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B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 01:24 PM
Imagine if a girl break up with you and after a year and a half or whatever period you get over it .. but she ended with you by her franking way and the ending she wants , after this period will you call her to clear something and end it your way ??
and for girls imagine if it was a guy .
Kazablanka
15-11-04, 02:16 PM
I really didnt get you there B3eed Aldar, but I will try to answer.
Ok, so I broke up with a guy (he dumped me?) and I'm over him... but he ended it, his way (what do you mean by 'his franking way'?) and weeks, months, or years passed and I'm still upset that he dumped me?? So your question is, would I not rest in peace until I get him back.. as in calling him and dumping him?? lol im confused.. I cant answer..
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 02:20 PM
Yeah you got my point to take revenge ... you now do something his franking way
*franking is a swear .. from last year :hehe:*
will you take revenge ? you know ,
Pineapple Thief
15-11-04, 02:25 PM
No, thats childish. Dont let it haunt you for years and all that. If you were honest and they didnt like that or they werent, well, its their loss, not yours. Ideally speaking of course :D
Kazablanka
15-11-04, 02:27 PM
ohhh ok lol
No, I am soo not a revenge person. If I was dumped, well.. I would suck it in I guess. Getting people back or revenge is not the way to deal with things.. If I get him back, he'll get me back and it will turn into a game... probably even a dangerous game.
I believe that people should always break up in good terms, no matter what.. so they wont have something against the person.. and so that they wont only take with them the bitter but also the love they once shared.
P.S. do you mean freaking?
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 02:30 PM
lol ! idealy speaking like it's an ideal world ,, but good idea.
Yeah, but, like, don't know :s it's like ! nothing
P.S I don't mean freaking !
Kazablanka
15-11-04, 02:35 PM
Yeah, but, like, don't know :s it's like ! nothing
spit it out, will ya!!! lol
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 02:40 PM
It's like she starts the relationship when she wanted then she end it ! is this fair ... Am I toy for her ?? this is it ... am reliefed , oh
I would just let go and move on with my life .. that would be the best revenge in my opinion, for her to know that i was able to get over her and continue living normally as if she never existed.
Imagine if a girl break up with you and after a year and a half or whatever period you get over it .. .
What kind of person would take a revenge after such a long period?!
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 03:27 PM
What kind of person would take a revenge after such a long period?!
me !!! :6:
me !!! :6:
Will that really satisfy you? Will it heal your broken heart? Are you sure you won't regret it? Is it the right action to do?!
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 03:47 PM
It will satisfy me ... and will heal my broken heart , and am posetivly 100% sure I wouldn't regret it... and asked my friends they told me know they said for god sake she's a girl !! so I didn't do it yet.... but the devil is missing with my head now.
If you really had a true love for her one day, then forget all about hurting her for the sake of that wonderful moments you both had. Just move on and have a new start. You're doing this for you not for her after all. :)
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 03:58 PM
Yeah but the past just keep hunting me ... ! and I'll become crazy ... to be honest my relationship with her was just for four months and she turned my life upside down ... may be my unconcious mind wants her and that's way I keep thinking of her... but she owes my an apologie. and I demand it!
If a guy breaks up with me then I'd want nothing to do with him, whether its for revenge or love. 6uz feeh.
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 04:03 PM
Enigma : wouldn't it hurt you at all ? I don't think so.!
Of course it'll hurt but.. if he broke up with me then he's not worth my tears right? When my opinions & thoughts are strong enough, I'm the type that can overlook my feelings and rid myself of them.
6uz feeh.
LOL!!!!
B3eed: Do you still love her?
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 04:10 PM
Difficult question ,, yeah I guess I do , but I don't know sometimes I feel like her feeling has changed and she doesn't love me any more, cause sometimes I think of returning to each other and forget the past , but you know if you suffered sometimes you just can't forgive soebody of doing something to you.
May be she loves you too, but she's too proud to admit it. May be she's waiting for you to take the initiative. Man four months are not that short period!! give it a try if you think that there is a hope. No one can judge this better than you. :)
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 04:22 PM
But don't you thing returning after a year-and-half saying soory is ain't enough.!
I mean imagine it was you ?
Why would you say "sorry"?!!
You guys need to talk frankly to each other. You need to let it out of your hearts. There are so much you want to talk about. Probably so many "whys?". Then you both would decide if this should come to an end or go on. It's difficult for you to start and go to her after this long time, but it might be the only way to test your feelings towards her.
