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.. many of sabla members here have step mothers.. and it always there r some problems (caused of having step mothers) goes between the mothers, mothers and father, mothers and kids..

.. the more likely to happen is the problem between the husband and his wives.. and the wives themselves.. my question here: what are the main things that drive a woman to have arguments with her husband and his wives?

.. most of the time.. men intend to have just 2 wives not more.. the question here is: do u think that a third or a fourth wife can solve the problem caused by having just two wives?


cheeeers:)

what are the main things that drive a woman to have arguments with her husband and his wives?
Jelously .. you guys dont understand how a woman could be possesive about her husband .. she depends soly on him and when there is another woman who demands her time .. it hurts and leads her to act irrationaly.

do u think that a third or a fourth wife can solve the problem caused by having just two wives?
am trying to change ice tea's opinion about 2nd wife and now u bring 3rd and 4th :eek:

well I dont think you can solve a problem with another .. if there is a problem btw the wife and her "misharka" (second wife) then is should be solved before bringing a third one in the picture.

.. most of the time.. men intend to have just 2 wives not more..

I find fault at the base itself! Most men only want "one" wife, unless you're talking about a specific group of people.

Besides, I can't even answer your Qs because I don't really know how you can treat 2 people in the exact same manner ... specially wives.

I think the best solution is to have just one wife. Personally, i dont think its love that drives a man to have 2 wives. I know a guy who has one wife, and marries another every few years, only to get a divorce a couple of months later. One of them was about my age :os But I suppose thats not uncommon?

I find fault at the base itself! Most men only want "one" wife, unless you're talking about a specific group of people.


.. la base la ba6yee5... im talking here abt the case of having more than one wife.. my friend..



Besides, I can't even answer your Qs because I don't really know how you can treat 2 people in the exact same manner ... specially wives.


.. i do understand where u come from.. peace :)

Jelously .. you guys .....

jealousy.. that's the spirit of the problems.. and here i want to know: the different things that can be generated by jealousy in the case of having another wife!


am trying to change ice tea's opinion about 2nd wife and now u bring 3rd and 4th :eek:

well I dont think you can solve a problem with another .. if there is a problem btw the wife and her "misharka" (second wife) then is should be solved before bringing a third one in the picture.


well Icetea thats a special case :duck: ..

.. i think bringing a 3rd wife can solve the problem (no experience lol).. how?.. in most cases (of having another wife) the first wife finds the 2nd as someone who will take her husband away from her and she (the 1st wife) is the only person who will be affected... but if there is a 3rd wife then the first wife will not bother by causin problems coz she knows that there is someone else will be affected not just herself... do i make sense??

I think the best solution is to have just one wife.

to avoid problems.. u r right..one is more than enough :shut: .. but for other resons (depends from a guy to another) one isnt enough..


Personally, i dont think its love that drives a man to have 2 wives.

..it's very rare that a second love is the reason of havin another wife.. mainly havin another wife (especially in our society) is to cover the "extra" sexual desire and it's a good way instead of dischargin that "extra" desire in something not appropriate..


cheeers:)

Why 'create' a 'problem' in the first place and then worry about solving it? just be sane and marry only one woman whom u truely love. men who marry more than one wife are just perverts in my opinion.

Why 'create' a 'problem' in the first place and then worry about solving it? just be sane and marry only one woman whom u truely love. men who marry more than one wife are just perverts in my opinion.


.. the last sentance is not acceptable by any chance..

marrying another woman isnt a problem.. it's a solution.. but it's a rational solution like drinking alkohol but in opposite way..


cheeers:)

but if there is a 3rd wife then the first wife will not bother by causin problems coz she knows that there is someone else will be affected not just herself... do i make sense??


I dont agree with you at all .. it always depends on the personality of the wife ..

Toomuchat, here you are not dealing with Sheep .. its women's feeling and I think men should consider them more.
Its not about causing problems, its about expecting the fact by itself. If a woman doesnt accept to have another wife for her husband, she wont accept third and fourth.

Nabhan, you cant call a person who has a second wife a pevert. Its not about "sexual" desires. As toomuchat said, its a soloution to problems but unfourtountly people use it the wrong way.

Nabhan, you cant call a person who has a second wife a pevert. Its not about "sexual" desires. As toomuchat said, its a soloution to problems but unfourtountly people use it the wrong way.

solution to what problem? if a man's wife is treating him well and is healthy then i see no need at all to marry another at all.

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toomuchat it might be unacceptable to u.. but thats what i think.

toomuchat it might be unacceptable to u.. but thats what i think.


my friend.. u always hate the one single track thinking whatever u call it... and here i hand u that title... congrats!

