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Turn off or turn on?
I was reading this advice page for men; on how to attract women and the adviser claims that women find men who are surrounded by women attractive and challenging. If he's getting loads of phone calls from gorgeous women or they are all over him at a party; he's the center of attraction for every woman! Now that got me thinking.. if this is true, is it because a lot of women think that if so many girls hang on his every word there must be something great about him?
But a couple months back a collegue of mine told me she liked actors who were in movies without women, like the ones who did the action stuff but you didn't see them shagging anyone.
So which is it.. do women like a guy who attracts other women? Or do they like the guy who doesn't? Is it a turn on or a turn off to see a guy surrounded by a bunch of giggling girls?
X-press
15-03-05, 11:21 PM
For me it is a turn off to see a man surrounded constantly by many women and enjoying their company, unless I can clearly see that he is embarrassed by this situation and does not know how to get out of it.
I would never be interested in a man simply because I noticed that he is so popular with women. That would be so shallow! I might be curious to know why so many females are interested in him, but nothing more than that.
I don't know if I would call it 'turn on', but it can be an interesting 'challenge' or a 'test' to see a man, I really like, surrounded occasionally by a female and her full attention.
What if he has lots of female friends who just think he's great but there's no boning involved?
Blossom
16-03-05, 12:12 AM
its kinda a challange to win over someone who can have any girl he wants, but wining is not the end of it, you will still have to work on keeping the girls away from him which is a hassle i don't think i can go through.
so although its tempting, a man who is a babe magnet is not my cup of tea :D
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 12:18 AM
...and a girl whos a guy-magnet is definitely not worth the effort.
What if he has lots of female friends who just think he's great but there's no boning involved?
It would be a sure turn off for me... I like a guys guy only.
As for the boning.. well that's just disgusting! Forget turn off, that would wipe him out forever!
...and a girl whos a guy-magnet is definitely not worth the effort.
Why not? Care to explain?
I don't mean one who only hangs out with girls, I mean one who hangs with guys but also has platonic and genuine female friends.
P.S Sorry for the vulgar expression. I really must remember where I am sometimes. Bad mimo.
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 12:32 AM
Well, if the same situation applies (she enjoys their company in that kind of way), its just like...ok, the natural inclination, for me anyway, is to use a term that isnt allowed on sabla. Even if its a bit extreme. Thats just how I feel.
Same way u feel about guys like that! :cute:
Well I don't know about the other girls.. but I haven't got any guy friends and don't see the need for them either, so I'm more comfortable with someone like myself (substituting the girls for guys though).
Well, if the same situation applies (she enjoys their company in that kind of way), its just like...ok, the natural inclination, for me anyway, is to use a term that isnt allowed on sabla. Even if its a bit extreme. Thats just how I feel.
I would use the same term for the guy :D I like them proper and conservative (in those ways anyway).
Well, if we are just talking about friends, then maybe best not to judge on that and find more important criteria for a partner.
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 12:51 AM
Turn off or turn on?
So which is it.. do women like a guy who attracts other women? Or do they like the guy who doesn't? Is it a turn on or a turn off to see a guy surrounded by a bunch of giggling girls?
I really can't say. A man who does not attract other women is a turn off for me, as it would mean to be that he is undesirable, that I won't have a 'prize', a man other women won't see as great to be with. It would be as though I had picked the 'loser'.
On the other hand, a man who was too desirable, would also be a turn off, as it would be very hard to trust him (sorry but that's true!). I mean normal men who don't have much going for them we can't trust, trusting a man who was that desirable would be double the work. I would feel very unsafe and unsettled in the relationship, having not much security.
Truth is, I want someone who is desirable, but not someone much more desirable than me. I want him to see me as the 'prize', not me seeing him as the 'catch/prize' (although secretly I might).
Basically he should be the one chasing me thinking I am the beauty queen, no matter how handsome he is, so that I feel secure and this man only wants me.
Sophis I get what you're saying, every girl wants to feel the blessing of having a guy who think she's the WORLD and he's lucky to have her.. unfortunately most girls don't get that :(
To answer my own question, if I were at a party the guy who was the center of attention wouldn't get a second glance (perhaps for the reasons sophie mentioned perhaps others..) but the guy standing alone, watching everyone else & looking uncomfortable (the loner) would get my attention.
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 01:03 AM
To answer my own question, if I were at a party the guy who was the center of attention wouldn't get a second glance (perhaps for the reasons sophie mentioned perhaps others..) but the guy standing alone, watching everyone else & looking uncomfortable (the loner) would get my attention.
