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Man # 1: A person you met abroad...he fell in love with you...he then graduated and went back home you guys live in two different countries...You hear one or two ppl talk abt him and that he has gf or cheating on u and all you face him with the truth and he totaly denies it and even gives evidance and proof...maybe those one or two who tell u bad stuff are just jelous cuz they might have wanted him for themselfs and one of them actually told u she is in love with him be4 u both get together! Anyway most of the time you call him he doesn't pick up and u just have GUT feelings that he is talking to girls...but ur not sure...now you go back to the country to study and he is back at is home country working and he has totally change 180 degrees he now calls u every other day...asks abt u ...u feel he cares for u more than he used to.. asks for your home address so that he can talk to ur mum and dad ofcourse with his mum and uncle..he has lost his dad if those of u wondering where y not his dad...never let me down..always apologizes even if for the smallest things...

Man #2: Your cuzn... studies abroad but you guys r in diff countires but both studying abroad...his home country is also not the same as urs...he calls everyday and talks for HOURS....UR wish is his command does everything to just make me happy...it's so obvious he truely loves u...and he wants to b with u today be4 tomorrow...he has never lied to u and every little thing he does he tells u...never hides anything from u...

ok my q.s.:
1) Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion? :think:
2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?

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I can only answer the first question, coz I don't know how to answer the second. You cannot fall in love with two people. But you can have a crush (admiration/attraction/lust) on two people. Which means you can have two lovers, but it won't be real love.

I can only answer the first question, coz I don't know how to answer the second. You cannot fall in love with two people. But you can have a crush (admiration/attraction/lust) on two people. Which means you can have two lovers, but it won't be real love.
ummm ok why can't it be real love??
and why can't u answer the 2nd q.s. :p

ummm ok why can't it be real love??
and why can't u answer the 2nd q.s. :p


When it comes to real love, your heart belongs to one.

I can't answer it, coz it's too difficult and I don't feel like thinking abt it.

1) Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?
I've seen wonders in my life that made me believe that everything is possible. Not all people think like you or me. People have different way of thinking, living, learning, etc....so yes there must be some cases where a woman or a man has two to (God knows how many) loves.
2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?

It's not a matter of who deserves who. It's more like who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Is it the first guy who is surrounded with rumors, but you are in deep love with. Are you ready to start your life with him though it sounds so risky to you?. Or is it your cousin who sounds like Mr.Right though your heart wants the first guy?! Yes he's caring loving, but still something is missing there. At the end in such cases girls are adviced to go on with the guy who sounds more serious and who asks her for "marriage" fast.

I've seen wonders in my life that made me believe that everything is possible. Not all people think like you or me. People have different way of thinking, living, learning, etc....so yes there must be some cases where a woman or a man has two to (God knows how many) loves.


It's not a matter of who deserves who. It's more like who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Is it the first guy who is surrounded with rumors, but you are in deep love with. Are you ready to start your life with him though it sounds so risky to you?. Or is it your cousin who sounds like Mr.Right though your heart wants the first guy?! Yes he's caring loving, but still something is missing there. At the end in such cases girls are adviced to go on with the guy who sounds more serious and who asks her for "marriage" fast.
I have only heard rumors and silly ones from his past crush's...also umm they both asked for marraige to fast...also what if my heart melts for both? :think:
welllll...hmmm :help:

It's okay Irony. You love both of them coz both have given you care and love though in different ways. You want both of them and you can't bear the idea of losing any of them, but Irony think of it in this way: aren't you hurting them but keeping both of them in love with you. You need to think, pray and then decide the only one whom you wanna spend your life with. Then let the other guy moves on with his life. It might be difficult, but it's the right thing to do.

It's okay Irony. You love both of them coz both have given you care and love though in different ways. You want both of them and you can't bear the idea of losing any of them, but Irony think of it in this way: aren't you hurting them but keeping both of them in love with you. You need to think, pray and then decide the only one whom you wanna spend your life with. Then let the other guy moves on with his life. It might be difficult, but it's the right thing to do.
ummm...catchy i am talking on behalf of someone not me ...but ok i will talk as her...lol...i'll try to..well it's hard to leave both and also I am not dating any of them...and I don't want to make a choice now until the right time.. LOST :weep:

Then you should wait for the right time to start thinking about this seriously and I hope that moment would be soon.