.. it's not ME who consider it unacceptable ;)


cheeeeers:)

3... inta sa7ib mashakil.... ‘ tommu u trouble maker ‘ :flamed:

Nowadays, who is going to work and save a hell of money and spend it for 3 mahar(s)….
It happened before, cus life was much simpler…in old days u can bring little Qashe3 And su7 and that day all of them will be satisfied… ‘ sorry my talks is free of feeling but this what was happening ‘ :eyes:


In France, ( or what they show on TV at least), every one has a wife and girl friend and they r happy, none complain about ‘ extra desires’. :no:

Seriously,

Sure 2nd , 3rd ,4rth are in 7alal but is it a solution for u and ‘ her’ ( women) or just for the sake of ‘ extra hormons’ :shut:

I will say if u take 2nd wife ..that might be an option due to some problems due to different reasons related to ur wife or ureself. But if u take 3rd one on top of that I believe , the problem is in u and u need to solve away from keep on marrying. :scratch:

In short the chance the 3rd one doing better is really minimal… and don’t be infected by ‘ El7aj Mutwaly’… :duck:

Nabhan, if it wasnt a soloution to a problem it wouldnt have been stated in the Quran ;)

The Brain .. mashallah 3alaaaik .. this elite thing is really working ... I can see u wiser now :D

NaBHaN
men who marry more than one wife are just perverts in my opinion

Making such a big statment is quite offensive to so many ..

Why 'create' a 'problem' in the first place and then worry about solving it? just be sane and marry only one woman whom u truely love. men who marry more than one wife are just perverts in my opinion.

If you really Know the Beauty having Two wife's or more you would have not said that.. But what a pitty for those who dont think going for second Wife's :hyper:

NaBHaN


Making such a big statment is quite offensive to so many ..

Thanks Haya for understanding Mans requirements and for those Noble Man who tries to solve Single Women problems by marrying more than One

.. brainyy.. i do share u what u said above... but what im talking here is a situation of someone who already has 2 wives.. and im tryin to find if the 3rd or 4th will do any good for his case??

..AP.. im talking abt women and im considering each single feeling here... but the idea of introducing the 3rd wife (as i said no experiance) that might drive the first wife to say: oh, why i should trouble and nag all the time, it's not just me who should get jealous or stuff like that...

.. i also believe that a 3rd or 4th will makes life easier for the wives to understand the situation and each one will try to be better than the others and that by stop nagging so she can gain the husband more...


.. it's just thoughts..


cheeeers:)

your thoughts arnt applicable toomuchat .. women are jelous and the more you make them are the more they burn .. so, bringing a third wife wont solve anything .. beleive me I saw it ;)

your thoughts arnt applicable toomuchat ..


no comments!


beleive me I saw it ;)

u have a credit for that but not enough convencing..


cheeers:)

The only reason why a man would go for a second wife is because he needs variety when it comes to sex, or because his first wife is infertile.

Toomuchat, for women sex=love, they don't see sex as something physical that does not include any feelings. Women cannot see themselves loving one man, but then having sex with someone else. The idea is very strange to us, unlike u guys. We are delicate beings that get very emotional, jealous and need constant attention. By bringing more wives into the household you are reducing the attention that each wife will get, which will further make them feel unloved and frustrated, increasing spite and hatred.

A certain breed of woman, you mean. Its not possible to general as you are. Heard of a '****'?

what are the main things that drive a woman to have arguments with her husband and his wives?
Of course jealousy. The first wife might treat the second wife as her rival in her husband's love.


do u think that a third or a fourth wife can solve the problem caused by having just two wives?
LoL no, I infact think that they would make things worse.

I am so against the multiple wives thingy. I know in Islam its allowed. but I dont think it has any positive affect nowadays and I think people are abusing the concept. Islam allowed it because there are many women unmarried ONLY, I'd understand when a guy who is around 50 years old, marrying a women who has reached 40 years old becuz he felt sorry for her and that this is what islam really meant of having more than one wife. But a 50 year old marrying a 20 year old as a 2nd or 3rd wife is like WOAH! you are totally abusing the 4 wives thingy... And it would just cause more problems then solving them.

Kazablanka
nowadays and I think people are abusing the concept

yeh its true i agree with u

Islam allowed it because there are many women unmarried ONLY,

this is Incorrect .. this is one of the reasons why Islam allowed it ..there is much more to it ,i strongly advise u to read before stating such statment .

But a 50 year old marrying a 20 year old as a 2nd or 3rd wife is like WOAH! you are totally abusing the 4 wives thingy

whats wrong in that , if there is a mutual agreement bewteen the two parties?
if u r against the Idea of an old man getting married to a young woman thats a different case ,it doesnt matter wheather she is a 2nd wife or the 1st one!

toomuchat

and it always there r some problems (caused of having step mothers) goes between the mothers, mothers and father, mothers and kids..

Not necessarily.. this is not a typical scenario many families with two mothers live in harmony ..

Let alone 3rd & 4th, if you don't get along well with your 1st wife even if you marry the 2nd wouldn't help much instead you're digging-up your own grave. :help:

A certain breed of woman, you mean. Its not possible to general as you are. Heard of a '****'?

We aren't dealing with sl*ts here, we're talking abt wives. If the husband was having sex with one of the wives a lot more than the others, the other wives would interpret it as that he "loves" her more than them.