I personally think that you should be friends with your spouse. I feel it is a necessity, but I can see where people remain married out of fear, responsibility, maybe even convenience.

I can't imagine being with someone when I am 80 years old unless we are very best friends. When you're old and withered, being attracted to someone probably isn't as meaningful as knowing that you spent your life with someone you genuinely liked. I also think that true love grows out of friendship. I don't think you can truly love someone until you know them pretty well.


Should husbands and wives be friends?

In a marriage, is being friends with your spouse more important than being "in love"?

I dont think its more important, rather its a stage which if preceded love, it would for sure inlight the couple on who they are to each other despite the different feelings they might have.

Its important for me to be friends with my future wife, before I actually marry her. "Wife" should be a term for my "best girl friend with added reponsibilies" ... you get the point.

It's definitely very important. Marriage is hard work. You need more than sexual attraction/background/etc to actually motivate you to work hard at it. And with friendship, even work doesn't seem to be that hard anymore. :)

sallam

I think both love and friendship should be built up together,as they are both important.......

thats why i am building my relation with the one that i want to marry to ba based on love and friendship for us to be able inshallah when we are reaching to that old age.

As sometimes the fried ship relations can help alot to be build up an understanding and a relaxiation between the couple, and makes things easy for them when it comes to the hard times such as loosing some one or somthing important to them, or it can be any thing else.........

The stornger the clear and understanding relationship between them the stronger the love can be bonded between them.:)


talking out of experiance;)

Dunno, never been married, but from what i see around too much friendship troubles a lot things, and not too much is a lack of mutual knowledge so maybe as always , 50/50 :lost:

1) Yes, of course.
2) You cant say its more important, it goes hand in hand. It has to.

well i think both are important .... as the couple have to live as friends telling everything to eachother... they should feel secure,and automatically love will fill up their lives....

I think both are associated and as important .. u cant be married to someone if u r not friends with them ..

Being friends is part of a marraige relationship.

Friendship is as important as love. Love is based on a mixture of personality, looks and therefore sexual attraction. Once looks start to fade (and subsequently sexual attraction), you're left with nothing but the personality of your spouse. And friendships revolve around personality. So a lasting, loving relationship's gotta be based on friendship.

The Torah describes the marital relationship as a friendship: "And she is your friend, the wife of your covenant." (Malachi 2, 13 -14)