Then you should wait for the right time to start thinking about this seriously and I hope that moment would be soon.
Hmm logic..agree with u...maybe kil shai fe wagtah 7ilo is the right way to say it!

as for the 2nd Q.. just because (it sounds like) the guy is in love with u, doesn't necassarily mean tht u should choose him.. okay it sounds like he would treat u better if u were to be married, but it doesn't sound like you love the cousin.. so it depends on who u'r in love with, and at the same time taking into account if he will treat u right?

1) Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?
* 2 lovers? i don tthink so, but like 1 an dlove another possible.

2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?
* The cousin deserve the girl more, but she has to be very careful,never use him coz he is nice to her and as u mentioned its obvious he loves her,if he ever finds out that she is using him,he'll turn to be an evil that she never knew. Thats kind of ppl who you betray the.

1) can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?
Can be both depending on those involved and on the situation. Not impossible to be in love with two, love has many faces: in this case you share two different sides with two men
2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?
Reading my previous post, not possible to say that one of the two deserves more of my love, cause i love them in different ways but is always love.

1) Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?
* 2 lovers? i don tthink so, but like 1 an dlove another possible.

2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?
* The cousin deserve the girl more, but she has to be very careful,never use him coz he is nice to her and as u mentioned its obvious he loves her,if he ever finds out that she is using him,he'll turn to be an evil that she never knew. Thats kind of ppl who you betray the.
hmm finally some one chose one man lol...oh well what makes u think man#2 is love more than man#1?? any clues?

Can be both depending on those involved and on the situation. Not impossible to be in love with two, love has many faces: in this case you share two different sides with two men

Reading my previous post, not possible to say that one of the two deserves more of my love, cause i love them in different ways but is always love.
Now that just confused me even more :weep:

Now that just confused me even more :weep:
Hehe and you will really be more and more since you are a beauty and i assume you have many who'll fight to have you beautiful girl :cool:
What i meant is that depends on the situation and the people living it: it can be simply a crush as any infatuation, same as it can be true love.
I don't believe in just one love in life, and also in just one love in a specific moment.
True love is just one, agree with Sophie, but the ways it can be expressed, and the aspects of a person we can be attracted from, can be multiple and can be found in two men at same moment.
I can love a man and share with him some aspects of this great feeling and at the same moment have different types of feelings, also being sides of love, i can share with another.
If not clear yet, forget it :p

Hehe and you will really be more and more since you are a beauty and i assume you have many who'll fight to have you beautiful girl :cool:
What i meant is that depends on the situation and the people living it: it can be simply a crush as any infatuation, same as it can be true love.
I don't believe in just one love in life, and also in just one love in a specific moment.
True love is just one, agree with Sophie, but the ways it can be expressed, and the aspects of a person we can be attracted from, can be multiple and can be found in two men at same moment.
I can love a man and share with him some aspects of this great feeling and at the same moment have different types of feelings, also being sides of love, i can share with another.
If not clear yet, forget it :p
thx for the compliment above lol...and now i get what ur trying to say..so I can love one ..and have one true love...but 1000 crush :6:

hmm finally some one chose one man lol...oh well what makes u think man#2 is love more than man#1?? any clues?

My sister was in the same situation,so i got to know, who deserved her more and what was real love.

My sister was in the same situation,so i got to know, who deserved her more and what was real love.
oh ok fair enough!

You can make a test and find out.

It's not a matter of who "deserves" you. It's a matter of which one you really want! If you can't decide, wait. You are not ready to get married.

But forget the cousin anyway. In-breeding is unhealthy.

But forget the cousin anyway. In-breeding is unhealthy.

This is just rumours!

It's not a matter of who "deserves" you. It's a matter of which one you really want! If you can't decide, wait. You are not ready to get married.

