This thread was inspired by Raed's post in the 'Wait or move on? ?' thread.


In every woman’s life there are three men:

- a man she loves.
- A man who loves her.
- A man whom she gets married to.


Care to explain plz. And be prepared to be have women throw stones at you :gap: .

I think the best outcome from the saying above is that those three men are actually all in one :D

Though am not sure, if there is alot to explain here. What are you seeking to know Sophi...

LOL! That's cute..but I dont think that that's in EVERY woman's life =/.

What are you seeking to know Sophi...


Whether women are wasting their time to be with the man they love if they won't get married?

I didn't understand what Raed said.

Hopefully he'' show up.

LOL! That's cute..but I dont think that that's in EVERY woman's life =/.

That's cute?! That's depressing!

the bullet proof glass goes here, and I stay behind it right there.

Aight,

a) a man she loves

Surely we have seen, heard and in some cases experienced a certain feeling towards certain someone. Sometime, the feeling lacks logic and only lasts for short time AKA CRUSH ON SOMEONE, this happens during teenage years, where a female gets a glimpse at the shape of how a woman's heart suppose to be.

In other cases it might be for a long-time, expecting no rewards or love in return. Many would call it stupid, love from one side, or Waste of time “which is my favorite” and the lady who experiences it knows that it too, sadly though she feels helpless towards this being.

before I keep going on and bore every single pair of eyes out there , Do we agree on this?

I don't think that this is true about woman. It is men who are known to have several relationships at the same time. Polygamy is is usually related to men getting married to more than one woman and rarely talks about woman getting married to more than one man. Woman is known to be more emotional and sincere about their relationships, while men are the players. A man might get married to one woman, and at the same continue to date others at the same time. Don't know about the woman that loves him and gets nothing at all though.

before I keep going on and bore every single pair of eyes out there , Do we agree on this?

You aren't boring anyone. Yes I agree with you.

I don't think that this is true about woman. It is men who are known to have several relationships at the same time. Polygamy is is usually related to men getting married to more than one woman and rarely talks about woman getting married to more than one man. Woman is known to be more emotional and sincere about their relationships, while men are the players. A man might get married to one woman, and at the same continue to date others at the same time. Don't know about the woman that loves him and gets nothing at all though.

Wo wooo ! hold your horses ranger!

Buddy slow down, let us not mix things over here. This is purely PURELY and lemme repeat one more time PURELY about a girl’s heart.

The reason why I brought this up is because mixing is more often than it what used to be, yeah I know people are going to come up with me with the thought HEY I can control my feelings. Aight, Robocop I am talking about today’s girl who goes out, talks to men at work and almost everywhere not cause she is a wild girl, no because life is becoming like that.

That's cute?! That's depressing!

LOL! I didnt mean to sound offensive..but the statement itself shouldn't be that absolute. There are alot of women who DO marry the person they love, heck there are also some women who only love one guy, and they were never been loved by anyone before and eventually mary the guy they love. So like I said it isnt that absolute, its a probability issue I guess =/.

my question stands Raed, what about those who get all that in one man!! is it possible ..

I dont think crush can ever be love, and so the lil crushes that any human (even guys) go through in teenage years are just crushes .. something that makes them dream for the sake of dreaming .. sometimes even if the person came fwd to her she would refuse him!!
so, if you are talking about crushes, your first sentence isnt valid :angel:

you are going to get a whole bunch of women fighting you here in this thread, be careful :D

Am working on the third, if i succeed i'll let you know if possible to find 3 in one sweet sophie :duck:

I love Him , He loves Me, we are heading toward point number 3 !!.. :D

in that case am i considered to be the lucky winner ?

I thought you are will tell:

1. Father
2. Brother
3. Husband

Who has different but most impressive role.
:)

my question stands Raed, what about those who get all that in one man!! is it possible ..

I dont think crush can ever be love, and so the lil crushes that any human (even guys) go through in teenage years are just crushes .. something that makes them dream for the sake of dreaming .. sometimes even if the person came fwd to her she would refuse him!!
so, if you are talking about crushes, your first sentence isnt valid :angel:

you are going to get a whole bunch of women fighting you here in this thread, be careful :D

if it was as often that a girl gets three in one you would not find us naming couples! :yawn:

When i first read this thread, I thought u meant that in every girls life there are three men 1-her father 2-her brother 3- her lover or husband... anyways why cant it be all three of what u mentioned in one ? !! it cant be that hard to find that person .....At the end if worse gets worst then i think you should go for the person who loves you , becuase everything will lead to the other ...

i think all ladies should dream of the 2nd option!

i always hear the wise saying that : "a woman should always marry the man who loves her, rather than marrying the man she loves"

I dont agree with this statement at all
and hopefully not in my life ! :angel:

if it was as often that a girl gets three in one you would not find us naming couples!

yup thats true . but it doesnt mean that its extremly rare!!

With mixing, the chance of exposure to many increases, and it is inevitable knowing how weak men are, and how emotional women can be. Else you would not hear songs, watch movies, and read news about many broken hearts here and there. However, should we say that there are exceptions, and hold on to that sincerely. Then we need to remind ourselves that it is not the general rule that covers the overwhelming mass of people. A girl can only hope! Furthermore, A girl could force herself to believe that the guy she is with has all three, when she loved and was loved before that! The man she loved, the man who loved her and the fact that such emotions took place is recorded.

A girl can only hope! Furthermore, A girl could force herself to believe that the guy she is with has all three, when she loved and was loved before that! The man she loved, the man who loved her and the fact that such emotions took place is recorded.

yup, the girl only hopes and whats written is written ..

one question that came to my mind while reading your answer ..

do you beleive love is inevitable? can you choose who you love or you cant?

yup, the girl only hopes and whats written is written ..

one question that came to my mind while reading your answer ..

do you beleive love is inevitable? can you choose who you love or you cant?

