The title is self-explanitory. You meet a girl now and then who's been poisoned against men from her mother; the mother tells her all men are players, she doesn't believe her daughter would be with a good man because all guys are jerks! From the time she is little she'll be hearing it till the day she gets married and sometimes even after that!

How damaging can this be for a young girl?

Still depends on personality, that personal elaboration of imposed things i was talking about in the discipline thread: if it was me, Miss Rebel, i'd know for sure i had been poisoned along the years and probably chose the wrong men.

The girl would have a wrong idea and impression about most guys. She'll start thinking that all men are the same(no man no cry). This could later on lead to numerous problems between the girl and her future partner.

What her mom told her would stay with her until she meets "the one" and he makes her feel like a princess.. then, everything her mom said would sound like bullsh*t to her.

Hmmm when you've been hammered for let's say 16-18 years is a bit difficult...for sure will affect the relation not the love, maybe

I think mothers who do that are BAD. Just cause they had a bad experience with a man doesnt mean that ALL men are bad and its just so wrong of them to tell their daughters that. I just hope that girls with such mothers have a strong personality and dont listen to every little single thing their mother tells them.

maybe she thought this way she'll keep her daughter safe & away from going through casual relationships and preserve her for marriage!

maybe she thought this way she'll keep her daughter safe & away from going through casual relationships and preserve her for marriage!


Pronto. LOL, one of the most effective ways of stopping a girl from having sex before marriage is using the psychological method of scaring her (what u pointed out Enigma "men are players" ) or using the "guilt" method by constantly telling her that women who have sex before marriage are "dirty" . Anyway they are effective in stopping women in having sex before marriage, although depending on what else her mother told her, it could also have damaging effects on her views on men and sex.

'Poisoning' implies negative, and indeed it is, to generalise like that. It may make it difficult later on, as most mentioned. But if its done to a lesser degree, no doubt its useful. Girls have to be careful, because come on lets face it, theres tons of dirty guys out there, waay too many. It may be good to get them away from 'men' all together until a certain age. But to lay it on too thick, it may be difficult to reverse the effect in later years, as I myself have observed with certain friends.

it could also have damaging effects on her views on men and sex.
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This is the main point, men, sex and relations in life.
But do such mothers really exist?

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it could also have damaging effects on her views on men and sex.

oh thats so True! .. am sure we all heard all kind of stories regarding this issue!

Such Moms would do this to their daughters either as being over protective over them or from personal experience.

In either case the mom does have a point. But once exaggrated, it does affect the girls mentality. Especially, that it came from her mom. Who should be considered the main source of trust in her life.

Now as the girl grows up, she should be able to differentiate with time and life experience about what she has been taught and reality.

I had a friend who had the same idea and she knew it came form her mom .. I stayed hours to convince her that what she think of is wrong .. I guess by now she is half conviced :)

its damaging, mothers do it out of care .. coz they wanna protect thier daughters but they dont know what they are doing .. it could be really damaging for kids!!

The problem is that you cant control mothers!! and they are the ones who shape the personality. The worst happen is when the dad is away from the scene (busy with work, married to another wife, divorced, etc .. ) the girl dont get to see a male figure who is a role model!!

You said it DD....
Mother should be more balanced in the advice they provide their children since i had a much greater effect than the words of a stranger passing by that person’s life. They instill our morals and values, thus if there is something to be said it should always be minimized so as not to distort the whole picture

I think mothers who do that are BAD. Just cause they had a bad experience with a man doesnt mean that ALL men are bad and its just so wrong of them to tell their daughters that. I just hope that girls with such mothers have a strong personality and dont listen to every little single thing their mother tells them.

No mother is bad, although some of them make poor decisions and judgements.

It all comes from the experience, if a mother had bad experience then she will do all her best to protect her daughter from what she thinks will affect her.
Not all men maybe right thats true, but that could be one thing a mother wouldnt want her daughter to take any risks especailly if she is young.

Such Moms would do this to their daughters either as being over protective over them or from personal experience.

In either case the mom does have a point. But once exaggrated, it does affect the girls mentality. Especially, that it came from her mom. Who should be considered the main source of trust in her life.

Now as the girl grows up, she should be able to differentiate with time and life experience about what she has been taught and reality.

Exactly,

A girl wont be a little girl forever, she will grow up and sooner or later she will realise what is right and what is wrong.

That whole thought of man are cruel and big jerks can be broken by social interaction or falling in love..