Some people in our life are out of the spotlights and really have a low level of attraction than the rest of us. They are not sexy and not having something special about them. Unfortunately they know that! And they react from this. They accept some silly comments and really laugh when someone make a mock of them. They are helpless in front of their inner feelings of inferiority. Some other people take advantage of this and raise laughs on them and sometime cut them really deep. They feel the pain but they don’t dare to speak it. They put on a smiley face and carry on their backs their misfortune. No one feels their existence and no one needs to.

When they come to talk to you, you don’t give them a face. And you feel irritated when they ask you to give them a ride. If you were in some kind of a gathering and they were mocked of you try to keep a distance from them, as if they were plagued. They help every one but no one help them. They love every one, but non love them. They always act in the background, and can’t really get to the front. When they speak no one listen to them, and they live their life in that way.

If you don’t know them, you treat them OK, and then when you see how people treat them, you do the same thing, and follow the trend. You tell yourself, why should I care as far as the rest don’t, and if they are like that then it is their choice. We ask them to do things which we don’t accept someone to ask us like wise.

We all know someone like this in our life. I know lots of them, because really I am one of them.

Do you know those people?

I don't think there are people like them, but maybe people like us, bit superficial or too much in a hurry to stop and find something peculiar in them to interact with.
Each one of us has something special, sometimes is up to the counterpart to find it.

I have a soft spot for people like that, I usually hang out with them and be really nice to them cuz I feel sorry for them. And then when I start hanging out with them, I realize they are really cool people and that others underestimate them. I honestly can say, that people like that are the nicest people I have ever met. People that will not take you for granted and will stand by your side if you ever needed them.

Treat people the way you want to be treated

I have realized there are so many cruel people in the world. Why dont people try to put themselves in the persons place. Wouldnt it hurt??

Haroundb- what the hell are you saying you are like that! You are so awesome! And your soo not out of the spotlight! Dont ever say that about yourself! Retard. you need to be slapped! ;)

Kaza said the same what I wanted to say..
I don't know why I feel sad when some one is treated badly cauz of his low self esteem on him self!! Actually I've noticed such ppl is an easy vistims for those who has unbalanced self esteem, cauz they wanna consruct their personality & confidence by attacking & annoying such ppl!!

One thing that I must add , a piece of advice for those people- confidence can do wonders ;) !

Even if you're the ugliest creature, as long as you are confident- you'd be surprised, but people will look at you in a totally different light.

One thing that I must add , a piece of advice for those people- confidence can do wonders ;) !

Even if you're the ugliest creature, as long as you are confident- you'd be surprised, but people will look at you in a totally different light.

It is not that easy dear?!! I wish if it was :(
I had such girl which I was always to help & advice since the school, cauz she was victimized by other girls. Do u belive that till now In the UNI she didn't change after all the advices I told her?!! :bang:
My best friend tells me don't waste your time with her, cauz it seems nothing gonna change her behaviour or way of thinking, but I'm so stubborn & don't give up easily :rolleyes:

It is not that easy dear?!! I wish if it was :(
I had such girl which I was always to help & advice since the school, cauz she was victimized by other girls. Do u belive that till now In the UNI she didn't change after all the advices I told her?!! :bang:
My best friend tells me don't waste your time with her, cauz it seems nothing gonna change her behaviour or way of thinking, but I'm so stubborn & don't give up easily :rolleyes:

That's true, u need to have the will to change yourself.

Good input everyone..
One thing to remember, no one will dare to degrade you unless you gave them the permission to. Ofcourse, there exceptional to few rude ones but if you analyse it clearly you would find out the problem start with the individual himself who let people mock on him/her.

Haroundb- what the hell are you saying you are like that! You are so awesome! And your soo not out of the spotlight! Dont ever say that about yourself! Retard. you need to be slapped! ;)

Thanks Kaza, you are sweet.

This subject is always at the back of my mind, I can't help thinking about it. Anyway, I hope we give such people more attention.

I know what you are talking about Haroundb.. and i think what sophi and H-Highness said is very true. It's the individual who creats all this, but whenever you get into the changing will and try not to be one of those, you will get out of it, (i'm saying this) cause obviously you think its not a very good thing.