As for me, they both wouldn't. The guy who would really get my attention was the one who appealed to me physically. You know his looks. And then whether he is charming or not, and has the courage to come over to talk to me and swoon me. :p
CrazyReD
16-03-05, 01:25 AM
Niggy what age was it?
Cause I think the younger the female is the more she'll be attracted to such thing but as she grows older she realizes it's just stupid
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 01:41 AM
Niggy what age was it?
Cause I think the younger the female is the more she'll be attracted to such thing but as she grows older she realizes it's just stupid
Attracted to what?
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 01:46 AM
I think he means attracted to those who everyone else is attracted to. Which makes a lot of sense, Im inclined to agree...as u get older, u kinda realise thats not really so important. I fink.
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 02:10 AM
I think he means attracted to those who everyone else is attracted to. Which makes a lot of sense, Im inclined to agree...as u get older, u kinda realise thats not really so important. I fink.
Don't think so. You don't get attracted to a man, because everyone else around you is attracted to him. All these women ARE attracted to him, coz he is a natural magnet. He is a charmer and oozes sex appeal, I guess.
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 02:14 AM
No but you notice it with younger people...the attraction is related to status, at least status in their eyes.
CrazyReD
16-03-05, 02:51 AM
yeah what pt said lets say this guy is alone you won't notice him but then you'll see him a 2nd time surrounded by crazy females you'll be like there must be something to him otherwise he won't attract much and one thing will lead to another
you should be worrying about his attitude instead of the constant women who are around him. men like that are usually vain and very stuck up..and care about no one but themselves thinking that they are better than the rest and that they can have whatever and whomever they want.
CrazyReD
16-03-05, 03:13 AM
well maybe he dosn't want to be surrounded by all the females
for e.g a celebrity o all he has no control over who crowds him
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 03:19 AM
men like that are usually vain and very stuck up..and care about no one but themselves
What???!!!!!
Not true. I knew a guy, who the girls were chasing after and always with him. He was the sweetest and most down to earth guy ever.
Not true. I knew a guy, who the girls were chasing after and always with him. He was the sweetest and most down to earth guy ever.
Maybe they want his money and not his body!
Anyway I wonder why women consider a man who got many relations as a perfect husband for them, such men won't be loyal to their wives and will cheat on her at any time.
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 01:48 PM
Maybe they want his money and not his body!
Not really, he was charming, genuine and sweet, that's what they liked about him.
You may need to explain those three words to my brother :D
What if he has lots of female friends who just think he's great but there's no boning involved?
I knew a guy like that, man he could be the best friend of any girl and I mean any!
Never a BF though :bored: poor thing, he used to start well and before you know it, he was skewed by this higher power as if he was driving his car ; out of no where it starts skidding and no longer has he any control over it. All that could be done is to wait for the BANG moment and hope the he gets out of it in one piece:
No more than a month of any relationship he comes up panicking to me. “ She said the L sentence.”
Heaven knows what a nightmare this sentence was to every man who fancied a lady:
Let's just be friends :XD:
Maybe he is not pressing the right buttons.
marshmallowhut
16-03-05, 02:45 PM
*lol*
Personally I would notice a guy who was surrounded by females and had them fawning over him. However, this doesn't necessarily mean that I'll think there's something great or nice about him.. He could just be one of those guys who throws money around and hence the gorgeous girls..But most of the time when a guy is surrounded by females and they actually seem comfortable with him, he's more of a friend to them than anything else.
But in the end, a guy with too many female friends whom he is very close to would just drive me crazy..
Haroundb
16-03-05, 03:13 PM
If we (men) can apply the same thing to women (surrounded with men) then it is more like (sorry for the metaphor) flies. You can find lots of flies hovering over a sweet little candy lollypop or hovering over a piece of “$h|t”… it all depends on the material of that thing they are hovering over...!
Sorry for the bad words.. I do think they are expressive.
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 03:33 PM
Maybe he is not pressing the right buttons.
Exactly......
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 03:35 PM
Perhaps hes better off not pressing the right buttons, so as not to have to go through bullsh!t and some serious *****-pain later in life!
Haroundb
16-03-05, 03:44 PM
That was fun Read.. I didn't read your post but I did now! :)
sometimes "Let's just be friends" is better than "I don't want to see your **** face".
sophis^catrina
16-03-05, 03:47 PM
Perhaps hes better off not pressing the right buttons, so as not to have to go through bullsh!t and some serious *****-pain later in life!
Nope, not that. It's just something abt his personality that you can't see him as more than friends.
I have many of those male friends, although they are great and you can talk to them for hrs, I just can't see them as more than friends.
