What-his-name Mario (Williams is it?) sings about how he'd rather not know if his girlfriend/wife was cheating on him. He tells her to keep it on the low if she's playing him.

So if you are in a relationship with someone, they treat you great & you get along great... would you prefer not to know they were messin' around with someone else?

Or would it all be a lie if they had something else going on, regardless of how well they treat you?

(I'm for the latter of course).

i will consider it a lie!! and i would like to know why she did it!! (at the end im going to break up ;))!!!

I cant think of anyone who would prefer not to know. It seems ridiculous. Its like 'Id rather live in ignorance, than have this illusion shattered'. Bah.

Of course I'd want to know. What kind of a relationship would it be living in complete denial.

I don't think anyone would want to live like that, unless they're really fooled by that person.

If the relationship is marriage, then In our religion the women who knows about her husband cheating on her, she is supposed to be divorced from him once she knows even if he didn't want to...

Id rather know and from him so that i can get him out of my life and not deal with any lies ... i hate dishonesty and that would make it worse than the crime itself ....

It's Winans. Mario Winans.

I would have to know. I wouldn't be able to stand being taken for a fool. I don't care who has to tell me, and how much it'll hurt, but I have my pride..

I'd be more mad if i knew from someone else. I think i will cool down more easily if he honestly state it with his own fabricated reasons. SO, i agree with you allll, No i want to know.

I will fuss about it cause i wont do such thing to anybody.

Thank God we don’t have this Boyfriend / Girlfriend thing in our Islamic communities.
But for Wife / husband kind of illegal relation, it is simply a different story, which has only one answer, diverse! In this we don’t negotiate preferences but reaction!
This is how I think of it.

i'd rather know... if i find out it was all a lie... i dont think you'd want to know wats gonna happen next! .....

I had a friend who told me that she would rather not know cause it would ruin her marriage and ruin her friendship with the girl that told her. I knew her man had cheated on her but i never told her cause "She didnt want to know". I think both the Bible and the Quran talk about how bad hidden sins are and i dont think ethically that anything should be ever hidden. 100% honesty.

I think everyone would rather know exactly whats going on .. than just live a lie .. like a fool.

yeah i'd rather know what the point of being in a relation where the signifcant other is cheating on you
but if both of you are cheating (dunno how you can call that a relation) then i guess it's balanced in a wierd way

I'd prefer knowing then being played for a fool!!
after all I do have the right to know...then ill give him a 2nd chance...he blows it...then my friend its the BOOTS for him...:D

Its rare for such things to stay hidden. So its always better to confront and be honest about them. knowing creates a better outcome then finding out...

so yes... I rather know... always...

I think that just knowing that someone was not being faithful to you is enough for you to get over him/her. I don't see why anyone would miss someone or want them back, if this person cheated on him/her.

as everybody else said , I would wanna know , it makes no sense being with someone who's cheating one just bcoz he's treating me well. Infact he is ill treating by cheating on me.

heeey enigma can u give me a link, coz i really like that song and i would like 2 download it but i couldnt find it :(

yeah i'd wanna know.. prefferably from him!! it's not nice finding out from som1 else cuz then u dont know if its a rumor or if its true.
But why would the guy actually tell u the truth?

Thank God we don’t have this Boyfriend / Girlfriend thing in our Islamic communities.
With all my respect for you Haroun, I think you live on another planet. It is a sad fact for sure, but there is a difference between what Islam teaches and what islamic communities follow... you don't have to look far to know that boyfriends-girlfriends enjoy truely what they are doing, even if they know it is 'haram'....

So if you are in a relationship with someone, they treat you great & you get along great... would you prefer not to know they were messin' around with someone else?
I would rather prefer to know, but this wouldn't necessarily mean that I would leave the person because he messed around once. I have to be in such situation to know what will be my reaction.

However, there is no guarantee that the next person I will find will be a saint 24/7 all year around, but he surely should never know that him messing around is ok with me...

With all my respect for you Haroun, I think you live on another planet. It is a sad fact for sure, but there is a difference between what Islam teaches and what islamic communities follow... you don't have to look far to know that boyfriends-girlfriends enjoy truely what they are doing, even if they know it is 'haram'....

When I said this I am considering the percentage of the people who are doing this, and that I calculate from what I and the people around me do. I it simple, how many girls and boys do you see in the street waking together calling themselves girlfriends and boyfriends? Even if it happens, people are doing it and they are really scared and expecting other people to criticize them, but in the west boys and girls are encouraged to do this to keep their psychology in a healthy conciliation!

I it simple, how many girls and boys do you see in the street waking together calling themselves girlfriends and boyfriends?

Quite a bit!!! trust me!! there are more and more these days. and people arn't so afraid to let others know about it anymore either!