I have a hard time being in situations where I don't feel like I'm in control. If I'm in a situation where I'm not getting the results I want it really throws me off and I lose my cool.

Why do I always want to be in control and how do you stop it?
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I'm the same way, I get too emotional and end up loosing it.

What I try to do though is before walking into that situation, talk myself into a calm, cool mood. Approach it with an air and know its the only way that will get you results.

Try deep breaths Phoenix, or even read a du3a.

I have a hard time being in situations where I don't feel like I'm in control. If I'm in a situation where I'm not getting the results I want it really throws me off and I lose my cool.

Why do I always want to be in control and how do you stop it?


could you be more specific ? prolly an example of a situation or something

Yes ... most Arab women suffer from being control freaks ... (no offence) ... it's not genetic but associated to cultural upbringing ... quite tiring to witness though ...

Control freak? I thought she was talking about keeping her cool... Those are two different things.

Maybe better waiting for her to explain and giving some example, plus i guess this is a very general and common situation both for males and females, arabs or not.

Control freak? I thought she was talking about keeping her cool... Those are two different things.

No ... I think she means situations where she can not completely 'control' the final outcome of events.

:scratch:

Example:

Group work at school. I'm working on a project with a bunch of friends, and I have an idea of how to present our work. If someone doesn't agree with me, or doesn't do exactly what I tell them to I can get very pissed off. If they won't do things my way, then I'll just ask them not to do anything, and have ME do all the work. I can't handle the thought of my project getting scr*wed up by someone else. If I scr*w it up by myself, that's fine. At least it was within my control.

Also, if my parents try to make me do something I don't want to, I won't do it. No matter how much they shout at me or try to convince me, I still won't do it. And when I think of the situation, I can get very worked up, because I know that I might not get exactly what I want.

Basically, in any situation.. just the thought of not having things my way can really get to me :os

These are just some day-to-day examples.

Is not a matter of control freak as our guru :rolleyes: thought, is just that you know how things must go cause you are sure of your abilities in that particular issue but people who are somehow involved in the whole process do not get the point, so this upsets you and stops you from going on.
Be it something that can be completed alone or in group, you must do it cause, the little i know you, you have all the reasons for sure, so canalize your rage into leading the others rather than being upset from their non-understanding.

Yup ... like I suspected.

I am actually the same , I get pissed and annoyed if the final decision isnt mine. I just think we should have to learn to just accept that not everything is controlable and in our hands.

I am actually the same , I get pissed and annoyed if the final decision isnt mine.

So in the end do you collaborate at the project though disagree, or just remain pissed off and say alas?
That's the point!!!

Try to use the remote control to feel better.

and

it depends on what do u want to control.

it depends on what do u want to control.

The universe, and everyone in it. :rolleyes: