Relationships where one person is WAY more attractive.

[Libellula]

I think that appearance is a not-so-small part of any relationship. It seems like an integral part of starting one off...since we tend to judge each other by physical merits on first encounters.

I admit that there have been times when I'd see two people together, and one is so much better looking than the other. As shallow as this sounds, I sometimes find myelf thinking, "What does s/he see in him/her??!"

I've heard it said that one should be wary of overly attractive people; that they come with their own set of problems. If one person gets so much attention from the opposite sex, it could affect the other person's self esteem and trust for their partner.

Do you think that good-looking people should only go for those who are as good-looking as they are, in order to avoid "problems"?

What sort of problems do you think could arise in a relationship when one person is so much better looking than the other?

[X-press]

I actually admire a good looking person who ends up with someone who is not at all, as this shows that he or she sees beyond the physical appearance and gives more importance to the personality or character of their partner.

Why should good looking people limit their choice to partners like them? Look at Brad Pitt and Jennifer Anniston, they are both good looking but does this mean that they are no problem or that their marriage worked?

[Libellula]

But wouldn't the less good looking person feel a bit envious, and then this would lead to bigger problems?

When I said "less good looking" I meant REALLY less good looking. Below average..

Please do not bring up the, "but what is beautiful?" thing... Generally, when a person is reasonably good-looking most people can agree about it.

[PhaHaDde]

Salam,

There are more important things than looks. What if the person is good looking but dumb? What if the person is not good looking but intelligent?
Humans are not perfect. God doesn't give everything to one person. A person may have everything, but lack one important thing.
I remember a story of Alja7idh if am not mistaken. He is known to be a bright clever man, but he wasn't good looking. When he decided to marry, he married a woman who was beautiful, but she wasn't clever, I could say she was somehow a dumb. His idea was to produce a baby who is good looking & clever. Unfortunately when he got a baby, the baby was ugly like him & dumb like his mother. I guess that was his luck. Anyways we should thank God for the most important thing which is health. We should care more about health. Good Looks & money are less important compared to health.

Regards..

[Enigma]

I'm really not into looks; personally I think most ppl are beautiful in their own ways (most; you do get your ugly guy in once in awhile.. women are never ugly though :cute: ).

I liked what Xpress said, and I would probably also see the person as more admirable because it shows he/she isn't shallow.

However, there seems to be set qualities that we look for. Things like: beauty, intelligence, sense of humour, strength, kindness... etc. So whatever one person lacks in they'll make up in another of those grand qualities. And like some of you said, the wife might not be a beauty like her handsome husband but she's probably great at something else.

[Soulless]

some how i agree with Birdy.
couples must be equally Attractive in order to avoid any unexpected problems ..

[Blue_Chi]

It is problematic to those that do not trust their partners, if you trust your partner nothing can happen for you, in fact, you can brag that you have the most beautiful wife/handsome husband instead of complaining about it.

[Abs]

Yes there will always be a problem when one is good looking and the other is not. What could happen is that the good looking partner may get more attention from elsewhere too whereas the not so good looking one yearns it only from the trusted partner.

Saying that, no i dont believe that the goodlooking should go after the goodlooking ones. Because once this happens, it shows that they went for the looks, when in the end it's all about love.

[sophis^catrina]

Do you think that good-looking people should only go for those who are as good-looking as they are, in order to avoid "problems"?



Not necessarily true. She could be extremely beautiful and him, although ugly and old, very rich. :Shock:

The thing is whether a relationship will succeed or not, really depends on one factor- confidence. You might be ugly, but if you're rich, you already feel as though you have other things that others may not have, and will not feel threatened. If you're smart, you'll have people looking up to you and knowing you from a distance.

Everyone has got their own gifts, you don't have to just weigh up good-looking to just 'good-looking', you could weigh it up to 'sexually attractive', 'genius', 'wealthy', 'important person', 'not the plain person, who can actually see past the good looks to the soul' 'kind' 'monogmous'.

We all have our own gifts and if the other person recognizes that and reminds you daily that you have not been taken for granted, but you are of so much value to them and thus you are both confident enough, then there should not be a problem.

[Libellula]

I see Metal Priest is back from the dead.

[Her XLNC]

well looks hasnt been my #1 option...looks after all do fade away right...

Personality is what I'm talkin about...

if a person has a GREAT personality then they'r beautiful in everyway..:D

[Jade]

I admit that there have been times when I'd see two people together, and one is so much better looking than the other. As shallow as this sounds, I sometimes find myelf thinking, "What does s/he see in him/her??!"

What some people find unattractive others find attractive!!!! People differ in their tastes…
I think that appearance decides if you'll approach someone initially if you don't already know them…
However, there has to be more than just “good looks”… maybe a hint of charm, a flash of that sense of humor, a certain gleam in the eyes, just something that will spark one’s interest.
Attraction comes first and is related to looks. Love (in my opinion) comes later and is all about personality. :)