An excuse many women make when they don't feel like having sexual relations with their husband.

1. Is a man right to push her into having sex anyway, and would it be called almost 'rape' to force her into it while she really doesnt want to?

2. If a woman goes on, allowing her husband to do what he wishes though she's not in the mood, isn't enjoying it and wishes she were elsewhere.. is that deceitful of her?

I think theres a hadeeth which goes something like If a guy asks his wife to bed and she rejects or whatever, and he goes to sleep mad at her. The angels like ummm........ ummm...... d*mn I forgot it. But anyway, I think, but I'm not sure, the angels are not happy with her or something and the whole night Allah swt is upset or something. Man, I'm really not sure how the hadeeth goes, and I cant make guesses, so I'll try to look it up. And copy and paste it here.

1. Is a man right to push her into having sex anyway, and would it be called almost 'rape' to force her into it while she really doesnt want to?

I dont think it would be called rape, but Islamically he's not supposed to force her. They should work something out. Like if shes not in the mood, she should tell him that she isnt and that she promises to make it up tomorrow or something, its all about the way she answers back, like if she yelled "LEAVE ME ALONE YOU DISGUSTING ANIMAL, IM NOT IN THE MOOD" there is more of a chance he will force it on her.

but In the end, just like the hadeeth goes, he should not go to sleep upset from her. So she should try her best to make sure he's ok, like they can cuddle and stuff.

2. If a woman goes on, allowing her husband to do what he wishes though she's not in the mood, isn't enjoying it and wishes she were elsewhere.. is that deceitful of her?

No, I dont think so. But since she HAS to do it, she should just accept it with a good heart, and try her best to make it as enjoyable as it can get, for the both of them.

1. Is a man right to push her into having sex anyway, and would it be called almost 'rape' to force her into it while she really doesnt want to?

No, it is not right to push her. That is completely wrong. Shouldn't he be more considerate of her feelings? She's not a machine, for God's sake. And it is not called 'almost rape'. It is rape, if he forces her to do something against her will, even if the guy is her husband.


2. If a woman goes on, allowing her husband to do what he wishes though she's not in the mood, isn't enjoying it and wishes she were elsewhere.. is that deceitful of her?

It's not deceitful of her, unless she pretends she is enjoying herself when she really isn't. I don't think you have to necessarily enjoy sex all the time.

1. Is a man right to push her into having sex anyway, and would it be called almost 'rape' to force her into it while she really doesnt want to?

No, he does not have the right to force her.

2. If a woman goes on, allowing her husband to do what he wishes though she's not in the mood, isn't enjoying it and wishes she were elsewhere.. is that deceitful of her?

No it isn't. Let her give him what he wants ! She may as well sacrifice on her part.

In the long run it will be best for her not to reject him. If she doesn't reject him much, it increases his loving attitude towards her and reduces the chance of him cheating on her.

I duuno really how this can happen ‘ not in mood’ . :( .but I think he doesn’t have the right to push for it…. But that should not be at frequent bases, I mean if he asks lets say 20 times per week the chance of she benn in thi’ not in mood ‘ maybe 2 so 10% rejection from her side shouldn’t be a problem ..yakhi he has to feel about his partner…..
if he force , did that considered as rape ..no I think it more to violence act rather than sexual humiliation.

If women forget about ‘ not in mood’ and go on…I think its more bonus to her side, cus she has the patience by considering his critical situation and scarifies her mood .. .w inshalla she will get ‘ ajr’ from God later on… :blush:

1. Is a man right to push her into having sex anyway, and would it be called almost 'rape' to force her into it while she really doesnt want to?
No I don't think he has the right to push her into something she's not entirely ready for especially something like sex.

2. If a woman goes on, allowing her husband to do what he wishes though she's not in the mood, isn't enjoying it and wishes she were elsewhere.. is that deceitful of her?
I don't think so.