Heard this plea before?

"My husband doesn't like to be touched, except during sex. I really want the intimacy of a kiss or hug, holding hands or having an arm around my shoulder, or even just snuggling in bed without sex." (got that from an online counselling site).

While a woman's skin is at least 10 times more sensitive to touch than a man's, is thinner than his as well and has more layers of fat under it (making it more sensitive) men have thicker skin , and are generally opposed to cuddling, hugging and holding hands. It just isn't as important to them as it is to women (seeing as they don't get the same satisfaction out of it that women do).

Out of ten, how many men would you say fall under this general category?

Guys, how do you feel about being 'touchy feely'?

Girls, is it very important that he is that way? If he isn't would you feel unloved, uncared for?

Guys, how do you feel about being 'touchy feely'?
Myself I dont mind my lady to touch me all the time. Sometimes you know that you need to express something, & by the touches goes between that became more clear.

I love to be touched and felt but only i get annoyed while I am tensed on some matter. :(:)

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww i luv all that hug concept when i see couples i find that really cute! I think 4/10 men fall in that category not much hate to b touched THAT I KNOW OF! and yeah most girls think its important to cuddle hug you wouldn't be wanting sexual intercourse 24/7 so this is just another way of expressing your love thats all

I love to be touched and felt but only i get annoyed while I am tensed on some matter. :(:)

Yeah, I'm not surprised with your answer as I've read everywhere that when men are angry the last thing they want to do is cuddle or be affectionate. That's the time where they go into their 'cave' and want to be left alone.

very interesting thread first of all.

I personally would love him to be touchy feely.. holding my hand and putting his arm around my shoulder would mean more to me than sex. It's the little things that mean so much.

Yes, I would feel unloved big time. It's hurtful when the husband doesn't even want to be touchy with his own wife. I would find that cold, and feel unloved.

"My husband doesn't like to be touched, except during sex. I really want the intimacy of a kiss or hug, holding hands or having an arm around my shoulder, or even just snuggling in bed without sex." (got that from an online counselling site).

Enigma! You missed the whole point. HE IS GAY! That's why he doesn't like to be touched. :D

Anyways, heck, why the hell wouldn't I want my wife to touch me other than only with sex? I'd be more than happy if she wanna go through the touching phases, but not to the point that she jumps on my lap in public and screams out loud asking me to make love to her! ;)

I agree with Nightface about expressing your emotions through hugging and cuddling your boy/girlfreind. Actually I think that some feeling CANNOT be expressed other than by hugging and so.

I wouldn't feel awkward if my girl hugged me or anything..I think it shows that she loves me and cares for me so much..something that I can't do anything about but to acknowledge it ;).

Yeah, I'm not surprised with your answer as I've read everywhere that when men are angry the last thing they want to do is cuddle or be affectionate. That's the time where they go into their 'cave' and want to be left alone.

True that...but I think that if you can pick the right time for cuddling and affection, you will find that us men aren't as stubborn as we may seem to be :p. But I think that if I am angry to the extremes...I might prefer to be alone for a while, not alone...but u just dont talk to me for a wihle and I will be cool =D.

interesting !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

looking forward to hear more....

Out of ten, how many men would you say fall under this general category?

No clue... :confused:

Guys, how do you feel about being 'touchy feely'?

I think its warm and comfy :) can solve a lot of simple things that can get huge and complex, with no real reasons... and can add to the confidence, security and self-esteem as well.

It depends on love. If a man loves his wife he will really find it very nice, but if he is just “married” to a woman, then it is nothing more than make sex and let go. Un-Emotional marriage is a very disappointing marriage, and this touching problem is one of the symptoms of that kind of marriage. I really don’t advise anyone to go for it, it is just a waste of time.

HE IS GAY!

Spot on! :)

I would love to be touched by the woman i love infact that would make me feel closer to her. of course when am pissed i would rather be left alone but that doesnt mean i would push her away if she approaches me.

of course when am pissed i would rather be left alone but that doesnt mean i would push her away if she approaches me.

With my experience with ladies, that's what they do when they get mad. So Where is your so-called manly part of yourself? :D

What do ladies do when they get mad Don?

Enigma, as I said, with "my experience" with the ladies I knew, they like to be left alone when they get mad. NOTHING WRONG IN THAT, and even some men tend to that. But I wasn't trying to criticize that, and if you have seen Nabhan's post in "Arabs" (lebanese, jordianian, etc.. being less manly than other Arabs), then you would fully understand why I was trying to make fun of him here (it was just a friendly joke).

I was just trying to make sure I got you right Don, don't get all defensive on me! ;)

Anyway, normally men are the ones who like to be left alone when they are angry. They don't like to talk about it, they sit in their 'caves' (read Men Are From Mars.. ?) or busy themselves elsewhere to mull over the situation trying to find a solution or just change their trail of thought onto something else as to rid themselves of the angry feelings.

Women on the other hand, might want to be left alone for a bit (less than half an hour maybe?) but then need desperately to talk about what is bothering them. They like to let it out when men tend to keep it in. This is why fights amongst couples become worse because after a fight he will go silent and she wants to talk to him again; she'll end up feeling he doesn't care about her feelings and he will get frusterated with her more.

Sounds like you've known some slightly masculine women Don.

Interesting Enigma.

PS/ They were very feminine.

After a fight he will go silent and she wants to talk to him again; she'll end up feeling he doesn't care about her feelings and he will get frusterated with her more.


God this is so true!

With my experience with ladies, that's what they do when they get mad. So Where is your so-called manly part of yourself? :D

LOL.. are u trying to get back at me for cussing out some arabs manliness? :D .. i totaly understood it without even reading ur post later on. :p

I think its pretty normal when people get upset they tend to not be in a touchy feely mood. nothing to do with being men or women... it all depends on the person and how he/she feels.

I agree with Don and all other guys who gall under the 'general category' (i.e. who'd want to be touched and cuddled up against).

But, I don't find anything wrong with men who wouldn't want to be touched all the time. Being touchy is fine once in a while, but it just gets disgusting when it happens ALL the time. My room mate's ex was EXTRA touchy and it used to just disgust me! I'd just walk into my room when we were all in the living room ...

So, it just differs from person to person. Personally, I'd love to be touched and cuddled up from time to time, but I'd get irritated if *she was just doing it all the time, and just so that she could show off our love to the rest of the world*. ;)