Bottom line: Is whether the girl is attracted to him or not, and whether she seems him to be compatible. Normally at first you might see him attractive, and then when you get to know him further, you realise you're no longer attracted and he is not the type you want to end up with.
One of my male friends, I could talk to night and day and he used to love talking to me. It would sometimes go up to 8 hrs a day. But when it comes to him being a bf, I was just not attracted to him thatway. hell no. Seriously, no way.
Strange, you know you love being in the company of someone, but if you don't talk to that person for a while and you don't miss him at all. For girls, that means you aren't attracted to him. If you do miss him... then you are...
Pineapple Thief
16-03-05, 04:48 PM
Oh no, I was just making a general comment. In most cases, he should probably be thankful that hes got them as friends, and not trying to seduce him. Not a judgement about his personality or his desirability...just a normative statement.
marshmallowhut
16-03-05, 05:00 PM
This is just a personal opinion and I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same...
When you're friends with a member of the opposite sex for a prolonged period of time, say a few years, does it seem absolutely impossible afterwards to consider him/her as a bf/gf?
Does the relationship get to a point where you're so comfortable being just friends that nothing else seems possible?~
I agree with you Marshie. Always seems that way to me when you've known someone as a close friend for years. Sometimes if you're just friends it can turn into something else after a while. But I think that after years it would be much less likely.
No but you notice it with younger people...the attraction is related to status, at least status in their eyes.
Very True , I was at this wedding last year , i've noticed all the young gurls aged from 11 to 15 were all over Husain Jasmi !! I swear the whole time i was just wondering to myself WHAT ist that these gurls see in him.. i mean they were going crazy about him , i don't see him abit good looking plus he is soo GIANT! but the comments that i heard from lille gurls , he is sweet and Gentle!! Oh well!
I seriously don't get attracted to a guy who has the label of "MOST WANTED MAN", if everybody finds him special , for some reason i don't find him special , i'de rather be with a guy who's just normal to others and ONLY special to me :) .
fatamooo
17-03-05, 04:50 PM
I like it when guys are a bit awkward around girls, just a little bit - it's endearing :).
But if a guy is surrounded by girls, I would also be intrigued, but wouldn't be turned on or something just because of that; maybe he's a player or something I don't know for sure.
Darkness babe
17-03-05, 05:05 PM
I don think I'd like the guy or find him that attractive if he's always surrounded by women. I mean it depends if he's just hanging out with them to show off or are they just friends you know?
Libellula
19-03-05, 12:00 AM
Turn off or turn on?
So which is it.. do women like a guy who attracts other women? Or do they like the guy who doesn't? Is it a turn on or a turn off to see a guy surrounded by a bunch of giggling girls?
Well I can't speak for all the women in the world, but personally, if I liked a guy who was constantly being chased by girls, I'd find it exciting and challenging trying to get his attention and make him notice me.
When you know that you have something in the palm of your hand, it just seems terribly unexciting and you don't want it anymore. People always want what they can't have, or what they can have, but with lots of hard work and effort.
I know some girls who were never interested in certain guys, until they found out that there were other girls after him, then it's like all of a sudden they want the guy for themselves.
Libellula
19-03-05, 12:04 AM
This is just a personal opinion and I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same...
When you're friends with a member of the opposite sex for a prolonged period of time, say a few years, does it seem absolutely impossible afterwards to consider him/her as a bf/gf?
Does the relationship get to a point where you're so comfortable being just friends that nothing else seems possible?~
I totally agree! I've got quite a few guy friends who I've knows for over 10 years, and I'm extremely close to some of them, but I can never seem them as more than just friends. I can't even imagine having any sort of romantic feelings towards them. Sounds totally weird.
Angel_Eyes
06-04-05, 01:35 PM
Hi...
I would have to say that just because all woman want one man,it doesnt mean that he's the best or he's good! People shouldn't follow what other people do! It's better to take the lead in things! What? So if people start jumping out windows people will do the same?? Who knows,people these days dont use their minds!They depend on others! What a shame!
To be honest, I think most guys would agree with me ... that they would rather hang out with guys - not because they are backstreet boys ... but because they can talk freely and without worry of sexual tension or miscommunication which they woud have in women's company.
However, every so often you meet a chick who is truly liberated and does not feel threatened or intimidated with being 100% honest on wide variety of "touchy" subjects ... they can be true friends.
Regardless, any physical attraction (both ways) and mental compatibility will lead to something less than Halal ... no matter how you slice it.
Invariably, less issues arise when you chill with your own gender ... let us not kid ourselves when we say our "partner for life is also going to be our best friend for life too." They maybe many things ... but they don't have be to your close friends too in every aspect ... that's the job of your close friends.
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