what happened to all the good guys in this world?! they are either taken or gay (sorry if u took offence, dont mean it) . There is no place to meet people and still remain a respected woman. So then how can u meet ppl? where do u go? and more importantly what do u do there? i dont think we can just wait for mr/ms. right to just come along.. u cant just sit & wait at home for them, because u cant meet them if u stay cooped up @ home all day & night!

I guess if its meant to be you'll meet him one way or another. Through work, friends, college or maybe you'll just bump into him one day and that'll be it! NK there really isn't a place to go to 'meet' guys.. unless you wanna go to a club and get nasty!

ehehhe well once u go there, i dont think u remain respectable.. u know wut im sayin ;)

Maybe mine is on the other side of the ocean, but Vespucci and Colombo already did the job.

ehehhe well once u go there, i dont think u remain respectable..

i think u r wrong!

as a woman i mean.. if ur a guy i think guys can do anything and it would be ok.. but for girls.. its a different ball game.. care to elaborate.. why u think im wrong? :)

That's such a double standard, just because you are born with testicles doesn't mean you can do what you want in this life!

Enigma

lets Face it guys get away with everything!!

NK 105

when u least expect them, thats when they show up!

lol, k thanx.. and yeah Enigma, guys can get away with anything and it would be "manly" for them to do so.. but let a girl do ANYTHING and she gets called a b*tch or other bad names! aint no double standards, its the truth hun!

Not a truth I choose to live by though ;)

theres no such thing as good guys ...
just bad boys waiting to happen. sad, but true.
sorry guys, if you think im wrong but live with it!!!

Sure there is tooma, true they are rare, but they are there nonetheless!

I agree with Enigma, you can never say that all guy's are bad. Not even rare, I think they are equally the same, bad boys, bad girls, they all exist to an extent.
Socialize more, be yourself and whats written will hit you for sure. Enjoy your single life for now then enjoy the other life later J they say kilshey bwaqtoh 7illu.

Right on Najah :app: . & Enigma, ur last reply was the only 1 that was true.

Not all guys are sex starved cretins who are hornier than a Viking helmet like u girls proclaim them 2 be. Compared 2 the other countries, Oman is literally overflowing with good, modest guys. They may be rare in the capital, but there are 100s of 1000s of them in the interior region. But if ur ready 2 commit ur lives & unconditional love 2 a guy who smells like rotten dates :help: , has a vocabulary as wide as a taxi driver's, picks his nose & for some utterly disturbing reason farts & burps horrendously after hes satisfied (lol, even after sex) then ladies, migrate 2 Sur. & whats this hokum abt guys getting away with everything?? :irk: U think they built prisons 2 convert us into homosexuals? Get outta here!

As far as I'm aware, the most desirable man here is me. But please, I beg of u, try to understand that I choose to be single for various reasons, mainly because I have 2 complete my studies. Ladies, if u really can't wait, buy a Chiwawa & name him Pedro (or Chico). Its just like having a man in the house, because afterall, most men are mongrels ;) .

fatamooo

theres no such thing as good guys ...

there are so many , well maybe not many :D ..but there are ..
when they are Good.. then they are really Good :love: ...

Fatamoo, mmm u seem to be negative about guys!...once u meet theee one
u'll Flip upside down and Definitly change ur mind ..

what happened to all the good guys in this world?! they are either taken or gay (sorry if u took offence, dont mean it) . There is no place to meet people and still remain a respected woman. So then how can u meet ppl? where do u go? and more importantly what do u do there? i dont think we can just wait for mr/ms. right to just come along.. u cant just sit & wait at home for them, because u cant meet them if u stay cooped up @ home all day & night!

thats a very good question... which leads to the equivalent question.... what happened to all the good girls in this world?!

I seriously wonder....

for sure..there are alot out othere..of each gender..but again there are the opposites...

So i think in the end... what matters is who we seek and inshallah we shall be with who we desire :D

another thread for the girls to sit and cry, thats all they do these days, pretend to be strong!!

