad's uncle was the one who talked to my uncle since he knows him. My uncle came to my parents, asked him if he agrees to meet up with my husband's family .. my dad said ok, and a date is set .. and then came the official talk.

females of both families didnt meet until after my father gave the acceptence words.

I think it really depends on who knows who, my sister for example, her mother in law talked to my grandmother first and the other sister her mother in law talked to my mother.

well speaking on my initial talk, its quite different than what you mentioned.

My husbnad's uncle was the one who talked to my uncle since he knows him. My uncle came to my parents, asked him if he agrees to meet up with my husband's family .. my dad said ok, and a date is set .. and then came the official talk.

females of both families didnt meet until after my father gave the acceptence words.

I think it really depends on who knows who, my sister for example, her mother in law talked to my grandmother first and the other sister her mother in law talked to my mother.


Sallam dear A/P,

I do appreciate your reply in here, thank you.:)

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So it works out differently in your family according to who starts the talk!

intresting to know, that you have got different methods taken on board.:)

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awaiting for your share of the talk in other parts, specailly as you have experianced the whole thing.:)

hello,


Check Part [3]:

PAYING THE DOWRY (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31299)

salam, check part[4]:

The Bride's Preparation (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31525)