Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

Talking about me, I would never give out a life for such a silly reason which is its not time yet. When i'm pregnant then its time for the kid to show up no doubts in that, and i think it will effect those two couples if they had something called a heart and if it was still pure, but those who are HEARTLESS maybe it wont affect them since they don't even understand what a soul means.

Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

7ashaani, allah inshallah wont let any girl face such thing. tuf tuf..

if something like this happen's i dont know, i'd probably die in shame, oh wait i dont know and i can't imagine... I saw one wedding like this but till now the superficial view that we all see is great, nothing is wrong.

A true relationship shouldn't start on such foundation!

Why does everyone keep misunderstanding my threads? :(

Najah I don't mean that YOU are in the situation, I'm asking what you think in general: for any couple.

ok personally i think the following shouldn't happen but for the sake of this thread here's what i think

Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

Well it's really hard to say but I think before taking such a step they should think wether they should go through it or not


Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

I don't see a reason for it to be decreased getting married is a good thing some people just run away from a relationship when such a thing happens

Well it's really hard to say but I think before taking such a step they should think wether they should go through it or not

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Man we're saying they ALREADY did it. AFTER it, CAN their relationship go on? Or will they be forever tormented by feelings of guilt and resentment?

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ok ok my bad
right now i'd like to say how would i know but i won't say that

they should be able to move on since they ALREADY took that step

feeling guilty won't help them even if they break up, the guilt will stay there (if thats why the broke up)

you see Enigma, this always depends on the couple and thier relationship!

Q1:
Some would do it as a reflex soloutiuon, and would bare teh consequences of thier horroible action later .. those would somehow face problems later because they didnt really thought through it especially if they didnt manage to get a child after that ..

while others, who thought through this process well .. might find it easier to move on with thier life!

Q2.
the key word here is forced .. they were forced so they didnt think through it .. big possibilty that they might be happy at first, but as years go through .. they will think: I was put into this situation, it wasnt my own choice and would let themselves feel destressed about the situation and want to leave it .. here problems might araise ..

others, would just think it was fate that made them come togther .. and would never feel bad about being forced ;)

Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

To be honest an abortion is a painful exercise emotionally specially from a woman side .. The decision that both took must have crossed their mind that they are killing a life and this guilt will ever remain in their conscious forever .It could lead to arguments in future if the woman becomes barren due to a complication during the abortion . I say it would effect their marriage sooner or later .Believe me any man or woman would like to know if it was suppose to be a baby girl or a boy and the first few weeks are horrible to both .

Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?
Yes , Unless there is no love .. I believe it does not effect the survival of a relationship unless one party or both parties are mentally not ready . But in most cases it works . I believe they should have a council or someone has to educate them and guide them to make the relationship work or survive .

Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

It is the same like getting the wedding ceremony in the gail not in the church or the mosque. It would be a criminal marriage, stamped with sin, and sealed with guilt.


Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

Maybe yes and maybe no, depends on how honest the couples are in their love to each other. If they really love each other and (they made a mistake), it will be just remain as a bad memory, which nether of them would like to remember, and still life will go. But if it was just a lustful relationship then it will last very short before it breaks apart

if they already reached the same conclusion that an abortion is the best solution I don’t see why they should have a problem at later time.

Q 1. do you think their relationship can survive it? can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

It can survive, if they had the will to be together from the start. And lets say that having a baby at their time wasnt convenient - ignoring the morality of it-.

Guilt would only arise if they regreted doing the abortation. And thought they should of fought for it instead. Along to that it will again depend on how strong the relationship was between them and how much they understand each other. The more they do the less it would affect the bond between them.

Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

For sure, the chances of such marriage to continue does decrease, as it wasnt built on a proper willingness or desire. But depends on how fond they become of the child, that could increase the chance of them getting closer and finally accepting the facts and even become grateful for it. Other wise, it would either be a cold age between them. Living together for the sake of it. Or end up being apart, once things calm down -people who forced them-

Q 1. If a couple (lets put aside the nature of their relationship: married or not) get pregnant at an unwanted time and later make the decision to get an abortion and do it.. do you think their relationship can survive it? They killed a life together.. can they go on or will there be too much guilt within the both of them for them to continue?

Talking about me, I would never give out a life for such a silly reason which is its not time yet. When i'm pregnant then its time for the kid to show up no doubts in that, and i think it will effect those two couples if they had something called a heart and if it was still pure, but those who are HEARTLESS maybe it wont affect them since they don't even understand what a soul means.

Q 2. Sometimes a couple is forced to get married BECAUSE they got pregnant. If you are forced to hurry up the wedding (or do it even though you hadn't intended on it) because of such a reason; will the chances of the survival of your relationship decrease?

7ashaani, allah inshallah wont let any girl face such thing. tuf tuf..

if something like this happen's i dont know, i'd probably die in shame, oh wait i dont know and i can't imagine... I saw one wedding like this but till now the superficial view that we all see is great, nothing is wrong.


I will highlight the words i meant that really fullfill your question which is if it HAPPENED. you can figure out what i think will happen from those bolded ones!

I don't think abortion has much impact on relatonship.
Strange, why are you making life complex :(

It depends.

For example, the struggle would either make them even closer or drift them apart.

I agree with kaza.

In both situations, it really depends on how close the two are, or how much they can get closer after any of the two incidents. Some poeple have it in them to move on and forget the past, and usually after going through such a tough situation together and surviving, they get closer, and the communication between them gets better. While with others, having to go through such a difficult situation, and I think that the first case is the worst, since it involves killing a life with their own will, is just too much for them to bear, and a seperation is probably the best solution for them to forget and move on, because the more time they spend together, the harder it gets to forget how it all started, a very weak base, and hence very difficult to maintain.

1-unwanted pregnancies should be terminated during the first trimester!

& of course, millions of relations have survived such unpleasant events & became even stronger after it!

ppl learn...
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2- on the other hand, i believe a marriage that took place bcoz the woman got pregnant is not such a good idea!

agree with kaza too... depending on the people involved.. they either make it.. and it makes their relationship even stronger than before.. or they break it..
depends on the extent of their love for each other.