...you're too good for me. You deserve better".

Is that a 1. lame excuse for someone with self esteem problems?

or genuinely sincere from someone who just wants the best for you?

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I'm going with the first one. If you think he/she is too good for you then you should just count your lucky stars and feel blessed, loving that person even more instead of bailing.

I hate bailing. It always means the person wasn't true.

lame excuse
who dosnt want what's best for him/her?

Its like the 'Its not you, its me" thingy... except its reformed.

It would depend on the situtation itself.

If I am an as!hole, and I got to know this wonderful lady, and I know for a fact that even if I marry her, I will still be an as!hole, then I would rather step out from her life. Though, I believe we would rarely see an as!hole make such move?

In my case, it would be nice to have a woman whom is into religion more than me, so whenever it is prayer time for instance, she might call me up for it, and vice versa.

Is a multi-purpose premade sentence. Can be used for many situations.

Sometimes *applies to some people* when somebody is too good for you, you really can’t handle living with them. They are just too perfect for you. And you have this inner feeling that they deserve better. It may sound weird, but it’s serious and it does happen. In some cases it's not because you want to get rid of them, but it's more like you wish them always the best.

Its not a lame excuse, its true in some cases. Not all ppl can handle being with someone who is far better than them in many aspects. Most of the time it feels like competing for a title, or a position, It’s both stressful and tiring. You might end up hurting both yourself and the other person.

It's not lame excuse at all, & do nothing with self esteem!
Some times you feel it's not going to be your place or u don't wanna continue that life, so it's better to get out quietly from that person life & with the lowest losses by wishing him/her a better life with some one else.

Not all ppl can handle being with someone who is far better than them in many aspects.

But who's to judge who's better? I don't think I'm all that but I haven't come across a person who I thought was far better than me. I wouldn't use such an excuse. If I don't like him then I'll just tell him I don't think it could work out between us. Simple.

I think that that excuse can be a valid one, as Don mentioned above. If you know yourself to be somewhat mean, and your partner is very sensitive, then it is a good excuse. You'd rather step out of their lives quietly than make a big mess of things and bring them lots of sadness and misery. I would.

...you're too good for me. You deserve better".

Is that a 1. lame excuse for someone with self esteem problems?

or genuinely sincere from someone who just wants the best for you?




Not lame excuse at all, I think that that person who has self-esteem problems is doing their selves much more of a favor than the *better* person.

They know they are with someone way out of their league. If they are not comfortable with it, one way or the other, the relationship will suffer. Insecurities and jealousy will occur. For a relationship to really work, u need to be comfortable with one another and not be thinking of "what if they find someone better, coz I am not good as she/he is".

But who's to judge who's better? I don't think I'm all that but I haven't come across a person who I thought was far better than me. I wouldn't use such an excuse. If I don't like him then I'll just tell him I don't think it could work out between us. Simple.

well it depends on what you think is best, and how you compare yourself to others. its also a matter of self confidence.

It could be both, depending on the person, and the whole situation. Can be lame sometimes, and just as excuse to free yourself from the burden of having to explain why you want to end this relationship, or because of low self esteem. Or it could be sincere, and this person is going through a lot, that he or she thinks it's best to end things, because the other person might be able to find a better person.

People are of different personalities, and each would have their own views, and their own interpretations, doesnt' necessarily mean that their excuses or ways of looking at life is lame, it's just different.

its really depend on this person ,, cause sometimes you really found that he/she is too perfect that you cant life with it ,,, and for sure the do deserve better than this


and sometimes its the different between people affect this ,,, but i dont think its about excuse or low self-esteem

ok but ur taking this step without consolting the other
nothing is perfect if the other side is fine the way things are then why change?
I mean if love exists then who cares who's better then who but again sometimes the term love is overrated

I mean if love exists then who cares who's better then who but again sometimes the term love is overrated

Don't u notice though that people normally marry those in their league. Like smart people marry smart people. Average looking people marry average looking people. Elite marry elite, etc. Or if one is ugly and the other is gorgeous, the ugly one makes up for that by being wealthy, successful. Few times do people marry someone not of in their league.


I guess it's being comfortable to know that you're with someone who's like you in some way.

He/she probably didnt have a good reason for breaking up....

We took this idea from TV, in reality this idea is meaningless!

Haroundb I didn't get you, what do you mean we took the idea from TV?

He/she probably didnt have a good reason for breaking up....

I second that.. when someone doesn't have a good reason to break they usualy use this excuse.. "its not you its me" :mad:

100% Lame who wouldn't want the good and best for themselves! :confused:

I've said it before to a girl and I've told you about it, Enigma.

The reasons I said it was:-

1. She was a gold-digger. Well, not in a bad way, but to keep the relationship going I'd have to make sure that I spend a good amount of $$ on her.
2. Knowing how 'innocent' she was, I didn't want to be a stumbling block ... like, smoking, drinking, partying etc.

I know I keep saying this but nothing is guaranteed thus when someone says something like that to you it is up to you to know if the person is saying it cuz he is being honest or simply using it as a way out!
There are some cases as mentioned above that the other person knows that s/he does not deserve a person that kind, honest…etc in their life but I feel that the sentence is taken out of context to the extent that people abuse it

Haroundb I didn't get you, what do you mean we took the idea from TV?
It is TV drama. We did grow up seeing these silly TV series where “sufferings because of love” is the main theme. He tells She; “I love you so much, but I will not marry you, because I want you to have a better life and a more rich husband.”, then she says; “No… don’t say that, I want you and only you, I can’t stand being with someone else than you!”, then both fall in tears.

I agree with Haroun it's just a TV drams doesn't exists in real life. I don't think there is a human being will say "you are too good for me" so goodbye, lol

just like it can be a lame excuse to get out of the relationship , it can also be sincere for someone who actually does want the very best for you , and i guess its up to the other side to assure that person that he/she is indeed good enough for him/her. if he/she insists then i guess it would most likely just be an excuse. ;)

All of the above. It is the easiest way out of a relationship (apart from murder). Its lame, but ultimately it can work.

And yet it can be honest. Like someone said, you can know that you arent such a great person, and you dont want to drag them down with you. You can see that they have aspirations, ambitions, and the power to achieve them, while you are just a weight around their necks. This isnt often the case though, I think.