( i talk too much sometimes, when i can't even have that confidence will thingie) but oh ya God bless those nice people and i believe deeply that their nice side will surely come with a nice out put, someday somehow, it will it will.

No, I do not know anyone like that. If there's someone in my friend circle who's being treated like that, then the person who's treating him that way will feel the heat from me personally.

Like Kaza posted, treat a person the way you want to be treated.

One thing that I must add , a piece of advice for those people- confidence can do wonders ;) !

Even if you're the ugliest creature, as long as you are confident- you'd be surprised, but people will look at you in a totally different light.

Very true. But I wish confidence was a pill that you could take to give you a boost. Unfortunately it isn't. It's hard to be confident when everyone avoids you like the plague or looks down at you.

Like Kaza, I do try to be nice to those ppl. Sometimes that's all it takes for them to even smile but other times I find that they can be quite bitter and not appreciate the effort that ppl make. I can't say I blame them though. I'd probably feel like a charity case too.

It is about the people themselves, if a person does not respect his very own self why would anybody else do? It is about selfesteem. About appreciating the gifts within. I think that these people try to be other persons they are not. They are probably hanging around with the wrong group, and are living in someone else's shadow. It is not so easy to break out of a prison that one created around himself, I think that it requires the change of the whole lifestyle with all the little details that really make us who we are.

I am not trying to act like a wise @$$ here but, I heard this saying that goes "There are millions of those little sand stones in the world, millions of water droplets in the world, millions of grass in the world..but there is only one YOU" So I think if you know that at least you should learn to value yourself more. Those people are labeled as 'Not sexy' or 'unpopular' by other people...this doesnt make any sense really; you should never value yourself by other's eyes..I used to be like that and it wasn't any fun...at all.

Unfortunately they know that! And they react from this. They accept some silly comments and really laugh when someone make a mock of them. They are helpless in front of their inner feelings of inferiority. Some other people take advantage of this and raise laughs on them and sometime cut them really deep. They feel the pain but they don’t dare to speak it. They put on a smiley face and carry on their backs their misfortune. No one feels their existence and no one needs to.

It comes from both in and out..like I said, they got too much affected by other's opinion about themselves than to be affected by their own opinion. People treat them like scum bags for no reason, and if they have one..it's because they are 'so uncool' or 'so unpopular...duh!' which are kinda hard to buy, those out of spotlight people as we call them did absolutley nothing but minding their own bussiness, is it too hard for some people to accept that fact and 1) Leave them alone OR 2) Just acting nice to them?


When they come to talk to you, you don’t give them a face. And you feel irritated when they ask you to give them a ride. If you were in some kind of a gathering and they were mocked of you try to keep a distance from them, as if they were plagued. They help every one but no one help them. They love every one, but non love them. They always act in the background, and can’t really get to the front. When they speak no one listen to them, and they live their life in that way.

And have people ever thought..WHY are they treating those guys like this? are they so cold blooded to treat people who love them and care for them that bad?

If you don’t know them, you treat them OK, and then when you see how people treat them, you do the same thing, and follow the trend.You tell yourself, why should I care as far as the rest don’t, and if they are like that then it is their choice. We ask them to do things which we don’t accept someone to ask us like wise.

This is what I call...lack of personality. My attitude is bad towards someone is bad because I DONT LIKE HIM/HER..not because 'other people' dont =/.


because really I am one of them.

Dude, you really dont have to burden yourself by this fact. Live your life and do not give a wooden nickle about what anyone thinks of you...don't tell yourself that 's/he's right and deep down inside you, you know otherwise'. Believe in yourself, I know its kinda hard to achiece, because I was 'one of them' not so long ago...but really, it isnt impossible once you realize that people who treat you badly for no reason ARE the scum bags themselves; All the 'plastics' in your life will end up like real loosers, if not in their jobs, then their lives..because they depend on their charm to live...not on themselves.


Always remember this: A prom king/queen isn't such a qualification to make you live a good life. ;).

It depends on the situation, ppl may find themselves pretty confident in some, and they just want to be out of the spotlight in others. Each and every one could through this phase, when he just to be left out and be a bystander

I do know a few people like that..
it's sad to see.. but true! there are people like that out there!