Born Lopsided
are 100s of 1000s of them in the interior region. But if ur ready 2 commit ur lives & unconditional love 2 a guy who smells like rotten dates , has a vocabulary as wide as a taxi driver's, picks his nose & for some utterly disturbing reason farts & burps horrendously after hes satisfied (lol, even after sex) then ladies, migrate 2 Sur

lool, ist a full package Decency and what u mentioned!!! :eyes:

& whats this hokum abt guys getting away with everything??

well this is according to the society !! ..

& whats this hokum abt guys getting away with everything?? U think they built prisons 2 convert us into homosexuals? Get outta here!
i dont mean guys get away with EVERYTHING, but i mean guys get away with more things than girls can and still keep an "okay" reputation. here if u c a girl in a club with a bunch of guys she's considered a *hoe*, but if a guy is seen at a club with a bunch of girls he's considered "rijjaaal" and i guess his reputation wouldnt be as bad as the girls! at least if the girl is omani. i mean tht how the famous b*tch LISTS came about! rite? if guys did what all the girls on tht list did, they wouldnt b cursed or on any list.

Where's my prince charming? Was he on his way and kinda got lost in the middle..or is he doing yoga at the moment?

I guess the most respectable, and the easiest way to meet them is through your friends. Like, a friend of yours can introduce you to someone.

I guess it all depends on your taste in men.. if u want someone dangerous looking , social.. hip and fun.. then most likely he's going to be a player ( and lets admit it.. thats the guy most girls go after ).. but if he's quiet..and a bit of a home person.. then they think he's a bore..and not worth looking at twice... but those are actually the respectable guys. ;)

there are many good guys out there... believe it or not. :)

but if he's quiet..and a bit of a home person.. then they think he's a bore..and not worth looking at twice... but those are actually the respectable guys.

well if he's a HOMEBOY, then how r u going to "bump" into him if he stays at home his whole life?

but if he's quiet..and a bit of a home person.. then they think he's a bore..and not worth looking at twice... but those are actually the respectable guys.

well if he's a HOMEBOY, then how r u going to "bump" into him if he stays at home his whole life?

:os a homeboy doesnt mean he stays in the house 24/7? duh.. he might hang out a bit but doesnt stay for late hours. doh!

i mean.. cummon.. who actually stays home for the whole of his/her life. lol

Fatamoo, mmm u seem to be negative about guys!... ..

sorry haya, maybe you are right, but the only experiences i had with guys (direct or indirect) turned out horribly wrong, so im not bothered to think about looking for the good ones... theres another post in the thread about 'Clothing' with a story about one of those experiences, well if you read it, thats exactly the kind of thing im talking about!! i think im cursed... really i do cos theres no other explanation lol i see all you guys saying that there are good guys, but i dont really remember seeing one, and if i think a guy might be good, then i learn something about them, and its back to the drawing board :bang:

fatamooo

dont let one or couple of incidents u've experienced ruin your life ..always think positive .. each one of us has its own story .. what happened to you is nothing compare to others but they moved on.. :) thats part of life..
being negative wont help but learning from ur experiences in a positive way ..

but i dont really remember seeing one

well when u least expect them ..they show up ! :)

fatamooo, because u have the expectation that guys are bad, any small mistake they do .. you turn to see it as a negative thing and put the guy in the black list .. when at the end he is a human being and has mistakes ..

just try to look at them positivly and you will see many great guys around ;)

Lets dispense with the stereotypes, shall we? There are guys, and there are sex-freaks, and it really isnt too difficult to differentiate between them. Most of us choose not to however, and are satisfied with the physical, such as how cute he is, or fashionable. Blame yourselves as much as you blame the guys. I mean come on lets face it, none of you would marry the fat, pimply, stinky guy if the tall strong athlete was available.

the fat, pimply, stinky guy if the tall strong athlete was available.

Take out the stinky part but if the fat and pimply understod me better than the tall strong athlete guy.. then why wouldnt I marry him!!!!

i just think he comes , when u least expect him to and in the weirdest situation that one day ull just realize that hes the one that understands u and respects u for who u are ..... if u keep searching ull never find him ...

You might AP, but others may not, and you would probably be more interested in getting to the know the more attractive one at first, thus possibly losing the chance to get to know the other.

If someone looks for food in garbage expecting anything besides leftovers or expired food, he should be checking-in at mental institution! Cause dogs know better than to expect French cuisine in trash.