But forget the cousin anyway. In-breeding is unhealthy.
LOL so anyway you chose man# 1...
Ummm what if i really want both :mmhmm:

You can make a test and find out.
Umm I don't like testing!..plus what If i test both and both come out as a good result??

Tea,

It's not a rumour. Ask a doctor. And as a Muslim, you might also consider it the reason that you are encouraged by your religion to marry from outside.

I dont think u can love more than one at the same time , and about who deserves u more? none. I think that there could be a chance that u'd make one of their lives miserable if u end up marrying one , cause whenever something goes wrong u might think that u made the wrong choice.

note that this my answer to the problem and not directed to YOU. :p

I dont think u can love more than one at the same time , and about who deserves u more? none. I think that there could be a chance that u'd make one of their lives miserable if u end up marrying one , cause whenever something goes wrong u might think that u made the wrong choice.

note that this my answer to the problem and not directed to YOU. :p
So loose both sheeeeesh :help:

yeps.. such a woman would need time alone to really think straight. :p lol

yeps.. such a woman would need time alone to really think straight. :p lol
Yeah I think so too!

Its not in our limited human capacity to dedicate our lives to two things. One or the other.

.. wallaah such Qs.. confuse me.. a bedwin wont be able to answer such QS.. but will try!

Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?

.. emm.. i think u can but u have to convience urself to one of them.. to love is more hazardous than an electric shock!


Who do you think deserves you more? why?

depends on ur needs from ur lovers!!

Umm I don't like testing!..plus what If i test both and both come out as a good result??

It depends on the test you do, the objective is to find out the intention of each of them is it to have you for fun or to marry you!

Tea,

It's not a rumour. Ask a doctor. And as a Muslim, you might also consider it the reason that you are encouraged by your religion to marry from outside.

You are right it's better to marry from outside the family or even town but there is no problem in marrying from the family. Many people get married to their cousins and they have healthy families.

) Can anyone have two lovers?? I mean can You fall in love with two at the same time..or is it confusion?

It can't be Love, it could be attraction to one and desire to the other one, i mean two different kind of feelings , its hard for me to believe that a woman can be in love with two men at the same time.Its so exhausting lol.

2) Who do you think deserves you more? why?

she should discover that on her own, let her have a break from Both , calculates everything , the one she miss's the most might be the right one :p .

i think you can fall in love with two people at once - but not in the same amounts... i mean you must love one person more than another and the one you love more is the one you should be with.
but from the two scenarios you depicted, it doesnt say who the girl actually is in love with - it just talks abt how the guys feel for her. if she knew who she cared for the most, then she would be able to make a better decision.

i cant think who is more deserving because i dont know the full story of both guys...

i agree with mimosa...who do u love the most ? and who do u think would treat u really good and still adore u if u ever got married to him? or who do u think would change or stay the same ? plus itz all up to u .. i know itz alot of presure ! damn 2 men and they both sound really sweet but u have to choose whos right for u .. u cant just stay like that torn between to men.. think about it .. dont make a quick choice cause then ud have 2nd thoughts and regret it .. so u just have to take ur time and see wich one is more important to u and wich one u cant live without !.. but just dont let them find out! otherwise u aint getting anyone of them! and thats a shame.. but hey i dont mind..!MORE sweet men for us!:P :6: hhehe kidding.. think about it and take ur time

Dont Be Fooled There is No True Love in the current World that we do Live in,
Everyone there for Purpose and tries to Please that He or She is in Love, Remember Man can have as many GF, So as A Lady can too have as many BF.

I like the second guy better. Why did the first one go cold and ignore you when he went abroad? That's not right. The second dude (even if he is my cousin, in the end you want happiness) sounds like he's really genuine.

This is just rumours!
They're not rumors! I can tell you that as a fact!

I've seen a lot of kids coming to the hospital and suffering from inherited diseases. It's really sad.

Anyway, back to the topic. Personally I think that it's you who needs to decide which one your heart feels more comfortable with, but don't forget to balance it in your head too. But the second guy, even though he's your cousin, seems to really care about you more than the first guy. You said it, he's ready to do anything for the girl, what more can a girl want?