Ok this is freaky :Shock: becuz first of all looking at your location you are qatari but in the u.k. at the moment.. I am saying this becuz a friend of mine was in love with a qatari boy for a year and a half...and she didn't really break up with him...but hmm i better not speak lol..dunno maybe it's u :o ...
Anyway if it's u or not lol...then NO revenge is a very childish thing to do.. if the girl let go..then you also should b able to let go..if she doesn't deserve you or doesn't know your value then one day she will realise...why do u have to make ur world for a person who is not worth it????...Also revenge might cause problems..so u mean u just want to dump her to make u feel better or what..then just pick the phone up if it bothers u so much and tell her that u don't love her and life is better without her...and just take it out and shut it! The End...BUT REVENGE i mean it's a very bad step...plus this is the women who shared beautiful moments with u one day...for one year and a half she made u smile laugh and joyfull...just becuz the girl now made up her mind and realised perhaps ur not the man for her doesn't mean she meant to hurt u or whatever is in ur mind...Just talk over it and dicuss what has been bothering u..that's more mature...well FOR ME it is!
Good luck! :shut:
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 04:49 PM
First of all, thanks for puting forward so good points.
second, I was with her for only 4 months not a year and half...
nevertheless I can see your point in not taking the revenge.. it's just childish .... ! what was I thinking about .
It will satisfy me ... and will heal my broken heart , and am posetivly 100% sure I wouldn't regret it... and asked my friends they told me know they said for god sake she's a girl !! so I didn't do it yet.... but the devil is missing with my head now.
What did ur friends mean by saying for god sake she is a girl..didn't really get that...how are u 100% u will not regret it...don't be so sure!
but you know if you suffered sometimes you just can't forgive soebody of doing something to you.
If Allah forgives am sure you can...Plus she is not ANYONE she was SOMEONE once upon a time so I think she deserves the forgivness...do u know the reason behind it? I mean why she left u?
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 04:59 PM
I was having a hard time car accident and after 2 weeks I was having a TOFEL exam and the then the final year exams .. so I wasn't call her .. because I need to study .. so she called me and she was like we don't you call me I guess I didn't tell her the situation I was having, week after the call I received a message which was a verse from a poem which emplied it's kinda over ... so I was like I can live...!
about what does my friend meant that she would be hurt cause girls tend to be sensitve.
As long as your obsessed with this girl, you will never be able to have another successful relationship.
Walk away and never look back !
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 05:16 PM
You have a point ... jack , but sometimes you can't just walk away !!
You have a point ... jack , but sometimes you can't just walk away !!You have 2 choices ...
1. Wallow in your pity ... and be unhappy.
2. Walk away and give yourself a chance at happiness.
It's your choice.
Revenge won't make you happy :rolleyes:
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 05:47 PM
If it was for me I'll take the second choic ... but I just can't ,
I would just forget her and kick her out of my life easy as that, she can't just return when she feels like it, You are not a toy in her hands , just kick her out of your life , there are millions of girls out there.
I was having a hard time car accident and after 2 weeks I was having a TOFEL exam and the then the final year exams .. so I wasn't call her .. because I need to study .. so she called me and she was like we don't you call me I guess I didn't tell her the situation I was having, week after the call I received a message which was a verse from a poem which emplied it's kinda over ... so I was like I can live...!
about what does my friend meant that she would be hurt cause girls tend to be sensitve.
This is the exact same problem that i was discussing with some friends..you have agreed to take the responsibility to love and care for the girl..I know that sometimes we pass through hard times and busy times..BUT send her msg tell her that ur busy it's not becuz of anything...be4 u go to bed i give her a call and tell her that u just called to say hello. Am sure u will have atleast 5 minutes of free time..I dont say call her 24/7 and talk to her for hours no..but just call her atleast once and for 5 mins to show u care...
and just becuz she sent u a verse that does not mean she doesn't loveu anymore unless she has told u that HERSELF...other than that u can't predict your relationship has ended becuz of a verse in the poem!
Good luck!
B3eed Aldar
15-11-04, 10:04 PM
Mazin : She is effecting my life in some way or another ... I can't just kick her ... sometimes she's my motivation to finish my studeis as soon as I can .
IRONY : May be she didn't want to say it like face to face .. you know sometimes it's hard .. so other ways is less harder.
