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[malak84]

Salam everyone ...:)

what would you choose and why...? after the marrige .

living with the husbend family house(cos they depend on him in everything) becouse i love my husbend so i can manege staying with his family.......?

or, Even if i love him i wont accept marriyng him unless he's accepting us to stay in different house...?

what about the boys we need your opinion in living in your perents house with family is better or have your own place..?

:angel:

[PhaHaDde]

Salam,

I definitely would prefer living in my own house. Although the first days of marriages are only two of you with no kids, but privacy is required for more enjoyment between the two. You have the whole house instead of only the room. You two can do anything you want together without interfering from anyone. You can pay your both parents a visit anytime especially during the week-end.
In some cases it may be good to stay away to avoid any problem might raise between the husband's mother & the wife.

Cheers..

[malak84]

hello phahadde:)

Yes thats true as most people will take it that way .....

thank you for your opinion ,....

let see the others

[sophis^catrina]

I need to be the woman of the house.

I would do milka if he wasn't financially able yet. But only big wedding when we are prepared to live together in our own place.

[HaYa]

My own house , I love the idea of being the master of your own house, no restrictions and most importantly Privacy with my husband :love: .

[EarThQuaKe]

I chose my own house. :)

Family rules. :D

[Storm]

of course i will choose my own house ,,, i can do what ever i wana do with out other saying that this is right and this is wrong even if they are my own family ,,, its nice to try by my own and learn and have new experince in life ,,, and of course i wana have my free with my husband alone to enjoy our time without others :rolleyes: :hehe:

and sure we can still help hius family and visit them as much as he want without affecting our life togther :D

[*NK 105*]

Well if there are some sort of financial issues of some sort, then and only then i wouldn't mind staying at the in-laws for a WHILE..
But i don't think i would be able to stand living there for more than 2-3 weeks.. even THAt is alot!
So definitely my own house, my rules, the way I want thangs to be done :)

[ToomuchaT]

.. in the first stage i will live with my family *own apartment style*.. thats somehow alone but still in the main family house..

.. but then i will just switch to my own house... coz marriage life always requires a huge amount of privacy to sort out the ups and downs in that relationship!

.. *personal thought!*.. living among the family is much better than livivng away from them for many reasons that our daily life requiers!

[The brain.]

Ideally

In my own house and nearby ma family one… at least..I can taste meals everyday from both houses..

[Pineapple Thief]

I want my family close-by, but not in the same house. In the same city, yeah, but not the same house :os

[IceTea]

I will go with toomuchat opinon first few years with the family then latter own house.

[toxic_honey]

it waouldn't be aproblem if the wife lived in her husband's famliy home..
but only 4 the first yaer..then they gotta get ahouse.hhehe

i just wanna be with my husband in our own house...:D

[Solafa]

Sallam sis:)


I just saw this thread now, :o sorry


Well from my side, i would prefer to have my own nest/house, to build it and develope it in my own way without the interfering of any other memeber of the family.

but if we really had to start our marriage life in the family house then i will make sure it is not going to be for long and try my best to provide somewhere for us to have our own.

Sometimes we will have to accept some members of the family to be living with us, which i wouldnt mind; but the reasons behind that member to live with us has to be strong, and the personality of that person shouldnt clash with mine, so we wont end up have a cold war in the house instead of a peacfull life:)

[DeSerTDesTroYeR]

That will totally depends on the situation of my family's house. Of course I perfer to be living in our own house. But if the family house had enough space and there werent anyone but my parents (example all other siblings married and living on their own), then I rather live in the house with my parents. Cause I think its a little bit selfish to leave them all alone, while am fully enjoying myself on my own... as that be the time for me to take care of them. After all the years they took care of me.

UNLESS! ..They were in good health (inshallah) and wanted to live together, with no kids in the house :p to enjoy their life without the hassle of worry directly about us.

[Enigma]

This isn't about "love"; realistically speaking both of you would not have the actual 'married' life were you to live with his or your parents. There's no privacy and no independence.

No way would I agree on that; if we cannot afford it then we wait.

[Lym]

The first year of marriage is the hardest as I being told , upon all that you dont need the interference of the in - laws. I mean , it is all about pressure at the end, like to please the mother and law ..or so and so. Some people might not be themselves when other people are around them. :rolleyes:
I prefer my own house , so at least we could grow with one another showing the real us and adapting to eachother without the presence of other people.

