everytime i hear this line, i go :tiered: , ppl who are in a relationships use it when they want break-up, friends use it among each other after an unfinished argument,,,its like the ultimate get-way line when you want to wiggle yourslef out of anything, you just have to say " hey i am sorry it turned this way, but its not you, it me!!"

Its a total excuse for a person to stop the blame game. I think when a person uses such a line it usually mean ''YES, its your fault'' they are simply informing you that you are not what they want.

Its as you said Blossom a fast lane to the exit line for a relationship

When somebody says that, then they try to deliver a straightforward message to their partners whom they are seeking separation with to “not try to do anything, it’s over”. If I say “it has nothing to do with you, it’s me” then I make it clear for the others person that any try would change nothing, coz everything seems perfect, but the problem is within me and God knows if I am willing to solve it or keep it as it to be a lame excuse for ending a relationship. If it’s the way around “it’s not me, it’s you”, then there would be a hope that the other person would make efforts to set things right again.

I tend to agree with Catchy. When you say that to someone, sometimes you sincerely mean it, and you might just want to end things, because you've thought about it hard enough, and you've made up your mind, so you use this line, to send hte message that it's over, and discussing it won't do much good. Could be that you think that you can't keep going with it, could be because even though he's great, you're worried about a few things that he might be not worrying about at the present time.

It's complicated, but it's not always a lame excuse, esp if the person is serious and has thought about this seriously.

Not really sincere, most of times is a trick and excuse not to let the other feel guilty and not to try anything more.

I agree with Dr N

When you say it to someone, sometimes it really is you that has something stuck up your butt.

I guess you will never know how sincere that line is when someone uses it. Its like, they may be just using it to break things off but in a good way, so they dont hurt your feelings. Or they can really mean it.

Sometimes someone using that line can be honest.

If someone can never stay with one person, and goes through one relationship after the other, then they're right to say "It's me"..

If you use that line and stop, then its just a sleazy Excuse , If you elaborate and genuinely Explain then it might be considered as a real reason .

well sometimes it's used to just stop the blame game so everyone can get along espeically if the fight is about something small

At least at the end, it is maybe more conforting to hear that "it is not you, it's me", than the opposite: "I am sorry, it's not me, it's you!"... the blame is pointed at the friend or the partner by their own selves.

They should remember that, whatever decision or excuse they took (to break the relation or cut the argument short), it came from their side not yours and at the end they should live with it...

Nice to see you here Phoenix, as it has been a while I didn't come across your posts :blush:.