View Full Version : When The Signs Are Everywhere
Libellula
14-03-05, 05:51 PM
Let's say there was this girl called Moza, and this guy called Khamees.
Moza knows that Khamees likes her, because Khamees's friends have told her, and also, Moza's friends have noticed all the attention Khamees gives her.
However, Moza doesn't like Khamees back. Although she does spend a lot of time with him, and they talk for hours and hours, she thinks of him as a friend only.
After a while it becomes even more obvious that Khamees likes Moza, because his friends and her friends crack jokes about them two being a couple in front of them. Moza just laughs and finds everything funny, but Khamees seems to be taking things seriously.
What should Moza do?
Should she pretend that she doesn't know that Khamees likes her? Or should she confront him and tell him that she doesn't want him to get the wrong impression, and she just wants to be friends with him.. and nothing more.
Ya Moza tell the guy! Stop laughing about it when the family and friends make jokes too. Just make a serious face and say "hey, stop that..it's not right, we are just friends and I don't want people to say these things about me".
It's not fair on Khamees, and it's not fair for Moza to get herself a reputation as a tease. Moza should stop playing along with it and be very firm before someone gets hurt. And maybe she should take a little step back from her friendship with Khamees too - be polite, and even friendly, but no more long, deep, meaningful conversations.
Personally , I think Moza should ignore it and pretend that she knows nothing about Khamees infatuation . Untill he confronts her about his feeling , then Moza should tell him that she wants him as a friend only !
i feel sorry for this khamees guy , i want to cry ...
this moza is not good for him , she is not a friend .. if she was she would do something about it . at least tell him about her feelings so he knows where to stop
sophis^catrina
14-03-05, 06:19 PM
Or should she confront him and tell him that she doesn't want him to get the wrong impression, and she just wants to be friends with him.. and nothing more.
This one. ;)
Libellula
14-03-05, 07:11 PM
It's not fair on Khamees, and it's not fair for Moza to get herself a reputation as a tease. Moza should stop playing along with it and be very firm before someone gets hurt. And maybe she should take a little step back from her friendship with Khamees too - be polite, and even friendly, but no more long, deep, meaningful conversations.
But what if Moza has lots of guy friends, and Khamees isn't the only person she has long conversations with? She hasn't really sent him any wrong signals since she's not just giving him all the attention.
Is she still being a tease?
I think she's just being friendly.
Libellula
14-03-05, 07:13 PM
i feel sorry for this khamees guy , i want to cry ...
this moza is not good for him , she is not a friend .. if she was she would do something about it . at least tell him about her feelings so he knows where to stop
But what's wrong with pretending that she has no clue what is going on? Maybe she's too shy to confront Khamees.
Libellula
14-03-05, 07:15 PM
This one. ;)
The easiest way for her to set things straight is to do as Mimo says; act all serious when their friends start joking about them, right?
I don't think Moza can just bring up the subject out of the blue and talk to Khamees about it. It would be very awkward.
I think khamees should go with his father khalfan and propose officially to moza father Marhoon. And then khamees would know Moza reaction.
sophis^catrina
14-03-05, 07:50 PM
I think khamees should go with his father khalfan and propose officially to moza father Marhoon. And then khamees would know Moza reaction.
ROFL! Icey, these are school children having infatuations, not grown adults wanting something that serious! :D
fatamooo
14-03-05, 07:54 PM
Lol :p - going to the parents isn't always (or hardly is ever :p) the best solution...
I was in a situation like this I think twice before, and I don't know how to handle them at all!!! I just don't know how to say no, but I managed to get out of it without accepting any dates OR proposals *phew*! :p
This is what I did though: avoided these people a bit more than my other friends, stayed friendly, but a kind of small-talk friendly, fake high-pitched laughs *shame*, and just slowly distancing myself from them. Eventually, they came and asked me, what's up, you seem angry, and I would be like, no what are you talking about we're good FRIENDS man!!! we're the coolest FRIENDS ever, dude, you're such a good FRIEND, why would I be mad? And then they would be like oh ok I get the hint :p
Ok it's really lame, and I hurt a few people too, but I fear confrontation :os.. so SUE me :D
ROFL! Icey, these are school children having infatuations, not grown adults wanting something that serious! :D
In that case then ignore the kid coz he is looking for fun :6:
Moza doesn't have to confront khamees abt it becuase she is not supposed to know he likes her I guess! Moza should just act as if she knows nothing and try and convince khamees is no more than a good friend in different ways.
Javeed Baboo
14-03-05, 09:54 PM
moza can be considered as a bad girl because she plays with his hearte and khamis is
a victim in her spideric webs,moza must say her truth feelings for khamis or else
khamis will probably die.
Pineapple Thief
14-03-05, 09:57 PM
Moza should tell her friends to get the message across to Khamees' friends that Moza doesnt like him. Or Moza's friends should tell Khamees 'look, she doesnt know, but we know you like her, but shes not interested. Shes your friend, but nothing more. Sorry mate.'
Libellula
14-03-05, 11:00 PM
Moza should tell her friends to get the message across to Khamees' friends that Moza doesnt like him. Or Moza's friends should tell Khamees 'look, she doesnt know, but we know you like her, but shes not interested. Shes your friend, but nothing more. Sorry mate.'
This sounds like the best approach
Libellula
14-03-05, 11:02 PM
moza can be considered as a bad girl because she plays with his hearte and khamis is
a victim in her spideric webs,moza must say her truth feelings for khamis or else
khamis will probably die.
oh well, poor Khamees
We all die at some point anyway :p
X-press
14-03-05, 11:13 PM
I believe many members gave many good advises here and there is not much to add. To my opinion, Moza can do two things:
Option #1:
1) As she often has very long conversations with Khamees and spend a lots of time with him, she could one day during a talk with him, casually "hint" that she found silly the jokes their friends make. She could even ask his opinion, by already affirming that he must probably feel like her. This hint should make him understand that she is not really interested.
However, when Moza is with her friends or with Khamess friends, she should not laugh everytime they crack jokes about her and Khamees being a couple. Such laughs might give khamess also some wrong signals or impressions. Moza should show her friends that she is not quite please with their jokes and eventually ask them to stop.
Option #2:
2) She can also choose not to confront Khamess and pretend that she has not noticed anything. However, like in case 1) she should not laugh when her or his friends crack jokes about them being a couple. She should take this opportunity of being in group to tell everyone openly that it is silly to make such jokes, when she will only remain Khamess good friend. She can add something very nice about this friendship so he doesn't feel too bad.
marshmallowhut
15-03-05, 08:41 AM
*lol* some of the responses are absolutely hilarious.. :)
Well.. I don't think Moza is being a tease or anything. However, upon finding out that Khamees actually likes her in some way.. she should either get mutual friends to tell him that she is not interested.. or hint to him subtley.. if he doesn't get it.. then confront him and let him know.. if he STILL doesn't get it.. then good luck Moza ;)
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