Questions for guys:

1) Would you marry a girl who earns more than you, owns a house/land, educated (can be more than you or the same), and pretty?

2) "Honestly", if you were to marry a girl who is working and is earning a good salary (can be more than yours), would you ask her to contribute in the house??

I know some of you will say "No" they will not ask her to contribute unless she wanted. What if she didn't want and instead used her money for shopping, and all the good things she enjoys while not spending a penny for her husband nor the house.

Questions for Girls:

1) How would you feel and what would you do if your husband comes to you one day, after he took all the loans he can and spent them, and says "Sweety, I want you to take loan so we can do business"? (remember there is a risk in doing business)

Would you risk it and take the loan under your name for that reason?


Even though I specified which questions are for guys and which ones are for girls, you can still reply to both.

I have learnt a tough lesson from my cousin who went through the same thing. She pulled out loan after her hsband had used up all his finances and got himself into debts....i just know that i would never want to be in that situation.
Aslan i hate something called 'loan' its not the best thing in your life when you have one

frst of all I don't believe in loans and i hate them.. and if my husband ever came and asked me to take a load my answer would be no specailly if it was to start a business. as you said its very risky and paying the loan back will be a huge porblem in our life...

But wouldn't that go back to you not supporting your husband?!!

I mean he is trying to do something in his life to become successful in order to make you and his kids be able to get whatever you desire!!

In addition, won't you feel bad if you don't do that for him?? won't that create problems later in your relationship for saying No??

I myself hate taking loans, but you never know. Sometime in life, you will need the money desperately, how will you get it?!!

1) How would you feel and what would you do if your husband comes to you one day, after he took all the loans he can and spent them, and says "Sweety, I want you to take loan so we can do business"? (remember there is a risk in doing business)

Would you risk it and take the loan under your name for that reason?

I wouldnt take a loan ever inshallah and inshallah allah helps me that I never need one.
I would start a business with my husband, provided that the business is under my name and his ..

I would like to support my husband but not this way as I take it as a way to destroy our life. If it was my husband I would never let him spend the money he had in the first place.. and I am sure my husband won't ask me to take a load to help him out :)

I want us to be happy and have a happy life with our kids and taking a loan won't make up happy... and no i would not feel bad or guilty...

I would support my husband but i would not be able to trust him with the money to start a business since he had already lost all his finances on other things business, debts etc. If he has a good idea for a business then i would make sure to be involved in it and not accept for him to run things......i dont need to fall in a debt trap 2

1) Would you marry a girl who earns more than you, owns a house/land, educated (can be more than you or the same), and pretty?

I'd marry the girl, that I choose to marry for who she is as a person, so all those mentioned above are attributes that she holds. And has nothing to do within the reasonable decision of choice.


2) "Honestly", if you were to marry a girl who is working and is earning a good salary (can be more than yours), would you ask her to contribute in the house??

What I would think is that both of us would have an understanding on how to deal with such issues. And the idea of my money and her money shouldnt be considered. Its more like our money. Cause in the end, we both are living in the house and so its more like a shared responsibility.

I know some of you will say "No" they will not ask her to contribute unless she wanted. What if she didn't want and instead used her money for shopping, and all the good things she enjoys while not spending a penny for her husband nor the house.

hmm, if I asked her to contribute and she didnt want. Well that just doesnt sound like the wife I have in mind :eek: nor someone I would consider responsible enough to be with. And in most cases, would figure this out before marriage. But if it happened and was too blind to notice, then the house will just have to manage with what I can offer. Wouldnt create an issue with her though. For sure she has her reasons for being like that. Example, thats her life style since she was a kid.

i don't think a woman should accept to marry someone who earn less than her, it just creats problems. the woman should only contribute to the household expenses if she wants 2, but never to be forced.

1) How would you feel and what would you do if your husband comes to you one day, after he took all the loans he can and spent them, and says "Sweety, I want you to take loan so we can do business"? (remember there is a risk in doing business)Would you risk it and take the loan under your name for that reason?

Lemme get this straight, he takes out loan after loan just to spend carelessly and then tells ME to take a loan coz he hasn't got anything left?!

No bloody way!

How would you feel and what would you do if your husband comes to you one day, after he took all the loans he can and spent them, and says "Sweety, I want you to take loan so we can do business"? (remember there is a risk in doing business)

I would never want him to take any loans to beging with, so if he took loans and spent them, it would have to have been behind my back. I don't believe in loans. He can borrow from his parents and pay them back or something, but NO BANK LOANS AT ALL.
If he was so careless to fall into that situation, then he would have to deal with it himself. I am not going to worry about it because I plan on being financially independant.


Would you risk it and take the loan under your name for that reason?

No way.