[Mystique]

i think it depends.. nothing is ever straight fwd..

depends on the couple's financial situation .. maybe its better to save the rent and take a loan and build a house.. so in the meantime stay with his family..

also depends on your relationship with his mother in law..

how many siblings does he have ?

is his father still living? if not and he is the only son then how can he leave his mother alone?? especially if he has no sisters as well or his only sister is abroad completing her studies or married.. ??

there are so many considerations when it comes to marriage

[Lucaria]

i'll let HIM live with my in MY parents' place :D....he marries me, he marries my family :S....

[Paradise Babe]

My own house ofcourse..

[Blessed]

It's (almost) always better having your own place. Privacy is a major issue.

[malak84]

Sallam sis:)


I just saw this thread now, :o sorry


Well from my side, i would prefer to have my own nest/house, to build it and develope it in my own way without the interfering of any other memeber of the family.

but if we really had to start our marriage life in the family house then i will make sure it is not going to be for long and try my best to provide somewhere for us to have our own.

Sometimes we will have to accept some members of the family to be living with us, which i wouldnt mind; but the reasons behind that member to live with us has to be strong, and the personality of that person shouldnt clash with mine, so we wont end up have a cold war in the house instead of a peacfull life:)

salaaaam sis :duh: :color:

lool ..its un usual for you not to recognise a thread just like that ..may footish shay mashallah:hehe: this is last year thread :cry:

but never mind everyone is welcome for some refreshment's :color:

[Amir]

I guess I would like to live with my family.... no reason... just like that...

Privacy? Yeah that is right in some houses people may lack that, but as of my family they're pretty open, and I would only want marry such girl, if not found no problem I'll blo0dy wait till I get one as such.

As of what I think, in my parents' old age there is only one me to take care of them, sisters are out after marriage with their husbands, and I can't let my parents walk around like chicken in the back yard. So yeah I want to live with my family, and privacy is there as much we need in my parents' house, there is no problem for that. But I can't leave my parents just for PRIVACY as many mentioned above, and just come and visit them every weekend or every day... May got not permit if anything happened, and they couldn't reach to you, that's it. We never know when and what would happen to anyone of us at any time.

I can't see my parents suffer in their old age!

[Solafa]

salaaaam sis :duh: :color:

lool ..its un usual for you not to recognise a thread just like that ..may footish shay mashallah:hehe: this is last year thread :cry:

but never mind everyone is welcome for some refreshment's :color:

hala sister,

3aween ana ma yfootni shay! aslan 6al3a 3alishhhhhhh LOOOOLLL :p :color:

[Solafa]

I guess I would like to live with my family.... no reason... just like that...

Privacy? Yeah that is right in some houses people may lack that, but as of my family they're pretty open, and I would only want marry such girl, if not found no problem I'll blo0dy wait till I get one as such.

As of what I think, in my parents' old age there is only one me to take care of them, sisters are out after marriage with their husbands, and I can't let my parents walk around like chicken in the back yard. So yeah I want to live with my family, and privacy is there as much we need in my parents' house, there is no problem for that. But I can't leave my parents just for PRIVACY as many mentioned above, and just come and visit them every weekend or every day... May got not permit if anything happened, and they couldn't reach to you, that's it. We never know when and what would happen to anyone of us at any time.

I can't see my parents suffer in their old age!


Sallam Prince:)

Well i would assume many parents now days would prefer to live the rest of their life alone, away from having kids around them and have their own private life back to them, the same as what they used to have when they first got married......;)

I think i would live them to live their life alone if it was their wish, but if they insisted of me and my husband and my kids to move into their's but at the same time not controling our life then, i might consider it and give it a deep thought and consult my husband and see if we could get to an agreement within us and with my parents:)

[dija]

Well i wouldnt live with his family unless i was in love with him! :cute:

[mr.fix.it]

My opinion is,,,,,,, there is nothing wrong to live with your parents our grand grand fathers and mothers they got married and lived in there parent house and the history approve that it’s the best way and better way to start saving and build your kids future, don’t get me wrong I know its nice to have your own house and having your freedom your house and being independent, but in the same time I do really understand why parent want u to stay in the same house, now adays or should I say in this generation most of people they get married and have there own place and they really forget about there parents, how really work hard all there life to look after them……and its not all about money only but it to keep family together,, caring about each other ,,,,(and it is part of our culture)

I do agree with storm_silent, EarThQuaKe(by saying its family rule) sophis^catrina(by need to be the woman of the house.)


Well my self I don’t mind to live with my parent and if that not possible or no space or if was my choice and my partner happy with my decision I will try to be close I can be to my parent,,,,,,,