After divorce ( Islam vs Society )

[ToomuchaT]

.. i was confused where to put this topic.. but i guess im on the right track!!

.. i dont have lots of ideas about whats the status of a couple after divorce .. especially if they have kids..

.. what's the relationship or what r the limits that this couple should stick by?

.. for example, how about taking kids togather for a walk or a picnic and the couple togather?

.. is it that divorce means man and women r stranger to each other after divorce?? :think:

.. also.. what is the society point of view in this matter??

.. plz get us educated with ur information and knowledge about this issue!

[Arabian Princess]

intresting ..

Islamicly speaking, the guy becomes a stranger .. and any meeting with him shouldnt be while the two are alone .. I think ..


Society restricts any meeting between the couple .. with or without mahram according to what I know.

[Wardat_il'7leej]

I would think that religiously that the man becomes a non-mu7rim to her since there is nothing bonding them and any meeting between them would be non-advisable, yet there are a lot of divorces who meet and talk to each other for the sake of their children.....

I dont really know the actual ruling on this

[um albanin]

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.. what's the relationship or what r the limits that this couple should stick by?

.. for example, how about taking kids togather for a walk or a picnic and the couple togather?

.. is it that divorce means man and women r stranger to each other after divorce?? :think:

.. also.. what is the society point of view in this matter??



1. The rules are the same as before marrige.they are not married any more & so they not to be togeather without a grown up third party.


2. Not acceptible.

3. yes they are strangers .

4. usually our society take more precousion than what Islam teaches us ,because people tend to talk around about this relation, it could be a pure freindship for the kids sake but No one would say that when the couples are seen in public togeather..Islam also said that we shouldnt keep ourselves in such position.

This story from school days:
The Prohet Mohammad (SAAW) was walking one evening with one of his wives, when a man saw them togeather,they greated each other,& walk away. But the Prophet went back & he told the man that the lady was his wife. & he told him so , so he his mind doesnt think something else.

No One would ver think badly on the prophet. yet he insisted in explaing the truth.

[shamsery]

The caption draws my attention.
After Divorce , OK , I understand.
But, could not understand the concept of Islam vs Society
There are different societies, up holding different values, practicing different custom.
For Muslim, Um albanin, has explained very nicely.

[ToomuchaT]

.. Ap, wardah and um albanin, thanx for the provided knowldge ladies..

.. the reason of up bringing such topic when i was watching some programme on the tv (english) .. i mean the divorced couple here might meet up each other and go out with thier kids and stuff.. generally normal married couple apart from not sleeping togather!!

.. according to my limitted understanding that islam consider them as a complete strangers to each other and cant meet togather unless there is a 3rd party presence..

.. the society we live in as u mentioned in ur replies that restrict the couple gathering and higgh-light the term "restrict" in this case.. and it might lead to a matter of disgrace if they were spotted togather.. coz ppl will start buggin them with gossips-only god knows where those ppl got them -and make life even worse for them..

.. the only point that remain here.. the kids.. or in another word the "scape goat" for this issue .. it would be a difficult situation to balance between "makin them feel that thier parents are there for them" and " how to make the parent semi-togather"!!

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salaam brother shamsery .. thnx for ur comment bro..

.. the reason of that title is that where islam does stand and what the society does influance on the islamic status .. coz i really cant treat the situation just from one point of view.. i believe that society within religion and vis versa!! .. so different societies have different point of view different .. but in the limit of the islamic teachings!

[mimosa]

I don't really see any need for them to "spend time together" anyway. What for?! When my soon-to-be-ex-wife drops the kids off, she's welcome to pop in and have a cup of coffee before she drives all the way back again, but we're not going for a walk in the park and a picnic together! She goes, I take the kids. End of story.

It's not that we have an acrimonoius relationship and are fighting, on the contrary we deal with things in a very reasonable way. It's just that we're not together any more. So why would we act like we are?!