This story is real and I brought it up to read your opinions and try to solve the involved problem together. Let’s assume that you are a teacher of grade 12 (thanaweyah 3amah), and some of your students are twice your height and weight. Imagine how hard that could be if they turn to be so rude and troublemakers. Anyway, during one of the lovely school days and while you were writing on the whiteboard, one of your students jumped out of his/her place and gave you a BIG HUG and I really mean big. While holding you tight s/he started telling you how much s/he loves you and all of that kharabee6 wa balalee6 thingy. You were very shocked and even started shaking due to the lack of experience in such situations. It was hard for you to move or try to take her/his hands off you so with all of your strength you pushed that student and got out of the classroom heading to the principal.


1-Do you think your reaction was right? Or you would rather have done something else? like what? *bear in mind you are still a new young teacher*

2-How would you deal with that student in the coming days?

3-Any suggestions for the admiration issue?

I think in such situation the teacher should remain as calm as possible and tell the student in a firm but polite way that it is wrong to have such feelings cause student/teacher relationships never end up well and are un acceptable in many societies.

In the comming days the teacher shouldnt treat the student any differently than he/she treats the others in the class and should strictly maintain a Teacher to student attitude. If the student doesnt get over his/her crush then its best to let his/her parents know about the whole thing to avoid further complications.

I think his/her reactoin was the correct one
i mean what could you do in such a situation

What an emotional student!! I guess the teacher's reaction was a bit OTT in my opinion, but maybe he or she should have just told this student to move back for a second and explained to them that that kind of behavior isn't appropriate in school especially between a teacher and a student, although its great that the student does respect the teacher that much!!

ok i think it was a HE thats why u got annoyed...ur reaction was justified MAYBE....

perhaps if u would have been a strict teacher from the start, this day would have not come!

u teach in a private school, dont u?

ok i think it was a HE thats why u got annoyed...ur reaction was justified MAYBE....

perhaps if u would have been a strict teacher from the start, this day wold have not come!

u teach in a private school, dont u?

You're hilarious, brotha! :D

ok man still waiting for catchy to respond so i can continue....

I dont think her reaction was right at all!

What she should have done was let the girl hug her; and hug her back too.

If and only if, the child repeated it then perhaps a chat PRIVATELY, done in an extremely thoughtful and considerate way would be necessary.

it wasn't done by a child nimga
it was done by some one who's aged 17~18

I still think that as a teacher you should be very delicate with your student's feelings rather than push the girl away and run off to the principal!

well when did it say it was a girl who hugged a man?

could've been vise versa

I have reason to believe it was from a girl to her female teacher.

well
a girl hugging her female teacher and confessing her love to her?

only catchy can clear this up

perhaps if u would have been a strict teacher from the start, this day would have not come!

I rather being understanding more than strict with my students. I do respect them and deal with them like adults not children.

What she should have done was let the girl hug her; and hug her back too.

here I am referring to students who are between 17 – 22 years old. Trust me if I say that they neither look nor behave like children. It would be :Shock: to hug back a student who is 2 years younger than I am. Hell NO! That’s a nightmare!!

*Can’t imagine myself hugging one of my students while everybody in the school are staring at us* :shut:

so it's a girl hugging a girl? and saying she loves you?
now thats wierd
i think you did the right thing what else could've done
continue with class? can't see it happening after such a thing

i think the best way to deal with it
is have the principle, you and the teacher have a looooooooooong talk to clarify things up

The teacher in a position of responsibilty should have dealt with it first. She should have been understanding with the student, explaining that wasn't correct behaviour. Going straight to the principle is embarrassing. The student was definitely unsure abt herself (sexuality and emotions). Rather than putting her into a more confusing situation, the teacher should pull back and talk to her abt things.

If it doesn't stop and the student is very persistent (we're talking after perhaps two or three hugs) then the teacher should report to the principle.

if i was the teacher, i would have made the student butt naked and be punished till the end of the class standing at the corner holding his/her ears!

if i was the teacher, i would have made the student butt naked and be punished till the end of the class standing at the corner holding his/her ears!
Hahahahahahahaha...now that's even more freaky :eyes:

Anyways the teacher shouldn't have pushed her away she should have told her plz sit down...I am having an important lesson to teach and after class she should have went dierctley to the head.

well
those are what should've been done
but in such a situation
it's hard to do what shold've been done
thats what i think

A girl gave a female professor a hug?! Thats some freaky $h!t!

If I were the professor and a guy student gave me a hug, I'd ask him to meet me outside and ask him why he did that. If he was being gayish about it, I'd take him to the principal's office and ask for his parents to come to school so we could have a chat. I'd not care about his sexual preference, but would ask him to keep it private or take the whole deal elsewhere (with someone else).

But, once again ... thats some freaky $h!t!

I don’t see anything natural about it, I mean its inappropriate, it sounds so sick this whole student/Teacher extreme love to the point where she cant control herself and Hugs the teacher! What an affection!! But, you never know maybe this student has some emotional disorders, Cant find love at home and found it in her teacher.

The way the teacher reacted is just a spontaneous reaction since she didn’t know how to deal with it. However she should’ve been prepared for it, am sure she did realise this love from her student, it wasn't developed in one day or two.

I'll ask the administration to suspence him.. if not, I resign..

*that's what I'd do if I am new young teacher and do not have an experience*

I think the problem is with the teacher cuz the student won't just jump on her like that there should be a signals before. I mean maybe the teacher was exchaning some sort of attraction signals with the students. So the student was like given a green light to make his step and hug her tight. Good that he didn't take another wild step by holding her, run away, enter another classroom and lock the door!

i think you did the right thing what else could've done continue with class? can't see it happening after such a thing
Exactly CrazyReD. You make a lot of sense here. It’s not me btw. The teacher is a colleague of mine.

