can anyone kindly tell me about the different parts and steps of marriages in Oman?

as i have noticed it takes many days...like men going to mosque and women going to the bride's house...and then there is the proper wedding ceremony....etc

r those traditions? what is the shortest islamic way of getting married? where do they sign the legal documents?

this is how we do our weddings:
1- malka: men at mosque ...sometimes the groom goes to the bride house or even to the hall where women are celebrating. the malka could be done one day before the wedding or sometimes few months apart.
2- wedding party:...100% women function :D (sometimes they malka at mosque is done on the same day)
3- lunch party:optional not many families throw a lunch party...and again its 100% women function.

kindly explain about what is exactly "malka"...

and what about the legal documents?

"malka" is when the "shiekh" marries the couple...i don't know the exact procedure cause i have never been to a men "malka" before.

its basicly men in the mosque and the guy infront of the shiekh and the shiekh asks him: qol qad qabilt flana bint flan alfulani zawjatan lak 3ala sunat allah warasuluh (say that you accept xxx bint xxx al-xxx as your wife in allah's sunnah and his prophet).. then he said na3am - yes , and then the shiekh asks him again and the guy says na3am-yes and the shiekh asks him last time and he says Na3am. In some traditions the guys behind the groom would give him a small hit :D

and he stands and greet the guests as a married man :)

as far as i know the melka is about accepting aqd el nekah o el zawaj el da'aem

kindly explain about what is exactly "malka"...

and what about the legal documents?

In Old days they were no such Documents Only Witness were more than a Document,

I thought it was an Imam who marries the couple? I understood that the Imam will also visit the bride prior to the melka to make 100% sure that this wedding is her decision and that she is not being forced...which I think is quite nice. I also understood that the mosque was a little bit more sacremental than what was described as I do believe there are some prayers that are said during this ceremony.

I don't know anything about documents being needed.

Nobody mentioned the henna party or is this strictly about the fastest way possible?

.. i have seen 5 marriage cases very close!! .. so after the agreements between the families or the secret going-on-talks!! ..

* the groom and the groom's big bosses *males closest relaives* will take the مليّيك or the engagge-er to the bride's house.

* the bride's parents and the bride will be there.. so the engagge-er will ask the bride then will ask her parents if she accepts and knows this marriage and the groom.. the engagge-er will say the name of the groom to her!!

* now both parties will confirm to the engagge-er when is the engaggement and wedding days.

* the groom will hand the dowery to the bride's father.. the money will counted so no misunderstanding occurs later on.. the dowery amount and how to hand it depends on the agreement between the two parties.. some of them will pay it once in one go.. some will pay it later on before the wedding.. depends on circumstances and agreements!!

* after hearing the bride and the brides acceptance abt the marriage.. the groom's bosses will ask the bride's father to give the engagge-er the permission to do the engaggment party!

>> now all things are clear to both parties.. so the groom party will be preparing for the engaggement party... and the groom relatives will start to invite thier friends and the whole world for the engaggement party lol.

* in th engaggement party.. usually the big bosses have to be there.. because later on they will be the witnesses at least 2 of them *i think lol*.

* in the engaggement party.. the groom will sit just infront of the engagge-er.. and the engagge-er will start reciting some stuff.. including the name his name and the the bride's name *usually till the 4th name* as Ap stated.. then they will just have Omani halwa, omani coffee and some vegetables and fruits!! .. done!!

* after this now the bride and groom are offically married .. so the groom will fill in some form called "marriage form" and will be signed by the witnesses with thier ID cards numbers on it.. and submitt it to the court to be registered!! *some will do this after the wedding*

* after this the two parties will be preparing for the wedding day.. wehenever they agreed to make it... and ageen the groom family and relatives will start to invite the whole world for the wedding day!!

.. thats it.. Happy Marriage :) .. dont forget to invite us ;)

* the groom will hand the dowery to the bride's father.. the money will counted so no misunderstanding occurs later on.. the dowery amount and how to hand it depends on the agreement between the two parties.. some of them will pay it once in one go.. some will pay it later on before the wedding.. depends on circumstances and agreements!!




how is the money given? in an envolpe? does the counting occur while the groom is present?

the way it happened in my family is that the female relatives of the groom will bring the dowry ( in addition to some gifts ) in a big bag or in a "mandoos" and hand it to the female relatives of the birde.

how is the money given? in an envolpe? does the counting occur while the groom is present?

the way it happened in my family is that the female relatives of the groom will bring the dowry ( in addition to some gifts ) in a big bag or in a "mandoos" and hand it to the female relatives of the birde.

