Women always complain that men are bastards. Translated, that they don't have a loving guy.

But when that loving guy comes along, do we start complaining that he it too 'perfect'?

Can the 'perfect guy' that we have dreamed abt all along, really scare us?

When that happens do we try our best to look for a flaw in them? And a little flaw that we would overlook with other men ( who were actually bastards), we would amplify it with this 'perfect' guy.

Do we start having arguments, that when you really think abt it the argument is really over nothing and was just a misunderstanding? Do we quickly jump to conclusions abt him for things he has said and done, because we desperately need to find a flaw to prove that he isn't a saint?

After settling the argument, and (surprise surprise!) you are in the wrong and not him! There is a sense of comfort.

Do we really need drama in our relationships? Do we sabotage our own relationships to create drama?

Or is it because we have been so used to drama in our past relationships that when we are now in a relationship that is drama-less, the atmosphere is very strange to us, and suddenly we don't know how to act?

Are we that messed up, or do we just need time to settle down into the new atmosphere?

There is no human that is perfect we are not gifted with perfection! And am sorry to break all those women's hearts out there (my heart is already broken after accepting the fact) that man of your dreams that perfect man does not exist am sorry!

And women we are also too dramatic...it's more like we live in our own fairytale world..which is a credit for ourselves but not our partners!

There is no human that is perfect we are not gifted with perfection! And am sorry to break all those women's hearts out there (my heart is already broken after accepting the fact) that man of your dreams that perfect man does not exist am sorry!

And women we are also too dramatic...it's more like we live in our own fairytale world..which is a credit for ourselves but not our partners!

You did not get my point. I am not talking abt whether there were any perfect guys. Imagine you are in a relationship where everything is perfect and smooth sailing. There is nothing that you two could argue about. Yet, you will argue with him for something that does not even exist. My question is are we so used to drama, that when we are in a smooth-sailing relationship we will try to find something for the sake of creating drama ?

There is no human that is perfect we are not gifted with perfection!

Exactly! We are so used to drama! Guys who are not perfect. But when the rare thing happens (Mr. Perfect) do we sabotage the relationship?

There is no perfect relationship. If it seems perfect then something is wrong.

If relationships are all about compromise, and there's nothing to compromise then where's the relationship?

I am, admittedly, a fault-finder. The world's best critic, I find fault in everyone and everything. This 'perfection' would never be something I would have to deal with because it could never exist to me.

I am, admittedly, a fault-finder. The world's best critic, I find fault in everyone and everything. This 'perfection' would never be something I would have to deal with because it could never exist to me.

Enigma, you have a gift, so use it in the right way (same with me here).

Our search for perfection is a main reason for our success in this life!

What I think of (searching for perfection) is like speeding your car, to some limit it is safe and fun, but the more you speed the more you get to the danger zone. So you have to manage your speed, and define your limits (we all have limits), and it is very important, to know how you brake it before it breaks you!

There is no perfect relationship. If it seems perfect then something is wrong.



What I think of (searching for perfection) is like speeding your car, to some limit it is safe and fun, but the more you speed the more you get to the danger zone. So you have to manage your speed, and define your limits (we all have limits), and it is very important, to know how you brake it before it breaks you!

:bang: You guys don't get the point! Why is everyone talking abt that there isn't a perfect relationhsip? The topic is; you have a perfect relationship and yet you will do anything (e.g. find a fault that does not even exist!) so that it is no longer perfect!

Or let's change the word 'perfect' to 'smooth-sailing'.

For example it's the start of a relationship and everything is great. Or you are with one another, but because you have the same views and opinions on everything, you don't argue.

You guys, since you can't picture a smooth-sailing relationship happening realistically. Then imagine that we live in utopia. When that happens, the relationship is smooth-sailing, will we create arguments for reasons that do not exist just to have drama?

The relationship is very exciting, without arguments, it's exciting. It's a faitytale on it's own. But why do people still have to try and sabotage that amazing, exciting relationship. Are we messed up or just used to arguing with former lovers that we find this new atmosphere strange?

the fact sophis there isnt a perfect relationship .. u dont need to creat drama .. it get created by its own because relationships arent perfect ..

but according to your point, every person need spices in thier lives wether its men or women .. living a perfect life is boring!! So I wouldnt be surprised that when somone is leading a perfect life they will creat things to make it spicy .. u would just hope these things wouldnt ruin the relationship!!

perfect relationships do exist, but in fairy tales!

u would just hope these things wouldnt ruin the relationship!!

That's the problem :( the arguments could be really damaging!

That's the problem the arguments could be really damaging!

yes very true .. but if the girl realsied that early she can fix things up I guess .. just be her again and remind herself that what she has no one else has .. something very precious that she should take extra care of it!!

:bang: You guys don't get the point!
let's change the word 'perfect' to 'smooth-sailing'.


Ah, I suppose this thread :

http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25191&highlight=drama

Is more like what you were referring to?

^^^ LOL! Yes :) .

Prfect relationship? :no:


BALANCED relationship? :yes:

Man and the relationship never can be PERFECT nor can be 100% pure dear.
Coz, To err is human.

The good relationship are constructed on Blind believe, sacrifice, compromise, blind love, and so on. :scratch:

Prfect?:D
Just No!

BALANCED? YES ;)


People simply do not read the thread. :no:

somewhere deep down, part of u supposedly "knows" that this is the perfect relationship, and i guess u think it's too good to be true. So u tend to sabotage it?
I guess it's possible..

well you asked does the idea of a perfect man scare us i'm not intrested in no men so can't really answer that
as for my idea of a perfect relationship is one that arguments do occur but both partners realize how much they mean to one another and overcome it. No matter what it is if there's love it can be solved and what dosn't kill it makes it stronger ;)

although there are cases like a guy cheating on a girl or vice versa in that case I fail to see how the one who cheated can say he/she still loves the first

yes it can be berfect withing the humen standards.. and becareful a relationship without ups and downs is tastless ;) .

I think its true. when things are going well between the couple , one side always seems to want to find a way to break that. lets say for example.. the husband doesnt get jealous about another guy hitting on his wife in public cause he trust his wife and knows that nothing could ever break the love they have with each other. will she appreciate that? Nopes , she will make a fuss and accuse him of not caring enough about her. and if he gets over jealous and does something about it , then she might accuse him of over reacting. it could go both ways ... so am not really cusssing out women. :p

when a relationship is going in the right direction, both sides are happy and no problems , It sounds more like "too good to be true", not many can adjust to that for whatever reasons they have be it past experiences or some are dramatic by nature.

salam all... personal believe and experiance ......if the relationship appears to be perfect of too perfect i would begin to worry as to how genuine the other person is

oh and no one is perfect

A relationship can never be too perfect. There are always some ups and downs, and that's where pateince and tolerance come from.
You cannot find your dream man/woman in full, there'll be something missing.. no one is full, and that's why we say "accept" the way they are, because that's how they're created..
Love is a very complex issue!