**I want to clear something about pushing the student away. The teacher had to do that because there was no way to take her student’s hands off. The hug was very tight and strong and the teacher did that spontaneously as Haya mentioned.
Whenever you study such a case you need to put yourself in both situations; the student and the teacher. Almost the majority of you were on the student’s side. Well what about the teacher?! How can a shocked new young teacher be able to talk to this student at that moment? Might work with male teachers though.
Originally Posted by IRONY she should have told her plz sit down...I am having an important lesson to teach and after class she should have went dierctley to the head.

You can’t be serious can you?
Let’s assume that you are a teacher. One of your students slapped you in the face *just an example* then you slapped her/him back then order him/her to sit down as you have a lesson to give. Is that what you’re gonna do? Actually you won’t be able to concentrate on anything at that moment, but the shock that you’ve just received.

Icy: You are right about what you have said, but not in this case. There were no such signals and the teacher is a decent respectful girl btw.

CatChy is the student male or female?

Female ya Icy

OMG, so it's female/female incident!

It's starnge to see in our Islamic society such type of non-natural relations started to appear to the public. Then it would be better if the teacher hit this girl the time she jumped on her because it's a learning lesson that this kind of attactivness is against the nature and should be stopped.

Strange?!!! Icy when I was teaching in Muscat I saw female studnets hugging and kissing each other in public. You know what kind of kissing I mean.

Will the hitting lesson work with adults/teens?


PS: Hitting is disallowed in schools.

eeeeeeeeew....
honestly i don't see a big deal if a girl is hugging another girl... it's a girl thing!
but the whole i love u is too much.. id just send her outside, and talk to her after the lesson.. what if she was just dared to do that? probably just a joke..
as for girls kissing girls.. what school is THAT in?! definitely wouldn't want to send my daughter there!

hello

I agree with Icy, that teacher must have had part of giveing a chance to a student to do such thing, even if it was not Deliberate by the teacher.


Plus there are many cases of problems related to the close relationship between the teachers and the students in many places in the world, and in all sort or types of schools, there is no preferance in them.


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catchy, can you confirm me if this incident did happen in Muscat and in which school, please?

Because i have a feeling that i might know something related to this case,you can send me a pm if you dont wnat to reveal it in here.

catchy, can you confirm me if this incident did happen in Muscat and in which school, please?


Sure no problem :)

Both incidents happened in two different schools in Muscat. I'll PM you their names.

And it happened in Muscat also, we are the parents from those girls who are trying to damage the future wives of our men?

sallam Catchy,

Thanks for your PM.

Well i am glad that it is not the case that i am thinking of, but it is really a pitty of what had happend to your friend.

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But i personally think, that it all goes way back to the teacher being strict in the class room and not given any chance fot the student to get to such a stage and to take this kind of steps and be proud of it.

i am not saying that your friend did giev the chance in her case, but i am generally speaking in here.

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i know a girl who is soooo obbssesed with her teacher, to the extend that she talks about her like she is an angel and like she is her lover.
and this girl believes that this is a pure love from one human to another human, and there is nothing wrong in it.

and she is in contact with this teacher outside the school hours, but inside the scholl they pretend that they are not that close, which took my attention abit because how can a teacher allow her self to be such a close relationship or friendship as what they call it with a student of hers.

even though as far as i am aware that there is a strict law that all the teachers must be aware and known to them that they should not be so close to student nor to far from them, it should be a reasonable relation between the teachers and the student and as wlel as clear to every one on the type of this relations..


But going back to the case of this girl, that she is loves this teacher as what she says and her teacher is not objecting, and she keeps sending txt messages and calling her, and the teacher replies the txts but she never calls.
the gilr spends all her pocket money to top-up her mobile credit just to get in contact with the teacher.

in summer tiem when i was back to oman, i was with this girl, she is far younger than me, but i know her sister very well, and i am like a sister to her 2. i saw her state when she would be txting the teacher and if the teacher delayed in replying back the girl gets mad, and she starst wondering why the teacher is not replying back and then she starts giveing us some excuses of the delay.

I tried to talk to her and let her understand that this is not a right way of being with a teacher, no matter how much she likes her or love her.

any way i hope she did take my advice.

freaky things go on over here huh... disturbing :S

Solafa: Thanks for sharing this story with us. What that teacher has been doing is absolutely wrong and unacceptable behavior.

After being huged and kissed with a word "i loveyou" the teacher should have replied 'thank you" and directed the student to take back her seat. Thereafter, lecture all students in the class-room of such 'behaviour' being 'unacceptable' to the teachers from all students. Then the incident should have been reported to the Head Mistress and the student concerned summoned and warned not to repeat the same again.

Having said that, i do sympathise with the student. Yes, I do. There is no scene of our leaders not kissing heach other when they are meeting with one another. We see these hugging and kisssssing on TV and it seems a simply thing. And and it passes with no slapping of one another. Therefore, it would have been a bad signal that would have shaterred the self-confidence of the 'student' in kuwaition had she been treated harshly in front of her class mate.


In conclusion. I'd agree with IceTea, the teacher is to blame for taking a wrong move by withdrawing from the class when she run to the principal to report the incident.


Being new in her job, i'd tend to give her the benefit of doubt 4 her reaction on this particular incident.



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One question did the girl kissed her teacher in her lips?

hello Catchy

No need to thank me, i just wanted to show that not always the student is on the wrong way in her/his attitude, instead there is a big role of the teachers behaivor and their response to the students acts.:)



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Ice Tea , such acts does not mean that these people might be lesbian :flamed:. it can be a normal act but others take it differently and translet it in their own way, for example you :p