As such some girls go "men are A$$holes" I agree to that with one slight change "males are assholes" there is a difference!

Let's talk about the "Arab world" baby, lets talk about you and me: :gap:

I have witnessed a sad story of a girl who wanted to find a man, and looked in the wrong place, different agendas met, she wanted to start a family, and he wanted to get in her pants. But for her to attract this dog's attention she had to be the ------- And only when she lost her identity lowered herself to that level she became this dog's favorite as he found it tasty to feed over her honor. until it was time for him to get married and left over she became crying words such as "MEN are A$$holes"

Cause kids know better than to look for a wife within a GF.

At the end I quote Al rafei when he said: "within every wife there is a female, but not the opposite"

I wouldn't really say that you can't find someone because there are only bad ones left. There are a lot of good, well behaved men out there, but the problem that exists is being able to find someone you can get together well with. I really believe that this is the main problem. You see a lot of guys everyday, and you get to know some of them, and eventually respect a few of them, but then you can't find someone whom you can really feel that yes this could be the one.

That's how I see it, finding someone you can both intellectually and emotionally communicate with.

i've always believed that the right person (or people cuz i dont blv tht only 1 person was meant for me) will come along one day.. its just a matter of.. patience? or just getting on with life and NOT waiting 4 him...

Im sure theres a lot of eligible batchelors right here on Sabla ;)

There is no place to meet people and still remain a respected woman. So then how can u meet ppl? where do u go? and more importantly what do u do there? i dont think we can just wait for mr/ms. right to just come along.. u cant just sit & wait at home for them, because u cant meet them if u stay cooped up @ home all day & night!

Don't matchmakers exist where you live? That's what's proper according to the Torah's teachings.

This process:

-maintains standards of modesty,
-guarantees that both sides are sincerely seeking marriage,
-and allows for a filtering process in seeking a mate, via advance research.

Don't matchmakers exist where you live? That's what's proper according to the Torah's teachings.

This process:

-maintains standards of modesty,
-guarantees that both sides are sincerely seeking marriage,
-and allows for a filtering process in seeking a mate, via advance research.
what do you mean of advance reaserch??!! :twitch: ????

lol... yeh i havnt had a very good history with matchmakers.. id rather find em on my own thanx! :)

what do you mean of advance reaserch??!!

One can ask people who know the prospective suitor about his character, personality, family history--in short, would he or she be a suitable mate.

*NK 105*: I'm sad to hear that it didn't go well with the matchmakers you tried. I suggest you ask around more. Perhaps there are others who will do a better job?

a thought
maybe the reason the you can not find the good guys in this world coz they do not hang out in the general places where the "bad guys" hang out!
in short, ur lookin in the wrong places :)

I admit i have met a bunch of rotten guys around and at times i think there are no good guys!!!
But it's just that good guys are the decent ones that do not throw themselves at girls and show off .. so are left un-noticed :)

First off, I really like the avatar, 9udfa :).

Second, I have a question that seems to be kinda relevant. What is the role of the other's 'family'? I understand the importance of coming from a good family, but is it all so important? As long as the individual is up to scratch, cant the reputation of the family be disregarded?

Second, I have a question that seems to be kinda relevant. What is the role of the other's 'family'? I understand the importance of coming from a good family, but is it all so important? As long as the individual is up to scratch, cant the reputation of the family be disregarded?

Most ppl think that your family is YOU, because that's what you grew up into, that's how you were raised and so.. that's what you will become.


Dude start a new thread ;)

ya you need to start a new thread about this cause i'm totaly against it. People can change and be better on from their own but this little simple name ruins the whole coming generation VERY sad (to me it relates but only superficially!), oh well thats what we gain from our loving collective society.

Exactly, it's all about looking in the right place.

As for PT's question, well unfortunatlly, we live in a society where your family defines you. Whatever mistakes a member of your famiy might have done, you are still affected, becasue you share the same blood, which is just a bunch of crap. Why do you have to be punished for someone else's mistakes? Why not just judge them according to them, instead of putting them in charge of every single mistake?

Can someone else start a new thread for me? :)

and why the lazyness PT!

Second, I have a question that seems to be kinda relevant. What is the role of the other's 'family'?

i think it depends on u as an individual...
if no1 does then i will!!!