What would you do if at the beginning of your marriage your partner liked to hold hands, kiss, cuddle, spend time together, etc. but then gradually all these displays of affection simply stopped altogether?

Your partner said that s/he has not felt any passion for you since the beginning. S/he said s/he was not the type of person who is "touchy-feely".

What then?
If you were in love with this person, would you still stay with them even though you are living more like roommates, not a married couple?

If she's not having the same 'intense' feeling as she once did, then maybe a part of that has to do with me? If it doesn't, then hell would break lose if she actually tells me that she doesn't 'love' me as much!

If after marriage for some reason or another, she didnt love me anymore or couldnt feel passionate or anything similiar to that... at such point. We'd have to just talk about it.. and I'd ask her, what does she want. If she wants out and cant continue or if she wants time to adjust. (It could be after marriage shock or something)

Many possibilities. But in the end, it will be a choice she will have to make, as staying together and then having kids would be unfair. As even the kids will miss out on the comfy, warm feeling they should normally sense between their parents.

Its time to kiss bye bye the relation.

Let's give it a try and go to a couples consultant but if doesn't work yep let's kiss bye bye :p

This is why sometimes its wise to wait before having kids.

Your partner said that s/he has not felt any passion for you since the beginning. S/he said s/he was not the type of person who is "touchy-feely".

Not feeling any passion and not being a touchy/feely person are two different things :os If he doesn't feel any passion then we've got a problem! If he says he wasnt touchy feely.. then I don't get why he was in the begining? You either are or you aren't.

If someone says they dont have 'passion' for you then the relationship is over really. And tomorrow he'll feel 'passion' for someone else.

What then?
If you were in love with this person, would you still stay with them even though you are living more like roommates, not a married couple?

If it was him not being touchy/feely from the start then I'd understand. I can be like that too.. I suppose I'd just do my best to make him feel that way; I don't think its something hard to teach. But inshallah I won't have that problem :shy:

I cant be with a person who doesnt feel the same way about me as i do about her.. or at least show and feel even half what i have to offer. if she stops being touchy feely after marriage then i'll get irritated and i will try to find out whats going on.. if it turns out she doesnt love me..then she'll get the boot for sure. i want a loving and warm relationship..and wont accept anything else.. whether there were kids or not.

I always believe that if you really loved someone then your feelings to him/her won't change over night or by time. So if my partner by any chance came to me one day saying that he doesn't love me as before then that means he never loved me specially if there was no good reason for this change.

As for being passionate and then loose it after time.. I don't buy that at all. So will talk to him about it, try to understand him but I find that he is just trying to find a way to end the marriage then bye bye..

What then?



Get rid of that partner as soon as possible.

What am I even doing with him?

He's useless.

MEN! Idiots!

tapatel: I think this is about both men and women.. not specifically about one gender. And such case applies on both. Wonder whats behind your attach, even though without participating in the thread :confused:

Most of you suggested to get rid of your partner!

ist that easy ? i mean this whole divorce issue ?

That's the easy way out, yes. I think you should at least try to solve your problems, but if it was obvious that the marriage was not working out, why stay with someone you were not happy with?

Why call the guy useless or an idiot? Maybe the problem is not with the guy, but with the woman. Maybe the woman should sit with herself and think of the reasons that made him change? Maybe shes not being at her best, maybe shes not putting much effort in the relationship, maybe shes BORING..

Men like changes, so for him not to get bored of her, she should be creative!