Okay, so in the Arab Muslim world, most men like to hide their wives by asking them to wear long, loose dresses and headscarves and not put much make up on ... you know it all. These guys like the fixing up only to be done for them.

And then in the West, the guys like her to look good so they can show her off to their friends ("Hey check out my wife, I GOT this hottie!"). They want her to dress up and always look nice whenever they go out.

So what to the Sabla guys think/want/prefer? And what do the girls have to say about this?

Btw, I think the west's way is degrading to the woman. As if she's an object to show off :duh: And the Arabs are only slightly better when they make her wear '3ashwa/niqab and cover her completely bcoz that's not treating her like another human being.

I wouldnt want to hide her nor show her off. Simply if she follows the islamic guidelines about such matter. Thats more then great...

So DD. Do you mind at all if your guy friends think your wife is ugly?

Most of men dont tell their wives to wear `3ashwa
I won't let her hide her face, at the same time I wont use her to show off, cuz who knows, maybe someone will try to steal her from me :lost:
:gap: :laugh: :gap:

as a girl .. I prefer a man whos hiding me than a guy whos showing me off ..
I dont know, I always had a thing with bros & fathers getting jelous over thier daughters and sisters .. and it would have been a disaster if my husband wasnt the jelous type .. I would feel ugly!!

as a girl .. I prefer a man whos hiding me than a guy whos showing me off ..
I dont know, I always had a thing with bros & fathers getting jelous over thier daughters and sisters .. and it would have been a disaster if my husband wasnt the jelous type .. I would feel ugly!!

yea true! bein jelous means the person cares for u
some other ppl consider jelousy as canibalism :gap:

it's not the man who tells the wife to wear long and not put lots of make up on it's our Religion ;)

I don't know why you call it hide!!! Islam respected women by letting her to follow the Islamic dress code and guidelines. In jahilyah women used to be treatd like toys and meant for pleasure only. Why should we compare ourselves with the west, I hope you saw the "shocking statistics" thread which is a result of open freedom concept!

Ice Tea, Enigma means here men who are so restrictive towards thier wives .. ya3ni no outings, wearing '3ashwa (compulsory not out of her choice), and all those rules some men make for thier wives.

iam comfortable with the idae of wearing my full islamic dress but not covering my face because iamm not use to the idea at all and i can't breath under 3'shwa at all beleive me. :irk: i also know that if th ehuasband really want agood thing for he's wife he would edvice herthat shows he's care and tender too.

ps. talking about ppl in arab word some of them ask their wives to uncover their hair coz they feel shame infront of other ppl and as a sign of civilization. :bang:

well i think with that it's stupid from a man to ask of his wife to do such stuff

well i think with that it's stupid from a man to ask of his wife to do such stuff


it's true crazy beleive me :bang:

I guess moderation is the key with this issue....not to religious( '3shwa) or too flexible (western clothing were things are showing)....
A women can wear respectable clothing that does not show her body so as i said....moderation

since there is no one holding my hands ( i mean iam free) i love to move with fashion and wear stuffs because it make me feel much better but i choose what is fine and don't show anything it depend on the person after all.
and copuy paste isue from others :shut:

I'm not saying it's not true
i'm just not agreeing with such a thing as long as she's being modest in her cloths why cover her self up islam said to show the face and the hands so who's the husband to demand from his wife to cover her face and all that?

Okay, so in the Arab Muslim world, most men like to hide their wives by asking them to wear long, loose dresses and headscarves and not put much make up on
That suits me :yes:

So DD. Do you mind at all if your guy friends think your wife is ugly?

hmm, why would they be talking about my wife in the first place... :duh:

But assuming such situation does take place...

Of course, I'd mind. Weither they said she is ugly or beautiful.

Its a privilege which very very few will earn to even be able to talk about her :duh:. It's like she is the Queen or Princess and for sure not everyone can talk about her.

If they talk once, I might let it go. If they talk twice, then they are gone out of my friends arena... :shoot:

Wait a minute... you said think??? aha! well I care less of what they would think at that point. As she is my wife and for sure at that stage I would believe she is the most beautiful in the world to me... :gap:

Its a privilege which very very few will earn to even be able to talk about her :duh:. It's like she is the Queen or Princess and for sure not everyone can talk about her.
I think I giggled when I read that :p

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Anyway guys, when I say 'hide' her I do not mean ask her to wear the Islamic clothing (that's to be expected). I am talking about the extreme :)

Moderation is always the key to everything. Going into both extremes is degrading to women. First, when you show her off in front of your buddies, becaues you got the hottest girl in the area, you're using her as an object of pleasure, not as your life long partner. And when you ask her to cover up completely ( meaning, what's even beyond the islamic dress code which to me is the best option) you're taking away her right for being a person who can choose what to wear, and I'm sorry to say this, but unfortunatlly this is how it is in Saudia Arabia, and it's not the religion that comes into this, but the traditions which I believe, seriously need to be reconsidered and changed.

Anyway guys, when I say 'hide' her I do not mean ask her to wear the Islamic clothing (that's to be expected). I am talking about the extreme :)

well, in that case. She is free to do what she wants as long as she knows it wouldnt upset me... and same goes on me.

I think the locking her in the house story is quite decreasing and not implementable with the most of the new generation of females :p (which is a good thing from that prospective)

I would never let my husband bully me into wearing something that I don't want to. As long as a woman is wearing what is accepted religiously, there's no reason why she should change anything.

I think I agree with what Warda and Dr. N said. Not too restrictive, yet not too 'free' is just perfect.

Well if a guy shows his woman off.. isn't he proud of her in a way?
I guess it would depend on the way he does it.. i'd be okay if my hubby were to introduce me to some of his friends (and their wives).. but thats not showing off really..
Anyways if it were me, i'd wear respectable, but still funky.

I liked DD's answers regarding this matter and i would have to say that i feel exactly the same way.

Hiding her is totaly out of the question for me , and same goes for showing her off. the islamic way is more than a comfort and is the best way when it comes to this.

Showing her off is so disgusting! Like showing his stylish new car to his friends! :duh:
But also hiding her & treating her as his own property is unfaire?!!

It's better to be in between.

If i didn't have a choice and will be forced to hide in the black ghashuwa/abbaya then he will have to wear a sloppy, lose very unrepresentble cloath that are lose and not stylish. While if he want's to show me off then la6a3a6a limakhlooq fi ma39iyat alkhaliq, and will try maybe to bring people in between to solve this cause i dont think i will be able to tolerate that as much as i could tolerate the first choice.

God forbid to be placed in either one.

Najah but you as a muslim wife requested to obey your husband, I mean if he told you to cover your face then you should do it cuz he might have his reason :).

If she is real ugly I'd hide her ...

Wait a minute ... If she was real ugly I wouldn't be married to her :p

hahaha! nice 1 nice 1! :)

She can do whatever she wants. I trust her judgement. (speaking from a husbands point of view...i wouldnt have married her otherwise!)