Intellective
16-11-04, 03:58 PM
If a guy dumped me,i would feel down obviously, but i wouldnt show it to him, i'l held my head up and my pride and show him that he is the looser and make him feel like i was the one who dumped him,but in a very smart way,coz sometimes acting makes you look,like you are fool of $hit.
I used to worry about explaining myself to people. I would call and clear things out and so on. Not the current tired of it all me however, someone wants to walk on me I do not even bother asking them to stay "belley ma y7f'6ik/ich" is what I would say to myself.
E-Sensation
22-11-04, 03:45 PM
B3eed aldar, so you can't live with her and can't live without her?
If that's the case, I'd say that you should make sure about your gut feelings. What do you really want? I'm sure you'll find the answer if you searched for it. Good luck.
B3eed Aldar
22-11-04, 07:05 PM
OZ : thanks. I'll just try to forget her I guess this what am gonna do !
I don't post much on the sablah , I guess for time limitation, but this issue caught my eyes. I think the consequences of breaking up with a mate is all depends on how deep their love is! Indeed, if a deep relationship was broken, it is going to hurt couples even if they don't like to admit it. Personally, if a girl dumped me, I will be so sad because I cared for her and gave her my time. I can't just forget about her. If I'm truthfully in love with her, I would try to understand why she broke up with me , isn't something wrong with me, if so then I have to try to fix it to keep my future relationship. Moreover, I would wish her all the luck in the world to find a man who loves her . Bro Mazin , i don't know how could u "just" forget about her, you could do that if u guys are casual bf/gf nothing serious, basically just being together for fun.
B3eed Aldar
22-11-04, 09:47 PM
I can't just forget about her. If I'm truthfully in love with her, I would try to understand why she broke up with me.
Exactly...
Intellective
22-11-04, 10:02 PM
Indeed, if a deep relationship was broken, it is going to hurt couples even if they don't like to admit it. Personally, if a girl dumped me, I will be so sad because I cared for her and gave her my time. I can't just forget about her. If I'm truthfully in love with her, I would try to understand why she broke up with me , isn't something wrong with me, if so then I have to try to fix it to keep my future relationship. Moreover, I would wish her all the luck in the world to find a man who loves her .
Well said.
Intellective
22-11-04, 10:03 PM
Just to forget the guy or girl its not really easy even if its for fun. I wonder how strong are these ppl?
Cute_One
22-11-04, 10:29 PM
why the revenge ???!1 i beleivee what goes around , comes around ... and there is this arabic saying " Allah may6eg ib3a9a " which mean God doesnt hit by a stick , meanin that everyone gets what he deserves out of it ...
B3eed Aldar
22-11-04, 10:31 PM
Cute One : so what happened to me happened cause I did it to some else , and what she did to me will happen to her ??
Cute_One
22-11-04, 10:33 PM
it will come around in a way or another , not nessasarly the way u mentioned, but then one day he'll realize what he lost and did thats when it gets to him ...
B3eed Aldar
22-11-04, 10:34 PM
Cute One : OK.
I can't just walk away without saying a thing ,and convince myself that i'll be fine and get over him in no time. I wont take revenge but i'll make sure to say whats in my heart and oh yeh it wont be good :6: . Once am relieved , then i can just walk away and never look back , atleast deep down i'll be satisfied that i had the chance to breath it out.
B3eed Aldar
22-11-04, 10:49 PM
HaYa : but if you didn't have a chance to say what's in your heart ???
HaYa : but if you didn't have a chance to say what's in your heart ???
mmmmmmm How can that happen? all i know that i have spit it out, Just call her and say what you have to say.
Libellula
28-11-04, 07:14 PM
Hmm, this sounds very much like revenge. You break my heart, now I get to break yours?
I don't think that I need to hurt someone who has hurt me in order to get on with my life.
Sure Thing
29-11-04, 09:14 PM
he breaks up with me ....Who gives a $hit? I'll say whats in my mind and my heart and let him finish the jigsow game. Its gona hurt but will get over it an dmove on. He isnt the only guy on the face of the earth.
B3eed Aldar
01-12-04, 09:53 PM
HaYa : Thanks.
Phoenix : well , it's revenge !!
Sure Thing : I see your point.
Pineapple Thief
16-05-05, 12:23 AM
It will satisfy me ... and will heal my broken heart , and am posetivly 100% sure I wouldn't regret it... and asked my friends they told me know they said for god sake she's a girl !! so I didn't do it yet.... but the devil is missing with my head now.