Clearing the mess:

To every nation there is a perception of joy, sadness, and love too! The west seems to confuse lust and love, to the contrary of that is Asian form of love, which is built on respect and appreciation towards the partner.

The problem that faces Arabic and Muslim girls, that they seem to have this conflict between “what girl wants, what girl needs , whatever … Christina 3guilera” and applying it to their own culture.

Reminds me of a chit chat that I had with a Japanese friend of mine , eating sushi Yummy, he said : Ramen which is a Chinese dish was introduced to Japan and people liked it, with time we started having our own Japanese touch to the Chinese Ramen, and now they are completely different, we LOVE Japanese Ramen!

And I was like yes : of course the answer is McArabia! If we can have food designed to fit our own taste, we could still apply that to all the qualities absorbed from the west!

Having said that my form of love allows a room for choice. When the form of love that our young generation is bombarded with daily is not.

Yes, this could be true but not all the time.

Having said that my form of love allows a room for choice. When the form of love that our young generation is bombarded with daily is not.

totally agree with you!! and this is why I think its easier when you have the ability to choose your love to have the three in one, simple: love the one who loves you and marry them :D

This thread was inspired by Raed's post in the 'Wait or move on? ?' thread.


In every woman’s life there are three men:

- a man she loves.
- A man who loves her.
- A man whom she gets married to.


Care to explain plz. And be prepared to be have women throw stones at you :gap: .

well doesnt this work for men as well.
- a woman he loves.
- a woman who loves him
- a woman whom he marries

yes it applicable to men as well, you have to understand the minute you choose to get involve in relations prior to marriage, you are risking your heart to be broken. This is why I tell many: explore but do not get yourself tangled with love.

My grand ma said once when I asked her about it : sh7ebah? shahal khrabee6? 7bha 3gb al mulcha methl ma tby.

Translation: What love are you talking about ? just fall in love with the lady you get yourself married to.

And I am confused, startled and bewildered, I keep hearing people talk about love all the time and dedicating songs to one another over the radio, so romantic init? Valentine day, anniversary, and blah blah and they can’t last for couple of years, and because they believe in love so much, the minute it fades out of marriage problems start coming up to the surface (another thread could be opened, lol) when oldies never spoke of it, cause they thought it was greater than to be translated into words and they kept on going and going like Duracell.

How do you know that your grand mother was happy? Some smart ***** might wonder. :gap:

Well she cannot look at his picture without crying and saying the most romantic thing my ears have ever heard : Junety yomah, Allah yer7mah.

He is My heaven dear, may Allah bestow mercy on him.

Stop and read it over again. If you cannot feel passion in these words, I just hope you get married to someone that in many years later (50 years, half a century yes!) that you will describe to your grand kid in all sincerity : he is my heaven.

awwww Raed, your grandma is lovely .. allah yikhaleeha lik ..
and yup, the olden age love was hidden which is so romantic .. you know the book I just finished reading, it was about early days in a village in al jubail .. and the relation between the husband and wife there was soo romantic too!

Any way, you see I beleive there are two kids of love:

- 7ub 3aqel (intellegent love) - choose the right one to love and then marry them
- 7ub majnon (mad love) - love for the sake of love .. and care about the rest later.

Because I beleive in choosing your love, you can love intellectuly. When you love someone, love someone that you could end up marrying .. someone who when they loves you back, love you for marriage.. and the moment this love is disusscussed publicly with you two, the disucssion is marraige!!

and I will open a thread about the issue u mentioned above ;)

singing : " the first cut is the deepest" by Cat Stevens , good lyrics :gap:

what if the first cut is the long lasting cut ;)

- 7ub 3aqel (intellegent love) - choose the right one to love and then marry them
- 7ub majnon (mad love) - love for the sake of love .. and care about the rest later.



I think that's the key. Again Raed assumes that people love in the same way. Depends on what type of love.

In every woman’s life there are three men:

- a man she loves.
- A man who loves her.
- A man whom she gets married to.


That is so true (waiting to be attacked by the women mafia). I think at one point in a women's life there is someone she would fall in love with but not necessarily marry another being that he loves her but does not propse marriage and the third is the HUSBAND who she does not actually love or visa versa but ends up with due to circumstances. It all could apply to one person but i think that there are rare cases where such things apply.

I think the best option out of the three is to have someone who loves you and eventually marry, but i dont know if its the best choice seeing that you may never develop that bond 'love' for him

leave raed assumptions out of it lady :gap:

Raed .. the whole thread was based on your assumption :p

That is so true (waiting to be attacked by the women mafia). I think at one point in a women's life there is someone she would fall in love with but not necessarily marry another being that he loves her but does not propse marriage and the third is the HUSBAND who she does not actually love or visa versa but ends up with due to circumstances. It all could apply to one person but i think that there are rare cases where such things apply.

I think the best option out of the three is to have someone who loves you and eventually marry, but i dont know if its the best choice seeing that you may never develop that bond 'love' for him

Am all in tears :weep: , in fact I am shaking Davin hold me “davin our tea boy” thank you wardat. Not for your honesty and bravery in expressing yourself, but for becoming another target :gap: come on Cat fight begins any minute :haha:

Allah Kareem and may those of you who are married have a long lasting relatioship with your partners, as said in previous posts we all have to work hard to make it work and a success.

we all have to work hard to make it work and a success.

totally agree .. inshallah ameen :)