When in a relationship, is it okay to notice other men (or women), and feel attracted to them?

Here, I mean physical attraction.

For instance, you're already involved with someone, and yet when you go out somewhere you see a good looking guy (or beautiful woman) and you feel attracted to them. You do not flirt with them or give them the impression that you are attracted to them, but you admit to yourself that they are good-looking.. Should you feel guilty?

Admitting they are good looking and being attracted to them are two totally different things. I'd admit anyone was good looking or attractive but I wouldn't feel attracted TO them. :duh: Basically if you are you're saying that you're aroused by them.

Just like beauty, attraction isn't only skin deep. Personally it takes a lot more than a pretty face or good body to attract me.

Admiring beauty is something else though.

I didn't mean being aroused by them.

I guess it's more like "admiring" them and noticing them....

Well you can admire a pig's beauty at that but feeling attracted to someone is something different. If you look it up I'm sure you'll find the word 'aroused' in there near it :os

Nixxy!!! Admiring beauty: is it a crime :eyes:
Plus just remains in my fantasies, partner is in reality, oh well it was once upon a time lol :p

Well you can admire a pig's beauty at that but feeling attracted to someone is something different. If you look it up I'm sure you'll find the word 'aroused' in there near it :os

Hmmm. Okay, feeling attracted minus the 'aroused' bit.
More like, you really notice them, and you feel self-conscious around them. And you think to yourself, "What a hottie!" :blush: :rolleyes:

Nixxy!!! Admiring beauty: is it a crime :eyes:
Plus just remains in my fantasies, partner is in reality, oh well it was once upon a time lol :p

hey that rhymes! :color:

hey that rhymes! :color:
Is that all, i expressed a high concept :duh:
Maybe am getting old but simply i notice him, don't go crazy like "What a hottie!"
It comes a time in life that you pick whoever passes under your eyes, hottie or coldie :duck:

I agree with Enigma. When we admire someone's bueaty doesnt mean we have feeling throw him/her. So i dont feel guilty since I dont think in a bad way

Is that all, i expressed a high concept :duh:
Maybe am getting old but simply i notice him, don't go crazy like "What a hottie!"
It comes a time in life that you pick whoever passes under your eyes, hottie or coldie :duck:

Sorry. :shy:

I agree with Enigma. When we admire someone's bueaty doesnt mean we have feeling throw him/her. So i dont feel guilty since I dont think in a bad way

It doesn't mean you have feelings towards them and you want to BE with them. You just find them attractive. Full stop. Anything wrong with that?

Mmm I dont think so, No way, why there shall be anything wrong with it?
Beauty was created so we could look at it and admire it
I mean we are human beings afterall, u cant juss walk pass a very good looking guy and not notice him...even if u have a very attractive guy for a boyfriend!

Why the person keep looking in the first place except if it's the first look?

ice tea .. if a girl at work talk to you about work ..and you find her attractive, do you look down when you talk to her? :D

There is no reason to feel guilty unless you act on that attraction and turn it into something else......thats when you have a problem!

ice tea .. if a girl at work talk to you about work ..and you find her attractive, do you look down when you talk to her? :D


I will ask her to cover her face next time :scratch:

I will ask her to cover her face next time :scratch:

You're that easily tempted, eh? Sad... :no: Someone your age should have more control over his.. :shut:

You know the Satan is the 3rd in such cases.

You know the Satan is the 3rd in such cases.
I know that, but there's also something called 'self control'. Perhaps you are not familiar with that phrase... :scratch:

www.dictionary.com is everybody's best friend.

Self control is there, don't worry.

. Should you feel guilty?

no.. i shouldnt.. u shouldnt niether.. but u dont have to talk abt it with ur partner coz that would generate some sensitivity that my affect the relationship between them..

.. it's just something u liked and u know u boundries with it..



cheeers:)

I repeat what Warda said.

I wouldn't be attracted (sexually or in any other sense) to another person once I'm in a relationship. I'm not acting like an angel, but I've been in a relationship and I've been done and felt it.

Besides, I guess its quite normal for a person to look at another person of the opposite sex, if he/she is extremely good looking. Hell, if I knew the person I would tell them that he/she looks good today ... I don't find anything wrong in it.

It doesn't mean you have feelings towards them and you want to BE with them. You just find them attractive. Full stop. Anything wrong with that?

No, theres no sin in admiring beauty. Its when dirty thoughts come in...

It doesn't mean you have feelings towards them and you want to BE with them. You just find them attractive. Full stop. Anything wrong with that?

NOT AT ALL

no.. i shouldnt.. u shouldnt niether.. but u dont have to talk abt it with ur partner coz that would generate some sensitivity that my affect the relationship between them..

.. it's just something u liked and u know u boundries with it..



cheeers:)

well said Bro .. :yes:

admiting to myself that this person is good looking! is not a big deal but it becomes a big deal if it becomes apparent to the other person ..

I'm invloved and am so contented that i hardly notice ppl let aside getting attracted to them ... :love: :love:

Is it same , getting attracted to movie stars ..? does it fall in the same circle?

I don't think it's the same at all - celebrities and people you see around everyday...

When in a relationship, is it okay to notice other men (or women), and feel attracted to them?

Here, I mean physical attraction.

For instance, you're already involved with someone, and yet when you go out somewhere you see a good looking guy (or beautiful woman) and you feel attracted to them. You do not flirt with them or give them the impression that you are attracted to them, but you admit to yourself that they are good-looking.. Should you feel guilty?

When I am in love with someone I am completely monogmous. I hardly feel any attraction towards someone else. I may admit that someone out there is good looking, but I wouldn't be attracted to them. That's just me. :duck: So I wouldn't feel guilty.