Hope you didnt take revenge :) Revenge doesnt do anything, it hurts her (though she may deserve it), it hurts you, and nobody wins. Best do what nabhan says:
I would just let go and move on with my life .. that would be the best revenge in my opinion, for her to know that i was able to get over her and continue living normally as if she never existed.
It makes her feel minor, insignificant, and doesnt comprise your integrity or your character!
Hope you didnt take revenge :) Revenge doesnt do anything, it hurts her (though she may deserve it), it hurts you, and nobody wins. Best do what nabhan says:
It makes her feel minor, insignificant, and doesnt comprise your integrity or your character!
That's MEAN. I can understand if you are hurt bcos they left you, but not to do it just to spite her!
Pineapple Thief
16-05-05, 12:38 AM
well, not to spite her! But its better than revenger isnt it. You're not going out of ur way, and it still teaches her a lesson - assuming its her fault ;)
sophis^catrina
16-05-05, 03:56 AM
I really don't understand abt all this revenge kind of thing. Love should not be abt pride and all that.
Anyway if someone dumped the other, it does not mean that there was something wrong with either. It just means that they were not compatible, and one of them realised this before the other did. Satisfying needs and wants is a big issue. If you guys break up and don't get back later, it just means it was not meant to be. Move on and find someone who is compatible, who'll satisfy your needs and wants.
Although there are times when people break up, coz of wrong moves, even though they may be compatible, being 'inexperienced' and it could be the 'wrong time'. If they do get back together later, then it is possibly was meant to be.
In this particular case, this all revenge thing is ridiculous. Invest your time in something worthwhile.
sophis^catrina
16-05-05, 04:32 AM
I was having a hard time car accident and after 2 weeks I was having a TOFEL exam and the then the final year exams .. so I wasn't call her .. because I need to study .. so she called me and she was like we don't you call me I guess I didn't tell her the situation I was having, week after the call I received a message which was a verse from a poem which emplied it's kinda over ... so I was like I can live...!
about what does my friend meant that she would be hurt cause girls tend to be sensitve.
I know this is old and the thread initiator does not need this, but I had to say something here.
Women need attention. A LOT of attention. We get really hurt if a guy does not give us attention, or does not imply that he misses us or does not sms or call. We feel as though he does not care abt us, and just wants us whenever he chooses to. To her, you not calling her for two weeks, meant you were avoiding her. She lacked what she needed most, and that is being showered with attention. She got very angry and p!ssed off. And did the most drastic thing she could do in order to get your attention, to end it. It may sound weird and silly, but all girls really need this. If you don't give this to them, they get really angry and they can do crazy things just to get your attention (e.g. like ending it in this case). If a person is busy, then they should tell the girl before hand, before she starts wondering and getting annoyed.
Oh well, women are from venus and men are from mars. We don't understand the other, coz we don't think alike. Talking and communication helps a lot, if you're lucky enough to be in a relationship when your partner does not mind talking and putting effort that is. :help:
Oh well, women are from venus and men are from mars. We don't understand the other, coz we don't think alike. Talking and communication helps a lot, if you're lucky enough to be in a relationship when your partner does not mind talking and putting effort that is. :help:
I agree with Sophis up to a point ... all this talk about equality and than saying a girl needs 'special attention' is quite insincere.
What women want is SECURITY! And if she is not stable/normal and does need excessive attention than thank God you didn't settle with her and be happy you have a chance to find something better and more healthy.
Jack said it best ... are you going to wallow in you pity and make the same mistakes ... or be a man about it and move past the fact.
1 week is a long time after a relation that last 4 months.
1 year is just unhealthy to dwell on it ... move on, maybe she'll change (or maybe she won't) but that's not your problem.
Don't make it yours.
;)
sophis^catrina
16-05-05, 02:19 PM
What women want is SECURITY! And if she is not stable/normal and does need excessive attention than thank God you didn't settle with her and be happy you have a chance to find something better and more healthy.
What if the guy is the one not giving her right in a relationship? That is attention and security? He could be the one taking her for granted. I am sure many women in the end will just get fed up. Hardly any women will actually tolerate that.
For this thread ... we are assuming the girl is the one in the wrong.
I'm sure lots of men take their women for granted and thats wrong.
But that's sidestepping the 'revenge' issue.
On a final note ... we all have a choice up to a point ... leave him if he is ignoring you!
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