Sometimes I think about how mismatched some people are because they have nothing in common.

He just loves sports and she doesn't. He swims... she doesn't. He likes video games... she doesn't. She likes pranking people... he doesn't. He's responsible... she's impulsive.

Is it so awful not to really have anything in common with the person you're in a relationship with? How do you breach the conversation gap when there is a definite lack of common interests? :scratch:

(other than saying something incredibly random) :no: :rolleyes:

Its weird, But I think people who dont have anything in common are the people who really get along well
Perhaps because the differences in their opinions makes life more spicey, more enjoyable or perhaps because being attracted to someone doesnt really mean you must have stuff in common

We are talking about practical things here, right? Well then is a bit difficult.
Views and opinions that is fine, makes a relation less boring, sometimes...

Im not sure how it works. Somehow it works sometimes. I mean, its a bit embarassing perhaps to admit it, but every guy can enjoy video games :P Whether they play them or not is a different story, but get 4 guys in front of a PS2 and I guarantee they will have a good time. But that doesnt figure into a relationship, unless the girl does too, right?
I think individual interests are perhaps a little bit less important than personality traits, like you mentioned being responsible and being impulsive. I guess, to a responsible person, having an impulsive partner is like an exciting challenge. I am far from an expert in human relations however, and we all know that relationships break all the laws of...well...whatever. So I dont think I can answer this question after all :p

I don't think it would be a big problem
So longs they're practical thing as amo-oman said but the problem raise when you have different views and opinions.

How do you breach the conversation gap when there is a definite lack of common interests? :scratch:



If they share almost all interests then it will be boring because there will be no difference in views hence lack of conversations will occur. However, if the don't share same interests then it will be more excited because each of them will try to sell his/her ideas about a particular issue to other person, hence the converstaion will be rich and full of ideas.

Men and women are completely different creatures in the first place; shall we say they shouldn't be together?

I've seen many couples who are complete opposites stay together for decades and are happy. The question is not what you have in common but how willing are you to take an intrest into your partner's intrests?

I'm personally into Religious stuff and psychology. I can be with someone who's interest are different but he's got to take an interest in it too. Ask me questions, listen to me when I talk about it, maybe even try to get into it himself.

Relationships are about compromise; you change a bit here and he changes a bit there. You give here, he gives there. That's all you need, forget a matched couple.

What are those couples who have absolutely nothing in common doing being married to each other in the first place? Maybe in the days of our fathers it was the norm because they usually didn't know their spouses before they married them, but what's the excuse now?

I don't think it's healthy for a married couple to have no common interests at all, just as I don't think it's very healthy either for a couple to be totally into the same things and spend every single second together. The best couples have just enough in common I guess to maintain a healthy relationship.

I think that couples, over time, develop common interests as one gets drawn in to the interests of the other, etc. Thus, it may be an even richer relationship. Perhaps.

Personally, I want someone who is into stuff I like. It's more interesting that way.

I think it could be a big deal. I observe some of my friends' relationships and notice the ones who have much more in common do a lot better in the long term. They can do anything together and have fun and act like they are still in a new relationship.

There are some people who are going out, and I don't even know why! They don't really fight, but they don't seem to do much more than petty small talk. "How was your day?", "What are you doing this weekend?" etc.
They aren't together as often because they have nothing in common.

There's a difference between having nothing in common, and having very little in common. At least if they have some things in common, they can work on that and maybe find some other common interests, but when two people are completely different, what exactly is keeping them together?

I understand how if two people are different, their relationship is a lot more interesting, as they get to learn all sorts of things from each other. But the only way it could work out is if they had some things in common, and actually tred to show an interest in what their partner likes.

I think that couples, over time, develop common interests as one gets drawn in to the interests of the other, etc. Thus, it may be an even richer relationship. Perhaps.

they would have to have something to start with. one common interest can lead to another, but if there's nothing, then i don't see their "relationship" going anywhere..

If they share almost all interests then it will be boring because there will be no difference in views hence lack of conversations will occur.

Disagree. They would have to share some of the same beliefs and views when it comes to important things, like what they want out of life, how they want to raise their kids, etc. in order to avoid complications.

Views and differing opinions on small things make the other person more interesting.. but not on the major things.

I love what Enigma said.. beautiful and so much sense!

Disagree. They would have to share some of the same beliefs and views when it comes to important things, like what they want out of life, how they want to raise their kids, etc. in order to avoid complications.

Views and differing opinions on small things make the other person more interesting.. but not on the major things.

I agree. You took the words right out of your mouth.

Is it so awful not to really have anything in common with the person you're in a relationship with? How do you breach the conversation gap when there is a definite lack of common interests?

Yes, coz it's very hard to breach the conversation gap. As Muscati said, what are they even doing together? They'll eventually get bored, although it may have been exciting at first.

It's very hard for me to have continuous conversations with someone if we do not have similar interests. Say if he is interested in the laws of physics, at first I would be willing to hear what he has to say, but after a few months I'd be like " :yawn: " and look elsewhere. The people I've had the longest, deepest conversations with are the ones that we've had lots in common to talk abt.

There would be other bits of our personality (not interests) that would be spicier for the relationship if the partners were different. E.g. a partner is very serious, the other pretty wild; at first it would be very hard for them to get along, but after a while they learn to appreciate, learn and take from one another and it's becomes a much more exciting relationship. While if they were both (for example) serious people, they would get along very well, but it wouldn't be that exciting.

That's what I think. :)

Disagree. They would have to share some of the same beliefs and views when it comes to important things, like what they want out of life, how they want to raise their kids, etc. in order to avoid complications.

Views and differing opinions on small things make the other person more interesting.. but not on the major things.

Well first of all I though this thread is talking about small things not major issues, because if they have big differences in the major things then I don't think they will get married in the first place. However, let us assume they got married and latter they found they have some different views regard to major things, do you think they can't resolve it. I'm sure a couple who respect eachother will be able to overcome such differences and move forward in their life. You can't expect a marreige life to be always full of roses, they will face problems from time to time and they will have to stand against them even if they have different views and opinions.