In my mum's side, they do as you said above. The female relatives take the gifts and money in a mandoos to the bride.

My dad's side, however do it differently. The men take the money in an envelope the day that they go propose officially.

I prefer the first. The second sounds so much like a business deal or something!

how is the money given? in an envolpe? does the counting occur while the groom is present?

.. yeah just in an envelope .. then the birde's father will count the money.. then the engagge-er will ask the bride's father if the money are as greed.. just to confirm things..

.. the groom will be there but the bride not.. usually..

.. say the agreed amount of money is 4000 R.O. .. it's possible if the two parties agreed that the groom will hand say 2000 ro now.. and the rest just before the wedding day!! .. or any other time they agree on!!

ok thanks toomuchat for the info.

welllll im getting married soon.... but its getting to complicated.....

first when we hand the secret family talk thing :P although i know the girl long time back.
Secondly, when my mom and my aunts will go and see if the girl has agreed or not.
Thridly, my father and uncles and i will go for the official engagement.
Fourthly, The maher (money) along with gifts , and done by my mom and aunts,
then the milka is coming up for the guys in the mosque.
Finally! the wedding day.

walla i feel as if its a long process!!!

^^ it is ... but u dont have to worry since ur Royalty u will have wasta :P

i dont want a big salfa.. lol everything is arranged by females... n we males would go just for tradition,, n the dad would ask the dad of the lady that we're intrested to marry our son to ur daughter.. n they gon say yes. n thats 5o6oooba,,


ba3dain el 7aq. which is the "mahr" plus each member of the grooms family n cuzins would get the bride a precious gift.

after that the malkah in the mosque,, where the dad n the brothers of the bride dont attend..

w ba3dain 7ina and in the 7na,, the bride's face wont appear, and her two closest aunties would put 7na for her and then the groom and his brothers n cuzins ( only youngies 15-30 ) will come and through money in a basket infront of the brides legs.. this money will go to the traditional band or to the 5admat..


the zafa day the groom and his dad would be waiting in the house n his relatives will go n bring the bride from her house and some relatives of the bride would come along, specifically her close aunties will be sitting with her in the car. but the mum doesnt go. n then in the grooms house they gather in one big hall n a man read quran n then music is played outside n everyone dance ( include me :p) n the groom n bride go somewhere upstairs :p lol... hehe

the following day is called " el m5abrah " for females.. so Any female wanna see the bride, go say hi to her w have lunch over.. n the males have a public lunch on the mosque or sabla..

the following day, the groom takes the bride to her house without anyone knows, n there she will be able to see her dad n mum for the first time after getting married..

tota tota,, 5il9it el 7atota,, this is our weddings.. lol

HiTMaN.. whts the deal with marriage questions..:think: planning for something this summer??:hbd:

^^ it is ... but u dont have to worry since ur Royalty u will have wasta :P


akeed akeed...i dnt like waiting..!!

i think in most cases there is the milka which was explained above
then you have the henna party
then the official wedding party..

however the balushi families have celebrations for a whole week !

there is first the jalo ( i think) where the bride is covered and put behind a curtain and she stays there for the week.. and dancing music etc at the bride's house
then there is the second day where they put this smelly goo in her hair ( i hate the smell) and the women come and put gold coins in her hair and the groom comes and her face is covered and the women of the family put sandal ( a yellow powder) on the groom and tear his dishdasha (don't ask me why)
then the bride's henna
then the groom's henna (yes you heard me right)
the the official wedding day
by that time the bride is half dead because she is so tired lol...

^^wow..i would luv to be in a balushi wedding...and see all that..lol

^^ go to Gabrooh :D

I went to a wedding a few years back...in africa..an indian friend of mine was getting married..it lasted for i tink 5-7 days..it was nice..and so much fun :)